FabSwingers.com forum: Guys who can't handle rejection?!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why are there so many guys on here who become abusive and offensive when you politely tell them they're not your type???

Are we not entitled to choose who we meet? or are we just expected to drop our knickers for every guy who messages us?

Really spoils this site!!!

Anyone else experienced this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some are just not mature and act like wee boys or girls. It's not just men that can't take rejection. If you read things. The signs can be there. Life is to short to bother with them. When I say I like to get my freek on ....that's not what am talking about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Females are just as bad when it's it's the other way around. They can be just as vicious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily this has actually only happened to us a few times. The vast majority of guys have been perfectly polite.

It does disturb me however that on the few occasions where we have been subjected to abuse the offender seems to go unpunished even where we have complained to fab.

Needless to say the person is immediately blocked but the other thing which they maybe do not realise is that active couples on fab do speak to each other & names of people to avoid are passed around unofficially.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeh....I get that women can be just as bad...lol....I just don't why anyone feels the need to behave like that...we're all adults (supposedly!)....just accept a "no thanks" and move on surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take it on the chin and move on is my motto. I can't understand these people who get abusive it's just ridiculous to expect that every request will lead to a meet.

Keep Calm and Move On

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guys defo shoud act wiv a bit more class when rejected but i can understand there frustration its incredibly hard for single guys to get women to give them the time of day on this site

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeh I've noticed fab do nothing when you report any abuse....kinda defeats the purpose of having a report option!....lol

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Simple answer actually, too many eejits. Your only resort is to block and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"guys defo shoud act wiv a bit more class when rejected but i can understand there frustration its incredibly hard for single guys to get women to give them the time of day on this site "

I totally appreciate guys outnumber women on here and as such it must be frustrating...but being offensive doesn't really do much for their appeal....lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Simple answer actually, too many eejits. Your only resort is to block and move on."

My block button is in meltdown....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

defo agree there is no need for abuse in anyway esp as were all on the site to have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The secret is to gonwith the flow and don't take things too seriously.

There is the likelihood of more rejection when your older on this site as it can be a bit ageist but be philosophical!

There are plenty of tasty fish in the sea and good manners cost nothing. J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should never be abusive to anyone if they say no thanx end of story

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You should never be abusive to anyone if they say no thanx end of story "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yip just move on. I think 99% are knock backs on this site. Trust me Iv had my share. Think there is a lot of attention seekers and teasers who are no way going to meet anyone. So just laugh it off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yip just move on. I think 99% are knock backs on this site. Trust me Iv had my share. Think there is a lot of attention seekers and teasers who are no way going to meet anyone. So just laugh it off. "

Everyone gets knockbacks. Many guys have this unrealistic idea that as a couple we dwell in the promised land where we are eagerly accepted by everyone.

Wrong. We for instance have bluntly been told that we are too old, too ugly, to.... whatever.

That's just the way it is. No point in throwing the rattle out of the pram.

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By *ilversunMan
over a year ago

Cumbernauld

Lifes to short in my opinion for the abuse and rage. Take it on the chin and move on i say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys need to realise that it's lady's choice on here. I can imagine that the ladies mail boxes are always full of eager guys wanting to chat/meet. At the end of the day they have the choice. If they don't choose you then move on from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I handle it fine so can't speak for the guys that don't but to be fair to them I've not hear back from any women that are nice about it, since joining 4year ago whenever I've heard back from women who aren't interested they either just read & delete or just delete, & when they do reply they have put enough effort in to being an absolute cunt about it, unlike the women on here though I won't put every woman in the same basket & I'll realise that your not all like that

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Its not just men I've been on the receiving end of women who don't take it too well either and the rejection didn't come from me but a third party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all the years we've been here, never had a nasty reply to saying "no thanks". Usually get a response along the lines of " not a problem, thanks for the reply"

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Ohh women can get quite scary when they are turned down

said from experience

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Ohh women can get quite scary when they are turned down

said from experience

I said I'm sorry

It happens with males, females and couples... Ignore and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few knock backs lately and had to say no thanks to a couple the other day. Personally I never get arsey about it as we can't be everyone's cuppa tea

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

i have seen diva performances that put Mariah Carey to shame when the 'princess' syndrome has kicked in... and a guy has said No, thanks not for me......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always rubbing ointment on to the barge pole bruises, but doesn't faze me.

I do find it amazing that since I started posting on the forums again that lots of chaps are looking at my profile!?

Come on the rest of you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup had this last week from some guy. He got very very nasty and aggressive with his messages all because I hadn't replied to his original message.

I was polite in reply explaining about the unexpected number of messages I had received amd h3 continued to be abusive and threatening. Reported him but didn't block him so I had proof of what he sent. Within 5 mins his page was suspended and from what I can see now he's gone.

was quite shocked at first as I'm new here, but I guess you'll always attract a nutter or two just as you would while walking down the street....xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a few knock backs lately and had to say no thanks to a couple the other day. Personally I never get arsey about it as we can't be everyone's cuppa tea

you've had knock backs???

I added your friends request right away!!! Lol!..x

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

i have seen diva performances that put Mariah Carey to shame when the 'princess' syndrome has kicked in... and a guy has said No, thanks not for me......"

This has actually made me laugh out loud ...

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