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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can you truly trust anyone from this site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prob a lot would say yes

Trust is a gut feeling

If you have to ask is say no

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am normally a good judge of character and when I'm being played but copped it big style recently and now doubting myself.

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By *ee-YinWoman
over a year ago

nr bathgate

Don't doubt yourself some people just know how to play people well xx it's happened to me in the past xx most likely happened to most on here xx

Chin up xx

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

Trust is a two way street got to give some to get some . Giving to much to quickly could bite you in the bum .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am normally a good judge of character and when I'm being played but copped it big style recently and now doubting myself."

Don't mate,

Happens to everyone at some time, learn from it, I have

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

With me you need to earn my trust and this person did. Then over weekend something changed and really messed me about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes I think you can

always remember though its hard to get but so easily lost

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By *ee-YinWoman
over a year ago

nr bathgate

Gotta earn my trust too and I was in same position as you xx makes it harder for me to trust others now but that's just the way of it

Learn from it move on and up xx you'll be fine xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nature of the beast i'm afraid.

As some have said happens to us all at some point.

It's how you deal with it that matters.

Brush yourself down and think of the person's bad point eg she had fat legs or horse breathe always helps lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

In my own opinion trust no one on here but yourself.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"In my own opinion trust no one on here but yourself."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my own opinion trust no one on here but yourself."

very good advice, regrettably

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

I've certainly become much more wary and cynical thanks to my friendship and trust being abused.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Totally against my nature but seems to be the only way on here. Lot of good people hopefully 1 bad experience wont sour my overall experience of the site. Thanks all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never forget this is mostly a fantasy site

Not real life

Act accordingly

Auds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust has to be earned but it takes alot for me to even consider trusting someone from here. Can never be too careful

Lx

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Never forget this is mostly a fantasy site

Not real life

Act accordingly

Auds "

And this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think you can but same as everything it takes time to know the person & it has to be earned. Although I am too much of a trusting person.

Hope your ok OP xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yea I'm much better thanks. Was just really frustrated with myself really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never trust anyone I definitely don't come on how can you trust someone who is full of deceit? To start with ??

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I look after my own affairs, want zero involvement in other people's and want no one in mine.

So... No, not for me and that is not aimed in anyway at people. Years on here, you learn.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Actually that should read years in swinging not years on here as it has nothing to do with the site.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

No trust nobody then you will never be disappointed ... keep your swinging affairs and your private affairs completely separate x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look after my own affairs, want zero involvement in other people's and want no one in mine.

So... No, not for me and that is not aimed in anyway at people. Years on here, you learn."

Total agreement here.

Have been in and around the swinging/adult sex scene to realise it is as stated further up a life of "fantasy"

People invent alternate egos within this scene and it can protrude into their vanilla life too

Trust your own instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the words of Stone Cold Steve Austin, "D.T.A. - Don't trust anyone"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Until you really spend time with someone how can your trust then. How many men say there single on here. When there married or have girlfriends. It hard gut feeling . You learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a word yes.but takes time to build that trust.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Sometimes you trust people initially as they have no reason to lie to you. But they also say trust is earnt not given.

So what do people think? Assume they are lying and then you are not disappointed but it's a glass half empty.

Or do you trust then feel the hurt when you realise that person hasn't been as honest as you. Glass half full.

of course there is the version where it all goes right.

So a general question to all. In a lifestyle like this do you be honest or selective with the truth....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that you keep your friends close but your enemies even closer trust just has gone out the window

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you trust people initially as they have no reason to lie to you. But they also say trust is earnt not given.

So what do people think? Assume they are lying and then you are not disappointed but it's a glass half empty.

Or do you trust then feel the hurt when you realise that person hasn't been as honest as you. Glass half full.

of course there is the version where it all goes right.

So a general question to all. In a lifestyle like this do you be honest or selective with the truth....?

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Honesty is the best policy.

The saying "I'd rather be hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie" is so true!

The hardest things is dealing with your own foolishness...thinking that something is real when it's actually not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you trust people initially as they have no reason to lie to you. But they also say trust is earnt not given.

So what do people think? Assume they are lying and then you are not disappointed but it's a glass half empty.

Or do you trust then feel the hurt when you realise that person hasn't been as honest as you. Glass half full.

of course there is the version where it all goes right.

So a general question to all. In a lifestyle like this do you be honest or selective with the truth....?

Honesty is the best policy.

The saying "I'd rather be hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie" is so true!

The hardest things is dealing with your own foolishness...thinking that something is real when it's actually not "

Totally agree with this statement

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

So take it people are honest and then wither accept it will go right or not?

I still end up feel a fool when it all goes wrong and been Honest in return.

Inevitably it goes wrong (which seems to happen ).

I often wonder how people jump from dating one person to another when I don't meet people that I would want to date.

If it's too good to be true (seeming a great thing) then is it normally wise to not even go there?

Just sometimes wonder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust on here is something to be given and gained. Its a bit like respect, if you respect someone and are given respect back then there is automatic trust in that person to not lie to you.

But this should be earned, to meany times i here people saying got to go before partner finds out i am here. No respect for partner, no respect for who your with at the time. Dont trust.

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