FabSwingers.com forum: Found love through fab???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was just wondering if anyone has found love through fab ?? Could there be trust in a relationship if you are both potential cheaters in the first place . I am in a unhappy relationship myself and no that if I met someone who I clicked with could easily fall for them , but has it happened or can people put there feelings aside and have meaningless fun sex ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was just wondering if anyone has found love through fab ?? Could there be trust in a relationship if you are both potential cheaters in the first place . I am in a unhappy relationship myself and no that if I met someone who I clicked with could easily fall for them , but has it happened or can people put there feelings aside and have meaningless fun sex ? "

It happened m8, that is for sure... not saying it was what I wanted but ye, got hooked... then moved on!

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

How do you work out someones a potential cheater for being on here

You are clearly just a cheater full stop so no i would never trust you.

I myself know i can be trusted, never have and never would cheat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you work out someones a potential cheater for being on here

You are clearly just a cheater full stop so no i would never trust you.

I myself know i can be trusted, never have and never would cheat!"

you have an amazing profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a very unhappy marriage. I got married at 16 through necessity not choice. And then I fell for some one else and did cheat. I've now been single nearly 6 years and I do fear that if I got into another relationship that I wasn't happy in the temptation would be there. However now I'd have more courage to walk away first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this was a swingers site, not a cheaters site? We are not all cheaters on here, it's a lifestyle choice. For me I love the open, inclusive and liberated scene and the people that live by it. There is every chance I might fall in love as I'm meeting people on the same wavelength as myself. I'm not looking for love however, just the box that it comes in and all the fun and laughs that come with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also just want to add, I'm not judging anyone for cheating, just a bit offended that it was suggested everyone is a cheater on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My apologies if I offended anyone but was looking at it if you are in a relationship and you stray elsewhere to swing you are not being faithful wether your partner consents or not you are not faithful to one person . I have also never cheated and this is new to me and quite out of character and feel it's wrong for people to judge without knowing a person and and there circumstances which I won't share as its my private life , was just curious if it happens on here because I have never been into meaningless one night stands but the whole idea of swinging does excite me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you read the post a little more clearly you will see at no point did I say it's a cheating site I said if 2 people are cheating which I could potentially be doing (which I don't condone and I will have to live with the consequences if I get caught) some people are slightly sensitive , Monday morning blues ????

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A lifestyle of non-monogany where sexual relations occur outside the established couple. Swingers tend to refrain from romantic attachments with their outside partners, DEFINITION OF SWINGING !!!!

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By *inasparklesWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

id say leave before you cheat. Surely at some point you loved her enough to consider her feelings and respect her enough to not take the piss. It's embarassing enough finding out your partners cheated with usually everyone around you knowing except you with out it being on a sex/swingers site. we are all here for the same reason but do it with out hurting someone else x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I agree Tina you are 100% correct and you can love someone but not be fulfilled sexually or emotionally , have commitments, families etc everyone's circumstances are different I can't comment for everyone on here but doesn't make you a bad person I am not condoning cheating like I already stated but you only get one shot at life why not try and enjoy things that are perhaps a little out of character sometimes , I mean how do you no you like things or its for you till you give it a try and perhaps you may realise it's not for you and it puts other things into perspective for you . It's a forum everyone is entitled to there opinion but please don't judge

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

We met on a similar site and have now been married for over 6 years.

Anything we do, we do together. When we got married we chose to omit the "forsaking all others" part of the wedding vows.

We don't cheat on each, we enjoy other people with each other and it works for us.

We started this relationship based on what we do, and fell in love and want to continue doing it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nice one folks that was the response I was looking for when I created this post , good luck to you both and obviously it's working

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

that way your partner doesn't get hurt if she ever finds out about your activities on here?

That way your free to do as you wish and if someone special does come along your concentrating on building a relationship than worrying about looking over your shoulder and worrying about your little lady at home finding out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met on here nearly 2 year ago and so in love

with each other but no harm in adding a little spice now and again xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could there be trust in a relationship if you are both potential cheaters in the first place ."

That was what I based my response on. I read it as we were all potential cheaters, and that has not been my experience so far. I've met some very loving couples and singles. I've probably met cheaters too although that is not my place to judge, condone or pass approval. OP I hope you find what you are looking for, but don't give up on your partner just yet - if it's worth a shot give it a shot. If not then by all means have as much fun as you can handle here, and maybe I'll see you at a social, get you a beer and have a chat with you to ensure no offence was made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting feelings aside doesnt mean its meaningless sex tho its friends who get along with and looking for that same kind of escape adult mutal fun

I think some have found love and great that they have found that compatable partner but there is a halfway it doesnt have to be one or the other

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Very true , well said x

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

People do and will have meaningless sex on this site it's what the site is all about after all nsa sex with strangers.

