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By *eenonfun2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I have noticed on here some saying that socials aren’t open to everyone, when we thought they were. Do you think that the organisers should unblock everyone that they have in their block list or only let people come along who haven’t been blocked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have noticed on here some saying that socials aren’t open to everyone, when we thought they were. Do you think that the organisers should unblock everyone that they have in their block list or only let people come along who haven’t been blocked? "
depends who is organising it,if someone has yaken the hump with you for some reasons they may decide to ask you not to attend

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

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That would depend entirely on why they were blocked by the organisers....

If those blocked have a problem with that, maybe they should organise their own socials....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That would depend entirely on why they were blocked by the organisers....

If those blocked have a problem with that, maybe they should organise their own socials...."

And if they haven't blocked you, but they just don't want to talk to you, think it's childish that they say you can't come cause am not talking to u,

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

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And if they haven't blocked you, but they just don't want to talk to you, think it's childish that they say you can't come cause am not talking to u,"

Has anyone ever said that to you? That you couldnt go simply because they dont talk to you?

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By *olly Gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes

Just my penarth......seems to me that when all is said and done the host/hostess will always have the power of veto as it were.

Yes socials are open to all, but not all who ask for a place, get a place.

I'd say a site social hosted by site admin is one thing; a social hosted by a site user for site members is another.

Similar yes but different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been to a few great socials and they are always open to all just because they might have you block on there profile dont mean that they stop you going social they aint petty the ones that run the ones ive been to

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

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The way I see it....

The organisers can invite/not invite whoever the hell they like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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And if they haven't blocked you, but they just don't want to talk to you, think it's childish that they say you can't come cause am not talking to u,

Has anyone ever said that to you? That you couldnt go simply because they dont talk to you?"

Yes

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By *amaraBeaverbankWoman
over a year ago

Benidorm Spain


"The way I see it....

The organisers can invite/not invite whoever the hell they like "

thats the way i see it. its like any other "party" you would host yourself.. you'll have people you'll invite and those you'd not.

its quite simple really and i don't think its something to get upset over really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way I see it....

The organisers can invite/not invite whoever the hell they like

thats the way i see it. its like any other "party" you would host yourself.. you'll have people you'll invite and those you'd not.

its quite simple really and i don't think its something to get upset over really"

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Interesting topic and something ive been thinking about for a we while now .

As a social organiser and ordinary member of this site I do have a block list just like anyone else on here my block list is personal to me and the people I have on there have been blocked for several different reasons from being rude,insulting badmouthing or just totally idiots who im not prepared to give my time to .

should social organisers unblock these people just so they can attend socials im my own opinion NO they are their for a reason and that's that.

I will however say if someone was to apologise for what every reason I put them on there in the first place then yes id consider unblocking them but as I said it really would depend on why they are on there in the first place .

And ive never turned anyone away from any of my socials just because I don't like or speak to them .

Be intresting to see if any of the other social organisers past or present unblocked people on their block list to allow them to attend .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting topic and something ive been thinking about for a we while now .

As a social organiser and ordinary member of this site I do have a block list just like anyone else on here my block list is personal to me and the people I have on there have been blocked for several different reasons from being rude,insulting badmouthing or just totally idiots who im not prepared to give my time to .

should social organisers unblock these people just so they can attend socials im my own opinion NO they are their for a reason and that's that.

I will however say if someone was to apologise for what every reason I put them on there in the first place then yes id consider unblocking them but as I said it really would depend on why they are on there in the first place .

And ive never turned anyone away from any of my socials just because I don't like or speak to them .

Be intresting to see if any of the other social organisers past or present unblocked people on their block list to allow them to attend ."
at least thats the proper attitude to have,have had experience recently with someone with the opposite attitude to that who i feel was perhaps not being completely fair about things but not going to name names

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That would depend entirely on why they were blocked by the organisers....

If those blocked have a problem with that, maybe they should organise their own socials....

And if they haven't blocked you, but they just don't want to talk to you, think it's childish that they say you can't come cause am not talking to u,"

I've organised a couple of socials that are,like the other socials I've attended,open to all.....never heard of not letting someone go just because you don't want to talk to them!!!It may well happen like that though!!My problem is people with filtres on.Not being able to contact them would be the only way they'd not be able to go!!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

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Has anyone ever said that to you? That you couldnt go simply because they dont talk to you?

Yes"

That is childish! For a social organiser to say something like that!!

IF it was a private party, fair enough...but a social....No...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gonna jump in feet first here....I've organised 10+ socials on here and have never refused entry for anyone...even if we did not speak..

