FabSwingers.com forum: What a Waste of Make Up ......

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have never understood the mentality of the timewaster ...

They are part and parcel of every contact site and out of necessity I have come to accept they are always going to be there ....

However, yesterday they managed to excel all expectations ....

I had arranged a gangbang meet on this site ... according to replies I was expecting over twenty guys, who seemed genuine in their initial message.

To try and out the timewasters I direct them to my partner who gives details .... (and to try and stop anyone engaging in cybersex) ...

These guys contacted my partner and all said they would be there. The instructions were clear ... phone on the morning before 11 so we know you are coming ....

Now I anticipated a call off percentage .... thinking we may get 5-6 guys.

One guy phoned before the time, two guys sent apologies via e-mail in advance and one guy phoned after 12 aparantly on route ....

The rest just vanished ....

What is your worst experience of timewasters?

SIGH! At least I got to keep my virginity ....

Kirsty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we noticed a girl was back on the site after her couple one had vanished, she had verifications etc and we almost met up when she was part of a couple.

Meet was arranged for a ffm, babysitter was booked, we waited in as she was to come up at 10pm....and cancelled at 11pm after saying she was running late..and then on her way...

waste of a rare babysitting oppertunity but whats worse is, we could have spent that night out together instead of couped up in the house

grrrrr lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet arranged with a Couple, I was staying over in Glasgow and travelled the 40mins to their House as arranged, no answer when I rang the Bell so I rang them but it went straight to voice Mail, I went back to the Hotel and then got a Message from them saying they had not been able to get out of Work and were sorry.

2 Days later they had a Veri from another Couple for a meet on the same Night.

Life goes on it's just part and Parcel of this lifestyle, it happens but there's nothing you can do especially when wanting to meet new People

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

happened last fri,,

we chatted to a cpl and they said they would come over that night really looking forward to meeting us blah blah..half hr before they are due nothing so we sent a mesage sayn everything still ok?they sent back a message sayn their daughter got hurt at danceclass so sorry they couldnt make it..erm,,ok

then we got a party invite for the same night,,,guy sent a list of who was going ,,,he presto,,,the cpls name was on it!! we sent them a message explaining we knew and hope they enjoy the party

they sent a message back sayn that was the only excuse they could think of to go to the party,,,

wee tip...honesty the best policy!!!

aarrgghhhhh

auds xx

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By *alakMan
over a year ago

Milan

I really think the lack of honesty is the worst thing that could happen on sites like this. Apparently, single males are particularly to be blamed, that's why I usually get 2 or 3 last minute texts/messages/phone calls to confirm an arranged meet. "Are we still up for tonight?" When did we cancel? Do what you say and say only what you can do, my family taught. I stick to that idea.

Long live genuine swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There should be a letdownsRthem page... name and shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

iv been very luck, no last minute cancellations or no shows really... and if i have made firm plans i dont cancel unless i am forced to.. babysitters can be toublesome lol

but reading some of these stories about tales told to get out of meets reminded me of folk iv known who call in sick to work with big fat lies. their grannies died.. No 3 this year, my son is sick.. see at school by other employee kids! its all very bad Karma... im not a spiritual person in any other way but seriously i believe you bringin bad stuff upon yourself using excuses like that!

Honesty is the best policy

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Had it done to me lots of times not a nice felling at all.

Lm going tho a tough time at the mo and do explain to anyone im meeting that my time is very limited yet they still think its ok to mess me around

HOPE ALL U TIMEWASTERS HANG UR HEADS IN SHAME .

But as ive said before ppl talk my friends from here do ask if ive met certain ppl and if they have wasted my time id tell all my friends who asked me about them that way they will run out of meet options pretty quick i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Kirsty. I think its worse for us TVs and probably more common for gay n bi meets as guys might not be experienced, think they want to, get all excited then feel guilty and so don't show. I've stopped more or less going to guys places as you can drive miles to be let down.

