FabSwingers.com forum: Why! !

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Like most women on here I get lots of emails most of which I ignore. Can someone please explain why some on here think the following might work without so much as a hello

1. Can I blow my load in your mouth

2. Here is a photo of my cock

3. I'm going to abuse you

4. Copy/paste story about what they want to do to me.. none of which I'd actually enjoy

Why do some think that you are a piece of meat, with no standards, self respect and despetate to have anything?

I'd like to say it's a few spoiling for the many but actually it seems the other way round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a guys mentality they think oh that will get me a reply or its a sex site so i can say what I want.would never think off sending that sort of message at any point let alone as a first one.yes as you say it spoils it for us more respectful guys on here.

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By *andl kinkycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

Had a guy wanting to pay for phone sex wtf

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By *j188Couple
over a year ago

aberdeenshire

"Like most women on here I get lots of emails most of which I ignore. Can someone please explain why some on here think the following might work without so much as a hello

1. Can I blow my load in your mouth

2. Here is a photo of my cock

3. I'm going to abuse you

4. Copy/paste story about what they want to do to me.. none of which I'd actually enjoy

Why do some think that you are a piece of meat, with no standards, self respect and despetate to have anything?

I'd like to say it's a few spoiling for the many but actually it seems the other way round.

And then they wonder why their messages get deleted and no one replays ! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They must be thinking with their little brain in their penis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like most women on here I get lots of emails most of which I ignore. Can someone please explain why some on here think the following might work without so much as a hello

1. Can I blow my load in your mouth

2. Here is a photo of my cock

3. I'm going to abuse you

4. Copy/paste story about what they want to do to me.. none of which I'd actually enjoy

Why do some think that you are a piece of meat, with no standards, self respect and despetate to have anything?

I'd like to say it's a few spoiling for the many but actually it seems the other way round.

And then they wonder why their messages get deleted and no one replays ! Lol

And then they greet about timewasters

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By *inasparklesWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Like most women on here I get lots of emails most of which I ignore. Can someone please explain why some on here think the following might work without so much as a hello

1. Can I blow my load in your mouth

2. Here is a photo of my cock

3. I'm going to abuse you

4. Copy/paste story about what they want to do to me.. none of which I'd actually enjoy

Why do some think that you are a piece of meat, with no standards, self respect and despetate to have anything?

I'd like to say it's a few spoiling for the many but actually it seems the other way round.

And then they wonder why their messages get deleted and no one replays ! Lol

And then they greet about timewasters

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you forgot can i spunk or your face. Your tits would amazibg withvmy cock between them! the list is endless! Its pig ignorance and lack of respect. I just block guys who send messages like that its people id never associate with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like most women on here I get lots of emails most of which I ignore. Can someone please explain why some on here think the following might work without so much as a hello

1. Can I blow my load in your mouth

2. Here is a photo of my cock

3. I'm going to abuse you

4. Copy/paste story about what they want to do to me.. none of which I'd actually enjoy

Why do some think that you are a piece of meat, with no standards, self respect and despetate to have anything?

I'd like to say it's a few spoiling for the many but actually it seems the other way round.

So glad I've never sent a message like that, well not a first message. Different after we have been chatting and it gets to that stage!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

There will be a small minority in all groups who spoil it for others. It is often better to block all contact and do the searching for yourself.

It wlll require more effort on your part but will hopefully minimise the angst and any upset.

And the behaviours of some women encoourage that type of contact

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By *ee-YinWoman
over a year ago

nr bathgate

"Like most women on here I get lots of emails most of which I ignore. Can someone please explain why some on here think the following might work without so much as a hello

1. Can I blow my load in your mouth

2. Here is a photo of my cock

3. I'm going to abuse you

4. Copy/paste story about what they want to do to me.. none of which I'd actually enjoy

Why do some think that you are a piece of meat, with no standards, self respect and despetate to have anything?

I'd like to say it's a few spoiling for the many but actually it seems the other way round.

And then they wonder why their messages get deleted and no one replays ! Lol

And then they greet about timewasters

you forgot can i spunk or your face. Your tits would amazibg withvmy cock between them! the list is endless! Its pig ignorance and lack of respect. I just block guys who send messages like that its people id never associate with "

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By *ckleticklesWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I get quite annoyed by the guys who think that, because you have politely replied to their emails, that they have some sort of property hold over you. Behaving like a jealous lover over verifications others have left or length of time its taken to reply.

