FabSwingers.com forum: Chat

By *unny Bunny x OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

is it just me.......do I smell???

But Ive been on a good few sites in the past and I have to say....I have never come across so many ignoramusis in my life.

And most on here have been on the other sites too....so is it just a quality this site brings.

Now I know how poor guys feel when they enter the chat.

Not even a hi or hello....Ive tried on few occassion to give it a go but nup totally Iggied.

Never came across such a bunch of clique ignormausis in my life.

Not worth popping in for

Off ma soap box hee hee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be fair you do have a valid point...but this post will be closed sooner rather than later ...

Buboo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not name and shame the clique? Rather than tar us all with the same brush ....

Some of us try and say hi to everyone. G

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

I agree bub that it does happen and folk can miss others saying hi when the chat is moving so fast!

I always try to say hi to folk that come into the room and to be honest I saw the OP in chat last night and said hello to them twice with no reply back!

I thought about starting a forum about it but then thought to myself - aw well they must have missed me saying it on both occasions and I won't lose any sleep over it!

Chat moves fast and if people don't say hello back to me then it really isn't the end of the world now is it?

As always, just my own wee opinion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally see where you are coming from on this. I go into Chat alot and try and jump into the conversations. But I guess its just like other chats you have to build up into getting to know people when alot of people already do.Keep trying though the more you try the more likely you are to start making friends in it. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even regulars in the room dont always get a hi when they first come in , folks are maybe busy in whisper or not on chat page or engaged in a convo already in the room and when it moves fast they look out for the name of the person they are conversing with.

We were all once new to the room and i found the more u put in the more u get out of it , so keep plodding on and if i see you in room i will try and say hi , keep smiling .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not everyone is the same hun

but ur right u do get the clique's

but my motto is fuck them

but as gandl said dont tar everyone

the same u do get some nice ppl

an some not so nice..so keep at it i say xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry if I've missed you, I do try to say hi and welcome to the newbies coming into chat, not always easy if I'm caught up in a convo or the room is going fast. Hope you do keep trying, I'll look out for you.. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the chat can be a pain in the arse at times, we normally only get spoken to when we have the cam on, but you take the good with the bad. The chat is a fab way to get intouch with others xx

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By *cotsteveMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"the chat can be a pain in the arse at times, we normally only get spoken to when we have the cam on, but you take the good with the bad. The chat is a fab way to get intouch with others xx"

Lucky you! My cam is on in chat most times and noone speaks to me lol

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"the chat can be a pain in the arse at times, we normally only get spoken to when we have the cam on, but you take the good with the bad. The chat is a fab way to get intouch with others xx

Lucky you! My cam is on in chat most times and noone speaks to me lol "

I can see the flaw in your agrument straight away - You are male and Pretty isn't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well as someone who goes into the chat most nights im tending 2 agree here.seems 2 b a trend here where if u aint in the gang ur ignored or made fun of ?no iv bn in the chatroom most daysn night sometime its brilliant sometimes its a carcrash its wot it is?u like or u dnt.too many folk bringing issues with other folk in.b it in chat or whispas.but rmbr.those whispas do get fecked up alot.just imagine if u saw a whispa slagn u off?how wld that make u feel?right ok nuff said. auds.x

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By *unny Bunny x OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

im not tarring everyone and its obvious that those who disagree eh.....dont get iggied.

Im not new to chat rooms and Ive been on here for about a year but it really puggles me the difference in this chat than other sites....espesh fems being ignored...thats a new one to me.

I mean its the same folk who don the other sites so just wondering why does it happen more here.....maybe the whisper is to blame.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"well as someone who goes into the chat most nights im tending 2 agree here.seems 2 b a trend here where if u aint in the gang ur ignored or made fun of ?no iv bn in the chatroom most daysn night sometime its brilliant sometimes its a carcrash its wot it is?u like or u dnt.too many folk bringing issues with other folk in.b it in chat or whispas.but rmbr.those whispas do get fecked up alot.just imagine if u saw a whispa slagn u off?how wld that make u feel?right ok nuff said. auds.x"

Not slating your post at all but sometimes messages like you have just put here are put into chat and are hard to actually understand what folk are saying.

