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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For the first time in my fab history I have bottled out of a meet,

The Guy wanted us both to be drinking,so I couldn't drive home,he wanted me to stay the night,

However I have never spent the night with a guy without Martin being there,

Am I in the wrong for bottling it,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta do what you feels right for you...

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

always go with your gut...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the first time in my fab history I have bottled out of a meet,

The Guy wanted us both to be drinking,so I couldn't drive home,he wanted me to stay the night,

However I have never spent the night with a guy without Martin being there,

Am I in the wrong for bottling it,"

Not in the least, you do what's right for you.

A bit presumptive on his part

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"For the first time in my fab history I have bottled out of a meet,

The Guy wanted us both to be drinking,so I couldn't drive home,he wanted me to stay the night,

However I have never spent the night with a guy without Martin being there,

Am I in the wrong for bottling it,"
No your not and if the guy doesn't respect your boundaries that's his problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I really did want to meet him,

Just kinda started to think that as I couldn't walk home if it went pear shaped I would have been stuck in another town and no one to come get me,

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By *uld AllianceMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Totally agree with _iew. I usually drive to all meets even for social meets

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By *iceguy 1966Man
over a year ago

in pa postcode

Not at all.

Remember your safety comes first and foremost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You did want you felt was the right thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"always go with your gut..."
couldnt agree more

Always trust your instincts x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with all - go with your gut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

better to me safe hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta go with. What. Feels right. Hunni

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do what you feel is right. I meet a guy and with in 15 mins just had a horrible feeling. Had to be honest and say I couldnt do it. Just my gut feeling. Only time it has happend. Better to be safe than sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not bad at all hun. I've never stayed overnight with a meet bar one who I have known for over a year. Do what you feel is right

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By *uck knows41Man
over a year ago

Arbroath

Its your choice and if your not comfortable dont do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. You never let anyone persuade you to leave your comfort zone.

People might want to push boundaries, but I never go beyond the limits of the most reluctant participant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers everyone, managed to get myself stressed out as I have never bottled it before,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheers everyone, managed to get myself stressed out as I have never bottled it before,"

You did not, repeat not bottle it!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the first time in my fab history I have bottled out of a meet,

The Guy wanted us both to be drinking,so I couldn't drive home,he wanted me to stay the night,

However I have never spent the night with a guy without Martin being there,

Am I in the wrong for bottling it,"

Absolutely not, and he should understand, though he shouldn't even have suggested that in the first place.

Also noone on here says you were wrong for doing that, so no point in worrying about it any further x

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By *ortland51Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

No way you did. All good users of this site would understand your need to decline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, of course you are not bad.

Neither should you _iew what happened as bottling it. It didn't feel right and you declined. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. Don't know if either of us would be comfortable staying over alone first time we'd met either. In fact, no offence, I'd be a bit way of someone who suggested it.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

How did you bottle it??

You chose not to go as he didn't respect your decision to not want to drink and stay over. I see no problem with that at all (except that he should have respected your decision obviously)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what you feel safe doing hunni. Would hate the thought of being stuck somewhere if I wasn't happy. Always need an escape route lol Mrs Devil

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If Martin had been at home might have been different,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not wrong at all. If you're not comfortable then he has to respect your right not to meet him. Not a case of bottling it xx

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