FabSwingers.com forum: Is Romance Dead?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do gents or ladys do the big gesture any more in the real world or indeed in fab world?

What's the most romantic thing you've done or done for someone?

Is it the little things a person does or the big gesture that you find more romantic?

For me I would say a bubble bath, glass of wine and strawberries, with soft lighting and relaxing music would make me a happy camper. Yet to have that though...

I've cooked a lovely meal for someone, and did the music etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent a fortune on drink and food at Corinthians and Hadrians Brasserie. Was it worth it? Yes. Romantic... I would say so. Not had the luxury of enjoying a nice candle lit bath, or those sorts of things

one day perhaps.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Do gents or ladys do the big gesture any more in the real world or indeed in fab world?

What's the most romantic thing you've done or done for someone?

Is it the little things a person does or the big gesture that you find more romantic?

For me I would say a bubble bath, glass of wine and strawberries, with soft lighting and relaxing music would make me a happy camper. Yet to have that though...

I've cooked a lovely meal for someone, and did the music etc."
I prefer giving than receiving altho a nice surprise is always welcome .

Ive been surprised not so much in a romantic way the past few months on here by someone but in a really nice way in that they listen to things I say and act on it which has been lovely .

cant say what yet but im doing a nice thing for someone as a thank you for something they done for me recently just hope they like it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont expect nor want romance on fab

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By *he Enigmatic MagnetMan
over a year ago

Glasgow West

I always clean round the bowl after a pee, and put the seat down.

If that doesn't tug the heart strings, ladies, I don't know what will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the most romantic thing you've done or done for someone?

I slept on the damp patch once.

A man can't get anymore romantic than that.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

What's the most romantic thing you've done or done for someone?

I slept on the damp patch once.

A man can't get anymore romantic than that."
now that is romantic cause I always end up on the wet patch lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always pays to make an effort. my ex was really into strictly come dancing n all that melarky so booked the two of us on a mini break for a weekend learning ballroom dancing. she hadn't a clue about it until we got there n she realised what it was all about, to my surprise I really quite enjoyed it but more importantly she was so ecstatic about the whole experience she went the extra mile in other ways and made it a bloody great weekend for me too in other ways. give and you shall receive as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do gents or ladys do the big gesture any more in the real world or indeed in fab world?

What's the most romantic thing you've done or done for someone?

Is it the little things a person does or the big gesture that you find more romantic?

For me I would say a bubble bath, glass of wine and strawberries, with soft lighting and relaxing music would make me a happy camper. Yet to have that though...

I've cooked a lovely meal for someone, and did the music etc."
definitely still goes on , from single red roses to meals being cooked , massage and candles and lots lots more ....

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By *ifes journeyCouple
over a year ago

scotland

Romance and swinging don't go together....

In a vanilla relationship yes.....not a swinging one.....

For me anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not romantic, but more just a lovely heart warming gesture i got a few months ago. Took a friend to a concert, someone we both love listening to.

A few days later, a lovely thank you card through the door, totally unexpected and so thoughtfull, big daft smile on my face for ages etc.

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By *amaraBeaverbankWoman
over a year ago

Benidorm Spain

I love a bit of romance. I sort of agree that swinging and romance shouldn't necessarily go together but if its a regular fb then it can still be good.

No judgement on those who don't enjoy it as everyone likes different things. In fact my mood dictates how I want things to be sexually as much as anything else and sometimes it's just as nice to be seduced as it is to be thrown down and given it hard and fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes , it's as dead as Frankenstein and his bride or Dracula and his many brides !

Always a nice gesture when the guy sleeps on the wet patch tho - so maybe in some ways it's not dead !

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I love a bit of romance. I sort of agree that swinging and romance shouldn't necessarily go together but if its a regular fb then it can still be good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course its alive mads just got me a morgans n , surely thats romance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course its alive mads just got me a morgans n , surely thats romance

Maybe...but holding back your hair while you puke surely is more romantic??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do gents or ladys do the big gesture any more in the real world or indeed in fab world?

What's the most romantic thing you've done or done for someone?

Is it the little things a person does or the big gesture that you find more romantic?

For me I would say a bubble bath, glass of wine and strawberries, with soft lighting and relaxing music would make me a happy camper. Yet to have that though...