Im sure there are women who behave the same way, but it just makes you sorry you didnt just ignore from the outset. Sometimes it doesnt pay to be nice lol.

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By *ee-YinWoman
over a year ago

nr bathgate

"I get quite annoyed by the guys who think that, because you have politely replied to their emails, that they have some sort of property hold over you. Behaving like a jealous lover over verifications others have left or length of time its taken to reply.

Im sure there are women who behave the same way, but it just makes you sorry you didnt just ignore from the outset. Sometimes it doesnt pay to be nice lol."

Agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never sent a message like that on here ever, just not in my nature. You're more likely to get a message requesting that you give me a massage and make me some lunch than anything sexual haha.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"yes as you say it spoils it for us more respectful guys on here. "
I don't believe it does spoil it for respectful guys on here because believe it or not us women can spot a decent guy a mile off.

Everyone makes their own destiny on here but us women ain't stupid when it come to sorting out the good guys from the idiots

As for these type of messages they get deleted and forgotten about in seconds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yes as you say it spoils it for us more respectful guys on here. I don't believe it does spoil it for respectful guys on here because believe it or not us women can spot a decent guy a mile off.

Everyone makes their own destiny on here but us women ain't stupid when it come to sorting out the good guys from the idiots

As for these type of messages they get deleted and forgotten about in seconds

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

I had a message out of the blue saying how much this guy would love to suck a black cock after it had been inside me!! Errrr, ok. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im sure there are women who behave the same way, but it just makes you sorry you didnt just ignore from the outset. Sometimes it doesnt pay to be nice lol."

I'm now never nice for this very reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have never sent a message like that on here ever, just not in my nature. You're more likely to get a message requesting that you give me a massage and make me some lunch than anything sexual haha.

As long as there's something in return I see no issue

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I might turn the tables for fun and throw insults at them.. although they'd probably enjoy that too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My gut feeling with these sorts of messages is that the sender isn't actually interested in a genuine meet with a real live in the flesh woman.

The actual sending of a disgusting message & seeing it has been read provides the sexual fulfilment they are looking for.

Pathetic really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly for some people,s mentality with it been a sex site you are seen as just meat a Whore. That's a sad fact. Your not seen as a person who has feelings and morals. But it is a small minority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a message out of the blue saying how much this guy would love to suck a black cock after it had been inside me!! Errrr, ok. Lol"

I just got the very same message yesterday. Just deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly for some people,s mentality with it been a sex site you are seen as just meat a Whore. That's a sad fact. Your not seen as a person who has feelings and morals. But it is a small minority. "

Regrettably I suspect you're frighteningly close to the mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My gut feeling with these sorts of messages is that the sender isn't actually interested in a genuine meet with a real live in the flesh woman.

The actual sending of a disgusting message & seeing it has been read provides the sexual fulfilment they are looking for.

Pathetic really."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My gut feeling with these sorts of messages is that the sender isn't actually interested in a genuine meet with a real live in the flesh woman.

The actual sending of a disgusting message & seeing it has been read provides the sexual fulfilment they are looking for.

Pathetic really.

Absolutely!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a message out of the blue saying how much this guy would love to suck a black cock after it had been inside me!! Errrr, ok. Lol"

I get messages like that out of the blue aswell. Gives me a laugh for the 2 secs before i block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to love going home from the pub with a piece of meat. A chicken in the meat raffle on a Friday night made me walk taller.

As for stupid messages, I blame modern porn. Seems to be in need of anger management cases.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a message out of the blue saying how much this guy would love to suck a black cock after it had been inside me!! Errrr, ok. Lol

I get messages like that out of the blue aswell. Gives me a laugh for the 2 secs before i block them

Now we are feeling rejected as we have had the same message

Actually that could be because we have already blocked the idiot

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By *976scottMan
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

Not all us single guys are as bad! Honest

It's probably not as common but even us guys get the messages from other men!