They need to be read over a few times and in the forums you get the chance to as the message hasn't whizzed off the screen!

Again, I am not slating your post here at all but it took me reading it over and over to actually make out what you were saying.

The above are just my own thoughts an no offence meant!

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By *oonboyMan
over a year ago

livingston

dinnae take it personally i used to come into chat everyday , then changed jobs so life wasnt as simple lol... now i come in and no fuker chats anymore.... do i care?... not a jot... if i feel like chatting i will .. if folk are not interested in allowing you to join in then so what... im sure with time you will realise that most of your time will be spent fending off the desperados and losers anyway.... oh and by the way ... happy swinging lol

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"im not tarring everyone and its obvious that those who disagree eh.....dont get iggied.

Im not new to chat rooms and Ive been on here for about a year but it really puggles me the difference in this chat than other sites....espesh fems being ignored...thats a new one to me.

I mean its the same folk who don the other sites so just wondering why does it happen more here.....maybe the whisper is to blame.

I didn't agree with your post but I have my own opinion and I can disagree!

A question to you though - why did you "iggy" or "iggie" (never know how to spell the singular of made up words like "iggied" lol) me saying hello to you twice last night? Did you miss it? Did you not want to reply to it? Or? Not that I am bothered in the slightest, it is a retorical question!

Again no offence meant but you say you get "iggied", so do I and so does everyone else at some point or another. That's the nature of a fast moving chatroom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok il dumb it dwn lol. The chatroom is getn far to bitchy and clique.there i said it.needed 2 b said. Now let all the denials take place.but the regulars know its true!it used 2 be a great laugh in there i always stuck up 4 it and tld newbies c go in.now? I see why the dnt . auds.x

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"ok il dumb it dwn lol. The chatroom is getn far to bitchy and clique.there i said it.needed 2 b said. Now let all the denials take place.but the regulars know its true!it used 2 be a great laugh in there i always stuck up 4 it and tld newbies c go in.now? I see why the dnt . auds.x

It wasn't needing to be "dumbed down"

I told you after a few reading of it I got what you were saying. It was all the text speak, the abbreviated words, the use of a ? instead of a , or . the lack of spaces between words, etc, etc, etc.

Again, as i kept saying earlier it wasn't a slating of your post I am just more used to reading things that are written in a way that makes it easy to comprehend the first time around.

And nope I am not the spelling/grammar police but you did come back with the "ok il dumb it dwn" comment and thought I should explain!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As reguarly used to ue the chat room I have to say I'll I know who will and will not say hello. I've the feeling some are only there to massage their own ego's and use being on cam as a power trip.

P.S. anyone who wan't to block me for that feel free I'm 42 not 14.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

" I'm 42 not 14."

How does your profile say you are 40 then?

Sorry couldn't resist that one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have to say as a newbie to chat, i haven't found it cliquey at all.. there are regulars bobbing on and off all day and all you have to do is find a similar interest, sense of humour etc and off you go. There are people in there that just use it as a pulling tool... will just sit in there and say nothing and wait for the next person to come on and deal a crap onliner chat up to them, and there are people on there who chat, have a laugh and share problems with. Like I say I been in there less than a week, and am talking to others that haven't been there too long either. I knew no one in chat before I went in, yet managed to make friends quite quickly. Pipe down people... you don't go into a pub and expect the whole place to turn round and aknowledge you as you walk in, so don't expect it here. Sometimes there's that many people saying hello and goodbye to each other it's like an episode of the fecking waltons, and there's bugger all chat, just greetings!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wow ..... where to start with this ....

ive been here and on chat for aprox 3 yrs and is it clique ???? THE ANSWER IS WITHOUT A SHADOW OF A DOUBT YES IT IS!!!!!!

when newbies come into chat they are greeted with a "hi welcome to chat" by SOME chat-goers then thats it ... yes they could make an effort and try strike up a conversation but to be honest where the hell do they start cause in an instant they are forgot about and the regulars are back to doing what they were doing before they came in!!!

chat unfortunately is a hit or miss now unlike before ..... the main reasons for this are:-

1. jealousy (yes very sad but very true)

2. backstabbing (be very careful and choose your friends wisely) and

3. chat should be renamed "an audience with ..............."