I've cooked a lovely meal for someone, and did the music etc."

It seems to be a womans option on fab, in terms of opting to be,either play it swingingly or do the romantic thing with a fav meet. Guys tend to not have that choice, your regarded as a swinging meet, a bit of fun, which is cool, thats swinging after all.Yer either brave or daft to try the woo her, romance her thing, because it tends to either be appreciated or gets her running a mile away from you in a very short space of time, never to see her again!!

Over the last few years i've met some lovely solo women on here who have gone on to be either, in a serious relationship, or even became married.

Could i of been that serious partner to them? No. I'm a swinger, chose the swinging life years ago, but im also human and i miss not seeing them, being able to see them certainly.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

No one can control emotions and I'm sure a fair few singles on here wouldn't knock some romance if it came along here good luck to them xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Romance is never dead just goes dormant from time to time

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I'm certainly not looking for romance but I don't think I treat my meets like just " meets" ... If that makes sense

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Lucky to get them to turn up and have condoms, never mind romancing...

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By *he Enigmatic MagnetMan
over a year ago

Glasgow West

Romance isn't dead, it's critical in intensive care, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dahling i shall luv thee for,,eva (well untill yir oot the hoose then im gonna have a browse on fab)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My lady finished night shift this morning then came home and woke me with a lovely blt a coffee and a kiss.

ment the world to me.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"My lady finished night shift this morning then came home and woke me with a lovely blt a coffee and a kiss.

ment the world to me.

Its simple gestures like this that do me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always offer whoever I'm with their usual side of the bed I think that's romantic lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"always pays to make an effort. my ex was really into strictly come dancing n all that melarky so booked the two of us on a mini break for a weekend learning ballroom dancing. she hadn't a clue about it until we got there n she realised what it was all about, to my surprise I really quite enjoyed it but more importantly she was so ecstatic about the whole experience she went the extra mile in other ways and made it a bloody great weekend for me too in other ways. give and you shall receive as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sort of thread highlights how swinging is different things to different people, imho. And how different people use this site in different ways.

I've done what I would regard as basic one-off swinging meets which are fine, with little more than sex on the menu. But I don't see treating a lady as a lady, and providing some 'extras', necessarily co-relates with disappearing off into the sunset with her!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not just talking about in swinging world... In general too. People lead busy lives, do they actually still have time for romance?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Got a last rolo here ........................well got a multipack of last rolos actually !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ooo you smoothie you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not just talking about in swinging world... In general too. People lead busy lives, do they actually still have time for romance?"
Romance will never die. Even in a place like this were romance takes second place to sex. But just look around and you will see romance is still going strong all over this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it is dead. C has been away for 2 weeks with work, and still has managed little texts and phone calls to brighten my day. So when I see him properly at the weekend, when we both have a clear non work day, I'm sure he will have something special lined up for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Got a last rolo here ........................well got a multipack of last rolos actually !!!!! "
mmmmmmmm how lucky a girl am i

can you feed me them too please ????

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Got a last rolo here ........................well got a multipack of last rolos actually !!!!! mmmmmmmm how lucky a girl am i

can you feed me them too please ????

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Of course would you like them melted on me or you ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my other half, always lets me go to the loo before him. then when he's finished opens the window, sprays some air freshener and closes the bathroom door.

if thats not romance....i dont know what is..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Got a last rolo here ........................well got a multipack of last rolos actually !!!!! mmmmmmmm how lucky a girl am i

can you feed me them too please ????

Of course would you like them melted on me or you ?????

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ermmmmmmmmm .....tell you what why dont i just show you

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do gents or ladys do the big gesture any more in the real world or indeed in fab world?

What's the most romantic thing you've done or done for someone?

Is it the little things a person does or the big gesture that you find more romantic?

For me I would say a bubble bath, glass of wine and strawberries, with soft lighting and relaxing music would make me a happy camper. Yet to have that though...

I've cooked a lovely meal for someone, and did the music etc."

I don't think its dead but do you really need it on a swingers site???