However some do want a connection with the people they meet.

The danger of meeting someone on a regular basis does mean feelings do come into play especially if meeting exclusively and that changes the dynamics completely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Precisely people find it hard to put there feelings aside and once feelings blossom would you feel the same about your new FB seing other people ?? It's a weird situation I may be a hypocrite but I wouldn't like my partner sleeping with someone else and I no its total double standards but I would never want her to find out and likewise she may be doing the same when I work away but what I don't no doesn't hurt me x

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

I think it's possible yes , I have seen it happen and work.

Yes there's a but.....

I think many get carried away and get mixed up between lust and love.....due to the excitement and obsessiveness takes over for many.

personally I think a relationship needs built up first outwith swinging to learn about each other , to learn each other's quirks and faults etc, to build up trust etc...swinging isn't always sweetness and light and straight forward there's many warped individuals out there .

Seen many relationships made on swinging sites come and go over the years normally always dramatic and yoyo...but then I have seen the odd few blossom and last.

Each to their own and no offence intended to anyone...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No offence taken fella , I made the post for people to have there say . But would never turn down a beer lol people won't always agree that's what makes us individuals and you are more than entitled to your opinion just meant the cheating thing speaking from a personal point of _iew wasn't implying by any means that swingers are all cheats

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Precisely people find it hard to put there feelings aside and once feelings blossom would you feel the same about your new FB seing other people ?? It's a weird situation I may be a hypocrite but I wouldn't like my partner sleeping with someone else and I no its total double standards but I would never want her to find out and likewise she may be doing the same when I work away but what I don't no doesn't hurt me x"
I'm sure the what you don't know doesn't hurt you attitude wouldn't be the same if you weren't on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No I have always used that approach to cheating but don't think I wouldn't be gutted I found out I have feelings aswell but it's a well known saying that uses common sense if you don't no it won't hurt you !!!!

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

"No I have always used that approach to cheating but don't think I wouldn't be gutted I found out I have feelings aswell but it's a well known saying that uses common sense if you don't no it won't hurt you !!!! "

Common sence and fucking and swinging and you won't get hurt, what you don't know won't harm you etc doesn't always go hand in hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met through fab , both as singles, and are now together. It has been an experience to say the least, as there can be lots of hurdles to tackle together as a couple. We have mainly been working on our relationship and just recently started playing with others, so far its all good, but who knows what the future will hold. Hopefully we will be strong enough to stay together, and play together without jealousy and possessiveness taking hold x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think having feelings can get confusing some can get feelings as good friends but still nsa etc its about meeting ppl same mind set as yourself everyone may be diff

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By *akedninjaMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

I've unfortunately never yet found love via fab (not that I was ever looking) but I have found a love for fabswingers and swinging and I've found a fair few nutty ladies who have allegedly fallen in love with me strangely enough....heaven knows why! ..but such is life

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

potential cheater

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We found each other on here. Couldn't be happier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met through fab and are totally in love with each other. We gave swinging a break to enjoy our relationship and only now are we starting to dip our toe in the water again.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Its really nice when it all works out but not so nice when you see them declaring their undying love one min and wanna kill and badmouthing each other when it doesnt work out .

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

The bottom line is that whatever you're looking for, can be found on here.

That's not to say that whatever that might be, it's just waiting for you to come along.

And of course, sometimes you find something when it's the last thing you're looking for.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"The bottom line is that whatever you're looking for, can be found on here.

That's not to say that whatever that might be, it's just waiting for you to come along.

And of course, sometimes you find something when it's the last thing you're looking for."
yep as i said bothy love has no bounds and can strike anywhere xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought this was a swingers site, not a cheaters site? We are not all cheaters on here, it's a lifestyle choice. For me I love the open, inclusive and liberated scene and the people that live by it. There is every chance I might fall in love as I'm meeting people on the same wavelength as myself. I'm not looking for love however, just the box that it comes in and all the fun and laughs that come with it."

