FabSwingers.com forum: getting my wife involved!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

South of Edinburgh, posting on fab as single guy but wanting to get wife involved with couple. Have joint profile on another site and occasionally soft swing, but want to try finding a couple who she finds attractive and may want to go full swap. Anyone want to try a 'set up' in a restaurant or bar somewhere where we all maybe 'happen' to sit next to eachother, get chatting and sex eventually gets raised? No guarantees of success but fancy a dare? Wouldn't be able to set it up for at least a couple of weeks though.

Johnny

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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ooooooooooo dodgy ground. I would be really pissed off if my hubby set me up with anything without my knowledge ( I know for sure that he wouldn't)

My advice would be , have some respect for your wife and talk to her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I also posted the thread on the 'Swingers Chat' maybe best you follow it there, as ther's been a couple of useful exchanges...

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Anyone want to try a 'set up' in a restaurant or bar somewhere where we all maybe 'happen' to sit next to eachother, get chatting and sex eventually gets raised? "

How is she going to feel when it eventually comes out (and it will) that you and the other couple set her up?

Not a good idea in our opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging when in a relationship HAS to be a joint venture , and has always got to be a free choice on both parties, any presure on one party from the other will only serve to drive a wedge between them.

If either party has any doughts or fears get the hell out this game now , the tinniest crack will eventualy put the grand cannion to shame !!!!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I also posted the thread on the 'Swingers Chat' maybe best you follow it there, as ther's been a couple of useful exchanges...

J x"

I follow every thread....maybe you should follow your own, as I have posted on there too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are you thinking I would be furious if my hubby/partner did that. Will only lead to trouble I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to everyone for useful comments. I have to go now, and I wish you continued success, as I know we will enjoy, as a couple, through the other site. J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad we are not on that other site if they condone this, it has to be together or not at all, I think mrs would hang me by the balls if I tried anything like that :s

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

talk about a car crash waiting to happen !!!

raises questions

what else you doing with out your wifes knowledge and behind her back ?

why you havent raised this directly with your wife if this is what yous wanna try ?

if you have discussed this with her then obviously shes not wanted to try this so why would you disregard what shes comfortable with ?

why you would think any genuine couple with an once of common sense would take part in this set up ?? talk about red flags and lights flashing for total shambles . !!

i swing happliy with my hubby and have no problems with full swop, but i would play conkers with his balls if he dared to set up a meet with total strangers i know nothing about trying to pass it off as a chance encounter !!! shows that the person who would do that has no regard or respect for their partner or their bounderies . that they are devious and have no problems lieing to their spouse and obviously wouldnt think twice lieing to someone they met throught the site .also that they have no concern putting their partner or the couple they arranged a "chance " meet with in a very akward and volitile situation just as long as he maybe gets what he wants at end of it ! not attrubutes i want in anyone id meet on the site . trust is a key thing here no only between partners buit also with potential meets and boy thats not even anywhere on the agenda here!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the OP's post with horror and relief, that I'm not part of any couple like that.

Temp I stand and applaud you, very succinctly put and exactly how I would feel if part of a couple. xxx

Grids I agree with you too, trust in a swinging relationship is paramount. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dodgy ground that as i know how i would feel if mrs me set something up without me being told about it before hand

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

Sounds like a recipe for disaster to us.We assume this is for your pleasure.Not your wifes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ermmmm its pretty simple, she either wants to meet couples or she doesnt....its not a matter of coaxing her into it or anything.....pretty diresepctfull if u ask me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got caught up in one like this a few years back

Guy approached me from another site and arranged a similar thing.

I wanted to meet the wife in a neutral ground to check all was Kosher.

Found out through mutual friends he was playing a fast one.

I did meet his wife at a vanilla event a month or so later and the subject of swinging arose within the company.

She was unaware he was, and stated in no uncertain words she would cut is balls off if she caught him.

So yes the moral of the tale do not trust anyone who is single trying to pimp his missus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So yes the moral of the tale do not trust anyone who is single trying to pimp his missus

agreed, i think this is a pretty nasty subject to even consider. It would most certainly end in a divorce.

Our view is that if your other half doesnt want to, then that should be that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So i take it that the missus knows that you meet other people on your own...? cos if she doesn't and you get her on this site, or end up meeting someone who you have met on this site with her, then you ass is grass if she reads your profile as you have verifications as a single guy on here.

If Mr Sticky had tried this scenario i would have felt humiliated, embarrassed for myself and the other people involved, but mostly i would have strung him up by his balls and used them as earrings.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

well I am glad you all got here before me.... I think i have been getting more horrified as I went down....

be interesting to be a fly on the fly during that conversation...

"oh by the way darling, I love you but i have been playing behind your back..........

I think you best have the emergency services on standby because I bet she finds out eventually........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging when in a relationship HAS to be a joint venture , and has always got to be a free choice on both parties, any presure on one party from the other will only serve to drive a wedge between them.

If either party has any doughts or fears get the hell out this game now , the tinniest crack will eventualy put the grand cannion to shame !!!!!"

well said mr grid xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well, well, I must say I didn't know we had so many righteous folks in the country. I've followed the self perpetuating winding up a lot of folks have been doing, and my wife and I have BOTH had a good laugh about it since I told her. By the way, she does know I have met people and is quite happy with that! She has too although at this time only prefers soft. Thanks to all the correspondents who have made sensible and helpful comments. I think we'll just get on with our lives now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, well, I must say I didn't know we had so many righteous folks in the country. I've followed the self perpetuating winding up a lot of folks have been doing, and my wife and I have BOTH had a good laugh about it since I told her. By the way, she does know I have met people and is quite happy with that! She has too although at this time only prefers soft. Thanks to all the correspondents who have made sensible and helpful comments. I think we'll just get on with our lives now."

Righteous errr naw its called having a bit of respect and human decency...

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Being honest with your partner isn't about being self righteous......to most people who swing it is a requirement.

People have answered you as they see it, just because you don't like the answer, it doesn't mean they are trying to wind you up.

I think this thread is going around in circles now, so I am going to shut it.

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