And yes this once i have asked a couple not to attend (which i think is why this stemmed from) there is no need to explain why on a forum..it is between us and the other couple andthe reason i did so was because it is a small lunch gathering and i don't want there to be an atmosphere...totally different on a large scale social ...i want everyone to have a good day...and dont want it spoiled. i do not have this couple blocked...they blocked us.

At end of the day it is me who is taking the time to organise the social and i want it to be enjoyable.

If people don't like that then the simple answer is to organise their own..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gonna jump in feet first here....I've organised 10+ socials on here and have never refused entry for anyone...even if we did not speak..

And yes this once i have asked a couple not to attend (which i think is why this stemmed from) there is no need to explain why on a forum..it is between us and the other couple andthe reason i did so was because it is a small lunch gathering and i don't want there to be an atmosphere...totally different on a large scale social ...i want everyone to have a good day...and dont want it spoiled. i do not have this couple blocked...they blocked us.

At end of the day it is me who is taking the time to organise the social and i want it to be enjoyable.

If people don't like that then the simple answer is to organise their own..

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perhaps there wouldnt have been an atmosphere?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At end of the day it is me who is taking the time to organise the social and i want it to be enjoyable.

If people don't like that then the simple answer is to organise their own.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gonna jump in feet first here....I've organised 10+ socials on here and have never refused entry for anyone...even if we did not speak..

And yes this once i have asked a couple not to attend (which i think is why this stemmed from) there is no need to explain why on a forum..it is between us and the other couple andthe reason i did so was because it is a small lunch gathering and i don't want there to be an atmosphere...totally different on a large scale social ...i want everyone to have a good day...and dont want it spoiled. i do not have this couple blocked...they blocked us.

At end of the day it is me who is taking the time to organise the social and i want it to be enjoyable.

If people don't like that then the simple answer is to organise their own..

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And what makes you think they would spoil it,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gonna jump in feet first here....I've organised 10+ socials on here and have never refused entry for anyone...even if we did not speak..

And yes this once i have asked a couple not to attend (which i think is why this stemmed from) there is no need to explain why on a forum..it is between us and the other couple andthe reason i did so was because it is a small lunch gathering and i don't want there to be an atmosphere...totally different on a large scale social ...i want everyone to have a good day...and dont want it spoiled. i do not have this couple blocked...they blocked us.

At end of the day it is me who is taking the time to organise the social and i want it to be enjoyable.

If people don't like that then the simple answer is to organise their own..

perhaps there wouldnt have been an atmosphere?"

Maybe not...we will never know but for the enjoyment of all the people going we thought it best....it wasn't taking lighthearted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting topic and something ive been thinking about for a we while now .

As a social organiser and ordinary member of this site I do have a block list just like anyone else on here my block list is personal to me and the people I have on there have been blocked for several different reasons from being rude,insulting badmouthing or just totally idiots who im not prepared to give my time to .

should social organisers unblock these people just so they can attend socials im my own opinion NO they are their for a reason and that's that.

I will however say if someone was to apologise for what every reason I put them on there in the first place then yes id consider unblocking them but as I said it really would depend on why they are on there in the first place .

And ive never turned anyone away from any of my socials just because I don't like or speak to them .

Be intresting to see if any of the other social organisers past or present unblocked people on their block list to allow them to attend ."

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

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"

At end of the day it is me who is taking the time to organise the social and i want it to be enjoyable.

If people don't like that then the simple answer is to organise their own..

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wouldn't need to unblock. Socials advertised in an open forum, those on your block list can still see your posts in the forums.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

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"You wouldn't need to unblock. Socials advertised in an open forum, those on your block list can still see your posts in the forums."

Details are not given out in open forum....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gonna jump in feet first here....I've organised 10+ socials on here and have never refused entry for anyone...even if we did not speak..

And yes this once i have asked a couple not to attend (which i think is why this stemmed from) there is no need to explain why on a forum..it is between us and the other couple andthe reason i did so was because it is a small lunch gathering and i don't want there to be an atmosphere...totally different on a large scale social ...i want everyone to have a good day...and dont want it spoiled. i do not have this couple blocked...they blocked us.

At end of the day it is me who is taking the time to organise the social and i want it to be enjoyable.

If people don't like that then the simple answer is to organise their own..

perhaps there wouldnt have been an atmosphere?

Maybe not...we will never know but for the enjoyment of all the people going we thought it best....it wasn't taking lighthearted"

What where you expecting to happen?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

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What where you expecting to happen?"

They have already stated it is between them and the other couple...

