FabSwingers.com forum: Married with a FB?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just don't get the married but also have a FB

Does this work?

Yes I (Auds) meet alone and with the hubby

And yes I have met the same guys a few times if it's fun

But I don't see how a married woman or man can have a regular FB

Think I would be a tad wary of that situation getting a bit close?

Is this just me? Probably lol

Or are there married cpls out there happy with their partners having sex regularly with the 1 same person over n over?

Are there a single guy/ woman with a married FB?

Would love to hear both sides

Auds x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (m) just think it comes down to whatever you're comfortable with.

Neither of us have a regular FB.

Personally I would be slightly uncomfortable with it far the reason you mention. I'd be wary the arrangement would become cloudy and the lines blurred.

Nothing wrong with people who are happy with that arrangement though. What works for some won't always work for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good post guys

How do you suds feel about the guys you meet more than once? Do you have any feelings at all for them

And how does your hubby feel?

I don't think we would do it but we have met the same guys etc more than once as we know they are reliable xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be concerned about the risk of emotions becoming confused or partners not being on the same page.

but each to their own i suppose, if it works out then fair do's.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have 2 guys iv met more than once lol

But it's not a regular thing?

And both I have met withy hubby also

He's cool as he's met them also and loves me meeting alone

But think if I'd to say I'm meeting the same guy every week or fortnight alone he would have something to say?

But I wouldn't as I'd say that's a bit on the side lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I have 2 guys iv met more than once lol

But it's not a regular thing?

And both I have met withy hubby also

He's cool as he's met them also and loves me meeting alone

But think if I'd to say I'm meeting the same guy every week or fortnight alone he would have something to say?

But I wouldn't as I'd say that's a bit on the side lol

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This is the same for me too but more fwb than fbs.

We only meet once every two three months and it suits me even though I'd prefer it to be maybe more regular.

We're not exclusive and we do meet other people to as well as meeting for 3sms 4sms and moresomes.

I think it only gets complicated if you become exclusive to each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two single ppl who have a fwb thing going cud also get too close i dont think it matters wether married or not aslong as you respect each others situation it should work some married have limited free time so if you find someone who is looking for same as youself and enjoy each other then it works been fwb its all about mutal repect married or single

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's the difference between a

FB and FWB?

Is a FB exclusive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have 2 guys iv met more than once lol

But it's not a regular thing?

And both I have met withy hubby also

He's cool as he's met them also and loves me meeting alone

But think if I'd to say I'm meeting the same guy every week or fortnight alone he would have something to say?

But I wouldn't as I'd say that's a bit on the side lol

This is the same for me too but more fwb than fbs.

We only meet once every two three months and it suits me even though I'd prefer it to be maybe more regular.

We're not exclusive and we do meet other people to as well as meeting for 3sms 4sms and moresomes.

I think it only gets complicated if you become exclusive to each other."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Two single ppl who have a fwb thing going cud also get too close i dont think it matters wether married or not aslong as you respect each others situation it should work some married have limited free time so if you find someone who is looking for same as youself and enjoy each other then it works been fwb its all about mutal repect married or single

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"What's the difference between a

FB and FWB?

Is a FB exclusive?"
my definition is fb are two people who only meet for fun either 121 or with others,.

Fwb ate friends who meet both for fun either 121 or with others and socially too.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

I have fwb s these are folk who contact to see if I would like to go out for a drink or spend time together yhe fb thing I aint intrested in for me fb means trying to gain more fucks by doubling up with someone you see it on pros constantly looking for a fb to go to partys and such

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I always thought FB was someone you met regular just for sex

And a FWB was for single folk to hook up with but not wanting a relationship with lol

I'm getting old lol

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"I always thought FB was someone you met regular just for sex

And a FWB was for single folk to hook up with but not wanting a relationship with lol

I'm getting old lol

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lol have cpls who are fwbs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always thought FB was someone you met regular just for sex

And a FWB was for single folk to hook up with but not wanting a relationship with lol

I'm getting old lol

lol have cpls who are fwbs"
isnt that just plain old swinging

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just have meets and meets i will meet again why does every thing need to get so complicated these days

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe as your a single guy boy

You have no one to answer to and no feeling to consider bar your own?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe as your a single guy boy

You have no one to answer to and no feeling to consider bar your own?

"
fuck I agree with you there got to be a first right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wonders will never cease

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wonders will never cease

"
thinks its cause am perving your ass today or i am ill

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I guess this post shows people's interpretations are all different.

Don't suppose it matters if both parties are happy I don't tend to worry about what other people think

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's a discussion to see different folks take on it jacs

Not worrying about what folk think

As most know what's good for some might not be good for others

Was just curious to see cpls and singles take on things ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wonders will never cease

thinks its cause am perving your ass today or i am ill

"
your defo must be ill

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"It's a discussion to see different folks take on it jacs

Not worrying about what folk think

As most know what's good for some might not be good for others

Was just curious to see cpls and singles take on things ?

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yes I know Auds was just saying from my own perspective that I dont worry what others think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a case of whatever floats your boat. I. Don't think there's much difference between FB & FWB, I hate the term FB, I think it's disrespectful. FWB is a more accurate description - after all this is about having fun and enjoying ourselves.

I suppose ultimately the terms FB & FWB are just labels.......... You choose which ever you prefer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yip defo

But the post is actually about having 1 when your married or meeting a married person regular?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"It's a case of whatever floats your boat. I. Don't think there's much difference between FB & FWB, I hate the term FB, I think it's disrespectful. FWB is a more accurate description - after all this is about having fun and enjoying ourselves.

I suppose ultimately the terms FB & FWB are just labels.......... You choose which ever you prefer"
I prefer the term of regular playmates

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And obviously your hubby is cool with that jac

That's what I'm saying if you met the same guy say every fortnight would he be ok?

