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By *amesfun33 OP Man
over a year ago

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Why o why does depression hurt so much and push away the one you love the most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it's a nasty illness a lot of people just don't understand. Hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U lash out at the ones you love the most, and they hate the fact that they can't help you, they back away,

Just out the other side of my depression, Mr dlt has had a tough few months with me,

Love him to bits cause he didn't walk away,

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

isolation is a key symptom, speak to a professional...

good luck

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Its a way of protecting them from the pain you suffer on a daily basis .

Those who truly love you will always push back and never leave you.

Depression does have terrible consequences on any relationship unless its addressed quickly seek help as soon as you think you are depressed and follow everything your told and things should come alright .

(((big hugs)))Good luck Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've battled with my depression on & off for years.

If people can't accept you at your worst then they don't deserve to accept you at your best.

Good luck keep fighting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've battled with my depression on & off for years.

If people can't accept you at your worst then they don't deserve to accept you at your best.

Good luck keep fighting x

^^^ this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've suffered myself over the years had my ups but my downs were soooo low it's horrific thing and impossible to explain to anyone that's never suffered

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

It seems like there is no end, as if you are all alone. But with time, hopefully the right people to support you, it does get better.

There is no miracle cure and everyone is different, but just remember, those who love you the most will always be there for you even when it's at its darkest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel you pal, people struggle to understand just how tough it is and how hard it hits. I remember being in a self destructive haze and walking into on coming traffic one night with my parter watching completely stunned at what was happening right before her eyes. That was scary for her and she didn't know how to deal with that. I don't underst what drove me to that point either except it made complete and absolute sense to me. I wanted to feel something other than sadness and emptiness so badly that I'd do that. I'm "Lucky " in a way, being bipolar I experience the other (equally as dangerous) side of the coin and have extreme highs. Again, few understand. Speak to a professional and take whatever help they offer, it's a relief just speaking openly about how you feel even if there is no why. It's a weight of your shoulders and hopefully it will lead to you recognising the triggers to your depression and avoid them. Good luck pal, if you ever need a chat just give me a shout.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because it's a nasty illness a lot of people just don't understand. Hugs xx"

Agreed 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have been so brave in this thread sharing their stories. I'm not that brave I'll admit x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is very hard watching a loved one battle depression and not knowing what to do for the best or what to say without saying or doing something that either sends them further into depression or having them snap at you,all you can do is be there for them and support them unconditionally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a pet it will help so much, seek CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) try help you come to terms with why you feel like you do, never bottle it up or belive there is no one there to talk to. I did that for so long fighting depression/anxiety constantly self harming and when I'd dip I've attempted to end my own life a few time's causing more problems. For myself and my family. Just remember Star's can't shine without darkness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is very hard watching a loved one battle depression and not knowing what to do for the best or what to say without saying or doing something that either sends them further into depression or having them snap at you,all you can do is be there for them and support them unconditionally"

That's very touching dlt. As a long time sufferer myself I know the isolation...often self imposed. When the very low times hit, its the ones closest to us that help most. It can be hard to communicate when we feel so low self worth is in negative figures and we feel we have nothing to offer others around us. This must hurt greatly those who observe, love and care for us. It is a true test of "real" feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you break your arm you put a cast on it to let it heal. Antidepressants can act as a cast for your mood and emotions

I have seen a close family members life transformed for the better by them, mabey it's somthing you should speak to your doctor about. Keep your chin up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a pet it will help so much, seek CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) try help you come to terms with why you feel like you do, never bottle it up or belive there is no one there to talk to. I did that for so long fighting depression/anxiety constantly self harming and when I'd dip I've attempted to end my own life a few time's causing more problems. For myself and my family. Just remember Star's can't shine without darkness. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental health issues still have a stigma attached to it. Depression is a hard and lonely place. Its hard to put into words how it feels. Usually its because you have been strong for to long then you crash. Emotional rollacosterm to be in tears when you don't have a reason. Things you care about don't matter. You just need to be brutally honest with yourself when you need help. Just talking about it and admitting it is a massive postive step. You will get there

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By *lasgowduoWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

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By *lasgowduoWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

"I've battled with my depression on & off for years.

