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By *nnabell16 OP   Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

My best friend in work is "separated" from his wife. Ive since discovered shes on here and meeting loads of folk. Thing is i know he has no idea and would be devestated. should i tell or keep quiet

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By *all saulMan
over a year ago

Dunbartonshire

I would say best left is you value your own discretion they are separated after all

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By *ckleticklesWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Its none of your business. They are separated, its her life, her choices, their marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its no ones right to tell anyone about what others do on here

Discrection at all times

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

If they are seperated no harm no foul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's her private life to do what she wants to do. If they are separated then she can meet as many guys as she wants. I wouldn't say a thing. I would imagine it would upset or bother her ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is left to say? They are separated, she can do as she wishes. The exact same way that he can.

If they were still together well that is a different story altogether.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"My best friend in work is "separated" from his wife. Ive since discovered shes on here and meeting loads of folk. Thing is i know he has no idea and would be devestated. should i tell or keep quiet"

would you like it if she noticed you on here and told the world what you were doing.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you even ask this? Like she's enjoying herself at her own discretion. Along with that one thing I've learned over the years is if shits flying you don't open your mouth, nothing tastes worse than a mouthful of crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its none of your business what she does. She is entitled to do whatever she wants, would you be happy if she told everyone that you have a profile on here as well !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely wouldn't say anything. Completely their business. Even if they were still together I'd say nothing.

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By *all saulMan
over a year ago

Dunbartonshire


"I definitely wouldn't say anything. Completely their business. Even if they were still together I'd say nothing. "

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By *3r3kMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I definitely wouldn't say anything. Completely their business. Even if they were still together I'd say nothing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's no one's business what the other person is doing

Sadly discretion is right out the window for some on here

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By *ogsoldiersMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not doing anything wrong.....why say anything !!!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"It's no one's business what the other person is doing

Sadly discretion is right out the window for some on here

"
yep totally agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We know a married guy on this site and would never even think about telling his wife. What happens in fab land stays in fab land.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Reading between the lines perhaps th op means "seperated" as in they are ment to be taking alone time to think but certainly not running around fabland whoring and touring

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Go with your gut feeling and with your own morals ...only you know the exact circumstances and situation you and they are in....and only you know if it's worth telling or not. It's a very difficult situation to be in and certainly not one I wish to be in especially with a close friend.....it would depend on the circumstances of the separation what my decision would be.

Friendship vs swinging ethics is a hard call for many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its none of your business. They are separated, its her life, her choices, their marriage. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they are seperated,shes not doing anything wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The better part of valour is discretion;...

Falstaff (Henry IV Part 1, act V, scene IV)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are separated then she is doing nothing wrong. We wouldn't say anything. It's their private life, their business.

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By *all saulMan
over a year ago

Dunbartonshire


"If they are separated then she is doing nothing wrong. We wouldn't say anything. It's their private life, their business. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's her business none of yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck all to do with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave it alone, you don't know what goes on behind closed doors

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Reading between the lines perhaps th op means "seperated" as in they are ment to be taking alone time to think but certainly not running around fabland whoring and touring "

Whoring and touring? Is that what you think women do on here or just the woman being talked about?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"My best friend in work is "separated" from his wife. Ive since discovered shes on here and meeting loads of folk. Thing is i know he has no idea and would be devestated. should i tell or keep quiet"

It depends on their definition of seperated... with a _iew to getting back together or a _iew to a divorce.

I am still half and half as to whether I would tell or not unless you have both discussed in past conversations that he would rather know if anything like this happened.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I personally would not say anything but if it ever came up, I would not lie if asked...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We know a married guy on this site and would never even think about telling his wife. What happens in fab land stays in fab land."
if only everyone thot like you a reckon this would be a much more fun place to be lol

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Reading between the lines perhaps th op means "seperated" as in they are ment to be taking alone time to think but certainly not running around fabland whoring and touring

Whoring and touring? Is that what you think women do on here or just the woman being talked about? "
just the female in question if the circumstances are as mentioned if truely seperated then it aint whoring and touring imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You "discovered" this after just a week here OP? And....according to your profile you're returning to fab. So...you know what discretion on here is about presumably, but still have to ask. My nose is twitching...ive been here waaaay too long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You "discovered" this after just a week here OP? And....according to your profile you're returning to fab. So...you know what discretion on here is about presumably, but still have to ask. My nose is twitching...ive been here waaaay too long. "

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

profile length aside you find your livelong friends partner on here you wouldnt say disceet works when you have no involvement to the partys involved

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

You stated your best friend from work would be devastated if he found out.............

Why the hell would you tell him then??????????????

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By *illdeeCouple
over a year ago

nr Edinburgh

Just found out my "partner" has been with a.n.other, separate mobile, facebook profile etc the whole 9 yards. Sometimes even we "swingers" aren't immune from everyday cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely wouldn't say anything. Completely their business. Even if they were still together I'd say nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or are you hoping that he will find comfort in your bed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you already know what YOU think is the correct answer as to what to do is. Posting this thread is merely seeking for others to reinforce your thoughts. Do what you think is right. Other people's opinion is nothing more than just that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont think its anyones right to br judge & jury to why anyone is on here

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"Or are you hoping that he will find comfort in your bed!"

Exactly the thought I had. But then I'm a cynical cow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do love these type of threads, people taking moral stands on others relationships and lifestyles/choices

Is this Fab or the General Assembly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do love these type of threads, people taking moral stands on others relationships and lifestyles/choices

Is this Fab or the General Assembly"

An opinion was asked for so we gave it

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"I do love these type of threads, people taking moral stands on others relationships and lifestyles/choices

Is this Fab or the General Assembly"
how far are the "I dont judge" mob willing to take it a paedophile feels that their behaviour is ok or a naturist who refuses to wear clothes a thief but only to feed their family I already know the answer those are against the law ...... a man made law that judgemental people made perhaps some need to jump of the fence its ok to have an opinion and even to judge or we could just pretend we dont and tell tales behind folks backs

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Reading between the lines perhaps th op means "seperated" as in they are ment to be taking alone time to think but certainly not running around fabland whoring and touring

Whoring and touring? Is that what you think women do on here or just the woman being talked about? just the female in question if the circumstances are as mentioned if truely seperated then it aint whoring and touring imo"

Whoring is to prostitute yourself.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Its also a phrase thats used here for someone or a group

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

You can't be a group if you are a single female. You could be a duo if you were two faced but thats about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally would not say anything but if it ever came up, I would not lie if asked..."

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"You can't be a group if you are a single female. You could be a duo if you were two faced but thats about it "
mearly pointing out that it is a phrase thats used here a night out with the lads ...... you off out whoring and touring just means you trying to get some

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"You can't be a group if you are a single female. You could be a duo if you were two faced but thats about it mearly pointing out that it is a phrase thats used here a night out with the lads ...... you off out whoring and touring just means you trying to get some"

I know, I got that bit after you explained.

My last post wasn't serious, it amused me, but then I am easily amused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not tell the poor guy under any circumstances it could send him over the edge mentally ..

Been there got the tee shirt

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