One of the worst was when I started out. I had gear in a bag in car going to meet guy in Kilmarnock. he claimed to live in nice flats and we spoke on phone etc. When I arrived he said to go to call box on corner and hed come down to front door n wave me over. I stood like a twat at box with bag and 2 police cars came from each direction with full alarms. Police jumped out n shouted put down the bag! They then quickly realised I was not a danger so challenged me about bag contents. I asked why and they said they had a call saying someone was waving a big knife waving it about. I squashed bag to say not me but they insisted on seeing inside. I stood as they rummaged commenting on everything. They asked whose is this and whats it for. I simply said 'tare you satisfied there is no knife and nothing illegal in my bag and if so may I go?' but they wanted name address etc. I told them that I had rights and they didnt need it but if they insisted ...next door neighbours name from 15 years before (I never liked him lol and hes retired!). I gave them their crank callers mobile number too and told them the block of flats he said he was in. Guy then called shouting 'got you ya freak' till I told him to expect the police!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

anna ,,that is shocking!!!!

im a firm beleiver in what goes around comes around,,and as iv said before word of mouth goes a lonnngggg way on fab xx

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is the best site as I've been to socials, been accepted, met wonderful people and been verified etc so safer and easier to meet here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi Anna,

Yes I think you are right ... guys get excited at the prospect, either chicken out or have a wank and get all guilty .... then chicken out ...

On top of which I am presenting a gangbang ... not just a meet so there is added pressure (not from me) for the guys to perform ....

I think you are right about travelling ... too risky!

I hope to be able to get along to a social sooner or later .... The Aberdeen club doesn't let single guys in and I suspect Trannys are classed as such .....

There is not much life up in Aberdeen at all really .... SIGH!

Kirsty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I really think the lack of honesty is the worst thing that could happen on sites like this. Apparently, single males are particularly to be blamed, that's why I usually get 2 or 3 last minute texts/messages/phone calls to confirm an arranged meet. "Are we still up for tonight?" When did we cancel? Do what you say and say only what you can do, my family taught. I stick to that idea.

Long live genuine swingers

I can sympathise with you .... and can fully understand the loops you must have to jump through due to the amount of guys who a) Fail to read profiles and b) Fail to show up at arranged meets.

Things can happen in peoples lives, children, work, and I suppose the wheel could fall off your car whilst taking your pregnant granmother to hospital for an emergency lung removal ....

Some guys want to send text after text asking who will be there, what are you wearing etc .... and they are obviously just getting off on the interaction.

It annoys us who give up a days work in anticipation, or could have something else planned for the day instead. So even a big unbelievable excuse would be better than silence and no show ....

It must be equally frustrating to any genuine guy who turns up when he says he will ....

Kirsty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well my Darling at least we met a very nice couple on Saturday night. Frank and Lucy were certainly not timewasters, and she loved getting shagged by a couple of trannies.

Makes me think we might not bother with single guys here. Yesterday was not the first time we have been let down, and amazed at the number of single male timewasters on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See thats not fair to brand all single males as timewasters and as you can see above there are couples and females that are doing exactly the same.

I have only had 4 meets since I joined the site a while back but I have shown up for every single one reliably, I dont dummy phone calls when I hand out my phone number or ignore emails.

You are tarring in this instant single males with the same brush and that is totally unfair for those on here that are genuine, yes things crop up unexpectedly but I am sure that there are the liars and diddies that mess people around. If you are having issues with people letting you down then you possibly need to be more selective or look at who you are corresponding with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"happened last fri,,

then we got a party invite for the same night,,,guy sent a list of who was going ,,,he presto,,,the cpls name was on it!! we sent them a message explaining we knew and hope they enjoy the party

they sent a message back sayn that was the only excuse they could think of to go to the party,,,

wee tip...honesty the best policy!!!

aarrgghhhhh

auds xx

You should have accepted the party invite and watch the said couples faces fall.........or is that wicked lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"See thats not fair to brand all single males as timewasters and as you can see above there are couples and females that are doing exactly the same.

I have only had 4 meets since I joined the site a while back but I have shown up for every single one reliably, I dont dummy phone calls when I hand out my phone number or ignore emails.

No ... I am tarring all the single guys who have let us down with the same brush ....

From such an experience we begin to doubt the validity of all the single guys ... and surely, you can understand why we may feel like this.

