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"I had a social meet today & the lovely gentleman said he's prefer repeat meets with me rather than one offs . This has made me think do other fabbers prefer repeats meets? or one offs ? I'd say the idea of being friends with benefits is quite appealing ![]() Depends on the person I suppose and if you get mutual enjoyment from the meets. There's people I've met who I would meet again and there's others I wouldn't. | |||
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"I had a social meet today & the lovely gentleman said he's prefer repeat meets with me rather than one offs . This has made me think do other fabbers prefer repeats meets? or one offs ? I'd say the idea of being friends with benefits is quite appealing ![]() Im fortunate to have two lovely playmates one in Fife and one in Glasgow and our times together just keep getting better and better . The only problem i have is i cant see them as often and id like to lol . one off meets are ok but i do prefer regular playmates ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Friends with benefits can be fantastic if it's what both parties want and don't go beyond. Where it can be complicated is if either party develop "feelings" that the other doesn't want or is uncomfortable with. Years ago when I was a little less experienced and a lot more naive I allowed myself to develop feelings for a friend with benefits. Didn't end well and broke what had been a pretty amazing sexual relationship ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Totally agree 100% ![]() | |||
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"I had a social meet today & the lovely gentleman said he's prefer repeat meets with me rather than one offs . This has made me think do other fabbers prefer repeats meets? or one offs ? I'd say the idea of being friends with benefits is quite appealing ![]() ![]() ![]() Yeah regular playmates sounds good ![]() | |||
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"Friends with benefits can be fantastic if it's what both parties want and don't go beyond. Where it can be complicated is if either party develop "feelings" that the other doesn't want or is uncomfortable with. Years ago when I was a little less experienced and a lot more naive I allowed myself to develop feelings for a friend with benefits. Didn't end well and broke what had been a pretty amazing sexual relationship ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() That was my first reply im not looking for a boyfriend lol ![]() | |||
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"I had a social meet today & the lovely gentleman said he's prefer repeat meets with me rather than one offs . This has made me think do other fabbers prefer repeats meets? or one offs ? I'd say the idea of being friends with benefits is quite appealing ![]() Love my time with my fb but meeting new people & having different experiences are always good fun x | |||
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"I guess my time on fab has taught me never to say never and go with the flow. It evolves and changes and what you desire to take from it can differ from year to year. I was always a repeat meet person ....when that was appropriate it was always my preference. Then I met Mr Nichts....and....things kinda blossomed. No labels...fb...fwb... I have a Bothy and he has a Jinty. We are unique...as it is in every case. Deep down we all know what we want and shouldn't be pressured by others desires ....but be flexible. Life is a long song....I'm in Jethro Tull mode tonight. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Friends with benefits can be fantastic if it's what both parties want and don't go beyond. Where it can be complicated is if either party develop "feelings" that the other doesn't want or is uncomfortable with. Years ago when I was a little less experienced and a lot more naive I allowed myself to develop feelings for a friend with benefits. Didn't end well and broke what had been a pretty amazing sexual relationship ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Nothing wrong with that, you've been upfront and honest with the guy and that's all you can ever ask of anyone. I hope things work out well for you both and if at some time down the line mutual feelings do develop between you and you're both happy and comfortable with that...go with the flow and all the best! ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"The advantage with repeat meets is that you get to know each other better and develop trust. That then leads to exploring more of your fantasies than you would with a one off random meet ![]() Absolutely. Sx | |||
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"I guess my time on fab has taught me never to say never and go with the flow. It evolves and changes and what you desire to take from it can differ from year to year. I was always a repeat meet person ....when that was appropriate it was always my preference. Then I met Mr Nichts....and....things kinda blossomed. No labels...fb...fwb... I have a Bothy and he has a Jinty. We are unique...as it is in every case. Deep down we all know what we want and shouldn't be pressured by others desires ....but be flexible. Life is a long song....I'm in Jethro Tull mode tonight. ![]() I'll third that ![]() | |||
