FabSwingers.com forum: Time wasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have a few threesomes and found it fun but finally we decide to give foursomes a go and we find that the site has lots of people who talk the talk but when it comes down to meets they just waste time .

Shocking stuff !

"Next week this , next week that ."

No one making an effort just talk !

lol ....strange ....

Picture hunters and fantasises lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a few threesomes and found it fun but finally we decide to give foursomes a go and we find that the site has lots of people who talk the talk but when it comes down to meets they just waste time .

Shocking stuff !

"Next week this , next week that ."

No one making an effort just talk !

lol ....strange ....

Picture hunters and fantasises lol

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some view a coffee meet a waste of time !!! Off the top of my head we had one social and a wasted effort by all......

Try a meeting at there's 30-40 social then either thanx but mo thank....

Or meet get it on and have some hot fun !!!!! What we all signed on here for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I think I'm with you on this one! Me and my fb were looking for a couple tonight and cause I have a singles profile they weren't interested or no one got back to us!! It's a she really cause the genuine ones are very few and far between!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, I think I'm with you on this one! Me and my fb were looking for a couple tonight and cause I have a singles profile they weren't interested or no one got back to us!! It's a she really cause the genuine ones are very few and far between! "
is tricky for a variety of reasons. Genuine ones tend to be knowledgeable experienced fab users, which also makes them cautious and wary of fb couples.

Why so cautious? Might be your fb at pc only, busy contacting every couple he has craved contacting as a single but could'nt.

Or one quick look at your profile and assume your not a couple.

Other reasons exist im sure, but those first two are good examples.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

I've gotta admit, it's probably more difficult if you are a fb couple as I know some couples prefer not to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has always been a hazard on this site and I guess it's something we all have to put up with , and u do feel your pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree

Always gonna be time wasters on a site like this

Just have to try suss them out a wee bit better next time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Exactly, these guys should remember what the site is all about , meeting like minded people and having safe sex lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In over 3 years, can honestly say, we have never met a "time waster", always get to know folks and gut instinct works for us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Example , couple contact us and show strong interest in meeting for fun, we tell them we are interested but have other couples who are also interested and we would be sure to let them know soon.

After some consideration we decide to go ahead with their offer and arrange a suitable time. Two hours later we get message saying can they change the time because of work reason and we agree to change time.

We then get a further message saying can they again change the time so we tell them let's just shorten the meeting to one hour and get straight into sex etc.

They agree but next day three hours before the meeting they message , " see you have meets up , time wasters forget tonight."

They blocked so we could not reply .

What a pair of idiots ......

Wasted our time totally ....

What you think guys ????

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

"In over 3 years, can honestly say, we have never met a "time waster", always get to know folks and gut instinct works for us

Same with us and I don't think it's by chance either. I think if you are looking for a meet right away or that same night then you are greatly increasing your chances of failure.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

"Example , couple contact us and show strong interest in meeting for fun, we tell them we are interested but have other couples who are also interested and we would be sure to let them know soon.

We then get a further message saying can they again change the time so we tell them let's just shorten the meeting to one hour and get straight into sex etc.

They agree but next day three hours before the meeting they message , " see you have meets up , time wasters forget tonight."

They blocked so we could not reply .

What a pair of idiots ......

Wasted our time totally ....

What you think guys ????

How many verifications did they have?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Two or three that did not give much away to suds them out .

Maybe just talk social types lol.

Anyway, totally fed up with the couples that contact in the late morning hours every few days asking if we can both come to their place for fun now.

We explain it sounds great but can't just meet at such times and we are up for setting up a meet with them within a few days which after pics and conversation they agree .

Time for arranging meet and all you get is same old story , sorry need sitter or working or some other excuse .

Offer other times and they say , "we will get back to you."

Time wasters or what ?

Early hours , guess what? Yes they message with their usual can you both come now .

Strange people but think they may enjoy the alcohol a we bit too much lol.

Not one but three different couples upto this type nonsense .

Hope things get better xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know if you have ventured or if it is your thing but socials are a way to go as you get to see and chat to people in real time , maybe an option to consider

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

"Two or three that did not give much away to suds them out .

Maybe just talk social types lol.