Or the other way round?

I honestly think if jas said he was meeting the same chick every fortnight I'd be like... Erm...

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"And obviously your hubby is cool with that jac

That's what I'm saying if you met the same guy say every fortnight would he be ok?

Or the other way round?

I honestly think if jas said he was meeting the same chick every fortnight I'd be like... Erm...

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I'd never meet that often nor would my hubby.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

There are situations where this can work really well for all concerned.

I think honesty and communication by all involved is the key and making sure everyone is secure and on the same page.

It may not be for most but I do know that it can work very successfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fall into both categories, I'm married and have a regular friend who is also married.

Circumstances mean our meets are every 2 or 3 months and are either just the two of us or mmff's.

Inbetween times we both do our own thing, but chat regularily on fab

Perhaps not everybody's cup of tea, but it works for us

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I fall into both categories, I'm married and have a regular friend who is also married.

Circumstances mean our meets are every 2 or 3 months and are either just the two of us or mmff's.

Inbetween times we both do our own thing, but chat regularily on fab

Perhaps not everybody's cup of tea, but it works for us"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But your on as a single guy

Think what I'm trying to say is

If your a cpl on here and you or your partner meet a single person regularly can it work ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't need a joint profile to have a regular playmate, she's also on here as single. I know where she is and she knows where I am. It's about staying within the rules of what works for you and this works for us.

Thing is although it's regular there's no ties, at any time either of us can wrap it up without any fallout

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And that's cool

But the headline was married with a FB

Was just curious to see how folk in a relationship felt if their other half had a regular playmate felt?

But thanks for posting it's great to see what others think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the best way is to try it and see

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's the thing

Don't think myself or my husband would be comfortable with that arrangement

I think a married person with the same regular meet is just askn for trouble ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's the thing

Don't think myself or my husband would be comfortable with that arrangement

I think a married person with the same regular meet is just askn for trouble ?

Trouble on who's part though ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On trust ?

I trust my husband 100%

And him me otherwise we wouldn't have lasted 8 odd yrs in this lifestyle

But I think just meeting the 1 person alone regularly would put doubt there? Why just him/her why not someone different?

Isn't swinging about sex with others not just someone?

Again just my take on it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't need a joint profile to have a regular playmate, she's also on here as single. I know where she is and she knows where I am. It's about staying within the rules of what works for you and this works for us.

Thing is although it's regular there's no ties, at any time either of us can wrap it up without any fallout"

That's the way it should be but I'm afraid that some people read into things more than the other I had that recently im not property of anyone! At the end of the day I'm not looking for love or any Attachments. anyone who truly knows me know that I only have one love & that's my kids

But if people are looking for something more at least be honest so a stop can be made on it rather than turning nasty or sly comments I'm speaking personally here about myself receiving them but I choose to ignore this for the reason that people will see for themselves what sort of person he is

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"That's the thing

Don't think myself or my husband would be comfortable with that arrangement

I think a married person with the same regular meet is just askn for trouble ?

If you feel you wouldn't be comfortable then trust your instincts.

The individual situation is exactly that... Individual so each set of circumstances is unique and it may work for some... May even vastly improve marriages (without anything being hidden) or may not work at all... Individual.

Once done though these things can be much harder to unravel so do communicate and trust your instincts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On trust ?

I trust my husband 100%

And him me otherwise we wouldn't have lasted 8 odd yrs in this lifestyle

But I think just meeting the 1 person alone regularly would put doubt there? Why just him/her why not someone different?

Isn't swinging about sex with others not just someone?

Again just my take on it x"

I've never been with my husband on here so can't comment on that I've always been single on here but I suppose it will work for some but perhaps maybe not for others I really can't comment

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"On trust ?

I trust my husband 100%

And him me otherwise we wouldn't have lasted 8 odd yrs in this lifestyle

But I think just meeting the 1 person alone regularly would put doubt there? Why just him/her why not someone different?

Isn't swinging about sex with others not just someone?

Again just my take on it x"
so you think it could be a problem to be meeting too regular?

So would you prefer if you were both meeting different people every other week than just one regular friend?

That to me says insecure in that you'd worry they would fall for each other but that could happen after just one meet as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it comes right down to it, it'll work for some and not others. Life would be very dull if we all liked the same things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As I said we have both met alone over the yrs and if anyone felt jealousy we would stop ... End of .

But why would a married person just want to meet the same 1 partner?

Obviously being single is totally different as you have no one to consider but yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because that's what floats their boat, we're all different, no other reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So wat about married ppl on here without there partner an have a fwb ? I dont think that differs frm 2 single pple as i said earlier wud suits some wont suit other i think it depends on individuals and wat they r looking fr from fab

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"As I said we have both met alone over the yrs and if anyone felt jealousy we would stop ... End of .

But why would a married person just want to meet the same 1 partner?

Obviously being single is totally different as you have no one to consider but yourself "
Everyone's marital situations are different Auds for me it suits me to just meet with one or two select friends,I'm not going to go into reasons why because that's no one's business but mine.

But it suits my needs for the time being.

If the right person came along I'd meet them but happy with the two playmates I have just now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm totally not saying what's right or wrong

Everyone is different and have reasons of being on here

So seeing everyone's take on a situation is .... Fab

Cheers guys lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it got to the stage in our relationship that we needed a fb regular I would seriously think something was wrong within .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Mrs) has a regular Guy that I meet, have done for the past 8 months,

As most of u know Martin is away alot, and have teenagers in the house it isn't easy for us,hence going to parties or the clubs,

A reg fb is just that, Martin is my rock the first one I phone when am pissed off or upset, he is the one that I cuddle into when he is home,

When am horny through the week the fb is the one I check to see if he is free,

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