And they are not going to explain in an open forum....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting topic and something ive been thinking about for a we while now .

As a social organiser and ordinary member of this site I do have a block list just like anyone else on here my block list is personal to me and the people I have on there have been blocked for several different reasons from being rude,insulting badmouthing or just totally idiots who im not prepared to give my time to .

should social organisers unblock these people just so they can attend socials im my own opinion NO they are their for a reason and that's that.

I will however say if someone was to apologise for what every reason I put them on there in the first place then yes id consider unblocking them but as I said it really would depend on why they are on there in the first place .

And ive never turned anyone away from any of my socials just because I don't like or speak to them .

Be intresting to see if any of the other social organisers past or present unblocked people on their block list to allow them to attend ."

Very gracious of you to consider unblocking those on your list if they consider apologising .. Bit difficult to do if they're on your block list don't you think, or is it a public apology your after?

Glad I'm not on it.. Yet!!!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Interesting topic and something ive been thinking about for a we while now .

As a social organiser and ordinary member of this site I do have a block list just like anyone else on here my block list is personal to me and the people I have on there have been blocked for several different reasons from being rude,insulting badmouthing or just totally idiots who im not prepared to give my time to .

should social organisers unblock these people just so they can attend socials im my own opinion NO they are their for a reason and that's that.

I will however say if someone was to apologise for what every reason I put them on there in the first place then yes id consider unblocking them but as I said it really would depend on why they are on there in the first place .

And ive never turned anyone away from any of my socials just because I don't like or speak to them .

Be intresting to see if any of the other social organisers past or present unblocked people on their block list to allow them to attend .

Very gracious of you to consider unblocking those on your list if they consider apologising .. Bit difficult to do if they're on your block list don't you think, or is it a public apology your after?

Glad I'm not on it.. Yet!!! "
Not at all im sure they have friends on here who can mail me on their belalf if they wish to be unblocked and speak to me but aing the decision to do so would be entirely mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont think this post is right at least the organsier had the balls to say why .. no one would of knew which social it was and ones that moaned about it had to place that in forumns dont think that was fair at all .organiser put so much work into these gatherings and i personaly wouldnt want any attomsphere there if that was me doing it xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive organised socials before and the way i stand is that if someone i have blocked asks for a place on the forum, i will unblock them to give them the details etc.

Although most of the time, i block people because they have been nasty or horrible to me in the past, so i doubt they would want to come to something that im organising anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"ive organised socials before and the way i stand is that if someone i have blocked asks for a place on the forum, i will unblock them to give them the details etc.

Although most of the time, i block people because they have been nasty or horrible to me in the past, so i doubt they would want to come to something that im organising anyway"
That's exactly what I cant understand some people ive seen complaining about being blocked and unable to attend know why they are on my block list so really it baffles my on earth they would want to attend one of my socials on the first place just doesn't make any sence to me at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive organised socials before and the way i stand is that if someone i have blocked asks for a place on the forum, i will unblock them to give them the details etc.

Although most of the time, i block people because they have been nasty or horrible to me in the past, so i doubt they would want to come to something that im organising anyway"
surely though the past is in the past and being all relatively sensible adults on here even those folks deserve to be invited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but surely if you read post from the organiser it is a small lunch social and she is thinking of rest of the people there for there enjoyment and i truley feel this post is wrong to be aired here

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

As we do not know the reasons for people being blocked, we are in no position to judge the organisers on how they run their own events.....

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"As we do not know the reasons for people being blocked, we are in no position to judge the organisers on how they run their own events....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As we do not know the reasons for people being blocked, we are in no position to judge the organisers on how they run their own events....."

I don't see judgement just people airing a question and their an opinion isn't that what forums are about of am I getting that wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive organised socials before and the way i stand is that if someone i have blocked asks for a place on the forum, i will unblock them to give them the details etc.

Although most of the time, i block people because they have been nasty or horrible to me in the past, so i doubt they would want to come to something that im organising anywaysurely though the past is in the past and being all relatively sensible adults on here even those folks deserve to be invited"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah maybe but the first person that posted this has sour grapes and posted it for all to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive organised socials before and the way i stand is that if someone i have blocked asks for a place on the forum, i will unblock them to give them the details etc.