If people can't accept you at your worst then they don't deserve to accept you at your best.

Good luck keep fighting x

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well said d totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Wife has suffered from the depresion for 20 years and it has been tough for both of us but on the occasion that the gloom lifts i see the lady i met 25 years ago and it all makes sence why we stay together.

Now before am hung out to dry why am i on here my wifes meds are great and help in a huge way family life is good again but as result of them it has destroyed our sexlife and she knows it and how it hurts and to be honest more me that we dont have a sex life she was even going to come off the meds but

after years of looking for right one i said no as they are the best for her.so i try to get my sexual fulfillment on here i know that not right in most folks eyes but pestering my wife for sex when she had no notion for it is worse

Before am hung up to dry i had not had sex with wife for 5yrs before joining here as no matter saying its not an issue it is we all need to express our sexual desires if we are lucky enough to have a healthy sex drive.thanks for reading.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

I really appreciate this kind of thread and the honesty that people show about their circumstances and how they "cope".

I have suffered from depression (on and off) since I was in my early teens, currently going through quite a dark down spell, always triggered from December to Feb due to personal circumstances.

Don't really know what I am saying here except that there is help out there, you are not alone and there are so many people who suffer but don't realise. The sooner mental health issues are publicly recognised and accepted the better. You can see a broken arm and fix it, you can't always see a broken person inside...

Hope that makes sense x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said its an invisable illness for sure

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really appreciate this kind of thread and the honesty that people show about their circumstances and how they "cope".

I have suffered from depression (on and off) since I was in my early teens, currently going through quite a dark down spell, always triggered from December to Feb due to personal circumstances.

Hope that makes sense x"

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because a lot of society still don't nor will they try to understand why people suffer from it. Depression is hard, people's ignorance of it is even worse.

10 years down the line and I've learnt how to deal with it. Have your bad days and your good but I'm glad that I have people who understand and care and those are the people worth living for.

Stay positive it gets better

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"Because a lot of society still don't nor will they try to understand why people suffer from it. Depression is hard, people's ignorance of it is even worse.

10 years down the line and I've learnt how to deal with it. Have your bad days and your good but I'm glad that I have people who understand and care and those are the people worth living for.

Stay positive it gets better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"isolation is a key symptom, speak to a professional...

good luck

I agree with View, get some professional help

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Wondering why the op has posted this but not responded to the people who have taken the time to reply to his post?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Perhaps was just a msg he was puting out there

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Perhaps was just a msg he was puting out there"
yeah quite possibly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a horrible illness. You can only understand it fully if you've went through it.

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By *amesfun33 OP Man
over a year ago

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Thank you all for kind words.

Iv never been open with how I feel to anyone for many years and the open support from you all had left me overwhelmed but less alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you all for kind words.

Iv never been open with how I feel to anyone for many years and the open support from you all had left me overwhelmed but less alone

You are not alone x

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Thank you all for kind words.

Iv never been open with how I feel to anyone for many years and the open support from you all had left me overwhelmed but less alone

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You are never alone no matter how much at times it feel like that .

Take this post as an example people always have time to help those who are suffering .

Even if you dont feel ready to seek help now at least talking to people here might help ...reach out to them and they will be there .

But get professional help too would be my advice...Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wondering why the op has posted this but not responded to the people who have taken the time to reply to his post?

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possibly a bit taken aback by the amount of folk who have been quite open,honest and offered support?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (P) don't think that I can add to what has already been said.

I have suffered from depression for a long time. I have only really acknowledged the fact in the past couple of years. A has had to put up with all my traits, including lashing out (not physically), laziness and a whole load of other things.

