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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is jealousy a problem for fab members or rejecting some one brings out another side of them , do you think any of these are problems ?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

for some, yes....

me, I couldn't give a shit

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Mainly see it happens when games are played and people are over involved.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If your easily involved and not single that I can see as a problem , then a bit of fun could have a price to pay and someone is going to get hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yeah!!!!

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Sadly, jealousy is pretty rife around Fab, and involves some surprising people.

They appear on the surface to be genuine NSA swingers, but from the little that I know of the 'behind the scenes' drama that goes on, basic jealousy is often at the root of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the point of rejection if someone doesn't reply to my sent message I track them down via IP address and poke dog dirt through their letterbox. Unless they live too far away, then I just tsk loudly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's human nature. It happens sometimes. It's not planned. So long as there is open communication and respect then people won't get hurt.

Personally I'm not able to be completely emotionless. And as a result I have been hurt. Is the risk you take if you don't keep a guard up

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"for some, yes....

me, I couldn't give a shit "

+1

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

T think that's why I stay away from married or that , then its free to form whatever will be , then its only ever between two , you cant plan for everything but you can set the lines and limits , go for drinks or meal without looking over a shoulder

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Sadly yes there are many jealous people

on here .

But jealous person won’t come and tell you that he/she is jealous of others on here but instead their jealousy will appear in the form of hatred, resentment and gossiping.

Not to hurt their Egos jealous people will never say it directly but the envy they have towards you will spill out of their mouths in the form of non constructive criticism, rude treatment or disrespect for you with silly little digs .

What these silly people forget is everyone sees it and not just their intended target .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it arises when you spend a lot of time with someone. You talk get to know one another. Hard at times to keep emotions out of it at .especially if contact is just cut off. Think if your honest there is people you wish you could be with. However need to remember nsa about. Only human

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Also it comes in the form of individuals and couples....male and female.....married and single.....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

people shouldn't listen to tittle tattle and then form opinions of others...

there will always be 3 sides....

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland


"people shouldn't listen to tittle tattle and then form opinions of others...

there will always be 3 sides....

"

With heads and tales there could be a few sides lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy.......not a word that appears in my dictionary but yes it is strife in here as in all walks of life

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree the more time you spend with someone , then theres more likely to be an attachment forming , the jealousy can arise if its one sided , be it male or female we all have feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jealousy.......not a word that appears in my dictionary "

The dangers of buying second hand dictionaries!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all here...in every shape and form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think its just the same as in normal life , the idea is fine but the fact is you cant totally control feelings

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bit of double standards are you saying , they want their cake and eat it from all sides then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone gets a little jealous, even us. We both are flirty, both get a little jealous, but it's not an unhealthy jealously. We know that we are only going home with each other regardless, and we won't do anything to hurt the other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them "

That is a double standard , one person wants to be free to be with and do whatever but on the other hand they want loyalty to only them , a dom and a sub I would say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes that's fine you both know each others limits for each other and that's fine , that's the way it's supposed to be , that's having the trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them

That is a double standard , one person wants to be free to be with and do whatever but on the other hand they want loyalty to only them , a dom and a sub I would say "

No doesnt mean dom/sub its simply some dont like there friends meeting otners and that leads to jealousy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them

That is a double standard , one person wants to be free to be with and do whatever but on the other hand they want loyalty to only them , a dom and a sub I would say

No doesnt mean dom/sub its simply some dont like there friends meeting otners and that leads to jealousy "

But that an affair not freedom to do as you please and to expand , that's like meeting someone and being told come off the site your only seeing me now , that's not what the site is about , its freedom of choice is it not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them

That is a double standard , one person wants to be free to be with and do whatever but on the other hand they want loyalty to only them , a dom and a sub I would say

No doesnt mean dom/sub its simply some dont like there friends meeting otners and that leads to jealousy

But that an affair not freedom to do as you please and to expand , that's like meeting someone and being told come off the site your only seeing me now , that's not what the site is about , its freedom of choice is it not ?"

Yes it is freedom of choice no.one should tell anyone wat to do as i said hence when jealousy can appear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If folk meet on here & decide to come off because they have both found what they are looking for.

What is wrong with that?

Or folk that become exclusive to one another but stay on for chat.