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By *aucy MikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Mike and I have fun on here but that's exactly what it is, fun. What we have together is totally different and we do lots of what we see as romantic things for each other. He brings me breakfast in bed which he's cooked while I "recover", lol. I buy a wee foodie goodie bag of his fav things if we're going to be apart, he brings me flowers ... When he was away studying he'd called me after I'd texted I'd had a crap day and needed a hug to ask if I still needed a hug. When I said yes he said open the door then. He was standing there with a bunch of my favourite flowers

So romance is def alive and well, at least with us. Sx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do gents or ladys do the big gesture any more in the real world or indeed in fab world?

What's the most romantic thing you've done or done for someone?

Is it the little things a person does or the big gesture that you find more romantic?

For me I would say a bubble bath, glass of wine and strawberries, with soft lighting and relaxing music would make me a happy camper. Yet to have that though...

I've cooked a lovely meal for someone, and did the music etc.

I don't think its dead but do you really need it on a swingers site???"

Wasn't talking about just on here if you had read my other posts. And yes sometimes a bit of fake romance on here can be nice. Especially if you are having a crap time. Someone saying you look lovely and then pouring you wine and feeding you strawberries can make you feel a shitload better. Doesn't mean you want to run off into the sunset with them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Always a nice gesture when the guy sleeps on the wet patch tho - so maybe in some ways it's not dead !

I don't sleep on the wet patch, so I guess I must be totally unromantic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want my cake and i want to eat it too, i want to have fun and be in love with you".

Just song lyrics, if it works for people, good luck to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""I want my cake and i want to eat it too, i want to have fun and be in love with you".

Just song lyrics, if it works for people, good luck to them.

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What song is that. We not talking about love. And to shag someone you got to have some feeling for them, even if it just lust. To treat a lady nice has nothing to do with love in my book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty sure nobody has "got to" anything.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

" And to shag someone you got to have some feeling for them, even if it just lust"

No you dont

Have had plenty of fun with guys I have NO feelings for whatsoever....sure as hell wasnt lust....it was FUN

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" To treat a lady nice has nothing to do with love in my book "

Agree 100%!

It's only my humble opinion, but I think a lot of people on here get very confused with regard to love, romance, emotions, committment, NSA, etc.

Personally, my basic attitude towards a lady would be the same whether it was a first meet or we were approaching the 1st anniversary of that 1st meet, having met a number of times during that year.

It costs nothing to be nice and respectful. Here endeth the first lesson!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not confused about it in any way...but i've seen plenty who get way wrong ideas just via being treated nicely never mind romanticaly.

He's needy and she's flattered...that kinda leathal mix.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Romance is based on your own interpretation of it.....

Guy shows up with flowers/wine....

Guy shows up with a small cuddly animal on a key ring (animal that I collect)..

Which one made me say "Awwwwwwww...ty"..?

Not romantic, but the closest thing to it from someone never met before....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which animal ? Got myself a daffy duck keyring last week.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

A pig.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my ex's dad was a violent d*unk and when she was wee he through her fav snow globe at her n it smashed ,, she told me this when we first started seeing each other ,, was about a year after nearing valintines n id tracked down the snow globe she had as a child , she totally crumbled into tears when i gave it to her . saying "i cant believe you remembered now one has ever been so good to me. was with her for 3 years after that lol ha then she cheated on me with her ex so couldnt of ment that much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Romance?

What is that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not confused about it in any way...but i've seen plenty who get way wrong ideas just via being treated nicely never mind romanticaly.

He's needy and she's flattered...that kinda leathal mix."
I agree with you on that one.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Romance is maybe not dead, but I am damn well trying to club the bastard into submission

I don't do romance or stupid gestures. I'd far rather someone listened and paid heed to what I say, and treated me nicely than did the whole "romantic" stuff.

I've had both ends of the spectrum - the really romantic guy, flowers, chocolates, big gestures, all fur coat and no knickers tho, as when it came to the things that actually mattered me to me - he was clueless... and now the guy I'm seeing just now - who like me is about as romantic as a kick in the nuts, but we get each other, and understand where the other is coming from, and just click on a different level all together. I know which I would choose.

To me romance isn't dead... but I'm pushing on the pillow to smother the bugger!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its alive and well and snogging in my front room!!! And when.they stop for breath they feed each other jelly babies!!!! Awe...bless their little frayed lips!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Romance?

What is that?"

That thing... You know... Makes you feel good inside and the other person feel better? Or is that your pulling technique?

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