Totally agree M8, some see the site as their primary pulling mechanism and 'Fab is their life'... fab is part of my life but does not control it, could live without but enjoy enjoying the ride too much to get off it! ... keep enjoying and let's not make it a serious part of what we do; banter, great craic and well the rest will cum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you read the post a little more clearly you will see at no point did I say it's a cheating site I said if 2 people are cheating which I could potentially be doing (which I don't condone and I will have to live with the consequences if I get caught) some people are slightly sensitive , Monday morning blues ???? "

I think he was referring to coco chanels post not yours m8?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah post tend to get a little confusing at times lol, well by last nights conversation looks like a May be single now anyway so what will be will be , wait till I get home see what my next move is at least still have fab to meet ladies for fun rather than having to meet people in a d*unken mess at bars and clubs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came out of an unhappy relationship because I met a lass on here, we've only met a few times but she's got under my skin. She said she's not looking for anything long term but I'm hoping she'll change her mind. I joined this site for nsa fun but with meeting this woman I felt I couldn't stay in my marriage knowing I wanted to be with someone else. Maybe I'm using this other woman as an excuse to have left my marriage but I've fell for her. Hopefully I haven't made a fool of myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting other people on here while married ??.. do you break up your family, have your kids leave the house thats been their home all their lives, the trauma of divorce/separation on all the family. Financial hardship for everyone concerned.

Or do you have a little fun with someone one here who is aware of your situation, NSA, now and again, keep your family together, stay sane because you have a little "me time" now and again.

Life is not always as easy as " just leave and be honest about it"

Or do you continue to be "faithful" be miserable and before too long have to leave and break up the family , hardly see your kids.

Choices Choices... not always easy to make the right one.

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

"The bottom line is that whatever you're looking for, can be found on here.

That's not to say that whatever that might be, it's just waiting for you to come along.

And of course, sometimes you find something when it's the last thing you're looking for.yep as i said bothy love has no bounds and can strike anywhere xx

Aye rite! Help!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The bottom line is that whatever you're looking for, can be found on here.

That's not to say that whatever that might be, it's just waiting for you to come along.

And of course, sometimes you find something when it's the last thing you're looking for.yep as i said bothy love has no bounds and can strike anywhere xx

Aye rite! Help!!

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By *r and Mrs SnogalotCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Nobody has the right to dictate how another individual leads their life. They may have an opinion, and that may in turn influence their opinion of that individual.

Mr S and I have been together 16 years, consisting of many ups and downs. During that period we went from being deeply in love / lust with one another to at times barely tolerating one anothers company back to being deeply in love / lust.

3 years ago we were at breaking point and Mr S took a risk. It was one of those risks that could make or break a relationship. He introduced me to FAB. Fortunately, for us the honesty that has developed since then has strengthened the bond between us and we have spent the last 3 years rediscovering one another and building an even stronger relationship than before.

We have a close group of friends with whom "playtime" is an added benefit. We get to explore and push boundaries that we both could only fantasise about and we do it together.

My experience has taught me that honesty is the best policy for us. We are still taking it slow, not rushing into anything and talking helps us understand how we are feeling.

Mrs S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was at school studying English the word cheater didn't exist in the English Dictionary

You were a cheat or you were someone who cheats

The word cheater is in fact very bad grammar

Back to OP and his point

Swinging regardless of what you may read online is a way of life enjoyed by people (usually couples) as a way of spicing up their sexual lives by swapping partners and engaging in NSA fun

Finding "love" and long term vanilla realtionships are not for this type of site or lifestyle but more appropriately on sites you see advertised on TV.

Swinging is a relatively new name for what was wife swapping in the days gone by.

People would meet at SOCIAL events and then it would start with the keys in a bowl scenario.

With the onset of the internet and this type of site people's concepts have become hazed

There are people in here that use this site for "Swinging" however vast majority are now using it as either a dial a shag or a new friend with benefits finder site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its really nice when it all works out but not so nice when you see them declaring their undying love one min and wanna kill and badmouthing each other when it doesnt work out . "

Have seen this so many times on here. Touch wood we have been immune so far - we don't fight or argue.

I've jinxed it now haven't i? We're doomed! Better not be - I'm not parting with my gift! Lol!

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By *aucy MikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Mike and I met on here as singles not at all looking for a relationship and it just happened. Once we'd realised how much we loved each other we took a break for 6 months and concentrated totally on each other. We came back on to keep in touch with friends and to meet others socially as well as to play. We reckon we've got a pretty good circle of close friends (most with benefits) who understand if we say we're taking a break that "real life" has to take priority for a while. Suits us and 3 years on we're still totally in love and more committed to each other than ever. Swinging? It's together or not at all

. Two couples in our wee crowd have also met on here and gotten engaged in the last 6 months. One of them told us at the Valentine's Ball on Friday.

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