Is that not how it's done?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If folk meet on here & decide to come off because they have both found what they are looking for.

What is wrong with that?

Or folk that become exclusive to one another but stay on for chat.

Is that not how it's done? "

There is nothing wrong with people getting together that's life , but you shouldn't be told that's a joint decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree should not be told it's joint but I don't see anywhere on this thread that people have been told

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them

That is a double standard , one person wants to be free to be with and do whatever but on the other hand they want loyalty to only them , a dom and a sub I would say

No doesnt mean dom/sub its simply some dont like there friends meeting otners and that leads to jealousy "
I totally agree with this statement had it so many times on here now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them

That is a double standard , one person wants to be free to be with and do whatever but on the other hand they want loyalty to only them , a dom and a sub I would say

No doesnt mean dom/sub its simply some dont like there friends meeting otners and that leads to jealousy

But that an affair not freedom to do as you please and to expand , that's like meeting someone and being told come off the site your only seeing me now , that's not what the site is about , its freedom of choice is it not ?

Yes it is freedom of choice no.one should tell anyone wat to do as i said hence when jealousy can appear"

Exactly don't need jealousy in anything only causes trouble

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree should not be told it's joint but I don't see anywhere on this thread that people have been told "

I have been asked myself hence the post and that's why I posted it on forum , at first everything fine then what happened that I missed did I commit or something that I don't know about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"???? "

I have had the jealousy and the complete change in the person because they wanted more than I would give

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them

That is a double standard , one person wants to be free to be with and do whatever but on the other hand they want loyalty to only them , a dom and a sub I would say

No doesnt mean dom/sub its simply some dont like there friends meeting otners and that leads to jealousy "

Why should anyone tell someone who to meet or not to meet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them

That is a double standard , one person wants to be free to be with and do whatever but on the other hand they want loyalty to only them , a dom and a sub I would say

No doesnt mean dom/sub its simply some dont like there friends meeting otners and that leads to jealousy

Why should anyone tell someone who to meet or not to meet ?"

I never said they should i said it can happen by some which can lead to jealousy which was your initial question

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them

That is a double standard , one person wants to be free to be with and do whatever but on the other hand they want loyalty to only them , a dom and a sub I would say

No doesnt mean dom/sub its simply some dont like there friends meeting otners and that leads to jealousy

Why should anyone tell someone who to meet or not to meet ?

I never said they should i said it can happen by some which can lead to jealousy which was your initial question "

Yes and I asked how does it get to that when everything is open and no chains all of a sudden chains appear from nowhere

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I think people in glasshouses springs to mind here .

And i think some need to understand people more and move on because sour grapes really does make lousy wine .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them

That is a double standard , one person wants to be free to be with and do whatever but on the other hand they want loyalty to only them , a dom and a sub I would say

No doesnt mean dom/sub its simply some dont like there friends meeting otners and that leads to jealousy

Why should anyone tell someone who to meet or not to meet ?

I never said they should i said it can happen by some which can lead to jealousy which was your initial question

Yes and I asked how does it get to that when everything is open and no chains all of a sudden chains appear from nowhere "

Really couldnt answer that obv if its happening to you then prob best asking the other person involved

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow


"Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them

That is a double standard , one person wants to be free to be with and do whatever but on the other hand they want loyalty to only them , a dom and a sub I would say

No doesnt mean dom/sub its simply some dont like there friends meeting otners and that leads to jealousy

Why should anyone tell someone who to meet or not to meet ?

I never said they should i said it can happen by some which can lead to jealousy which was your initial question

Yes and I asked how does it get to that when everything is open and no chains all of a sudden chains appear from nowhere "

Surely you'd have to ask the person concerned, that question?

Another way that chains, as you put it, appear, is when someone states they're simply looking for NSA, but would in fact prefer something else/more. So they meet someone, they click, but the other person is still only interested in NSA.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh its def in fab which surprised me think it comes when ppl try and put claims on others as if they own them

That is a double standard , one person wants to be free to be with and do whatever but on the other hand they want loyalty to only them , a dom and a sub I would say

No doesnt mean dom/sub its simply some dont like there friends meeting otners and that leads to jealousy

Why should anyone tell someone who to meet or not to meet ?