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"I prefer repeat meets. Had one FWB over the last 4 years and we became great friends too. Sadly it's all had to end, so I'm on the prowl, errrrrr I mean search, for a new one ![]() Ahem Prowl was the right word ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I prefer repeat meets. Had one FWB over the last 4 years and we became great friends too. Sadly it's all had to end, so I'm on the prowl, errrrrr I mean search, for a new one ![]() I love repeat meets and if it turns into a fwb situation all the better. It becomes difficult when one person becomes more involved than the others but over all the advantages out weigh the disadvantages I'd say. | |||
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"Will never ever get this romanticising about swinging. A lot of people simply like the simplicity of not making any promises...daft unkeepable loyalty. Sure if theres an automatic mutual liking for each other...meet more..meet again. What happens if you cop a charmless plank with no conversation or personality but hits you with an ask for repeat meets ? Someones walkin away from that meet a bit either peeved or feeling bad i guess. T...just keepin it real folks lol. ![]() What do you mean romanticising the Of swinging ??? ![]() | |||
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"I prefer repeat meets and fwb but sometimes the need for a one off does arise. I like my kinks so usually repeat meets builds up the trust needed to explore ![]() For some activities long term trust is a must, agreed ![]() | |||
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"Just a meet would be good ![]() Says he surrounded by nympho nurses, yeah right lmao | |||
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"Will never ever get this romanticising about swinging. A lot of people simply like the simplicity of not making any promises...daft unkeepable loyalty. Sure if theres an automatic mutual liking for each other...meet more..meet again. What happens if you cop a charmless plank with no conversation or personality but hits you with an ask for repeat meets ? Someones walkin away from that meet a bit either peeved or feeling bad i guess. T...just keepin it real folks lol. ![]() ![]() I wondered that too also what does keep it real mean? | |||
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"Repeat meets overtime. your more relaxed and open with them." Totally agree I've been more adventurous than I would be with one of meets ![]() | |||
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"Repeat meets overtime. your more relaxed and open with them.Totally agree I've been more adventurous than I would be with one of meets ![]() Def more fun exploring with the same person.x | |||
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"Romanticising. Imagine being at a dinner party, being asked how you met...lol....oh i met her off a swingers site shoulda seen her pics her ass shot is hot as f***. You would'nt i know..lol, but thats the reality, its how you met and theres no romantic version is there really. ![]() swinging is not something anyone goes shouting about so I'm sure for those in that situation they would I'm sure want to be very discrete about how they met. | |||
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"I had a social meet today & the lovely gentleman said he's prefer repeat meets with me rather than one offs . This has made me think do other fabbers prefer repeats meets? or one offs ? I'd say the idea of being friends with benefits is quite appealing ![]() agrees wi this | |||
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"Yip And watch on the forum when it all turns nasty lol ![]() Thats the down side of airing things in public Auds. Declaring undying love one min,the next wanting to kill each other lol But it does work for many so good luck to them ![]() | |||
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"Yip And watch on the forum when it all turns nasty lol ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Romanticising. Imagine being at a dinner party, being asked how you met...lol....oh i met her off a swingers site shoulda seen her pics her ass shot is hot as f***. You would'nt i know..lol, but thats the reality, its how you met and theres no romantic version is there really. ![]() But I have said previously I'm not wanting a boyfriend regular meet with a friend I'm not go to go all out & find love I'm a very honest person that always makes it clear I don't want relationships why would I anyone that knows me truly on here know my kids are who I love. No romancing in it some do tend though to think it's actually something more than sexual meet on regular basis which is fine if both parties agree but if one reads more into than the other well its time to part ![]() | |||
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"Guys quite often fire the regular thing idea as part of the request to avoid using protection too. Fine if the deal its just you he plans to meet....on a swingers site how can anyone guarantee any kind of assurance of that kind ?" How on earth do you come to this conclusion? lol | |||
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"Pretty sure i just said the how and indeed the why. lol." so every guy that asks to be a fb or fwb only want to do it so they can fuck bb? | |||
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"Pretty sure i just said the how and indeed the why. lol.so every guy that asks to be a fb or fwb only want to do it so they can fuck bb?" Think if ye read it he says 'quite often' that dont equate to 'everyone' anyway thats his opinion...which hes allowed ![]() | |||