In my experience, I found my G.P. wasn't really all that helpful. Threw some pills at me and sent me on my way. Probably against some peoples judgement, I have stopped taking them. I have read a book, not specifically specifically aimed at depression, which has helped me infinitely more. I can recognise when I'm starting to feel low and counteract it.

Depression can be a hard thing for someone on the outside to understand. A person who is depressed can say or do things they don't truly mean to. I sympathize with anyone who is a sufferer. It can be beaten. I don't believe it ever goes away, we can only learn to control it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know where your coming from mate...been there ,still there some days..just gotta keep your chin up and see the relevant people that can help...there is a light at the end of the tunnel, as far away as it might seem just now it will get closer..

Do things that make you smile...Have orgasms...hehe

Ever shot your load and not smiled after it...?..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

P."

I believe I may be a person "on the outside" I have never understood depression and was always brought up being told to "deal the hand your dealt"

I have had my share of hard times in life with health, dept, divorce etc and even through the bad times I guess I must consider myself lucky that I have never suffered this, or perhaps at the time I may have been unaware of what it is.

This thread helps a little with enlightenment but a more in-depth detail of the illness would be appreciated, guess I may do some google research

so how do you tackle depression is it a battle you have to fight from the inside, deal with it yourself?

what causes depression

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"I (P) don't think that I can add to what has already been said.

P."

sounds like we have the same doctor... swallow some pills and the problem should go away, er no!! I know most of my underlying reasons and the triggers, but GPs lack the knowledge that a CPN has.. but trying to get that referral!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some lovely messages on here which is nice to see

The one thing that stands out to me the most is 'You're not alone'. Its all too easy to forget that when the low moods set in and life looks and feels bleak. I struggle daily and get lost in my own little bubble lol currently in my well-known self imposed solitary mode. A few close friends are helping me through it through.

There's this group I came across on facebook that offers support in a unique way to anyone suffering from depression. Just sign up and they send out handwritten letters to remind the person they're important, worthy and loved. To have someone take the time to do that for others is inspiring to me!

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

I believe I may be a person "on the outside" I have never understood depression and was always brought up being told to "deal the hand your dealt"

This thread helps a little with enlightenment but a more in-depth detail of the illness would be appreciated, guess I may do some google research

so how do you tackle depression is it a battle you have to fight from the inside, deal with it yourself?

what causes depression

There is really no straight forward answer to your question. You may as well ask what causes dementia.

Simply put, a part of your brain decides it's not wanting to play anymore. It's an internal illness that sneaks up on you then fucks you upside the head with a baseball bat....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of different things cause depression trauma,grief,genetics

A whole host of other things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder all the time what causes depression and bipolar disorder. Its such a complex thing really and affects everyone in many different ways

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"I wonder all the time what causes depression and bipolar disorder. Its such a complex thing really and affects everyone in many different ways

Lx"

There is no answer though L. It's a hair trigger illness!! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My depression started I lost my baby girl

10 weeks later I lost my dad & 10 weeks later I lost my sister

Then I have diagnosis of my children's iillnesses & lost my best friend my mum

I take the doctors pills I've been to a shrink the lot

Pills make me fuction daily.

Some people see depression as a weakness that they can play mind games & stuff.

But I think it is just so wrong people do this as it's low.

But bullying a sick mind makes people feel big I pity them when they come out the side x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is no answer though L. It's a hair trigger illness!! x "

I know hun lol 13 years I've had most folk telling me to just 'cheer up' mostly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's one of those things that sneaks up on you and changes your life ,I got it after my parents passed away , done so much running around for years , and when they did pass it all hit me , I didn't even know I had it , if your busy you hide it or say it will pass , I do know it's something you have to fight , as for GP's they just give you pill's that send you to the moon , you do need to see someone who really knows what they are talking about I was lucky I got a great doc who knows his stuff , took me right off the pills and tried a few till we got the right ones , It's a road that know one knows , the brain they are only scratching the surface with , there are good times and there are bad times hopefully you get the proper help GP's are out of their depth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm ex army.....fucked with PTSD.....Every day is a new struggle...I keep smiling though,have done for many years...I try to do things that make me happy and live as stress free as possible...its life isn't it...get on with it,as hard as it is some days...