Although most of the time, i block people because they have been nasty or horrible to me in the past, so i doubt they would want to come to something that im organising anywayThat's exactly what I cant understand some people ive seen complaining about being blocked and unable to attend know why they are on my block list so really it baffles my on earth they would want to attend one of my socials on the first place just doesn't make any sence to me at all "

Perhaps you run good socials and their friends attend so missing out on it. It's also for others to enjoy not just you and if they're paying I would think they won't hypo dose upsetting others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yeah maybe but the first person that posted this has sour grapes and posted it for all to see "

I thought we are not allowed to name is that a ban? I'm just learning how rules work

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

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I don't see judgement just people airing a question and their an opinion isn't that what forums are about of am I getting that wrong? "

Im seeing organisers being questioned on their own judgement on who they choose to invite to events that they organise...

Who are we to question their decisions?

To judge whether or not they are doing the right thing?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"ive organised socials before and the way i stand is that if someone i have blocked asks for a place on the forum, i will unblock them to give them the details etc.

Although most of the time, i block people because they have been nasty or horrible to me in the past, so i doubt they would want to come to something that im organising anywayThat's exactly what I cant understand some people ive seen complaining about being blocked and unable to attend know why they are on my block list so really it baffles my on earth they would want to attend one of my socials on the first place just doesn't make any sence to me at all

Perhaps you run good socials and their friends attend so missing out on it. It's also for others to enjoy not just you and if they're paying I would think they won't hypo dose upsetting others! "
As has been said before if someone feels they are missing out then do their own socials that way they can have there who ever they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yeah maybe but the first person that posted this has sour grapes and posted it for all to see

I thought we are not allowed to name is that a ban? I'm just learning how rules work "
didnt think anyone technically named anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can i just state that its not the op we have asked not to attend the lunch. i don't even know them lol....maybe just coincidence that this was arisen just the day after i asked the couple not to attend....maybe they do or don't know the couple either.

At the end if the day i asked the couple politely...we had a short convo then we were blocked....end of!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I don't see judgement just people airing a question and their an opinion isn't that what forums are about of am I getting that wrong?

Im seeing organisers being questioned on their own judgement on who they choose to invite to events that they organise...

Who are we to question their decisions?

To judge whether or not they are doing the right thing?

"

To avoid a forum advertising a social open to all should state exceptions that way it's clear

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"yeah maybe but the first person that posted this has sour grapes and posted it for all to see "

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


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To avoid a forum advertising a social open to all should state exceptions that way it's clear "

If the organiser has blocked you...you not bloody invited...

Clear enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yeah maybe but the first person that posted this has sour grapes and posted it for all to see

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Once again your pointing to people yes not naming but highlighting who they are and that they have a motive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But if its just a small gathering why post

It in the forum why not just ask the ones you only want privately, then that way the people u don't want to talk to won't put their name's down, and then there wouldn't have been the need to ask them not to come, for what ever reason,

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

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"But if its just a small gathering why post

It in the forum why not just ask the ones you only want privately,

"

Because there may be people interested that the organisers hadnt thought of or have even met before?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

for as long as I can remember there have been people excluded from certain socials/lunches... mostly because there is history between them and the organiser/s.

hey, it is the organisers perogative.

a bit demeaning to even ask, especially in public.

we will never all get on, it's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well said xxx

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"for as long as I can remember there have been people excluded from certain socials/lunches... mostly because there is history between them and the organiser/s.

hey, it is the organisers perogative.

a bit demeaning to even ask, especially in public.

we will never all get on, it's life."

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"for as long as I can remember there have been people excluded from certain socials/lunches... mostly because there is history between them and the organiser/s.

hey, it is the organisers perogative.

a bit demeaning to even ask, especially in public.

we will never all get on, it's life."
Exactly and ive been questioned about this several times in public on the forums its no ones business who or why have blocked certain people and some just need to accept that and move on ..if they want to attend socials then organise them its that simple x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a forgetfull kinda chap generally, but its uncanny, what i have a super knack of remembering, is why i get zee block, ya?

Therefore, i would both never dare to try to gloss over why im blocked, or twist arms, just for the sake of attending a social?? Seriously? Go to the pub, pictures, sit in, n watch a dvd tha nite or sumthin,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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To avoid a forum advertising a social open to all should state exceptions that way it's clear

If the organiser has blocked you...you not bloody invited...

