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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Aa a single woman it's far easier to find a man to have sex with you on a regular basis than it is for someone to spend time with you doing other things. Sharing a meal or even just tea and cake. Having a duvet day. Watching a film or going out somewhere.

And before I'm hit with the why are you on a sex site if you want all that. It's merely an observation that makes me feel a bit disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aa a single woman it's far easier to find a man to have sex with you on a regular basis than it is for someone to spend time with you doing other things. Sharing a meal or even just tea and cake. Having a duvet day. Watching a film or going out somewhere.

And before I'm hit with the why are you on a sex site if you want all that. It's merely an observation that makes me feel a bit disappointed. "

You never know what's just around the corner chin up you will hopefully find that soon x

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

I have never and will never meet for sex alone got to be friendship minimum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aa a single woman it's far easier to find a man to have sex with you on a regular basis than it is for someone to spend time with you doing other things. Sharing a meal or even just tea and cake. Having a duvet day. Watching a film or going out somewhere.

And before I'm hit with the why are you on a sex site if you want all that. It's merely an observation that makes me feel a bit disappointed. "
yip wish i could have this sometimes too ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social side is great.

Right who wants to go shopping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this site should be for everyone wat ever your looking for be it sex only fun n friendship escape swinging or even relationship if it happens be it for singles couples or married on alone there should be room for all avenues too many dictate its a sex site only which to be far is a minority i feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think this site should be for everyone wat ever your looking for be it sex only fun n friendship escape swinging or even relationship if it happens be it for singles couples or married on alone there should be room for all avenues too many dictate its a sex site only which to be far is a minority i feel "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get friendly with a nice couple and you can join them for some non sexual company

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can honestly say ive both , ive good friends i can cuddle up an chill with , watch a movie with go to pub with an then i have those i meet for sex.

you make the site work for you and how you want it to work ,

thats whats good about fab , hope you OP can soon find it all as well x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of people who are looking for more than just a purely sexual experience. For me, the sex and the everyday little things that we do together make the whole thing amazing. Its a lovely feeling to find someone whose company you truly enjoy both in and out of the bedroom. I think some people are just scared to admit it for fear of the dreaded "emotional involvement".

Nothing i love more than going out for coffee and cake, a wee trot round tesco to get something nice for tea, then home, knowing what's to come later!!!

Its very true, all kinds of friendships can blossom here and why the devil not! We are all individuals with our own desires.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are lots of people who are looking for more than just a purely sexual experience. For me, the sex and the everyday little things that we do together make the whole thing amazing. Its a lovely feeling to find someone whose company you truly enjoy both in and out of the bedroom. I think some people are just scared to admit it for fear of the dreaded "emotional involvement".

Nothing i love more than going out for coffee and cake, a wee trot round tesco to get something nice for tea, then home, knowing what's to come later!!!

Its very true, all kinds of friendships can blossom here and why the devil not! We are all individuals with our own desires. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you tell the guy your meeting your looking for that

Then you won't be disappointed when he dosnt call again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep it's nice to spend time doing other things with someone you find sexy once they are good company and the snogs are fun and naughty.The sexual tension added into the mix when your doing other things together gives both people more time to just naturally tease,tempt and flirt with each other and then understand a bit more what both want or need in the bedroom.

The only downside of this type of relationship is that it could become emotional.I suppose if both people talk,listen and consider each others position and respect it then it would be great fun at the time and fondly remembered at some time it the future.

I reckon it's as rare as a hens tooth to find but well worth searching for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nothing worse than being used

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was looking for some sort relationship, Fab would be the LAST place I looked!

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Yep it's nice to spend time doing other things with someone you find sexy once they are good company and the snogs are fun and naughty.The sexual tension added into the mix when your doing other things together gives both people more time to just naturally tease,tempt and flirt with each other and then understand a bit more what both want or need in the bedroom.

The only downside of this type of relationship is that it could become emotional.I suppose if both people talk,listen and consider each others position and respect it then it would be great fun at the time and fondly remembered at some time it the future.

I reckon it's as rare as a hens tooth to find but well worth searching for. "
always find atatements like this hilarious everything reverts to sex are folk really incapable of just enjoying anothers presense without always lokking for the fuck angle

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep it's nice to spend time doing other things with someone you find sexy once they are good company and the snogs are fun and naughty.The sexual tension added into the mix when your doing other things together gives both people more time to just naturally tease,tempt and flirt with each other and then understand a bit more what both want or need in the bedroom.

The only downside of this type of relationship is that it could become emotional.I suppose if both people talk,listen and consider each others position and respect it then it would be great fun at the time and fondly remembered at some time it the future.

I reckon it's as rare as a hens tooth to find but well worth searching for. "

Why is emotion always seen as such a bad thing. And why is not just wanting to fuck and go _iewed as looking for a relationship? Is there no middle ground or does everyone have some secret hidden agenda.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Defo prefer havin my own man fab only filled a gap til i found someone to be with

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow


"As long as you tell the guy your meeting your looking for that

Then you won't be disappointed when he dosnt call again "

One of the biggest problems on here is not people being dishonest with others, but being dishonest with themselves!

Before they even come on here, they should have a serious discussion with themselves, and decide what they really want, not just from here, but from life full stop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of guys / girls on here that want boyfriends/girlfriends instead of friends with benefits is scary

As I said earlier as long as both parties are upfront on what they are after

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow


" I think some people are just scared to admit it for fear of the dreaded "emotional involvement". "

Oh no........that's the last thing I'd want. No......I'm a free spirit, wandering the highways and byways, the banks and braes.