T x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3. chat should be renamed "an audience with ...............""

meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think we have had this kinda post for at least a week... And am suprised the old pub analagy aint been used yet.

Anyway... To the OP, go to a pub you have never been in before, stand at the door ans say hello everyone.

What will happen?

Some will say Hi, some won't.

Will any of them walk over to you and strike a conversation with you? Probably not!

Rewind a little bit, go back in the pub, buy a drink... Chat to the bar staff, get involved with what other people are saying and join in.

Similar with chat. If your new then people aint gonna be falling over themselves to strike a conversation up unless you put in the effort first.

Sorry, may sound harsh but just the way it is. Go in chat several times, don't be put off if your ignored the first few times but once you see something you can comment on or feel you can ask a question on just go for it. Rome wasn't built in a day they say so stick with it.

Wish you all the best.

Steve xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

AGREES WITH TRACE ....

Ive been on here close on 4yrs ive seen good and bad,people come people go..but surprisingly the amount of nice folk which have left confuses me.

Myself and a few of the others do like too create a bit of banter as its part of having fun.

there was a lot more discretion in the early days and people didnt take it too serious.

But i do have too totally agree with Trace ..

Buboo

PS: someone close the post ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add, sometimes it helps if you change your writing 'style' to a colour or bold rather than the usual black, makes it easier to pick up......my eyes aren't what they used to be.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"And am suprised the old pub analagy aint been used yet. "

Steve - I used it in the other thread that is going on just now like this one too, so didn't want to be accused of just repeating myself and spamming the forums with the same waffle!

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

" And am suprised the old pub analagy aint been used yet.

Buffy used it in her post :p

It's almost impossible to speak to everyone in the chatroom unless there is little more than a handful in. It's not cliquiness, it's not being rude or anything else. It's just a busy place to chat so you tend to chat to the people that you know.

There are new people joining every hour of every day and i've seen many of them come in, not say a word and then flounce out once they have torn the room members to shreds for not being welcoming etc. There is no big annoucement that people have entered the room i'm afraid so until you make yourself heard then you may not be noticed skulking in the wings.

If you want to make friends and get involved in the natural flow of the room then you just need to start chatting. As has been said, not everyone will speak to you but it's the same in every walk of life.

We had one newbie in today who was trying to treat the place like a creche. Wanted talked thru everything and everyone in chat but it just doesn't work like that. If you are old enough to understand how to get into the chat room then you are more than capable of realising how it works.

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By *unny Bunny x OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Im NOT slating anyone for not saying hello to lil ole me....unlike most folk i am NOT an attention seeking fem who will throw her tit out of the pram if I dont get any attention...then when I do get attention get all snobby and block you because my head has than gone so far up my ass due to the fact that I am a 1:10 ratio

I merely say I have noticed there tends to be a difference in the dynamics of this chat than others I have haunted.

I understand that folk can get lost in convo's

That the chat is busier than most chats

And I am not a regular.

If this was a guys post we would all bring up the ratio card.

But hence I am fem and have noticed it too....and according to the post so have many other fems.

Yes there has to be a balance...I have also been on other sites that folk spend most of time HIing and BYEing everyone which is retching too.

But anyway mrs nae pals will over and out for now and hope to CHAT soon

;) x

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By *unny Bunny x OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Just to add, sometimes it helps if you change your writing 'style' to a colour or bold rather than the usual black, makes it easier to pick up......my eyes aren't what they used to be.

I am alll pink and bold lol x

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By *unny Bunny x OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"im not tarring everyone and its obvious that those who disagree eh.....dont get iggied.

Im not new to chat rooms and Ive been on here for about a year but it really puggles me the difference in this chat than other sites....espesh fems being ignored...thats a new one to me.

I mean its the same folk who don the other sites so just wondering why does it happen more here.....maybe the whisper is to blame.

I didn't agree with your post but I have my own opinion and I can disagree!

Again no offence meant but you say you get "iggied", so do I and so does everyone else at some point or another. That's the nature of a fast moving chatroom!

yeh I did but I wanted to "iggy pop" you lol.

no honey must have been side tracked cos I would have certainly replied to my only hello of the evening

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

I just use the cam for dancing away after a few drinks and don't take it seriously at all.