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"There is no answer though L. It's a hair trigger illness!! x

I know hun lol 13 years I've had most folk telling me to just 'cheer up' mostly.

30 years for me... my physio knows me better than my GP does!!

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"I'm ex army.....fucked with PTSD.....Every day is a new struggle...I keep smiling though,have done for many years...I try to do things that make me happy and live as stress free as possible...its life isn't it...get on with it,as hard as it is some days...

Do you keep smiling for yourself, or to put "on a happy front" for others? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you keep smiling for yourself, or to put "on a happy front" for others? x"

I smile for me....!... I don't put up fronts or walls etc...been down that route...and the self medication route too..had it longer than people on here have been alive...iv learned what works for me and have a great doctor who has me sorted now..took a long time but happy as now...

Plus all the great meets and shagging help keep me smiling...

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Do you keep smiling for yourself, or to put "on a happy front" for others? x

Plus all the great meets and shagging help keep me smiling...

Pleased that the smile is for you and you have things sorted. Hopefully I can say the same one day xx

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Do you keep smiling for yourself, or to put "on a happy front" for others? x

Plus all the great meets and shagging help keep me smiling...

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this aint to belittle you but had it longer than folk here have been alive... depression or any mental health disorder is no badge to be worn whether ptsd from seeing sh** in a conflict or feelings os anger at the untimely end of a cherished friend everyond will find their own way whether medication cognative behaviour some folk require walls and fronts lets them hide the pain from family and loved ones anyone with these problems I wish you well

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Sadly mental health help is so strained and the waiting lists are so long ....

Plus in my honest opinion doctors etc are too quick to jump on the medication band wagon ...which yes helps but for many it's not the answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you keep smiling for yourself, or to put "on a happy front" for others? x

Plus all the great meets and shagging help keep me smiling...

this aint to belittle you but had it longer than folk here have been alive... depression or any mental health disorder is no badge to be worn whether ptsd from seeing sh** in a conflict or feelings os anger at the untimely end of a cherished friend everyond will find their own way whether medication cognative behaviour some folk require walls and fronts lets them hide the pain from family and loved ones anyone with these problems I wish you well "

Mate,I don't wear any badge...just stating a fact...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Speaking about it is a great start..

Professional help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Good luck.

From where I was 7 years ago, to where I am today is night and day. I healed me because I owned my mental health and with surgical persission, I cut off negative influences.

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Thanks OP for this thread, I hope the replies have helped.

I don't have depression, but know and have known sufferers, so threads like this are always a help.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"Speaking about it is a great start..

Professional help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Good luck.

From where I was 7 years ago, to where I am today is night and day. I healed me because I owned my mental health and with surgical persission, I cut off negative influences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading this thread certainly shows so many ppl suffers this horrendous illness battling it myself at the min

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Redundancy, lost my home became bankrupt, lost my daughter,

Rental agreement on my current home expires at the end of this month so I'm on the move again.

My GP prescribed anti-depressants, they cured my insomnia, I slept 20hrs a day, came off them myself and the insomnia came back however I'd rather be awake and able to help myself than constantly sleeping and falling deeper

