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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We used to be very weary of single guys that say they can't accom

But ...

Seems ok for single chicks not to as for safety reasons and rightly so

But surly it's just as such for a guy ?

We have all seen the bunny boiler posts lol

We have met cpls / singles in their home and in our home and also we have met alone in their / our home

So which do you feel safer in?

Girls do you feel safer meeting in your own home or the guys?

Guys do you feel a bit intimidated going to a cpls home?

Would love to hear who feels safer where?

Bit of a minefield?

Auds x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I used to a lot, I would not do it again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ohh the memories of those chat room cams _iew

Lol x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Ohh the memories of those chat room cams _iew

Lol x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never have someone to my home unless it was a long term meeting partner who I trusted but I wouldn't expect anyone else to accommodate either for the same reason. Fun is fun but as OP said there is some right nutjobs out there, me personal I'd rather do a hotel meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have had a few back to my flat and one turned in to a major bunny boiler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have had a few back to my flat and one turned in to a major bunny boiler "

Told you to take me to a hotel instead lol!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We prefare hotel meets also

Neutral ground

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We prefare hotel meets also

Neutral ground

X"

We probably would too but it's the expense. It's easier to get someone to come to our house to babysit while we go out so it's auwffy handy if the other party can accommodate. Just logistics I guess. Happy to have peeps to our house. Dx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always have hotel meets. Never had anyone to our house because that's our family home

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Defo

But it's the whole

What if there's no chemistry and your stuck in their house lol

Been there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Defo

But it's the whole

What if there's no chemistry and your stuck in their house lol

Been there "

Why do they lock you in and hide the key?

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Defo

But it's the whole

What if there's no chemistry and your stuck in their house lol

Been there "

That's why I like social meets first

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You would be suprised how hard it is to come up with an excuse to leave

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of a mix for us did most and enjoy accomadating , hotel always feels cheap (my opinon).Never judge if others accom or not as each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You would be suprised how hard it is to come up with an excuse to leave

Lol"

Haha I bet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social meet first, then.usually people explain why they can't accommodate.

I couldn't accommodate for a while but can now and for that reason alone I think its been a better experience now.

Have had no problems that could not be overcome with polite chat.

Live and learn though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't accommodate because it's or family home, but also because mrs parents live in the same street. Only so long before questions are being asked.

We never expect anyone to accommodate us for meets, although it's obviously good if they do. Not overly keen on the whole hotel thing. Just feel a but more relaxed in someones home.

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By *rsKandMrJCouple
over a year ago

West Dunbartonshire ish

We can very rarley accommodate due to our 21 year old son living with us but have if occasion arose. Hotels are costly especially when there are so many timewasters around. Minefield really lol. Mrs K x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive just got my own place and had the lovely ladyfriend over but we've had hotel meets in the past and know each other well.

Ive visited ladies homes and tried to get as many messages in as possible and other pics. Depending on families/privacy etc I think that would dictate the location. Also transport issues?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single fem, I'd rather have a meet at my place but have issues finding appropriate times due to the flatmate. I find it quite intimidating going to a guys/couples house even though I always meet socially first.. And I'm always terrified my stockings would roll down on the bus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That would be a unique entrance!

I might even straighten the curtains and put away the washed dishes for that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to meet in my own home when I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it all depends on what you think the person is like from your chats. You pay your money and take your chance, the wheel goes round where will it land ...... Bunny boiler or not. I actually met a girl (it was that long ago) in her house and she turned into a klinger ..... I was so glad to get the hell out of her apartment, I had to use every excuse under the book, the old I need to go home and feed the cat worked ... Eventually

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By *nonandyMan
over a year ago

Near Glasgow

I cant accom because live with parents happy going to other peoples place but my first meet I was scared shitless it was a flat and seemed dead quiet going up the stairs felt like I was in some a post apocalypse movie scene like I am legend or something add to that because this is your private life no one really knows where you are so if the meet turns out to be a serial killer or something no one would know what happened to you

and my first time at cjs walking up that dirt track shivers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i first started on fab bout 5 years ago i was a single fem who lived alone and i always prefered going to a meet as if i wasnt feeling it it was easier to make excusrs and leave.

And ive always had a few close friends that have known about fab so always made sure someone knew where i was.

Beauty

XxxX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Defo

But it's the whole

What if there's no chemistry and your stuck in their house lol

Been there

That's why I like social meets first "

Spot On Andy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv mainly meet at mine. Theres a lot of young single men. Who can't afford there own place or flat share. However I do like to meet at the guys house. Stops the neighbours thinking I'm running a brothel. Never had a hotel meet. So some hot stud invite me or hot woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When I met a guy alone I liked hotel meets

That way they guys details were in the system

Stopped meeting guys alone as went through a wee faze of wtf am I doing if anything went wrong here??

So now I only meet with the hubby

Unless iv met the guy before that is

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By *976scottMan
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

I had a bad experience early on with meeting someone from Fab! Gave her my phone number and she was at mine a couple of times! She then found out that I was seeing someone else from here and turned into Meryl Streeps slightly crazier younger sister!!!

Learned two things!

1) I should have been honest with her from the start and not just assume since we met on a swingers sight she was cool with me seeing others!

2) Be careful about bringing people into your home, especially those with stalking tendencies!

