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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

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Do you have high or low confidence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Mrs) was ok before fab. But feel more confident since fab. Realising everybody has bits theyre unsure about but that others appreciate them helps

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By *976scottMan
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

Not an easy thing to answer as think I'm somewhere in between!

I'm quite a shy person when people first meet me and not very self confident!

The more relaxed I become the more confident I become!

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By *ouncingBiscuitsWoman
over a year ago

toy town, Glasgow

Low for me hence I state im shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im quite shy to begin with..not overly confident tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I come across as confident in social situations, but im always nervous until the first glass of wine lol.. always confident in the bedroom though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not a very confident person at all! (Mrs KK)

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Just wondered because so many say they are shy and not confident enough to attend the likes of clubs,socials and parties and such like and nerves always get the better of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm def a shy guy when first speaking to someone in any social aspect, but do grow in confidence once I get a better idea of the person I'm talking to. In regards to actually going to a social or club, I'd rather face the fear head on and take the plunge rather than wondering what might have been if i had chickened out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My self confidence has increased since joining fab, but quite a nervous/shy guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shy to start with but can lack in confidence x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from low confidence and am also shy. Wish I could have more confidence as I think it's stopped me from doing and trying so much. Pity they can't teach it as think confidence is just as important as qualifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jacs as you know I am a cocky, cheeky so and so. However recently I've been living through turmoil and my confidence went with my pride, my short term memory, as well as the rest of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not as confident as I'd like to be. Others seem to have an image of me and are then surprised when they meet me and I'm quite quiet & reserved.

My confidence has grown amazingly since first joining here though at least.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

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"I suffer from low confidence and am also shy. Wish I could have more confidence as I think it's stopped me from doing and trying so much. Pity they can't teach it as think confidence is just as important as qualifications. "
oh confidence can be learnt it's all about loving yourself as much as you love others.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Jacs as you know I am a cocky, cheeky so and so. However recently I've been living through turmoil and my confidence went with my pride, my short term memory, as well as the rest of my life

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I know hunni and hopefully one day you will have it all back again ((big hugs)) xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

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"I'm not as confident as I'd like to be. Others seem to have an image of me and are then surprised when they meet me and I'm quite quiet & reserved.

My confidence has grown amazingly since first joining here though at least.

Lx"
I was surprised when I first met you but I guess that shyness is also very attractive to many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not confident but I act it and it mostly pays off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not confident and tend to sell myself short , even at my work, don't remember being any different tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately low confidence

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Do you have high or low confidence? "

I would say both myself and miss kink are quietly confident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am confident...have had things happen happen in my life...that I add to my life experiences and that adds to confidence...never in a rude way...and never over confident...

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

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"I am confident...have had things happen happen in my life...that I add to my life experiences and that adds to confidence...never in a rude way...and never over confident...

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there is nothing wrong with being overly confident

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

High confidence, sexually shy.

I believe that there's a link between confidence and shyness, just not sure what.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I had no confidence until I met Mr and he introduced me to swinging.

I'm still a big girl, but I feel sexier now than I ever did in my twenties, and I think I carry this confidence over into other things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk a good talk and appear confident however in reality I'm not confident at all. In fact I'm very self conscious and insecure at times too. It takes all sorts though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

B is the most unconfident person.

C is confident most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have high or low confidence? "

Depends on how many beers I've had.....3 seems to be the magic number lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Do you have high or low confidence?

Depends on how many beers I've had.....3 seems to be the magic number lol"
Yeah sadly thats the case for a lot of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly high confidence. However days I feel ugly low moods depending on what day you ask me really . Not shy say what I think. Dosnt always make me popular but I'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say though, this place can give you a boost...

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By *inasparklesWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm bubbly and out going which o come across as very confident. I'm shy sexually to start with but once I get going I take over for some reason x

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By *ckleticklesWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Im confident at work and home, in social situations i am pretty shy which can come across as a little stand offish at times, i have to make a concerted effort not to do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not confident at all, I am really shy and nerves in crowds and with people I don't know. I do tend to sell my self short and think people don't like me even before I have spoken to them.

I don't jell well with people that are lowed and like to show off.

BUT when I fancy you you Will definitely know it LOL

I tend to be more confident in the bedroom than in social settings

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Not confident at all, I am really shy and nerves in crowds and with people I don't know. I do tend to sell my self short and think people don't like me even before I have spoken to them.

I don't jell well with people that are lowed and like to show off.

BUT when I fancy you you Will definitely know it LOL

I tend to be more confident in the bedroom than in social settings

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Totally totally shocked as you come across as a very confidant person lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not confident at all, I am really shy and nerves in crowds and with people I don't know. I do tend to sell my self short and think people don't like me even before I have spoken to them.

I don't jell well with people that are lowed and like to show off.

BUT when I fancy you you Will definitely know it LOL

I tend to be more confident in the bedroom than in social settings

Totally totally shocked as you come across as a very confidant person lol"

Roll play

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Not confident at all, I am really shy and nerves in crowds and with people I don't know. I do tend to sell my self short and think people don't like me even before I have spoken to them.

I don't jell well with people that are lowed and like to show off.

BUT when I fancy you you Will definitely know it LOL

I tend to be more confident in the bedroom than in social settings

Totally totally shocked as you come across as a very confidant person lol

Roll play

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well your very good at it mrs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not confident at all, I am really shy and nerves in crowds and with people I don't know. I do tend to sell my self short and think people don't like me even before I have spoken to them.

I don't jell well with people that are lowed and like to show off.

