FabSwingers.com forum: Lack of reply

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am I the only one who thinks it's just plain rude to not reply to a message. I get plenty from people who are not on my preferences, or who just don't fit, but always reply, even of it's a no thanks.

If somebody holds the door open you always say thanks, it just manners isn't it? Or maybe it's just me that thinks being polite is a good thing.

Your thoughts?

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

If someone doesn't meet what I'm looking for as per my profile, nope I don't reply...

If they think it's rude so be it. I think it's rude that they haven't read or have read and ignored my profile.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Check out the 3, 000, 569, 351, 234 similar posts joke over no its not rude accept you dont suit them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I state in my profile not to be offended if i dont reply for various reasons if the person wants to be offended then tough shit simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100s messages a day and they all expect a reply. Sorry its just not possible..... I try my best to reply to those who make an effort..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I suspect I get a lot less mail than the ladies on here then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get no reply I assume the person isn't interested.

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By *ltravioletWoman
over a year ago

In amongst the Unicorns & fairy dust

"100s messages a day and they all expect a reply. Sorry its just not possible..... I try my best to reply to those who make an effort.."
I totally agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I refer you to Miss McGinty's Manual of Swinging Etiquette (available at all good book shops £9.99 hardback) where you will find your question in the FAQs...

Miss McGinty's frequent (in fact permanent) response is

"Tough luck Chuck"

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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

I got a message on here and mistakenly deleted it when i tried to explain why the ignorant sod blocked me if i dont reply its because i dont want to and my circumstances just now are that im only on here for a short while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We generally reply to messages,only manners we think

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By *ouncingBiscuitsWoman
over a year ago

toy town, Glasgow

"If someone doesn't meet what I'm looking for as per my profile, nope I don't reply...

If they think it's rude so be it. I think it's rude that they haven't read or have read and ignored my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to reply to messages for a no thanks. Thought it was only polite. But for some rejection is not something that they take easily.

Ive had only messaged you because I thought fat bird like you didn't stand a chance felt sorry for you.

Or had thought you were easy because of your verifications

So that is why I don't reply

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By *ouncingBiscuitsWoman
over a year ago

toy town, Glasgow

"I used to reply to messages for a no thanks. Thought it was only polite. But for some rejection is not something that they take easily.

Ive had only messaged you because I thought fat bird like you didn't stand a chance felt sorry for you.

Or had thought you were easy because of your verifications

So that is why I don't reply "
That's why I stopped sending reply's mainly

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"If someone doesn't meet what I'm looking for as per my profile, nope I don't reply...

If they think it's rude so be it. I think it's rude that they haven't read or have read and ignored my profile.

This.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

My thanks but no thanks is on my profile.

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By *ustforalaugh1Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Think us guys underestimate exactly how many messages the ladies on here get!

Yes, i agree it would be nice to get a "thanks but no thanks" response, but can completely understand why a lot of ladies (and couples) don't. It would just take too much time.

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

OP, as has been explained by several ladies, it's not unusual for them to get 10s of messages a day. Yes it would be polite to reply, but when some clearly state on their profile that they're not meeting, it's pretty obvious that the guy hasn't bothered to read their profile in the first place, so why should they be polite?

A certain lady recently got an unsolicited message from a guy. When she referred him to her profile, she got back a load of abuse, with him even questioning why she was on the site. Enough said I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We generally reply to messages,only manners we think

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I totally agree with you both, quite a few on here who have been dragged up instead of being brought up properly. Manners cost nothing and at the end of the day It's nice to be nice and not to be nasty, a quick sorry no thanks would suffice.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"We generally reply to messages,only manners we think

I totally agree with you both, quite a few on here who have been dragged up instead of being brought up properly. Manners cost nothing and at the end of the day It's nice to be nice and not to be nasty, a quick sorry no thanks would suffice."
can I ask how many emails are in your inbox?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We generally reply to messages,only manners we think

I think you would be surprised just how often a quick "sorry, no thanks" doesnt suffice actually.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That depends what meds they are on and if it is a full moon or not ??

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"We generally reply to messages,only manners we think

I think you would be surprised just how often a quick "sorry, no thanks" doesnt suffice actually.....