Haven't done it for a while though.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

yeh I did but I wanted to "iggy pop" you lol.

no honey must have been side tracked cos I would have certainly replied to my only hello of the evening

You can "iggy pop" me anytime ya want to!

Psstt - does anyone know if that is the same as sex?

Disclaimer - Tongue Firmly In Cheek with the above post! (Well the last bit anyway)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bb.i use txt spk cause im using my phone. That and the fact im shit at spelling! Lol

auds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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im with you here auds thats why i dont go in much nowadays. ifeel i end up talking to myself but hey each to their own who they talk to some talk to me during the day and if there friends are in that dont talk to me at night i just get ignored i say hi when i enter rm and try to say hi to all when they enter even made a point of saying a few weeks back when a lad said hi 5 times he was totally ignored but if ur face dont fit why bother anymore but il be fair and say sometimes you can get caught up chatting and miss a few folks entering it cant be helped but keep on trying it can be or used to be a real gd laugh xxxx

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"bb.i use txt spk cause im using my phone. That and the fact im shit at spelling! Lol

auds

Ah that explains it, get yourself a mobile with a keyboard on it like mine and it makes it a lot easier to type in the forums, etc with it!

* Shame I just can't type on my laptop though and had to delete the last post because of missing letters pmsl *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t, go in to chat that much, I cant, type very fast so am not going to be able to have much of a conversion, some say hi some don’t, have to say some cams can be good, I agree some chats on over sites are better, maybe its because there not so busy, prefer forums to chat anyway, but that’s just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can confirm auds spelling is shite and I've updated my profile...

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"I can confirm auds spelling is shite and I've updated my profile..."

So you have and you are now 43 and not 42 or even 40

pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This Clique that is being talked about, can someone tell us if we are in it, cos we hate to be left out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This Clique that is being talked about, can someone tell us if we are in it, cos we hate to be left out. "

was wondering that myself hun... is there some kind of initiation ceremony that i've not been invited to?

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By *un69forusCouple
over a year ago

Ayr

I have to say I agree with u as well. When u go into the chat rooms they all seem to know each other, and u almost feel as if you are interupting so sometimes I say nothing at all. Other times I try to say hello but noone answers. I just wonder if they think I am just perving - because I am - NOT. That said the chat does go very fast so I am not giving up - YET xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This Clique that is being talked about, can someone tell us if we are in it, cos we hate to be left out.

was wondering that myself hun... is there some kind of initiation ceremony that i've not been invited to?"

Yes.

You send me 20 quid and I get your foot in the door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This Clique that is being talked about, can someone tell us if we are in it, cos we hate to be left out. "

hey gandl's ur left out like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think there is way too much emphasis placed on 'hello/goodbye' in the chat room, however things are very different from when i joined the site a couple of years ago.

Now these greetings are somehow used as a measure of how lovely/popular/fuckable someone is..or who has the best friend or is the best friends..or likes person X more than person Y...then people become 3 and cry cos someone got 1 or 2 kisses more..or even a whole row! lmao..its hilarious and to me..madness lol

It use to be that as a newbie you were welcomed and people were sincerely interested in getting to know you and involve you in the site....that is no longer the case..generally.

Now in chat it is a hit or a miss for a newbie. Its twice as hard for a male, but thats just how it goes (not saying its right..just saying)

There are cliques on here and pretending they dont exist or asking who is in them or anything else..does not change they fact the are real and they do influence how chat goes.

It can be luck of the draw for some to be noticed and involved pretty quickly..thats life.

I have also noticed that the popularity changes for people. Todays rising stars will be the falling stars next week as a new face/faces emerge. Its the nature of the beast..be that right or wrong.

I wish it wasnt as it was at times and sincerely does bother me that some people do feel hurt or saddened..but..shit happens

What i would say is tho....really why worry?!

The real measure is this....if you left the site tomorrow..who would care? Who would call you, write you, email you, text you etc??

Those and ONLY those people really matter...the rest are all just pish and blethers in a chat room.....

vol

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