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By *hirstykirsty OP   Woman
over a year ago

inverness

Why do males arrange a meet, sent pics etc and endless messages, then when you arrange to meet its a no show?? This has happened twice now. Are they all little immature boys on here that like to muck girls about? This is highland/moray men by the way.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

because their wifes caught them dont ya know most are married and cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thrill of the chase?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Because most prefer to just talk about it......

Thats including couples & females..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just guy on this. As women do it as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been let down a few times. Really winds me up as my spare time is precious.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think it's clear that on here there are many profiles that are clearly fake and clearly children , then there are the profiles of those who think they want to be swingers and arrange meets, with no intention of ever meeting, in their mind they want to meet until all of a sudden they decide against it. It's the same as the 'comfort zone' thread, there are just those who like the thought if it more than having the balls to do it.

We never rush into meets so you tend to get a feeling depending on how and when a couple/guy/girl responds, also taking into account things like - people have lives outside of fab and may not be online all the time, how long have they been on fab, how their profile is written and what verifications they have. That said, we have also been stood up, but that time was a couple, but he-ho their loss!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


" That said, we have also been stood up, but that time was a couple, but he-ho their loss!"

If you wanted them to show, it would have been your loss.....Not theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" That said, we have also been stood up, but that time was a couple, but he-ho their loss!

If you wanted them to show, it would have been your loss.....Not theirs "

Not really, we had a night out ourselves then went home for fun together, so a win win for us!

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By *iscreet-meetMan
over a year ago

Helensburgh

I would always keep an appointment its only manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do males arrange a meet, sent pics etc and endless messages, then when you arrange to meet its a no show?? This has happened twice now. Are they all little immature boys on here that like to muck girls about? This is highland/moray men by the way."

I think you'll find Kirsty it's not confined to this area, but as we are geographically isolated it appears more noticeable due to the very limited pool of guys.

In my time here I have either blocked or been blocked by, turned down or been turned down by, or just plain don't want to meet so many of the guys up here that I now cannot get laid at all, and have to venture to parties down south.

I know you'll have your pick of the bunch up here but you still need to choose carefully.

J xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are so many fakes on here who talk the talk but cant walk the walk. They arrange to meet but then their wives demand that they stay at home, makes genuine people feel like leaving the site

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

There are plenty of "genuine" people on here who make it all worthwhile...

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

Iv taken dsys off work to meet (3 times this year) where the meet cancelled only on the morning of the meet so too late do anything so was wasted holiday)

So it happens to most and in every area

You learn and move on ad still many genuine guys/women/couples/tv's etc

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

We have had plenty of time wasters in the Inverness area.

Generally we stick to verified people now, its a bit better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have had plenty of time wasters in the Inverness area.

Generally we stick to verified people now, its a bit better."

^^^ This

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"Why do males arrange a meet, sent pics etc and endless messages, then when you arrange to meet its a no show?? This has happened twice now. Are they all little immature boys on here that like to muck girls about? This is highland/moray men by the way."

Because their mummy grounded then after looking through their browser history

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

As many have already said its across the board not just males.

If the person hasn't given you an explination then just block them and mind report them to admin as a no show.

If its happening on a regular basis maybe rethink your selection process xx

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By *yz69Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why do males arrange a meet, sent pics etc and endless messages, then when you arrange to meet its a no show?? This has happened twice now. Are they all little immature boys on here that like to muck girls about? This is highland/moray men by the way."

Perhaps they turned up saw you and left... hang on just checked your pics. not likely lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lets be honest, is it not more likely they took a look and decided the pictures did you better than real life and ran?

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By *ighlandballsMan
over a year ago

perth

Time wasters

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By *piderxMan
over a year ago

west lothian

if they are not turning up for meets with you they need there heads looked at

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By *orkshire ScotMan
over a year ago

Everywhere Anywhere

We're not all bad up in the highlands!!

Some of us are genuine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I turn up .... Just don't often get replies or invited too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this seems a big problem in scotland iv had it quite a few times .doesnt happen as much elsewhere.i always think theyre watchin from close by getting off on it.or maybe they put up false pics so they can actually be right nxt to u loving it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys tht dnt turn up are mad

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow


"Because most prefer to just talk about it......