Anyway, totally fed up with the couples that contact in the late morning hours every few days asking if we can both come to their place for fun now.

We explain it sounds great but can't just meet at such times and we are up for setting up a meet with them within a few days which after pics and conversation they agree .

Time for arranging meet and all you get is same old story , sorry need sitter or working or some other excuse .

Offer other times and they say , "we will get back to you."

Time wasters or what ?

Early hours , guess what? Yes they message with their usual can you both come now .

Strange people but think they may enjoy the alcohol a we bit too much lol.

Not one but three different couples upto this type nonsense .

Hope things get better xxx"

We'd never meet anyone who wanted to meet right away. It shows that they aren't taking any time to esnure compatibility etc. I always wonder as well why it all has to be so sudden, as though there's something possibly going on ...

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By *ikerbob1957Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

As a single guy on here i've had more than my fair share of timewasters. Not sure if they get another offer but you are left wondering if they are going to show up and then find you are blocked so can't contact them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We too have real problems getting couples even for coffee meets, but given that there are 4 folk involved sometimes its not down to time wasting but just 4 diaries that vacant get synched up. We always go through with meets unless we have no way of avoiding a cancellation, so feel free to send your couple invites over

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What in the early hours of the morning ?

Me don't think so lol.

We would never just drop everything and go to meet just because some people are up all hours in the morning.

If we consider meeting and arrange such a meeting, that's because we have looked over the options and verifications ( checked them out) and swapped pics etc.

Then we decided to go for it.

Go for it does not mean sit drinking and socialising all night then coming home saying we had a good night.

This means agree time date and meet up have a wee chat and drinks if need be but most importantly , get down to what we are all there to do , "sex."

We would not waste our time otherwise and yes if on meeting it was found to be that we were all not compatable, that's fine but let's face it, this on many occasions would in all probability have zero chance of happening ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes that's understandable but if your chatting and arranging mostly weeks before and excuses are still flowing, what's the point.

Do we just drop everything when and where they decide?

We think most are just taking their time day to day by socialising through their computers lol.

Thinking sex but not doing,

Bottom line , yes there's fun to be had but it's finding good people who are like minded and up for what the site is all about , "sex." XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glasgow!!!!

Edinburgh!!!!

Fife!!!!!

Yup seen the pattern and ye think we've fallen for the couples, in or around the 3 city's although fife isn't a city lol

Won't mention there names..... Meet now horny as fukc at ours ??? Bla bla

Arranged meets and then no replys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Exactly , this is exactly the people we are talking about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shocking stuff !

"Next week this , next week that ."

No one making an effort just talk !

lol ....strange ....

Picture hunters and fantasises lol

Here here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In over 3 years, can honestly say, we have never met a "time waster", always get to know folks and gut instinct works for us

Same with us and I don't think it's by chance either. I think if you are looking for a meet right away or that same night then you are greatly increasing your chances of failure."

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes been let down by timewaster and its happened again had a hotel booked for tomorrow and they have cancelled off its just crazy starting to loss the faith on this site lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes , they contact you and play their silly games and you go to the trouble to agree after consideration and then go sort meeting time and place and then they find excuses at last minute or block you.

Strange or what ????

Lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Come on couples , get a grip and consider the feelings of fellow members.

Don't waste people's time xxx

Agree or don't agree to fun x

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'm a single female, but been on here nearly 2 years now, always a social meet first, and never had a time waster yet.

If you are consistently finding them, you are the only constant... So check your selection criteria.

I always have a social somewhere first for safety sake. Not saying I've never gone on to play that same night, but never to be expected. I'd far rather find couples or other singles (either sex) who I feel relaxed and safe with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Example , couple contact us and show strong interest in meeting for fun, we tell them we are interested but have other couples who are also interested and we would be sure to let them know soon.

We then get a further message saying can they again change the time so we tell them let's just shorten the meeting to one hour and get straight into sex etc.

They agree but next day three hours before the meeting they message , " see you have meets up , time wasters forget tonight."

They blocked so we could not reply .

What a pair of idiots ......

Wasted our time totally ....

What you think guys ????

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sorry but if a cpl has put up a play date and we contacted them and said we were interested to be told yeah good but hold on until we see if we can get anything better I'd have blocked you too?