I never said they should i said it can happen by some which can lead to jealousy which was your initial question

Yes and I asked how does it get to that when everything is open and no chains all of a sudden chains appear from nowhere

Surely you'd have to ask the person concerned, that question?

Another way that chains, as you put it, appear, is when someone states they're simply looking for NSA, but would in fact prefer something else/more. So they meet someone, they click, but the other person is still only interested in NSA. "

It did happen to me and came out of nowhere and was stunned by it didn't see it coming and the jealousy surprised me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep the green monster tastes bitter. Fergal Keane, (IRISH Journo) wrote a letter to his 15 year old self when he was 60, and the one bit I remember is 'never ever let the chance of a fun sexual experience pass you by'

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow


" Another way that chains, as you put it, appear, is when someone states they looking for NSA, but would in fact prefer something else/more. So they meet someone, they click, but the other person is still only interested in NSA.

It did happen to me and came out of nowhere and was stunned by it didn't see it coming and the jealousy surprised me "

Yep, been there and got the t-shirt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Another way that chains, as you put it, appear, is when someone states they looking for NSA, but would in fact prefer something else/more. So they meet someone, they click, but the other person is still only interested in NSA.

It did happen to me and came out of nowhere and was stunned by it didn't see it coming and the jealousy surprised me

Yep, been there and got the t-shirt. "

Glad to see it wasn't just me then , thought I was going off my head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol its rampant on fab,find it quite amusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Another way that chains, as you put it, appear, is when someone states they looking for NSA, but would in fact prefer something else/more. So they meet someone, they click, but the other person is still only interested in NSA.

It did happen to me and came out of nowhere and was stunned by it didn't see it coming and the jealousy surprised me

Yep, been there and got the t-shirt.

Glad to see it wasn't just me then , thought I was going off my head "

A number of us on here have been there.

Not nice when it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think people in glasshouses springs to mind here .

And i think some need to understand people more and move on because sour grapes really does make lousy wine ."

I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its all here...in every shape and form.

"

I just don't understand , why people change so quick , from being one thing to completely different the next without warning or even a hint of it coming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When humans are involved then human emotions are involved! The woman I started on fab with wanted as much fun as she could get but got insanely jealous when I got involved. As to couples, Only once at my parties did I witness any jealousy, a while ago now! Like everything in life it is down to communication. I was once at a party with my then partner when I had a strong feeling of jealousy. It was very irrational but I took a little time out, gathered my thoughts and on the way home told her how I had felt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its all here...in every shape and form.

I just don't understand , why people change so quick , from being one thing to completely different the next without warning or even a hint of it coming "

Because people's feelings change.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Its all here...in every shape and form.

I just don't understand , why people change so quick , from being one thing to completely different the next without warning or even a hint of it coming "
I'm sure even you have been jealous or envious of someone or something in your life?

It's human nature but as I've said many times its all about how you deal with it makes all the difference.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Never had a problem with it on fab, either between ourselves or with the people we've met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'My friends blessing is my blessing' Wonder why this doesn't apply to relationships. Having read a few Sunday supplements I think I'm qualified to reckon it's chest beating limbic system bacon related hardwired dickswinging for fellas anyway, with the fillies possibly nipper related. Does mean sex is enjoyable, if you take yer time and only use the club with consent. The real poison is dishonesty. You is what you is, don't like it? well do one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jealousy.......not a word that appears in my dictionary

The dangers of buying second hand dictionaries!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had a lady cut off our friendship because I visited chat room and friended other ladies. No meets just chat. So yeah jealousy can rear its head on here.

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

With the ammount and bitching and backstabbing etc I would say yes it's an issue lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the ammount and bitching and backstabbing etc I would say yes it's an issue lol "

I agree! I'm lucky that most people on here I've met are pretty great, a few people really need to get over themselves though, no need for bitchiness especially when you don't even know someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned a long time ago I can't please everyone but those I can please I can do that well

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Even worse, is jealousy mixed with bitchiness. Knows no bounds!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even worse, is jealousy mixed with bitchiness. Knows no bounds! "

Absolutely!

We've found couples to be most guilty of this

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Jealousy is an emotion I conquered in my twenties. It's something that can eat you up and is one of humanities most destructive traits.

My advice would be to leave jealousy at the door when you sign up to Fab or don't sign up at all.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

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