As I said above : QUOTE

"It must be equally frustrating to any genuine guy who turns up when he says he will .... "

Kirsty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well me being picky thats not what I read in the post that I replied to, but that is fair play if you have time wasters that you are aware of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been meeting guys for many many years from the web. Everywhere has time wasters, however in our experience this place is up there in a class of its own when it comes to time wasting single guys. Now if we were genetic girls looking for men then the situation may be different, but it seems every tranny I speak to on here tells the same story. Now not every guy is a time waster, but it is really not worth our effort wading through the wasters looking for the genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had any bad experiences on this site as have not met anyone yet but it used to happen to me all the time when i was using the contact mags,Scottish Contacts and Rendez vous mag and i had put an ad in with my mobile-i bought a sim card with the sole aim to use it for Contacts scene and all i got was guys texting pretending to be part of a couple or female just basically wanting details about what i want to do to them etc...just looking for a cheap thrill.

I used to just nip it in the bud and text saying please give me a time to call so that i can speak to both of you as been having lots of guys pretending they are female..then the texts would stop only for others to start and texts at all times of the night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met Frank n Lucy and they are lovely. Kirsty must be best looking tv ever and puts us to shame ah well I can dream. itd be lovely to see you at a social Kirsty but then again youd get all the men lol even the supposedly straight ones

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I met Frank n Lucy and they are lovely. Kirsty must be best looking tv ever and puts us to shame ah well I can dream. itd be lovely to see you at a social Kirsty but then again youd get all the men lol even the supposedly straight ones"

Ahem .... Anna (See thread title and opening post) .... Seems you are quite safe from me in that respect.

There is every chance we may see each other at some social.

We already know you did .... they told us .... We have ways of making people talk.

Kirsty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was just a compliment Kirsty you look fabulous and erhm you sem to do ok lol. All the best x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"happened last fri,,

then we got a party invite for the same night,,,guy sent a list of who was going ,,,he presto,,,the cpls name was on it!! we sent them a message explaining we knew and hope they enjoy the party

they sent a message back sayn that was the only excuse they could think of to go to the party,,,

wee tip...honesty the best policy!!!

aarrgghhhhh

auds xx

fs auds thats bad..but id went 2 the

party just 2 see the shock on they

face lol that be a gd 1 lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Kirsty must be best looking tv ever and puts us to shame"

Course she is, would Wendy 's gf be anything less?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"happened last fri,,

then we got a party invite for the same night,,,guy sent a list of who was going ,,,he presto,,,the cpls name was on it!! we sent them a message explaining we knew and hope they enjoy the party

they sent a message back sayn that was the only excuse they could think of to go to the party,,,

wee tip...honesty the best policy!!!

aarrgghhhhh

auds xx

fs auds thats bad..but id went 2 the

party just 2 see the shock on they

face lol that be a gd 1 lol xx

yeah but that wouldnt be fair on the rest of the party and there would have been an atmosphere as i said before what goes around comes around hey ho lol xx

auds xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've had 2 no shows, and both times i got no message or indication. chatting for a while, confirming the evening before it was on, then fuck all contact!

if someone changes their mind, fair do's, but let the person know so something can be done about it

latest one was sunday gone, and i'd turned down 2 other guys i'm dying to meet for that ignorant XXXX!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"i've had 2 no shows, and both times i got no message or indication. chatting for a while, confirming the evening before it was on, then fuck all contact!

if someone changes their mind, fair do's, but let the person know so something can be done about it

latest one was sunday gone, and i'd turned down 2 other guys i'm dying to meet for that ignorant XXXX!

Yeah this is the whole point too when u have other ppl asking to meet u and uve turned them down to meet a timewaster so many times have i had days off and this has happend to me leaving u really annoyed cause ur left with nothing to do on ur day off grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God Janda thats awful, hate when arrange a meet and they dont turn up the time effort spent getting ready just to be wasted - hate it lol xxxxxxx

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By *1cebren4uWoman
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i've had 2 no shows, and both times i got no message or indication. chatting for a while, confirming the evening before it was on, then fuck all contact!

if someone changes their mind, fair do's, but let the person know so something can be done about it

latest one was sunday gone, and i'd turned down 2 other guys i'm dying to meet for that ignorant XXXX!

How true that is.

What people don't realise is time off is very precious, especially to a single parent. (well...to everyone really)

The costs of paying a babysitter for the night, getting an hotel room (I don't play at home because of the kids) the petrol money and the lingerie, make-up etc.

It all leaves a sour taste in your mouth if the person/s you have arranged to meet don't show and you have no time to organise another meet.