Clear enough "

Firstly I'm not bloody blocked as you so put secondly I've never been to a social sir know rules regarding who can go and who can't what I will say is I'm disgusted to find some people shot down for raiding their topic within this forum are we not supposed to be adults for my part it was not a personal attack on the social organiser simply my input . Think I may leave forums out .. Thank you to those who maintained positive and gave a balanced _iew .. Enjoy your social which I have no intention asking for an invite to

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

I put a thumbs up at the wrong comment - my apologies first off. Secondly, if anyone organises a social, small or large, at the end of the day it's up to them whether they choose to accept a request to attend. If people are blocked, it's generally because they have been rude, abusive, or a pest. You wouldn't want them at any social event in that case. If an organiser feels there could be an issue, as one obviously does, there is nothing wrong in considering the enjoyment of the others attending. If you know there could be a possible conflict, generally speaking, you will avoid it, not meet it head on!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just mean, a wee bit mutual respect helps. Dont in anyway assume, suddenly its cool to attend, why would you?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


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I thought we are not allowed to name is that a ban? I'm just learning how rules work "

You seem to know a lot about how the blocking system/social events work for someone just learning....Im impressed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I thought we are not allowed to name is that a ban? I'm just learning how rules work

You seem to know a lot about how the blocking system/social events work for someone just learning....Im impressed...

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Frantic scrolling back goin on ere,, Foe's been impressed by something!!!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


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To avoid a forum advertising a social open to all should state exceptions that way it's clear

If the organiser has blocked you...you not bloody invited...

Clear enough

Firstly I'm not bloody blocked as you so put secondly I've never been to a social sir know rules regarding who can go and who can't what I will say is I'm disgusted to find some people shot down for raiding their topic within this forum are we not supposed to be adults for my part it was not a personal attack on the social organiser simply my input . Think I may leave forums out .. Thank you to those who maintained positive and gave a balanced _iew .. Enjoy your social which I have no intention asking for an invite to "

Oh touchy!!!

You seem to have taken my use of "you" personally...

When in fact it was "you" in the general term....

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"

Frantic scrolling back goin on ere,, Foe's been impressed by something!!!"

Doesnt take much

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I'm a forgetfull kinda chap generally, but its uncanny, what i have a super knack of remembering, is why i get zee block, ya?

Therefore, i would both never dare to try to gloss over why im blocked, or twist arms, just for the sake of attending a social?? Seriously? Go to the pub, pictures, sit in, n watch a dvd tha nite or sumthin,,,"
Im sure many forget why u blocked them or why you blocked them some are just idiots who try to make out they don't know why they are blocked (and no I don't mean you).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

To avoid a forum advertising a social open to all should state exceptions that way it's clear

If the organiser has blocked you...you not bloody invited...

Clear enough

Firstly I'm not bloody blocked as you so put secondly I've never been to a social sir know rules regarding who can go and who can't what I will say is I'm disgusted to find some people shot down for raiding their topic within this forum are we not supposed to be adults for my part it was not a personal attack on the social organiser simply my input . Think I may leave forums out .. Thank you to those who maintained positive and gave a balanced _iew .. Enjoy your social which I have no intention asking for an invite to

Oh touchy!!!

You seem to have taken my use of "you" personally...

When in fact it was "you" in the general term....

"

No not in the slightest touchy .. Given you responded to my post I accept you meant me.. But nothing personal in this as I said despite my previous typo we are all adults

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


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No not in the slightest touchy .. Given you responded to my post I accept you meant me.. But nothing personal in this as I said despite my previous typo we are all adults "

I quoted you because you asked for clear exceptions...

I gave you 1 good reason as to why clear exceptions are not needed....

You took it personally....

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

I've read it all, there are some good points and some bad points.

As far as I can tell, it all comes down to one thing, if you take the time out of your busy personal life to organise a small/medium/large social and post on the forum so different people have the opportunity to meet up, do you then have the right, as the organiser, to say to anyone, sorry you can't come? Even if its for a personal reason?

Well, yes. I do think you have the right to say 'sorry but no' to whoever you like. The organisers use their valuable spare time to get these socials off the ground and to make them a success. Therefore, I think it's only right that they can say no to people that they feel MAY not be 100% compatible with what they are trying to achieve.

But I wouldn't take it personally. It happens in everyday life all of the time. People get turned away from nightclubs because of various reasons, too d*unk/wearing the wrong shoes/wearing the wrong clothes etc.

just smile sweetly, say ok, and get on with your life.

Or take some of the advice on this thread and organise your own social and invite who YOU want to invite

Who knows, you might have a fantastic time and be loved by all

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"I've read it all, there are some good points and some bad points.

As far as I can tell, it all comes down to one thing, if you take the time out of your busy personal life to organise a small/medium/large social and post on the forum so different people have the opportunity to meet up, do you then have the right, as the organiser, to say to anyone, sorry you can't come? Even if its for a personal reason?