Into despair

I am a practicing Buddhist and meditate daily which helps keep me earthed, lack of cash stops me going to the Vihara on a regular basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear many people saying that medication is perhaps given out and taken too readily. I stopped my medication on my own several years ago believing that I was much better and well able to cope without it. At first all was well and I felt fit and well but gradually over the course of a year I slipped backwards and was in a much worse place than I could ever have imagined. I'm now back on my meds plus some new ones and improving slowly, steadily and surely. Medication isn't for everyone, I realise that. We are all so different and battling our own demons but it works for me. There are so many other tools to help sufferers. Help is out there so whatever you need I hope you find it. There is always light at the end of the tunnel....just finding the tunnel however is often the hardest part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep smiling people...give me a shout if you just wanna talk...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hear many people saying that medication is perhaps given out and taken too readily. I stopped my medication on my own several years ago believing that I was much better and well able to cope without it. At first all was well and I felt fit and well but gradually over the course of a year I slipped backwards and was in a much worse place than I could ever have imagined. I'm now back on my meds plus some new ones and improving slowly, steadily and surely. Medication isn't for everyone, I realise that. We are all so different and battling our own demons but it works for me. There are so many other tools to help sufferers. Help is out there so whatever you need I hope you find it. There is always light at the end of the tunnel....just finding the tunnel however is often the hardest part."

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow

About a year ago I found myself in a professional crisis, where I'd discovered a respected colleague's fitness to practice was in question. It didn't take long for a deep depression to ensue. Asking my GP for help was one of the hardest things I'd ever had to do. Took a few months of medication to get my mental strength back, till I was finally able to deal with the situation. Confronting the colleague with my findings was the second hardest thing I'd had to do. It's all behind me now, but was a low low point, especially as I'd an overwhelming feeling that there was no one I could talk to about it.

It's not about being weak, sometimes it's the strongest and proudest of us that succumb to this. If seeing your GP is too scary to contemplate then there's helplines galore, to let you take your first small step on the road to recovery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went down that road myself..ended up in a worse state...took ages to get on the right meds but now I'm on them life is definitely on the up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came off my meds on my own about a year ago. Thought I can fight this on my own, with help from my monk friend I set about helping people in his community.

Events of past month or so have driven me back into that place I fought so hard to get out of, seriously considering going back to my GP.

The problem I live over a mile from the surgery and the thought of making an appointment and walking scares me.

I used to go and see her every 4 weeks but haven't been since before Xmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came off my meds on my own about a year ago. Thought I can fight this on my own, with help from my monk friend I set about helping people in his community.

Events of past month or so have driven me back into that place I fought so hard to get out of, seriously considering going back to my GP.

The problem I live over a mile from the surgery and the thought of making an appointment and walking scares me.

I used to go and see her every 4 weeks but haven't been since before Xmas.

Whatever you decide to do don't leave it as long as I did. I was so sure I wanted no more drugs I waited over a year longer than I should have by which time I was in dire straits and along the way I made a lot of people very miserable and worried also. You know the signs....even just go to talk . You're recognising the backslide....so you're in control. Do it now. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheers Jinty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have very dark days - more than I care to admit, and I'm very lucky to have C in my life. He has pulled me back from pressing the self destruct button so many times.

Depression is nasty, cold and will destroy you if you don't get professional help.

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By *r and Mrs SnogalotCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Why o why does depression hurt so much and push away the one you love the most "

It takes your breath away, removes your ability to think rationally. Leaves you feeling worthless and rips the you that is funny, charming, witty and the life and soul of the party apart. When it gets really bad you become silent - not knowing what to say to others.

Look behind the smile into the eyes and you may get a glimpse of the pain that exists within.

Shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so how do you tackle depression is it a battle you have to fight from the inside, deal with it yourself?

what causes depression

Yes it is something you have to fight yourself. Some people are lucky that they only experience it for a short time but others have to deal with it for a lifetime.

Some people experience it because they've lost their way in life or lost the one thing worth living for while some have a screw loose and their mind decides it doesn't want to play nice anymore.

I've had a great life, yes I've lost people, I've had my heart broken, etc etc but I wouldn't say anything has caused it. I'm quite literally jekyll and hyde sometimes and it scares the shit out of me because I just don't know why my brain decided to be so messed up. I'm a really nice person but sometimes I do some unforgivable things and I wonder who/what the hell took over my mind to make me think those things were acceptable.