I know you never said those exact words but yeah thanks but we have other cpls interested too is just the same thing ??

Has the cpl just to hang about on the off chance you pick them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Example , couple contact us and show strong interest in meeting for fun, we tell them we are interested but have other couples who are also interested and we would be sure to let them know soon.

We then get a further message saying can they again change the time so we tell them let's just shorten the meeting to one hour and get straight into sex etc.

They agree but next day three hours before the meeting they message , " see you have meets up , time wasters forget tonight."

They blocked so we could not reply .

What a pair of idiots ......

Wasted our time totally ....

What you think guys ????

sorry but if a cpl has put up a play date and we contacted them and said we were interested to be told yeah good but hold on until we see if we can get anything better I'd have blocked you too?

I know you never said those exact words but yeah thanks but we have other cpls interested too is just the same thing ??

Has the cpl just to hang about on the off chance you pick them?

If a couple we asked for meet didn't say yes strait away and give us there mob number and postcode

we would bloke total time wasters

lol everyone does it you are getting at the wrong guys ... Honest from the start and if blocking for this hmmm!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I see your point but after you consider your options and then agree to except the meeting, don't you think all concerned should stick to the agreed meeting?

Otherwise what's the point and yes if you have any questions or concerns, don't block people without expressing your concerns as they may be able to have their say on the matter putting your minds at rest etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Agreed, best being upfront from the start .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Folk block for all different reasons on here

Maybe they thought hang on we isn't waiting just incase they decide to pick us?

Maybe they got a better offer?

Dosnt sound as if any plans were concrete

Live and learn on fab lol

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By *candiumWoman
over a year ago

oban

I'm a single female here and i would say i have more timewasters than genuine meets.

I would love to do socials 1st or only chat with people with veris but i live in a small town so neither of those are possible for me.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"I'm a single female here and i would say i have more timewasters than genuine meets.

I would love to do socials 1st or only chat with people with veris but i live in a small town so neither of those are possible for me."

I live in a small village, about an hour from the city. Yes, it takes time and more planning but I'd rather that than waste time - theirs or mine. Must be doing ok as I've never had a timewaster yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Example , couple contact us and show strong interest in meeting for fun, we tell them we are interested but have other couples who are also interested and we would be sure to let them know soon.

We then get a further message saying can they again change the time so we tell them let's just shorten the meeting to one hour and get straight into sex etc.

They agree but next day three hours before the meeting they message , " see you have meets up , time wasters forget tonight."

They blocked so we could not reply .

What a pair of idiots ......

Wasted our time totally ....

What you think guys ????

sorry but if a cpl has put up a play date and we contacted them and said we were interested to be told yeah good but hold on until we see if we can get anything better I'd have blocked you too?

I know you never said those exact words but yeah thanks but we have other cpls interested too is just the same thing ??

Has the cpl just to hang about on the off chance you pick them?

was thinking that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would. Women. Who write. Profiles. Stating. They. Can't get meets and moaning. About. The general. Lack of action. Who when you message. Them they delete. With out reply??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Trust me all plans were totally cast in concrete lol.

Meeting agreed and we said we would travel so maybe we forgot to remove the meet add thing but so what , this does not mean you go into a huff and block people .

Let me ask you a question, don't you look at all who is offering a meeting with you both and consider your option and then decide which would be best for you both?

That's exactly what was done so me thinks you've got all this wrong.

Offers were considered and an offer was excepted so all other offers would have been , "thank you but maybe another time ."

Thank you for you comments anyway ,

Regards, Linda & James xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Exactly our thoughts x

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Seems time wasters here are folks who arrange a meet then cancel with a reason. Time wasters to me are people who arrange a meet then don't turn up with no mail, no phone call, no reason, that's a true timewaster. Again I suggest looking at your selection process and the wat you arrange meets, never had a timewaster in the years i have been on the site, but i am a single fem not a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In over 3 years, can honestly say, we have never met a "time waster", always get to know folks and gut instinct works for us

I thought that nobody met timewasters, or rather, timewasters didn't meet anybody, and that was the problem?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well after having some thinking time we have come to the conclusion , all this is just part of life as people are unpredictable and each has their own thoughts and ways so all an experience and learning process lol.

Things can only get better, happy swinging xxxx

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