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By *ifferentClassMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Ah, you need a thick skin in this game. Let downs, last minute call offs and no shows are part of it, unfortunately, and probably always will be. The story about the phonebox in Kilmarnock is shocking - I hope the wanker got a nasty shock when the police tackled him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i've had 2 no shows, and both times i got no message or indication. chatting for a while, confirming the evening before it was on, then fuck all contact!

if someone changes their mind, fair do's, but let the person know so something can be done about it

latest one was sunday gone, and i'd turned down 2 other guys i'm dying to meet for that ignorant XXXX!

it just does my nut as both times it was sundays and i have to think you're pretty special to get a sunday meet instead of an evening one with a lot less time available to play! lol

lesson learned - stick to my buddies on sundays!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh Anna ! That is deplorable, my heart goes out to you ! What a BASTARD ! He will get his, I also think that what goes around comes around. And I hope he gets it big, hard and full in the face.

Take care hunny xx

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By *utieguyMan
over a year ago

motherwell

Not really sure how those folk get their kicks with such stuff - been lucky to date and her's hoping the verified one's are all good guys/gals x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anna that's shockin, what a prick!

Just to add another angle to the discussion, i'm a young single guy who was let down by a CD recently, not from here I must add though. Showered, shaved, drove to the secluded spot and waited... and waited.

P.S Kirsty / Wendy, i'm free Friday : )

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Read this thread with interest. We havent been let down by No Shows... yet... but it WILL come, we have no doubt.

Luckily the nearest we came to it is a cancellation the day before, which is a disappointment but nothing major.

There are "serial" timewasters, their actual kick IS the no show, its not the sex or the expectation of it....watching genuine swingers standing like pricks at a designated meeting place is what gets their rocks off.

Name and shame should be the order of the day.

Ok enuf said, be safe and enjoy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely post in here but interesting reading! cant believe people honestly do what is being described!

we all have times when you cant go through with meets but honesty is ofcourse the best policy!

the worst i have experienced is when a couple from down south were up staying at a hotel, tons of rapport, pics, chat etc,

arranged to meet and i sat in a pub waiting for the phonecall for 2 hours! sent a couple of texts before they sent me a text saying

"we text you earlier but you didnt respond so we've gone for dinner, your loss"!!!

i must admit to being a little peeved! before switching phone off and on, taking out sim, replacing sim and generally trying to find out if their text had simply not came through!!

eventually i took great comfort in my next pint of guiness, smiled at the girl sitting across from me and though

c'est la vie!!

then went home and masterbated!!

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By *ifemaleMan
over a year ago

dunfermline

It's just luck if you have never been let down/stood up - happened to me a couple of times not long after I joined here.

One single woman had agreed to meet me - we chatted on msn on the morning of our meet - we had chatted a few times before arranging to meet.

when I logged off to get ready we both said see you later - I drove 70 miles to meet her at a small pub close to hers but she never showed and didn't answer her mobile and had blocked me from msn by the time I got back home.

one other one - I had arranged for a female to meet me and a bi fem for a 3some - I had arranged to pick her up before going back to my friends house - lo and behold she wasn't there so went to my friends whereby we came onto here to see if she had left a message - no message but saw she was online and in the Scottish chat room and she still made no apology even when someone in the room asked how I was and I said a bit peeved because we had been stood up and she still never had the decency to apologise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was accused of being a timewaster and a fake yesterday because I could not accomodate within one hour of chatting to the couple.I offered other days and time but this was no good for them.Off course the couple have blocked me with no right to reply.

I have always turned up for meetings and been punctual I must admit I felt very angry.

As someone who has been stood up by others I did take exception to being called a time waster.

Rant no over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met single women, couples and tv's on here and had a brilliant time (what a night that would be!) BUT I have also been let down by each of these groups as well, with them either being timewaters, no-shows or just generally idiots before or after an arranged meet! It happens to everyone at some point and I wish there was a way to stop it as everyone generally has busy lives/kids/dogs these days but I don't really know how you can.

Single guys get the most grief because as a FAB group, there are statistically far more of us, simple as that.

I had to genuinely cancel a meet with a couple I'd been talking to FOUR DAYS before we were due to meet due to my granmother passing away and I got called a timewaster and blocked!! They were coming to Edinburgh anyway!!!! Lol! Can't win but I'll keep on trying!!

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