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow


"I had a bad experience early on with meeting someone from Fab! Gave her my phone number and she was at mine a couple of times! She then found out that I was seeing someone else from here and turned into Meryl Streeps slightly crazier younger sister!!!

Learned two things!

1) I should have been honest with her from the start and not just assume since we met on a swingers sight she was cool with me seeing others!

2) Be careful about bringing people into your home, especially those with stalking tendencies!

"

I don't think you done anything wrong by not telling her you were meeting other people. It would be different if you were on a dating site but that's not the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only reason I can't accom is because I'm in a house of seven so there's far too many people about to have any decent privacy. I hope that fact wouldn't put people off meeting, but I complete agree with you, it should work both ways but of course the girl does need to be that little bit extra careful. Shouldn't need to be, but it's totally understandable.

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By *976scottMan
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've luckily never had anyone that's turned into a stalker, well not anyone I've actually met or invited into my home.

I prefer to meet at my own place, I rarely give my address to people, I just meet them close by and walk round. It's a really hard place to find so if they did go a bit crazy on me, I'd give them a medal if they found it again.

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By *976scottMan
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire


"I had a bad experience early on with meeting someone from Fab! Gave her my phone number and she was at mine a couple of times! She then found out that I was seeing someone else from here and turned into Meryl Streeps slightly crazier younger sister!!!

Learned two things!

1) I should have been honest with her from the start and not just assume since we met on a swingers sight she was cool with me seeing others!

2) Be careful about bringing people into your home, especially those with stalking tendencies!

I don't think you done anything wrong by not telling her you were meeting other people. It would be different if you were on a dating site but that's not the case. "

I thought so as well although I think she maybe mixed Fab up with Match.com!

I couldn't blame her really I am so loveable!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yip as I'm married with kids

Dont really wanting any Tom dick and Harry knowing my family life

Although Tom was the exception

Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yip as I'm married with kids

Dont really wanting any Tom dick and Harry knowing my family life

Although Tom was the exception

Lol x"

Suppose that's a risk, I was very wary about people knowing where we live but in fairness we've only had a few meets at our house and the people were lovely and def not stalkers or bunny boilers.

It's just unfortunate most out meets are last minute as we never know when we will be together or have the house to ourself.

Interesting to see what others do thought.

Dx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's just unfortunate most out meets are last minute as we never know when we will be together or have the house to ourself.

"

Yup I'm exactly like that but I see it as fortunate cause most of my last minute meets are at random times of night when half of them have had a few too many so wouldn't be able to remember where I stay....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's just unfortunate most out meets are last minute as we never know when we will be together or have the house to ourself.

Yup I'm exactly like that but I see it as fortunate cause most of my last minute meets are at random times of night when half of them have had a few too many so wouldn't be able to remember where I stay.... "

Love it, privacy through d*unkenness. Dx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I aways ask single guys how they feel when their about to chap that door to meet a cpl ?

One guy says he always does a quick sweep of the room to see if the right people are in the room and what's the Nearest thing to grab if there's not

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have had a few back to my flat and one turned in to a major bunny boiler

Told you to take me to a hotel instead lol! "
She was worse than you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hotels for me, certainly for a first meeting with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't accommodate.

That said first time meet is a leap of faith regardless.

My take is a neutral meet for coffee, if it goes ok then go and have some fun, be it, car, outdoor, hotel or whatever.

Also make it clear that if either party isn't up for it no means no, with no offence taken. Or one thing I heard is if either party folds their arms at a coffee meet it's not going anywhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If I met a guy for a coffee then said great fancy a fumble in the bushes or car he would get a quick gtf answer !

Things need to be planned

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By *nonandyMan
over a year ago

Near Glasgow

I done a search and forgot to who can accom like I usually do and the number of other people that came up read a few profiles some ad love to meet

so glad av started looking at getting my own place although a lot of kinks to workout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't have random's coming to my house it's where my children live and I keep things very separate.

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland


"You would be suprised how hard it is to come up with an excuse to leave

Lol"

Our excuse was that the fem from the other couple was stinking....

A, she hadn't had a shower after horse riding and B, was farting.

I ran into their bath room to scrub my fingers with bleach

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By *cotsteveMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Yip as I'm married with kids

Dont really wanting any Tom dick and Harry knowing my family life

Although Tom was the exception

Lol x"

Tom? Sure it wasn't Dick?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You would be suprised how hard it is to come up with an excuse to leave

Lol

Our excuse was that the fem from the other couple was stinking....

A, she hadn't had a shower after horse riding and B, was farting.

I ran into their bath room to scrub my fingers with bleach "

ohhh dear God, I would have thought that a shower before every meet was a prerequisite, or even better with the meet first, wet foreplay as for the farting only pussy farts are allowed any anal emissions I'd be out the door, especially if she was sitting on my face .... A middle parting is so 80's

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You would be suprised how hard it is to come up with an excuse to leave

Lol

Our excuse was that the fem from the other couple was stinking....

A, she hadn't had a shower after horse riding and B, was farting.

I ran into their bath room to scrub my fingers with bleach "
been there done that lol

Went to a cpls house and got lead straight to the bedroom to find jabba the Hut already in bed where I think she had been for 4 days solid

Excuse... I started my bad week en route ... Sorry but had to be done

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By *dub67Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I can't or won't. Accommodate cause both my daughters stay with me. Yes I am a single parent.

Though they go away at times hols etc . It always seems to be at different times lol

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