I get asked why not, what am I looking for, messages from attached/married/bi/bi curious when my profile clearly states I won't meet any of them. It gets frustrating and down right annoying. I do try to respond to all messages, but my patience is not limitless. My mother brought me up to be polite and we'll mannered, but it's a two way thing.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

*well mannered. Damn phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*well mannered. Damn phone."
totally agree and sympathise will all you gorgeous girls on here regarding the abuse and criticism etc you must take on a daily basis, and the amount of mail you receive, its just not pratical to sift through them all and reply to each and everyone you are simply not resourced or have the time to do this. Perhaps Admin can create a box standard reply so all you do is tick the box and hey presto thanks but no thanks is sent. The ratio of men to women is off the scale on here just like some of the users lol.

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By *woplustwocoupleCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

"*well mannered. Damn phone.totally agree and sympathise will all you gorgeous girls on here regarding the abuse and criticism etc you must take on a daily basis, and the amount of mail you receive, its just not pratical to sift through them all and reply to each and everyone you are simply not resourced or have the time to do this. Perhaps Admin can create a box standard reply so all you do is tick the box and hey presto thanks but no thanks is sent. The ratio of men to women is off the scale on here just like some of the users lol."

There is no need for an automated reply. If you took the time to read the FAQ,s it clearly states that a no reply is to be taken as a no thanks. So your answer is already there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only one who thinks it's just plain rude to not reply to a message. I get plenty from people who are not on my preferences, or who just don't fit, but always reply, even of it's a no thanks.

If somebody holds the door open you always say thanks, it just manners isn't it? Or maybe it's just me that thinks being polite is a good thing.

Your thoughts?"

that all depends on the message! if its a 3 or 4 worded message that someone has not taken time or effort over then no reply is necessary.

If however someone is constructive and takes time and effort to sit down and have a good conversation even if one way then a reply will be sent with same effort

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By *ighlander80884Man
over a year ago

Inverness

For those of you who think you should reply to ask messages, how do you deal with all the spam phone calls for PPI etc.

Do you really explain to them how you are not interested, it just hang up?

PS I've managed 4 minutes playing the hello game ( just say hello all the time took they hang up)

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"For those of you who think you should reply to ask messages, how do you deal with all the spam phone calls for PPI etc.

Do you really explain to them how you are not interested, it just hang up?

PS I've managed 4 minutes playing the hello game ( just say hello all the time took they hang up)"
I've said similar too ie wonder if those complaining about lack of replies take the time to reply to all the junk mail that comes through their doors at home?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At first I thought what was the point typing a message then boom deleted no reply.But have now thought about it and actually feel sorry for woman on here who must get 100s of messages a day.it is not realistic to get a reply every time not ideal but that's life.Just got to stick it out and hope that you get noticed among the sea of men all spamming woman's inboxes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no need for an automated reply. If you took the time to read the FAQ,s it clearly states that a no reply is to be taken as a no thanks. So your answer is already there"

This ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you have 30+ messages waiting for each log on and the majority of them have clearly not read your profile or have used a copy/paste message there is no way I am replying to every message.

Also have been pestered and hiven abuse when I have sent 'thanks, but no thanks' type messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as I would prefer a thanks but no thanks response rather than no response at all, I've seen enough statuses giving me an idea how different it is for ladies compared to guys, so I just accept it and move on. Now if you'll excuse me I'm just going to crawl into my rejection hole once more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit harsh !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually try to reply but if the guy has just not read my profile then why should I bother? Also fed up of the abuse I get when I reject them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually try to reply but if the guy has just not read my profile then why should I bother? Also fed up of the abuse I get when I reject them "

Its the abuse I've taken in the past that stops me trying to be polite now tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The secret answer to your question is in most of the ladies answers. Read the profile from start to finish,then read it again to make sure you fit there profile. Then send a mail. If you don't get a reply,move on,simple really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a time it bothered me, but at the end of the day there's enough kink to go around. Seek it and ye shall find, don't waste time feeling hard done by because your message was ignored. We've got it easy, we just got to keep looking and asking. The ladies and couples have to filter through all the bullshit, cock and balls, and bad English.

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