FabSwingers.com forum: Need new Patter

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am one of these guys that fail at the first hurdle(introductions), It seems I can never get a reply, I don't know if girls just think that I'm just another sex mad perv spamming their inboxes with "Hi, how are you?" Or I'm just not their type. So heres my questions to you guys and gals

First message tips?

Do's and don'ts?

What messages catch your attention?

Etc:

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

If I'm honest "hi how are you" mails I tend to ignore..... Only so many times a day you can say "I'm good thanks"

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Why do you need new patter ?

Just be you,people will like you or they wont ...good luck

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I know it's not what you asked but you might want to expand the text on your profile, show your personality. Look at other guys profiles for ideas.

For messaging, I tend to comment on something on their profile so they know you've at least had the courtesy to read it. If if doesn't say much or they've not filled it in, tell them a little about you. Girls won't meet guys who can only say 'I'm up for anything, how about it?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading profiles is always a good start & leave out the 'fancy a shag sweetheart' because they will be ignored. As already said just be you, say a little about yourself but not your life story on the 1st message. you will get there & good luck

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By *icentious.LibertineWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

I agree, when it shows that someone has actually READ your profile and is interested in you, rather than a generic - 'fancy a fuck?' sent out to all and sundry.

Has a much higher chance of response, plus gives an insight into your personality. Yup - and something interesting in your profile too.

Make yourself a person, an individual - not just a person with a cock. If I'm going to play with someone, I at least want to be attracted to them.

That's my opinion anyway - but everyone is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have seen with my own eyes, from a girl to whom I met and showed me the site from a womans perspective and its crazy the amount of messages, single ladies get. I have a certain amount of sympathy for woman on here since seeing what they have to put up with. All she done was quick scan of inbox and maybe picked a couple to read then bulk deleted the rest. My point is, have a catchy header and an opening line that may intrigue her and a pic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice guys, really helped, the Hi how are you intros are boring and just the same as everyone else so I totally get why girls delete them no matter how nice the guy sending them is and I guess updating my profile wouldn't be the worst idea ever, it is very plain and it doesn't really show my personality. Maybe upload a few pics too just whilst I'm at it. Thanks again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can a get a swatch a yer fanny" usually works for me, try that.

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Thanks for the advice guys, really helped, the Hi how are you intros are boring and just the same as everyone else so I totally get why girls delete them no matter how nice the guy sending them is and I guess updating my profile wouldn't be the worst idea ever, it is very plain and it doesn't really show my personality. Maybe upload a few pics too just whilst I'm at it. Thanks again

Not a problem

Just don't expect an updated profile & better messages to guarantee meets, but it will improve your chances. All the best.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Put a better pic up! you look miserable

And write something on your profile!

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Put a better pic up! you look miserable

And write something on your profile!"

Hey I'm doing the best I can!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Put a better pic up! you look miserable

And write something on your profile!"

Totally agree foe

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Send a first message saying "hi, how are you"... do you really want the truthful answer??

You: Hi, How are you?

Me: Fucking pissed off, next question

Conversation stopped and you get nowhere

You: Hi, read your profile and I like what I read especially the part about xxxxx and xxxxx

Me: Thanks, that's really nice to hear

Guess which one would result in a further conversation

**Fuck off Foe, neither is not an option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say you can accom. That means.the option of a better background.for your pic/s as you have other rooms!

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