FabSwingers.com forum: Jealousy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have you ever noticed if your partner enjoys sex more with a fem/male in a meet than with you or do we mistake the signals that are given off?, if you saw this would it bother you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest if this did bother you then you are in the wrong game! If you can't handle the possibility that someone might be able to screw your partner better than you can then you should not be swinging! You just need to remember that your partner might have better one off sex with a stranger but at the end of the day (or night) then they are still your partner for a reason!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever noticed if your partner enjoys sex more with a fem/male in a meet than with you or do we mistake the signals that are given off?, if you saw this would it bother you."

Are they enjoying it more or just enjoying it differently? We should never underestimate the erotic power of novelty value.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good point, we have swung for 8 years and never once has it occured to us to be jealous or anything else, agree you have to be 100% secure within your relationship or you are deffo in the wrong game!.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You either have to be 100% secure or just not give a fook.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

and if you are not giving (or getting a fook) then you are definitely in the wrong game

**sorry Col,pmsl xxxx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Have you ever noticed if your partner enjoys sex more with a fem/male in a meet than with you or do we mistake the signals that are given off?, if you saw this would it bother you."

I used to worry about this on the first couple of meets we had, would the OH have his nose put out of joint if it looked like I enjoyed things a bit too much, but he says the more I enjoy it, the more it rocks his boat.

I do enjoy it with others but it is a totally different level of enjoying it.........no one would ever come close to the OH as we are in a relationship and he knows that.

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By *omma46Man
over a year ago

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having swung on and off, for several years, been in situations, where there was a possibility of feelings overtaking situations, I can understand that, but at the end of the day- your partner/wife chooses to be with you, then that separates the feelings from the fun element of sex, sex is just sex with a stranger, love is love with your wife/ partner, and thats what you need to do, detach yourself, from situations, where jealousy creeps in, a strong happy relationship, cannot be weakened by swinging, it enhances it Im sure it does, and at the end of the day, nobodys hurt, and it's not like your cheating behind your partner's back, because your giving your full approval whether you are there or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen jealousy from 2 couples in a party situation twice in all my 9 yrs of playing, it aint sexy, fun or welcome in a swinging scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never actualy felt jealousy when in a swinging situ, it turns both of us on to see the other enjoying sex.

Agree with the post about haveing to be 100% secure in your relationship, and the ability to seperate swinging SEX from you and your partner Making Love is a good thing too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do enjoy it with others but it is a totally different level of enjoying it.........no one would ever come close to the OH as we are in a relationship and he knows that."

Was trying to say the same thing earlier and couldn't find the right way of saying it so didn't post but agree with this 100%

The 'sex' that we get in a swinging meet is a completely different sex from what we get when we are with another people, swinging sex can in now way replace making love.

When I see Jo having a good time with another guy, I know that no way would it be better than what we have as a couple, different probably, but not better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I enjoy myself while on a meet I walk in with Colin and I know at the end of the evening I am walking out with him and on the way home we talk about the whole night what we liked and what we didn't like but also what we would like to do once we get home. In this game you have to be open about how you feel and know how secure you are in the relationship that you have. I have seen to many go down the toilet cause one person had the green eyed monster.

The first time I had a meet I found out later that the couple split up not long after and I am sure that it was because of the meet. It still play's on my mind. I am all for haveing meets but please be sure how strong your relationship is and that you can say anything to your partner, as they have to know if you are happy the way things are and what is happening

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