Well, yes. I do think you have the right to say 'sorry but no' to whoever you like. The organisers use their valuable spare time to get these socials off the ground and to make them a success. Therefore, I think it's only right that they can say no to people that they feel MAY not be 100% compatible with what they are trying to achieve.

But I wouldn't take it personally. It happens in everyday life all of the time. People get turned away from nightclubs because of various reasons, too d*unk/wearing the wrong shoes/wearing the wrong clothes etc.

just smile sweetly, say ok, and get on with your life.

Or take some of the advice on this thread and organise your own social and invite who YOU want to invite

Who knows, you might have a fantastic time and be loved by all "

Well said.

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Oh, just for the record, yes I have organised a little social lunch for myself and a couple of fab friends and we had a great time and it was good to meet one of them as we had never met before - so yes, I have taken my own advice too lol

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By *eenonfun2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Just for the record, we have not been refused to attend a social - we were only asking as it is a topic that comes up when socials are advertised on the forums. If someone has blocked us, I would not willingly invite myself to their social.

However I'm sure we are on someone's blocked list for whatever reason; but if we are unaware of this; and if we asked to go to a social on the forum, how does the organiser go about this?

Do people know who have blocked them? Do you tell someone you are blocking them before you do?

I have blocked people who are rude, persistent in their relentless pursuit for a quick f*ck; but I have not necessarily told them I'm blocking them.

If I held a private party, I would invite who I wanted to invite, and I feel it should be the same for a social.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Dont see it as any diffrenr from having a drink wirh freinds end of the day its up to the organiser who attends if they dont like it create there own i wont attend socials where theres to many i dont luke or want to spend my time around why should an organiser have too??? And you dont "pay" to attend socials you make a contribution towards the cost of the venue and other things the organisers dont make anything and mostly put any residual towards a needy charity close to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you're organising a social you have to think of the respect and right to privacy that are paramount to people attending.A social I organised a couple of months ago was hijacked by a very new member who brought along some non fab members!!!I was not happy and quite a few folks attending were not happy either.I dealt with it as best I could.Makes me very wary of new single guys now but not really a reason for not letting them attend.But if the guy who brought his non fab mates asked to attend I would not let him come along!!!It does take time and a lot of effort to organise a social.Have a wee bit of respect for that and let them get on with it as they see fit!!It is for your safety and right to privacy.

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

Not got the inclination to read all the posts but social cliques are a plenty.

Id never want to be somewhere i wasnt welcome or i had issues with the organiser for whatever reason.

I base my life on being surrounded with happy vibes not folk who i have no inclination to be around anyway far less fuck them.

Usually you will find the im not going if there going attitude puting pressure on the organisers to make a choice thats usually when the no spaces left or added to reserve list line comes out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You wouldn't need to unblock. Socials advertised in an open forum, those on your block list can still see your posts in the forums.

Details are not given out in open forum....

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The initial interest for advertising a social is on the open forum. It's only the exact location that's not

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"You wouldn't need to unblock. Socials advertised in an open forum, those on your block list can still see your posts in the forums.

Details are not given out in open forum....

The initial interest for advertising a social is on the open forum. It's only the exact location that's not "

The exact location was the details I was talking about....

Its those kind of details you need to attend...so, if you dont get those details, you are not invited to attend

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"

If I held a private party, I would invite who I wanted to invite, and I feel it should be the same for a social.

"

Exactly!

Who you want to attend.....

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

It is the social/party/lunch organisers choice who attends and who doesnt. If someone has been refused/asked not to attend then I am sure there is a reason for it and nobody other than the organiser and that person(s) need to know!!!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Not got the inclination to read all the posts but social cliques are a plenty.

Id never want to be somewhere i wasnt welcome or i had issues with the organiser for whatever reason.

I base my life on being surrounded with happy vibes not folk who i have no inclination to be around anyway far less fuck them.

Usually you will find the im not going if there going attitude puting pressure on the organisers to make a choice thats usually when the no spaces left or added to reserve list line comes out. "
so true and aigin thats why I cant understand why anyone whos been blocked gets so upset that they cant attend because the organiser has blocked them for what ever reasons .

I personally do these socials to bring people together for a good time I would not want someone who ive had issues with there causing me to feel uncomfortable and also causing an atmosphere either.

With regards to people attending who I haven't blocked but that I know don't get on with others then yes I would have a word with both ]arties beforehand telling them that I don't want any issues aired at the social and if that's likely to happen then please stay away .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a little confused, i thought socials were on a first to pay gets a place.......no one has to be invited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think this thread sadly highlights the fundamental problem with fab.

in the early days noone really knew each other hence socials were fresh/exciting and generally a ball.