Thats including couples & females..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that's what gets the single males a bad reputation, but it isn't just the single males it can be females and couples, supposed to be an adult site but as already been said, more and more fake profiles turning up now,

ok yes there can be a valid excuse for not turning up but at least have the decency to contact and explain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im glad that guys are highlighting the fact that a lot of girls on here are every bit as bad Im afraid, but the fact is somewhat overlooked and its guys that get all the bad press.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

surely the site could arrange for feedback similar to the verified reports that will highlight those who don't show up on a regular basis. I am of course not limiting this to males but for all. If there turns out to be a valid excuse then it could be removed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"surely the site could arrange for feedback similar to the verified reports that will highlight those who don't show up on a regular basis. I am of course not limiting this to males but for all. If there turns out to be a valid excuse then it could be removed."

How could you protect that from being abused by false reports of no shows ?

Tend to think most folks have a few friends on here and if someone continually wastes people's time then word gets around between them and that person soon will have a known reputation for it and will then struggle to get meets

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"surely the site could arrange for feedback similar to the verified reports that will highlight those who don't show up on a regular basis. I am of course not limiting this to males but for all. If there turns out to be a valid excuse then it could be removed.

How could you protect that from being abused by false reports of no shows ?

Tend to think most folks have a few friends on here and if someone continually wastes people's time then word gets around between them and that person soon will have a known reputation for it and will then struggle to get meets"

There is a system already. Click on the profile, click the report button and let admin know about the no show. They will log it and deal with it if it's a persistent problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus, I'd love the chance to meet you! We re not all the same, trust me on that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing worse on here than time wasters, it's what put me off first time around but be pleasantly surprised this time. No problems...yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im with muckybiker I always turn up but I dont get a lot of invites to do so lol mind you it does give bad press to all single guys even the genuine ones

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By *homCrownMan
over a year ago

West Fife

Not me.... as those who have met me will testify...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not me.... as those who have met me will testify... "

Very dependable....is the fiver in the post???

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By *homCrownMan
over a year ago

West Fife


"Not me.... as those who have met me will testify...

Very dependable....is the fiver in the post??? "

No... 'cos your priceless....

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By *GoodBadGuyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I dont seem to get that far lol, i am genuine and actually looking to meet but those who engage in messages and show interest all seem to go quiet when i start suggesting times/dates, very frustrating! Not sure where im going wrong, open to advice!

Cheers

Nick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

damn, where were you when i was in Inverness at the start of last year for 4 months, bugger!!

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston


"I dont seem to get that far lol, i am genuine and actually looking to meet but those who engage in messages and show interest all seem to go quiet when i start suggesting times/dates, very frustrating! Not sure where im going wrong, open to advice!

Cheers

Nick"

It's obvious..... you haven't messaged me!!

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By *cfun100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *cfun100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I dont seem to get that far lol, i am genuine and actually looking to meet but those who engage in messages and show interest all seem to go quiet when i start suggesting times/dates, very frustrating! Not sure where im going wrong, open to advice!

Cheers

Nick"

I'm in the same boat as you Nick! I'll gladly take some advice as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"surely the site could arrange for feedback similar to the verified reports that will highlight those who don't show up on a regular basis. I am of course not limiting this to males but for all. If there turns out to be a valid excuse then it could be removed.

How could you protect that from being abused by false reports of no shows ?

Tend to think most folks have a few friends on here and if someone continually wastes people's time then word gets around between them and that person soon will have a known reputation for it and will then struggle to get meets

There is a system already. Click on the profile, click the report button and let admin know about the no show. They will log it and deal with it if it's a persistent problem "

Can u report someone who blocked just before meeting or just after a no show?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont seem to get that far lol, i am genuine and actually looking to meet but those who engage in messages and show interest all seem to go quiet when i start suggesting times/dates, very frustrating! Not sure where im going wrong, open to advice!

Cheers

Nick

I'm in the same boat as you Nick! I'll gladly take some advice as well.

"

Trust me guys. you'll get a headacke trying to understand. People like u at first but if u show them too much how u like them in return. It puts them off.

Its like snobbs who go to the market they only look at the expensive products. No matter if the cheap ones just as good or often even better quality. Its a mind game play it if u lose it just move to the next player u want to play with.