I'm getting too deep now haha but no I don't think there's a cause, some are just wired differently and it's horrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so how do you tackle depression is it a battle you have to fight from the inside, deal with it yourself?

what causes depression

Yes it is something you have to fight yourself. Some people are lucky that they only experience it for a short time but others have to deal with it for a lifetime.

Some people experience it because they've lost their way in life or lost the one thing worth living for while some have a screw loose and their mind decides it doesn't want to play nice anymore.

I'm getting too deep now haha but no I don't think there's a cause, some are just wired differently and it's horrible.

I think you cracked the nut with that reply, good explanation and no it was not far too deep

I am just curious as mentioned previous and surprised by how many on the forum suffer from this

Is this why some people choose this forum? because they fail with a normal relationship or shut out the people who care?

This is an interesting subject, thanks for sharing your _iew

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Some inspirational stories and inspirational life's....

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By *amesfun33 OP Man
over a year ago

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"Thank you all for kind words.

Iv never been open with how I feel to anyone for many years and the open support from you all had left me overwhelmed but less alone

You are not alone x"

Thank you xx

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By *ockandhishenCouple
over a year ago

West Dunbartonshire

I dont know where i would be if i didnt have my hubby and friends that know that i suffer with depression

its a hard battle and i know ive beaten it before many a times and i can do so again but when is the question now

a week a month who knows but im hoping its soon as i hate tje person i am just now

good luck

Hen xx

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over a year ago

I found my meds made me feel worse not any better, gp's defo dont have the skills required at times for mental health, cpn & hospital time was a godsend for me to get back on my feet.

Its all about surviving one day to the next at times & keeping your head above water. Love my family & friends dearly for all the support because without them i dont know if id be here x

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over a year ago

I found my meds made me feel worse not any better, gp's defo dont have the skills required at times for mental health, cpn & hospital time was a godsend for me to get back on my feet.

Its all about surviving one day to the next at times & keeping your head above water. Love my family & friends dearly for all the support because without them i dont know if id be here x"

Know where your coming from..Keep smiling naughty

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over a year ago

I found my meds made me feel worse not any better, gp's defo dont have the skills required at times for mental health, cpn & hospital time was a godsend for me to get back on my feet.

Its all about surviving one day to the next at times & keeping your head above water. Love my family & friends dearly for all the support because without them i dont know if id be here x

Know where your coming from..Keep smiling naughty

I always do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why o why does depression hurt so much and push away the one you love the most "

My hats off too you ... Takes a lot of guts for starters to even seek help ! Split up 2 years ago and missed kids etc ! Didn't get to see them ! Enough of me, hope all goes well for you and you come out of this a better person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been doing so well the last few years but I'm getting that feeling again of it slowly creeping up , when people say the most menial things are the worst feeling in the world , they've never felt this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I There is always light at the end of the tunnel....just finding the tunnel however is often the hardest part.

Due to the current economic situation, cutbacks and green energy saving devices, the "light at the end of the tunnel" is now out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes im suffering now .. Been to long hard years and still cant get out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could really do with someone to talk to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too suffer from depression and have done to varying levels for 8 years now. Its hard to explain to people why u feel that way or even how it affects you. I hope you have a good support network xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why o why does depression hurt so much and push away the one you love the most "

Feel you pain m8, but feel the love in all the support on the thread, good luck!

I have never suffered but many I have did, my relative in Peterhead is under Dr Hamilton in Cornhill; fantastic individual, very professional and best in industry!

He helped me structure pathway for my relative who is now at the other side of depression, sees him regularly and sounds as if Peterhead has good net work of support... so go ask for it!

Even just call Dr H!

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel your pain mate, only now can I say that I'm coming out the other end and that's taken a long 3 years, plenty help out their just accept it and see someone. Pull yourself together doesn't work trust me I've been trying for 3 years to pull myself together and only when i

decided to see a doctor did I get better

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