As things progress petty jealousies/bitterness/hatred of others began to seep into the system and the socials lost a lot of their appeal.

people should really look at their own behaviour/morals before trying to judge others.

Im off to chill out now xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I'm a little confused, i thought socials were on a first to pay gets a place.......no one has to be invited "
No one has ever been invited to any of mine its posted in the forums for anyone to add their names to if they wish to attend.

Except those on my block list .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a little confused, i thought socials were on a first to pay gets a place.......no one has to be invited "
with some socials yes others are very selective

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think this thread sadly highlights the fundamental problem with fab.

in the early days noone really knew each other hence socials were fresh/exciting and generally a ball.

As things progress petty jealousies/bitterness/hatred of others began to seep into the system and the socials lost a lot of their appeal.

people should really look at their own behaviour/morals before trying to judge others.

Im off to chill out now xx"

I agree mafc........plus too many were being attempted. I preferred personally a few trusted members to do 2 or 3 a year, that way they were a big event and something to look forward to, now tom, dick and harry are doing them or trying lol. Jacs and hoops run amazing socials xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a little confused, i thought socials were on a first to pay gets a place.......no one has to be invited No one has ever been invited to any of mine its posted in the forums for anyone to add their names to if they wish to attend.

Except those on my block list ."

Jacs, keep doing what your doing as it works for the majority xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"i think this thread sadly highlights the fundamental problem with fab.

in the early days noone really knew each other hence socials were fresh/exciting and generally a ball.

As things progress petty jealousies/bitterness/hatred of others began to seep into the system and the socials lost a lot of their appeal.

people should really look at their own behaviour/morals before trying to judge others.

Im off to chill out now xx

I agree mafc........plus too many were being attempted. I preferred personally a few trusted members to do 2 or 3 a year, that way they were a big event and something to look forward to, now tom, dick and harry are doing them or trying lol. Jacs and hoops run amazing socials xx"
Much appreciated Taj thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a little confused, i thought socials were on a first to pay gets a place.......no one has to be invited with some socials yes others are very selective "

Haha is that then not just invite people you want to fuck rather than a social xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a little confused, i thought socials were on a first to pay gets a place.......no one has to be invited with some socials yes others are very selective

Haha is that then not just invite people you want to fuck rather than a social xx"
oh yes and its common knowledge to some of us on site , but hey ho each to their own if this is how they get their fucks then good for them , I could start and name a few things that have been said about some over the years but naming and shaming is not allowed.

On this note im out

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

I'm not quite sure why so many mankinis/knickers/boxers/briefs/French knickers/g-stings are getting in a twist this morning

If you go, you go. If you don't, you don't. If you don't like it, organise your own event. It's not difficult.

What's the point of moaning about it? Just get on with your life and do what you want, when you want and with who you want.

And don't forget to smile when you do it

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I'm not quite sure why so many mankinis/knickers/boxers/briefs/French knickers/g-stings are getting in a twist this morning

If you go, you go. If you don't, you don't. If you don't like it, organise your own event. It's not difficult.

What's the point of moaning about it? Just get on with your life and do what you want, when you want and with who you want.

And don't forget to smile when you do it "

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

I'd just like to be able to get to some of the socials just now, but because of work, find it almost impossible. I always had a great laugh at DM's and Katie's socials and hope to have many more in the future - when I can get the bloody time off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would just like to be back in the country to at least to be able to get to one.

I think that would be a great step for us.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I'd just like to be able to get to some of the socials just now, but because of work, find it almost impossible. I always had a great laugh at DM's and Katie's socials and hope to have many more in the future - when I can get the bloody time off! "
Im keeping a place for you just say when lol

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"I'd just like to be able to get to some of the socials just now, but because of work, find it almost impossible. I always had a great laugh at DM's and Katie's socials and hope to have many more in the future - when I can get the bloody time off! Im keeping a place for you just say when lol "

Nice one. Won't manage the Christmas one as I won't get time off that near the festive season. It gets silly in the shop at that time of year! xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I'd just like to be able to get to some of the socials just now, but because of work, find it almost impossible. I always had a great laugh at DM's and Katie's socials and hope to have many more in the future - when I can get the bloody time off! Im keeping a place for you just say when lol

Nice one. Won't manage the Christmas one as I won't get time off that near the festive season. It gets silly in the shop at that time of year! xx"
Maybe next one then dess xxx

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"I'd just like to be able to get to some of the socials just now, but because of work, find it almost impossible. I always had a great laugh at DM's and Katie's socials and hope to have many more in the future - when I can get the bloody time off! Im keeping a place for you just say when lol