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"Guys quite often fire the regular thing idea as part of the request to avoid using protection too. Fine if the deal its just you he plans to meet....on a swingers site how can anyone guarantee any kind of assurance of that kind ?" What's this thread got to do with unprotected sex ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Pretty sure i just said the how and indeed the why. lol.so every guy that asks to be a fb or fwb only want to do it so they can fuck bb? Think if ye read it he says 'quite often' that dont equate to 'everyone' anyway thats his opinion...which hes allowed ![]() eh yes he is allowed thank you,it's an open forum and asking what someone's comments ment is also allowed... But how a single guy can come up with this conclusion that if two people decide to be fb or fwbs it means they want bb is beyond me ![]() | |||
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"Pretty sure i just said the how and indeed the why. lol.so every guy that asks to be a fb or fwb only want to do it so they can fuck bb? Think if ye read it he says 'quite often' that dont equate to 'everyone' anyway thats his opinion...which hes allowed ![]() ![]() yep but u also said every guy..... Whch was putting words in his mouth.... | |||
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"Pretty sure i just said the how and indeed the why. lol.so every guy that asks to be a fb or fwb only want to do it so they can fuck bb? Think if ye read it he says 'quite often' that dont equate to 'everyone' anyway thats his opinion...which hes allowed ![]() ![]() Ok since your nit picking my comments il rephrase and how he can say guys are only asking to be fb or fwbs so they can bb? | |||
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"Pretty sure i just said the how and indeed the why. lol.so every guy that asks to be a fb or fwb only want to do it so they can fuck bb?" no..not every guy,,just stuff i have heard ladies have had put to them during these arrangements..ohh sometimes if they are really gullable they get asked for profile passwords etc too,,,he feeds them some story about needing to check messages. Most dont buy into that thankfully. | |||
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"Pretty sure i just said the how and indeed the why. lol.so every guy that asks to be a fb or fwb only want to do it so they can fuck bb?no..not every guy,,just stuff i have heard ladies have had put to them during these arrangements..ohh sometimes if they are really gullable they get asked for profile passwords etc too,,,he feeds them some story about needing to check messages. Most dont buy into that thankfully." Thanks for clearing that up ![]() | |||
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"And of course its appealing...mainly to guys this "regular thing " idea. Book yerself in for a " regular thing" versus hours...days..weeks of typing messages hoping of a positive reply. Of course they are going to hope for that and fair play to any that ask. Im not that way inclined...as in not that confident mixed with a desire to not put anyone on the spot by asking in the first place." As long as it suits all parties involved then thats all that should matter ![]() | |||
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"Yes certainly..but i read the start of this thread to mean she was asked to "be a regular thing" during a first/inital social meet ? Your always bangin on about taking time to get to know people first etc nawty. I was just highlighting the fact some cant wait to lay that line on you. And i happen to think its presumptuous and in lots of cases as i have said already, someone may just be dissapointed." He was only speaking of his preverance not about me & him meeting regular that is what the gentleman is seeking yet again shows that people are on here searching for different things ![]() | |||
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"Yes certainly..but i read the start of this thread to mean she was asked to "be a regular thing" during a first/inital social meet ? Your always bangin on about taking time to get to know people first etc nawty. I was just highlighting the fact some cant wait to lay that line on you. And i happen to think its presumptuous and in lots of cases as i have said already, someone may just be dissapointed." Im always banging on who exaclty? I have my preferences and so do you id hardly call it banging on lol and the op said her meet said he prefered regular meets he didnt ask to be a regular ![]() | |||
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"hey if meeting multiple times with the same person works for you, go for it. if not, go for that too. there are people out there for all tastes. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Seriously....omg...i've met some crackin women on here where hells bells a regular thing would of been awsome absolutely frikkkn awsome. On the flipside . Due to their sexiness i realised they were very...spoilt for choice. Busy on the scene and asking them to agree to anything regular would of seemed restrictive to their fun schedule." I suppose you have kinda answered your own question having regular meets can work for both though, they meet someone they are happy with... for a female it saves wading through loads of messages and not getting anymore excited for someone else., for the guy it saves sending loads of messages.... WIN WIN. and on a lot of bareback threads, people say they go bareback only with their regular meets ( only mentioning this as it was mentioned earlier ) and cool if they are happy to | |||
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