But.......it's nice at the end of the day to return to a warm cosy place, where a wee wumin waits for me, and if I'm REALLY lucky.....even has something ready for eating!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I hope people what they are seeking and honesty upfront will minimise any hurt that may come along the way...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm very honest with myself and others about what I want. My life doesn't have space for a full on relationship. That's why the friends with benefits is appealing. However sometimes I think the friendship part can get lost in some cases for fear it is misconstrued as more. There are lots of people on her looking for more than sex and lots of folk on conventional dating sites who just want sex. Each to their own. My point was just that it's sad it seems easier to find a shag than just some company or a hug. People seem to be able to be quite cold with ease and I personally think it's a shame that there seems to be a block on anything more for many people

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By *unbeamWoman
over a year ago

aberdeen


"I'm very honest with myself and others about what I want. My life doesn't have space for a full on relationship. That's why the friends with benefits is appealing. However sometimes I think the friendship part can get lost in some cases for fear it is misconstrued as more. There are lots of people on her looking for more than sex and lots of folk on conventional dating sites who just want sex. Each to their own. My point was just that it's sad it seems easier to find a shag than just some company or a hug. People seem to be able to be quite cold with ease and I personally think it's a shame that there seems to be a block on anything more for many people "

Hi Pink Mist, I find myself in a similar ( single) situation. I've spent the last couple of years trying to get my head round the 'straight' dating versus 'friends with benefits' type arrangement. I don't disagree with your _iewpoint, but I think whether you're on a 'straight' dating site versus a site like this, finding someone that you want to spend time with out of the bedroom is difficult- I suppose that's what makes it so special when you do x

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow


" .......finding someone that you want to spend time with out of the bedroom is difficult- I suppose that's what makes it so special when you do x"

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

What did we all join here for in the first place for? ...Mosty nsa sex id say .

But the longer your on you realise over time what you started out looking for changes somewhat different to what it was back then.

If your single and looking for something more than just sex ie a relationship then just make sure your potential meets know that .

As for marrieds and those in a relationship for what ever reason your here im sure it wasnt to look for another relationship and was purly for sex but when emotions and feelings come into play its upto you how you deal with that situation that then changes from just a bit of fun to an affair.

Can people combine sex and social friendship on here yes I think they can as long as all involved know thats all it is .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep it's nice to spend time doing other things with someone you find sexy once they are good company and the snogs are fun and naughty.The sexual tension added into the mix when your doing other things together gives both people more time to just naturally tease,tempt and flirt with each other and then understand a bit more what both want or need in the bedroom.

The only downside of this type of relationship is that it could become emotional.I suppose if both people talk,listen and consider each others position and respect it then it would be great fun at the time and fondly remembered at some time it the future.

I reckon it's as rare as a hens tooth to find but well worth searching for.

Why is emotion always seen as such a bad thing. And why is not just wanting to fuck and go _iewed as looking for a relationship? Is there no middle ground or does everyone have some secret hidden agenda. "

There definitely is a "middle ground" but it needs a mature and honest attitude to work. As with many other aspects of life, communication is key. Every single person I've met through fab has had different reasons for being here and indeed at one time in the dark and distant past mine was very different too.Strange things can happen where people are involved and what started out as a simple meet for me evolved into something more because we "clicked".

What Bothy said about being a " free spirit" is very true. You cant own another person....there are no ties other than the fact that we enjoy each other tremendously. As friends, companions, lovers and sparring partners. Lol.

We maybe all came here looking for the sexual aspect....but life has its own way of surprising you. Often when you least expect it. Its about being open to opportunies for that wee bit more. If that's what you want.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Yep it's nice to spend time doing other things with someone you find sexy once they are good company and the snogs are fun and naughty.The sexual tension added into the mix when your doing other things together gives both people more time to just naturally tease,tempt and flirt with each other and then understand a bit more what both want or need in the bedroom.

The only downside of this type of relationship is that it could become emotional.I suppose if both people talk,listen and consider each others position and respect it then it would be great fun at the time and fondly remembered at some time it the future.

I reckon it's as rare as a hens tooth to find but well worth searching for.

Why is emotion always seen as such a bad thing. And why is not just wanting to fuck and go _iewed as looking for a relationship? Is there no middle ground or does everyone have some secret hidden agenda.

There definitely is a "middle ground" but it needs a mature and honest attitude to work. As with many other aspects of life, communication is key. Every single person I've met through fab has had different reasons for being here and indeed at one time in the dark and distant past mine was very different too.Strange things can happen where people are involved and what started out as a simple meet for me evolved into something more because we "clicked".

What Bothy said about being a " free spirit" is very true. You cant own another person....there are no ties other than the fact that we enjoy each other tremendously. As friends, companions, lovers and sparring partners. Lol.

We maybe all came here looking for the sexual aspect....but life has its own way of surprising you. Often when you least expect it. Its about being open to opportunies for that wee bit more. If that's what you want. "

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Yep it's nice to spend time doing other things with someone you find sexy once they are good company and the snogs are fun and naughty.The sexual tension added into the mix when your doing other things together gives both people more time to just naturally tease,tempt and flirt with each other and then understand a bit more what both want or need in the bedroom.

The only downside of this type of relationship is that it could become emotional.I suppose if both people talk,listen and consider each others position and respect it then it would be great fun at the time and fondly remembered at some time it the future.

I reckon it's as rare as a hens tooth to find but well worth searching for.

Why is emotion always seen as such a bad thing. And why is not just wanting to fuck and go _iewed as looking for a relationship? Is there no middle ground or does everyone have some secret hidden agenda. "

I know right? :/

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