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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Send messages to women introducing myself, asking how they are, weekend plans etc. Not the usual 'let's fuck' messages woman seem to get all the time apparently. I attach a face and body pic to every opening message I send also. A good start when trying to have some decent chat I'd say!!

What do I get in return....A 'fuck off'!!

What has happened to this place. Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Send messages to women introducing myself, asking how they are, weekend plans etc. Not the usual 'let's fuck' messages woman seem to get all the time apparently. I attach a face and body pic to every opening message I send also. A good start when trying to have some decent chat I'd say!!

What do I get in return....A 'fuck off'!!

What has happened to this place. Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong?"
Stick with it no everyone on here as this rude x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience. Clearly the site is 1 woman to a trillion men. Surprising as it may seem as well, not all of them would wish to meet or sleep with us. Wrong mindset thinking, I'll join this site, it's full of women literally dropping their knickers (if their wearing any ;P). They will be gagging for it, I shall raise my number of conquests from X to XXXX.

Then when that doesn't happen people get all boo hoo me. Don't live your life as if you can't go without fucking someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send messages to women introducing myself, asking how they are, weekend plans etc. Not the usual 'let's fuck' messages woman seem to get all the time apparently. I attach a face and body pic to every opening message I send also. A good start when trying to have some decent chat I'd say!!

What do I get in return....A 'fuck off'!!

What has happened to this place. Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong?"

Just be yourself. Try social events to get to know people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the women onn here get bombarrded with messages, maybe too many men to women ratio, probably wrong on that but hey you just gotta keep trying. You aint the only one mate

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


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What has happened to this place. Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong?"

You are not doing anything wrong.

And it's not the site, it's some of the members.

I got a rant message today 'cos i didn't answer quick enough...

I do 2 things: roll my eyes and move on

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some women on here think they are above themselves and they can just click their fingers and all the men that wouldn't look twice at them in the real world will come running cause they are on a sex site and there's more woman than men on here

Just my opinion

Auds x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because some women on here think they are above themselves and they can just click their fingers and all the men that wouldn't look twice at them in the real world will come running cause they are on a sex site and there's more woman than men on here

Just my opinion

Auds x "
my thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because some women on here think they are above themselves and they can just click their fingers and all the men that wouldn't look twice at them in the real world will come running cause they are on a sex site and there's more woman than men on here

Just my opinion

Auds x "

agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can only assume you have been unlucky mate certainly some of the above comments may be true and yes had many mails ignored but the sheer volume of mail for the ladies on here us,staggering so as said persevere get along to a social event and just be yourself there are some absolute gems on here as am sure you will discover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I don't agree about the socials

More n more socials are becoming very clique and must be very intimidating for a single guy to go along to himself

Iv had a single profile and yes fems do get a shed load of mail but me myself and I still replied to the majority only not replying to the fancy a shag brigade

Manners cost nothing

Even on a sex site

Wonder how many chicks write messages on here to blokes and get nothing back?

So come on ladies of fab... Show some manners to these men who have taken the time to write a half decent message

And even a thanks but no thanks will do

X

Auds x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes fair comments regards socials was only speaking from my view point I love a good party lol

Yeah very true manners cost nothing a simple no thanks does the job van testify to your manners I.must add and very much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've had a few meets on here in the past. I appreciate it's a sex site etc, but I also have respect for the women/couples I meet. I like to get to know someone before I hop into bed with them, if after a while of chatting we don't end up having fun...hey oh I've made a new friend out of it.

I also have respect for myself, and someone telling me to fuck off when all I did was send them a polite message, doesnt sit easy with me.

Apologies for the rant folk, just had to get it off my chest.

Thank you all for the feedback too

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By *3rial Thr1LL3rMan
over a year ago

aberdeenshire

Stick with it fella, it can be a lonely place on here for the single guy. It is disheartening when you take the time to write a polite and relevant message but if they are the kind of person to reply with "fuck off" then I'm thinking that you're not missing much anyway. Just keep being polite and being yourself and you'll do ok

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I do always try to show some manners and reply to folk, but if often ends up in a whiney text-tennis session with them trying to change my mind.

I don't see why I should have to reply to the folk who cannot even take the time to read my profile before messaging.

As a single bi fem who will meet couples and singles, I get on average about 30 messages on a weekday, and last weekend was 100 each day - out of those, about 4 have actually read my profile and are what I am looking for.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Sorry clicked post too soon...

So be sure you are messaging people who you think you are actually a match for, and not just sending out random messages in the hope of hitting gold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry I don't agree about the socials

More n more socials are becoming very clique and must be very intimidating for a single guy to go along to himself

Iv had a single profile and yes fems do get a shed load of mail but me myself and I still replied to the majority only not replying to the fancy a shag brigade

Manners cost nothing

Even on a sex site

Wonder how many chicks write messages on here to blokes and get nothing back?