There are far too many guys. Guys who all the time thinking whats wrong with me? What am doing wrong? Why am I rejected by soo many ppl I show interest to. Makes them lose selfestime and feel unsecure attraction wise. in reality.in most cases there is nothing wrong with guys. Its just a matter of unbalanced ratio of men to women here. Nobody is perfect and ppl who r constantly criticising guys and jump quick to judgement most of them wont stand a chance if put in a fair competition for pleasure. IMOHO

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By *airymusclesMan
over a year ago

scotland


"I dont seem to get that far lol, i am genuine and actually looking to meet but those who engage in messages and show interest all seem to go quiet when i start suggesting times/dates, very frustrating! Not sure where im going wrong, open to advice!

Cheers

Nick

I'm in the same boat as you Nick! I'll gladly take some advice as well. "

Have to say i have the same problem,i get that folk want to chat for ages to get to know someone,but you message back n forward for ages,then suddenly silence! So you wait a while,and wait,and wait,then think och i'll message and see what they say! No reply then not even a message to say,sorry not interested now! Doesnt matter though i have (hopefully) met one girl who seems genuine,and one is more than enough for me!!!!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


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Can u report someone who blocked just before meeting "

No....

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By *GoodBadGuyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Appreciate everyones thoughts, just as well im thick skinned and dont give up easy lol, i'll keep on trying

Fmuma - i'll be in touch shortly

Cheers

Nick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not turning up to a meet would need a meet to have been arranged in the first place..... A meet to have been arranged in the first place would require conversation.... Conversation would require REPLIES!!!

I play by everyone's rules as best I can, always attach a face pic, have never sent a cock pic, always try to send something better than 'hi how are you' type messages and put a bit of thought in to it.

Dunno why I bother to be honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive only been back on the scene a wk and the first thing i did was attend cjs to get chatting again, since then ive had a couple of offers to meet, the second i shall be doing tonight, i think presenting yourself in the correct way, that you are a genuine serious swinger, others will see that and come calling, rather than never going to a social, then people can be wairy of being let down last min, if i agree a meet i make it and the others involved have been there also, but there can be alot of time wasters also.

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By *um4AllAndAll4CumMan
over a year ago

The Shire

Too be honest I'd be glad of the chance not to show up for a meet.... That would require a female or couple that do more than speak a good game!

Sounds bitter I know but as a single guy it's almost impossible to get anywhere :S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found it hard at first when i started out a couple yrs ago, but once i attended socials people became more responsive and where more willing to arrange a meet and i also got pms to attend parties, so its not all doom and gloom for us single guys, keep the pecker up

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By *unrigMan
over a year ago

aberdeen

Couples are the same, I have turned up to hotels twice for meets even told the room number etc only for them to be total fakes, that's how I now mostly do repeat meets.

Run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem definitely isn't just guys, my only timewasters have been couples, and that's after speaking to both, not just being a guy who's pretending.. You get a time and date, arranging stuff around it, and they either go radio silent, or you get there and no one around..

That's why I prefer to do a social meet first, if they won't come to a coffee shop or pub, then at least you can wander round shops for a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree that it isnt just guys that dont turn up

I really really do not see why anyone would waste anyones time that way??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's how some get their kicks.. Not caring that you've spent ages getting ready, or have put other stuff off (or other potential meets even).

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"That's how some get their kicks.. "

and they bottle it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some ppl fantasise about having nsa sex with a stranger all they know about is through chitchatt behind screan. They arrange a meet but at the last minute when they realise its becoming a reality they panic and go quiet or they try to find any excuse. I had a meet that was canceled on my way driving when I nearly got there. Time and petrol wasted. The excuse is familly blablablah. Other times where I spent hours tidying the place and getting ready then no show lol. I have never wasted anyones time for once. mine have bern wasted by few cpls and singles females. I had this young cpl who invited me for an mmf. I drove 25 miles to find four other single guys in the house for a gangbang. One of them the poor has traveled more than 200 miles lolol and the male part of the cpl was still on fab inviting others!! I must admit the girl was really hot but no thanks just wished them good fun and went home fruatrated. Since then I am very carefull when contacting young ppl.

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By *ikerbob1957Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I've never let anyone down but have been let down many times by people either cancelling or not turning up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had anyone not turn up. I did my homework first and spoke on cam to all my friends on the various sites I have been on. You can usually tell the ones who have no intention of meeting but it's all a bit of a guessing game. Unlucky but I suppose its a learning curve.

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