I've even had a few from profiles claiming to be either females or couples but after being on here for a while you just know something's not right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a message out of the blue saying how much this guy would love to suck a black cock after it had been inside me!! Errrr, ok. Lol"

Oh I had that as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These messages get cut n pasted to everyone online at the time i reckon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol I get a lot worse messages,,,delete,delete,delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol a didn't think guys actually sent mails like that! But to be fair it's hard to know what to say to women on here coz av seen alot moaning at guys in status's about saying hi how's u? Am not much of a talker so this is a problem for me too,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start of with a joke.dont expect a meet.if you get meet don't expect sex.if you get ignored accept your not for them.....simple rules really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like most women on here I get lots of emails most of which I ignore. Can someone please explain why some on here think the following might work without so much as a hello

1. Can I blow my load in your mouth

2. Here is a photo of my cock

3. I'm going to abuse you

4. Copy/paste story about what they want to do to me.. none of which I'd actually enjoy

Why do some think that you are a piece of meat, with no standards, self respect and despetate to have anything?

I'd like to say it's a few spoiling for the many but actually it seems the other way round.

What .... They are my best opening lines

I think you might find its a simple numbers game (sorry about this) but they probably copy and paste the same message to 100 women 99 will ignore them or tell them to piss off but 1 will say yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because see us as 'gagging for it' because we are on a 'sex site'.... sorry, its a SWINGERS site and just because we are members does not mean we will accept any shag offered!

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I've never seen the point of sending anything like that. If I've read a profile that piques my interest, then I'll send a message, polite and not overly long. They can go unread for a day sometime a as people don't spend every waking hour on here. If it changes to 'been read' and I don't get a reply then I take that as a polite no.

I know I shouldn't but sometimes I check the 'sent messages' just after sending one to see if it's been read, and the 'instant delete' still gets me though. If it's gone before the time it takes to read it once I usually just block the recipient, just to remind myself not to make the effort with any future messages.

Guys get their fair share of filthy ones too. I get lots of short ones offering up an arse to be used, or an invitation to 'cum and go' or use the sender as a 'cum dump', all from bi guys. I used to say no thanks to them but now I'm afraid I just delete and block them ??

I agree with the comments about those filthy messages not being about actually getting a meet though. There are so many fantasists join up here who just get off on the idea of doing what they've written, and the fact the can even imagine some female has read what they wrote is enough to give them a wee happy ending all by themselves lol ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"because see us as 'gagging for it' because we are on a 'sex site'.... sorry, its a SWINGERS site and just because we are members does not mean we will accept any shag offered!

You have actually hit it in the nail.

Too many guys think because we are swingers they can treat this as a dial a shag site. Not everyone wants to bed the entire site and many are here only for the social side ie to meet similar minded people and not necessary for sex

Someone mentioned modern porn sites, where I would not normally follow that line I do see where they are coming from, women on these sites are working 12-15 hr shifts sucking and fucking cock all day and this turns majority of small minded people on

Never understood the mentality myself and having worked in the industry never liked the way the women were treated

It is simple though block them.

The same guys do copy and paste and don't always look at who they post it too

I am 100% straight and about 3 years ago I had 2 different Bi men flood my inbox with crude mail

Block move on and learn from the experience

As for the decent guys on here, don't worry the morons always get ed out

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am lost at the mention of lack of respect etc etc, on another thread we have people glorying in naming themselves C**NTS,

It is bewildering

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I am lost at the mention of lack of respect etc etc, on another thread we have people glorying in naming themselves C**NTS,

It is bewildering

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Like most women on here I get lots of emails most of which I ignore. Can someone please explain why some on here think the following might work without so much as a hello

1. Can I blow my load in your mouth

2. Here is a photo of my cock

3. I'm going to abuse you

4. Copy/paste story about what they want to do to me.. none of which I'd actually enjoy

Why do some think that you are a piece of meat, with no standards, self respect and despetate to have anything?

I'd like to say it's a few spoiling for the many but actually it seems the other way round.

definitly a nedy guy thing. Old saying, throw enough shit. Club over head, pull to cave etc etc. Not muchuch different to a night club full of students. We're breeding a no respect for women culture...sad truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Least they going straight to the point, it is not as if we are looking for wife or husband on site and looking for someone to parent with... it is Fab after all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Least they going straight to the point, it is not as if we are looking for wife or husband on site and looking for someone to parent with... it is Fab after all! "

I don't think you have quite got the point.

There is a million miles between being direct & being abusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try and be polite when I make initial contact but do mention that I would like to meet. This is why we're here after all. I don't go into specific details but do suggest if you would like to know more then please just ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because twats think talking like that right away is going to get you turned lol.

But really what is the best way to open a convo?

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