Nice one. Won't manage the Christmas one as I won't get time off that near the festive season. It gets silly in the shop at that time of year! xxMaybe next one then dess xxx "

Fingers crossed. xxx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I'd just like to be able to get to some of the socials just now, but because of work, find it almost impossible. I always had a great laugh at DM's and Katie's socials and hope to have many more in the future - when I can get the bloody time off! Im keeping a place for you just say when lol

Nice one. Won't manage the Christmas one as I won't get time off that near the festive season. It gets silly in the shop at that time of year! xxMaybe next one then dess xxx

Fingers crossed. xxx"
Unless I block u before then lmao

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"I'd just like to be able to get to some of the socials just now, but because of work, find it almost impossible. I always had a great laugh at DM's and Katie's socials and hope to have many more in the future - when I can get the bloody time off! Im keeping a place for you just say when lol

Nice one. Won't manage the Christmas one as I won't get time off that near the festive season. It gets silly in the shop at that time of year! xxMaybe next one then dess xxx

Fingers crossed. xxxUnless I block u before then lmao "

PMSL!!! Stop that!

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"We would just like to be back in the country to at least to be able to get to one.

I think that would be a great step for us. "

Well, that would be a start! Lol

Tell Ian to get himself shifted lol

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"I'd just like to be able to get to some of the socials just now, but because of work, find it almost impossible. I always had a great laugh at DM's and Katie's socials and hope to have many more in the future - when I can get the bloody time off! Im keeping a place for you just say when lol

Nice one. Won't manage the Christmas one as I won't get time off that near the festive season. It gets silly in the shop at that time of year! xxMaybe next one then dess xxx

Fingers crossed. xxxUnless I block u before then lmao

PMSL!!! Stop that!"

Don't worry dess, I won't block you lol

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"I'd just like to be able to get to some of the socials just now, but because of work, find it almost impossible. I always had a great laugh at DM's and Katie's socials and hope to have many more in the future - when I can get the bloody time off! Im keeping a place for you just say when lol

Nice one. Won't manage the Christmas one as I won't get time off that near the festive season. It gets silly in the shop at that time of year! xxMaybe next one then dess xxx

Fingers crossed. xxxUnless I block u before then lmao

PMSL!!! Stop that!

Don't worry dess, I won't block you lol "

Thank you. You know what that Jacs is like. She blocks at the drop of a hat don't you know!

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"I'd just like to be able to get to some of the socials just now, but because of work, find it almost impossible. I always had a great laugh at DM's and Katie's socials and hope to have many more in the future - when I can get the bloody time off! Im keeping a place for you just say when lol

Nice one. Won't manage the Christmas one as I won't get time off that near the festive season. It gets silly in the shop at that time of year! xxMaybe next one then dess xxx

Fingers crossed. xxxUnless I block u before then lmao

PMSL!!! Stop that!

Don't worry dess, I won't block you lol

Thank you. You know what that Jacs is like. She blocks at the drop of a hat don't you know! "

Brus worse - he blocks himself lmao

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I'd just like to be able to get to some of the socials just now, but because of work, find it almost impossible. I always had a great laugh at DM's and Katie's socials and hope to have many more in the future - when I can get the bloody time off! Im keeping a place for you just say when lol

Nice one. Won't manage the Christmas one as I won't get time off that near the festive season. It gets silly in the shop at that time of year! xxMaybe next one then dess xxx

Fingers crossed. xxxUnless I block u before then lmao

PMSL!!! Stop that!

Don't worry dess, I won't block you lol

Thank you. You know what that Jacs is like. She blocks at the drop of a hat don't you know! "
Yut sometimes my finger just accidently slips lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a little confused, i thought socials were on a first to pay gets a place.......no one has to be invited No one has ever been invited to any of mine its posted in the forums for anyone to add their names to if they wish to attend.

Except those on my block list ."

what a crux,im on your block list,never even chatted,so wat you mean,if you on friends block list your blocked.stick your social,cos in mcflys song "its all about you"

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I'm a little confused, i thought socials were on a first to pay gets a place.......no one has to be invited No one has ever been invited to any of mine its posted in the forums for anyone to add their names to if they wish to attend.

Except those on my block list .

what a crux,im on your block list,never even chatted,so wat you mean,if you on friends block list your blocked.stick your social,cos in mcflys song "its all about you""
And this is my point exactly people

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so you block friends of people in your block list?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Look im not here to justify myself to no one my block this is personal to me same as urs is personal to you I don't question yours so please don't question mine .

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