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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To regain confidence. You had when. You were younger??? If so gonna someone. Tell me how!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had no confidence when I was younger . I have far more now than ever had . But I reckon yes you can regain it . There are lots of ways to do it and people who train in helping others to do so .xx

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By *a-ra-ra-boom-de-ayCouple
over a year ago

Wish it was the Algarve! Aberdeenshire

So what was it about your youth that gave you confidence? If you can recapture that your on the way, as having the big C at any age is damn sexy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had no confidence when I was younger . I have far more now than ever had . But I reckon yes you can regain it . There are lots of ways to do it and people who train in helping others to do so .xx"
Thanx Shelley. I'm seem to be going. The other way. Read a couple. Of books. On it but didn't. Really help! It's so easy. To be someone. On else on the phone tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I reckon it is

Personally was down after a divorce slowly building my confidence back up some of the lovely people on here have helped that's for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This isn't meant to seem trite or facetious but, can you remember when you first thought you'd lost confidence and what had happened to create the loss, work from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had no confidence when I was younger . I have far more now than ever had . But I reckon yes you can regain it . There are lots of ways to do it and people who train in helping others to do so .xxThanx Shelley. I'm seem to be going. The other way. Read a couple. Of books. On it but didn't. Really help! It's so easy. To be someone. On else on the phone tho "
You're welcome and yes so many of us display far more confidence when on the phone or on a pc or even in person that we dont actually own . Trying to believe the good things people say about you isn't always an easy task to do if you deep down don't think it . But little steps make a lot if difference . Just don't rush it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

confidence comes with maturity. I dont give a stuff now and Im an old bird now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"confidence comes with maturity. I dont give a stuff now and Im an old bird now."
No sorry. I don't agree getting. Older doesn't. Necessarily. Mean you grow. More confidence just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had no confidence when I was younger . I have far more now than ever had . But I reckon yes you can regain it . There are lots of ways to do it and people who train in helping others to do so .xxThanx Shelley. I'm seem to be going. The other way. Read a couple. Of books. On it but didn't. Really help! It's so easy. To be someone. On else on the phone tho You're welcome and yes so many of us display far more confidence when on the phone or on a pc or even in person that we dont actually own . Trying to believe the good things people say about you isn't always an easy task to do if you deep down don't think it . But little steps make a lot if difference . Just don't rush it x"

This, in spades

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never had confidence when I was younger just now is probably the most confident I've ever been xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will let you know when I get some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I have found meeting folk at socials and having a laugh has helped build my confidence back a little

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally I have found meeting folk at socials and having a laugh has helped build my confidence back a little"
yea totally.Agree here that does help spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was give a book by a friend , defo would recommend you try it.

The chimp Paradox The mind Management

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say you were more confident when you were younger, but was that a young persons cockiness? When younger there is a fine line between being cocktail and being confident. As maturity sets in the cockiness disappears.

My advice just be yourself, that's all that anyone can ever ask for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you can exercise a little humility, confidence becomes less of a concern.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think our levels of confidence peak and trough throughout our lives depending on the circumstances we find ourselves in. It is a very strong person indeed who can say that the opinion of others doesn't matter to them and in many ways over confidence can be intimidating and unattractive. I know from my own point of view I'm at my best when surrounded by those who love and care for me and have indeed seen me at my worst physically and emotionally and still want me!!!! Brave souls indeed. Its true that with age comes a greater sense of contentment with who we are but I'm the first to admit that vanity means the hairspray and make up will keep sticking me together even though the mirror sometimes says "Whatever Happened to Baby Jane". What's on the inside truly is more important. A good heart and personality will always shine through even with the shyest individuals. As was said in another important thread this week..life IS indeed too short. Way too short to let our lack of confidence stand in the way of enjoying it. So for me....its best foot forward... even if often the steps are shaky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Jinty, but I need to say the only reason for you to have shaky steps is because the heels are too high

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think our levels of confidence peak and trough throughout our lives depending on the circumstances we find ourselves in. It is a very strong person indeed who can say that the opinion of others doesn't matter to them and in many ways over confidence can be intimidating and unattractive. I know from my own point of view I'm at my best when surrounded by those who love and care for me and have indeed seen me at my worst physically and emotionally and still want me!!!! Brave souls indeed. Its true that with age comes a greater sense of contentment with who we are but I'm the first to admit that vanity means the hairspray and make up will keep sticking me together even though the mirror sometimes says "Whatever Happened to Baby Jane". What's on the inside truly is more important. A good heart and personality will always shine through even with the shyest individuals. As was said in another important thread this week..life IS indeed too short. Way too short to let our lack of confidence stand in the way of enjoying it. So for me....its best foot forward... even if often the steps are shaky. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others I think confidence comes with age, well for me at least. No point looking back the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my youth I was soooo shy it was horrible

I didn't come out of my shell until I had kids then by that time I was like

This is me take it or leave it and now il talk to anyone lol

Auds xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To regain confidence. You had when. You were younger??? If so gonna someone. Tell me how!!!!!! "
think mental age not biological age...works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To regain confidence. You had when. You were younger??? If so gonna someone. Tell me how!!!!!! "

i was probably my most confident as a kid, so here are my recommendations:

Climb trees.

slide down chutes head first.

play kick the can and chap door runaway.

Fire hydrants for water parks.

jumpers for goalposts.

Turn the road outside your house into a tennis court during wimbledon.

happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To regain confidence. You had when. You were younger??? If so gonna someone. Tell me how!!!!!!

i was probably my most confident as a kid, so here are my recommendations:

Climb trees.

slide down chutes head first.

play kick the can and chap door runaway.

Fire hydrants for water parks.

jumpers for goalposts.

Turn the road outside your house into a tennis court during wimbledon.

happy days "
takes me back bino . I also done all those things including tree climbing . Got the scar to prove me falling off it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I def remember being quite confidant as a small child (before I stared listening to others) even though I had to get my hair regularly cropped so it grew in &lived in welly boots & dungarees (wasn't easy as a girl). As I've gotten older I swing between take me or leave me and a chronic lack of confidence. I totally agree it depends who you are with and how you feel in their company, Intimidated and over shadowed or happy, comfortable & relaxed. I think having had a lack of confidence might have a positive side as I would never want anyone to feel like that so always try and make others feel at ease & empathise.

Surround yourself with those who make you feel comfortable and your lovely fab friends

Dx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To regain confidence. You had when. You were younger??? If so gonna someone. Tell me how!!!!!! think mental age not biological age...works for me "
mental age?? Well I'm fu#ked

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By *r and Mrs SnogalotCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

As a teenager I was painfully shy and blushed very easily. However I was also quite balshy, a wee bit of an actress and very confident. After spending 10 years with my ex I left with my confidence in tatters.

Fly is fantastic, but the damage runs quite deep and I have days where my confidence runs low. i have found somethings help me cope and depend on them on those days. I also have a damned good game face and avoid negative people.

Find your coping techniques and try and identify and avoid triggers is about the only advice I can offer. Remember some good stuff and use it to bolster your ego when required.

Shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a teenager I was painfully shy and blushed very easily. However I was also quite balshy, a wee bit of an actress and very confident. After spending 10 years with my ex I left with my confidence in tatters.

Fly is fantastic, but the damage runs quite deep and I have days where my confidence runs low. i have found somethings help me cope and depend on them on those days. I also have a damned good game face and avoid negative people.

Find your coping techniques and try and identify and avoid triggers is about the only advice I can offer. Remember some good stuff and use it to bolster your ego when required.

Shy "
this also top tip

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanx all you luvly. Fabbers. For all the comments.

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