So come on ladies of fab... Show some manners to these men who have taken the time to write a half decent message

And even a thanks but no thanks will do

X

Auds x"

If they are cocky & a gobshite on a message then I'm sure they wouldn't be intimidated to attend a social!

I do try reply to all messages but have absolutely no time for someone who has never met me before to start an opening message with 'fancy a fuck you dirty slut'.... Sex site or not.

Manners don't cost anything but I'm sure if they have none then why should I to give that a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bhoy spelt as such, gives out wrong signals. Suggests woman are not your thing or your on the boats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry I don't agree about the socials

More n more socials are becoming very clique and must be very intimidating for a single guy to go along to himself

Iv had a single profile and yes fems do get a shed load of mail but me myself and I still replied to the majority only not replying to the fancy a shag brigade

Manners cost nothing

Even on a sex site

Wonder how many chicks write messages on here to blokes and get nothing back?

So come on ladies of fab... Show some manners to these men who have taken the time to write a half decent message

And even a thanks but no thanks will do

X

Auds x"

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Bhoy spelt as such, gives out wrong signals. Suggests woman are not your thing or your on the boats."

Boats? Thats buoy isn't it?

To me it suggests a certain striped/hoops football team spelled like that... but I may be havering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ikchattyfellahMan
over a year ago

Greenock

I'd say the boat thing was buoy too.....

Bhoy does suggest allegiance to the team you are hinting at. So you're not havering. I'd go as far as to say I wouldn't have any football references in my name, does give a lot of people a particular impression of you. Especially when a lot of the neddish element have their allegiance in their names on other chats/forums as well as here!

I know it sounds a bit snobbish but first impressions do count, especially on a site such as this and the name is probably the first thing to be seen..

PS......

Maybe the girl who told you to eff off has a different 'allegiance'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry I don't agree about the socials

More n more socials are becoming very clique and must be very intimidating for a single guy to go along to himself

Iv had a single profile and yes fems do get a shed load of mail but me myself and I still replied to the majority only not replying to the fancy a shag brigade

Manners cost nothing

Even on a sex site

Wonder how many chicks write messages on here to blokes and get nothing back?

So come on ladies of fab... Show some manners to these men who have taken the time to write a half decent message

And even a thanks but no thanks will do

X

Auds x

If they are cocky & a gobshite on a message then I'm sure they wouldn't be intimidated to attend a social!

I do try reply to all messages but have absolutely no time for someone who has never met me before to start an opening message with 'fancy a fuck you dirty slut'.... Sex site or not.

Manners don't cost anything but I'm sure if they have none then why should I to give that a reply. "

got to agree with you there LMN I have never felt intimadated at any social if anything I have gained more confidence & friends which I think thats the whole point of these events so any newbies I will recommend you attend these

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True lol

Reminds me of a message I got from a guy and he sent a pic in his full UVF flute band uniform

I politely sent a reply asking did he get many meets from that pic

Was a genuine question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bhoy or bouy, both suggest suggest deviant alert, as you know what guys are like when they come off the boats after 6 weeks they will ride anything.

Riding the cabin buoy or bhoy whatever, will soon get boring, when your bottom of rota.

Im going to change my name to Jamesy1690watp. Least the girls will know a real man is afoot.

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By *ikchattyfellahMan
over a year ago

Greenock


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Im going to change my name to Jamesy1690watp. Least the girls will know a real man is afoot."

Oh my, the ladies will think you've been blessed (oops! Lol).... Unless you mean in height??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Jamesy you're barking up the wrong tree there pal. If women weren't for me I would say that on my profile. I appreciate the feedback troops, my username may be a bit off putting, I have no interest in Scottish football these days, it was a quick off the top of your head one when I started this profile !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

better than putting another king dong on site lol keep yer name you chose it . maybe add bit more on profile an some pics dont have to be face or cock just tasty shots .

most of all *fuck off *... mail em back saying why thank you ... NEXT ... move on . not all as rude as some lol good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry I don't agree about the socials

More n more socials are becoming very clique and must be very intimidating for a single guy to go along to himself

Iv had a single profile and yes fems do get a shed load of mail but me myself and I still replied to the majority only not replying to the fancy a shag brigade

Manners cost nothing

Even on a sex site

Wonder how many chicks write messages on here to blokes and get nothing back?

So come on ladies of fab... Show some manners to these men who have taken the time to write a half decent message

And even a thanks but no thanks will do

X

Auds x"

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"  Surprising as it may seem as well, not all of them would wish to meet or sleep with us. "

Speak for yourself

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