BUT when I fancy you you Will definitely know it LOL

I tend to be more confident in the bedroom than in social settings

Totally totally shocked as you come across as a very confidant person lol

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well your very good at it mrs lol

thank you

I wouldn't like these few people to know they make me want to leave

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Shy and withdrawn here.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Not confident at all, I am really shy and nerves in crowds and with people I don't know. I do tend to sell my self short and think people don't like me even before I have spoken to them.

I don't jell well with people that are lowed and like to show off.

BUT when I fancy you you Will definitely know it LOL

I tend to be more confident in the bedroom than in social settings

Totally totally shocked as you come across as a very confidant person lol

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well your very good at it mrs lol

thank you

I wouldn't like these few people to know they make me want to leave

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lol

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

"Not confident at all, I am really shy and nerves in crowds and with people I don't know. I do tend to sell my self short and think people don't like me even before I have spoken to them.

I don't jell well with people that are lowed and like to show off.

BUT when I fancy you you Will definitely know it LOL

I tend to be more confident in the bedroom than in social settings

Totally totally shocked as you come across as a very confidant person lol

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well your very good at it mrs lol

thank you

I wouldn't like these few people to know they make me want to leave

Best way of letting them know is by having fun...

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Not confident at all, I am really shy and nerves in crowds and with people I don't know. I do tend to sell my self short and think people don't like me even before I have spoken to them.

I don't jell well with people that are lowed and like to show off.

BUT when I fancy you you Will definitely know it LOL

I tend to be more confident in the bedroom than in social settings

Totally totally shocked as you come across as a very confidant person lol

Roll play

well your very good at it mrs lol

thank you

I wouldn't like these few people to know they make me want to leave

Best way of letting them know is by having fun...

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Shy at first of the chemistry is there then boom!

Mr a tart lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have high or low confidence? "
I would explain Confidence in two ways ......1) Firstly Inner or Personal Confidence.. Which would be based on a person's self worth, self esteem and self belief. Life events good or back will tend to either increase or reduce a person's Confidence accordingly .........2) Performance Related Confidence .. At 18, i passed my driving test and started to drive. Now with 30 years experience and skill of driving I drive with a high level of confidence developed over these years ....... Hope these two examples might help explain Confidence in different ways .. Cheers ..

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Do you have high or low confidence? I would explain Confidence in two ways ......1) Firstly Inner or Personal Confidence.. Which would be based on a person's self worth, self esteem and self belief. Life events good or back will tend to either increase or reduce a person's Confidence accordingly .........2) Performance Related Confidence .. At 18, i passed my driving test and started to drive. Now with 30 years experience and skill of driving I drive with a high level of confidence developed over these years ....... Hope these two examples might help explain Confidence in different ways .. Cheers .."
Well explained

confidence isnt about walking into a room with your nose in the air and thinking you are better than anyone else ,its about walking into a room and not having to compare yourself anyone else in the first place .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say I have a much better level of confidence now than I've ever had in my life . In my teens and 20s I wasn't comfortable or confident in myself at all . 30s was a little better but when I separated from my husband and started getting out again with friends and went back to study my confidence grew. Fab and people I've met helped a lot with this . I'm still not the most confident woman in the world no . I can and also am shy in certain situations and people don't see that or believe me but I can be . In the bedroom im confident within myself . Whereas years ago I wouldn't even get naked without the light going off . Oh how days have changed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have much confidence and never really have, I've just learnt to cover it up better as I've got older.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit like Michael Barrymore in that I can get terribly shy and have to push myself to speak to people until I relax with them but have learned to hide it better as years go by and occasionally I just click with some people and have no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really shocked at the amount of people who are not confident n shy. Believe in yourself don't put yourself down as plenty of people will do that for you. Everybody is different. Looks for different qualitys in people. Personal I tell people all the time the look good. Love the hair. Men I tell them the smell bloody good. It makes people day. We are a hellva nation for not given or taking compliments well. So start beleaving in yourself people. Mwah Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not even remotely confident here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I walked past a woman in the street the other day...as she inspected her nails...I told her that the nails were gorgeous...she gave me the biggest smile...and a lovely shade of purple they were to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not very confident and can be quite reserved until i know people better.

The people i work with would probably disagree.

Much better than i used to be, i was very shy when i was a kid

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By *tew1985Man
over a year ago

Near You

"I'm not very confident and can be quite reserved until i know people better.

The people i work with would probably disagree.

Much better than i used to be, i was very shy when i was a kid"

I've just had a peek at your profile and reeks of confidence!lol

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Confident but not overly so.

I'm not "right in your face" kind of person but definitely not shy either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a confident person due to my ex

But slowly building it back up

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By *ockandhishenCouple
over a year ago

West Dunbartonshire

i have no confidence whats so ever

Hen x

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I'm pretty confident as a person... Not so much about my body

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

in the workplace: very

outside of it: very as I am completely at peace with me, my life and everything around me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a content wee soul. Confident at work and socially so

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By *lassycouple2014Couple
over a year ago

Scotland

"I come across as confident in social situations, but im always nervous until the first glass of wine lol.. always confident in the bedroom though

very true

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By *ourglasgowguyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I suffer from low confidence and am also shy. Wish I could have more confidence as I think it's stopped me from doing and trying so much. Pity they can't teach it as think confidence is just as important as qualifications. oh confidence can be learnt it's all about loving yourself as much as you love others."

Confidence like everything else comes with practice - we are an adaptable species, the more we do something the easier it becomes to do it next time - I've always thought this stems from the fear of the unknown that everyone (confident or not) has at some point. If we are more switched on to the possible outcomes of a situation then we can adapt next time to allow us to be ourselves within that situation, that gives confidence.

Need to push yourself out your comfort zone to learn confidence.

Others wear a mask of confidence to hide a head full of uncertainty, that strategy is fraught with danger.

Me? I'm confident that I will learn from experience - some of my greatest triumphs have come from my greatest failures

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