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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I joined this site many years ago to broaden my sexual experiences . I've returned after a wee break and am aghast at some of the opinions expressed in the forums I've just read. There seems to be a huge amount of singles meeting other singles for "meaningful" (read vanilla) sex. This is reflected in the messages I get too. What happened to liberal, open minded swingers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It still here I think Just need to look babe xxx how's about a shag then pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I joined this site many years ago to broaden my sexual experiences . I've returned after a wee break and am aghast at some of the opinions expressed in the forums I've just read. There seems to be a huge amount of singles meeting other singles for "meaningful" (read vanilla) sex. This is reflected in the messages I get too. What happened to liberal, open minded swingers? "

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

As one of the people you are speaking of i can say been on site ages played with many and enjoyed me and the person i am with have decided to enjoy each others company and let our relationship strengthen as time goes on we will make a decision as to whether we want to continue in this for the most part we were both disenamoured with fab as to many silly adolescent types have joined recently (6 to 8 month period) perhaps if the site was more like it was 2 yrs ago things would be diffrent

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Also who said vanilla sex

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I think everyone goes throught wee phases on fab where they are attending every party invite they get and having fun with multiple partners,then some just decide been there done that and are quite happy just to meet 121 with a select few or even just one partner .

There is no right or wrong about it its all about choices and who knows those only doing 121 meets might one day decide I was having more fun doing multiple meets and get back to doing that .

As long as everyones happy doing what they want it shouldn't really matter as there are loads out there still swinging as most see swinging should be just relax and enjoy what your doing and don't worry what everyone else is doing

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"I joined this site many years ago to broaden my sexual experiences . I've returned after a wee break and am aghast at some of the opinions expressed in the forums I've just read. There seems to be a huge amount of singles meeting other singles for "meaningful" (read vanilla) sex. This is reflected in the messages I get too. What happened to liberal, open minded swingers? "

well it's up to everyone what they want to do but for me I like a bit of variety

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

If i was concentrating on a relationship fab would be the last place i visited.

Lost count how many fuck buddies have teamed up and proclaimed their commitment on profiles only for the user no longer on site to appear be it a week, month or few months later when they get bored and start fucking around on here.

User no longer on site always makes me shake head and think it was doomed from the start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been in relationships then after the usual drama, pain and heartache that comes with them i did as lots do, thought i'd give this swinging thing a try. It made perfect sense to me, it might be fun, may be exciting, with no strings etc, surely it could only be fun!

Was a slow start, months before i actually found myself in a situation i certainly imagined could only be erotic and exciting, joined a couple for fun.

Over the years enjoyed various swinging meets.

I'm keeping faith that one day all that will return. Currently somethings not quite right and a contributing factor im quite sure is as the OP has pointed out. I get various lovely assumptions fired at me,"insta-shag",,"every holes a goal" type, just a swinger on a swingers site,as i always have been, that outlooks never changed yet attitudes have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been in relationships then after the usual drama, pain and heartache that comes with them i did as lots do, thought i'd give this swinging thing a try. It made perfect sense to me, it might be fun, may be exciting, with no strings etc, surely it could only be fun!

Was a slow start, months before i actually found myself in a situation i certainly imagined could only be erotic and exciting, joined a couple for fun.

Over the years enjoyed various swinging meets.

I'm keeping faith that one day all that will return. Currently somethings not quite right and a contributing factor im quite sure is as the OP has pointed out. I get various lovely assumptions fired at me,"insta-shag",,"every holes a goal" type, just a swinger on a swingers site,as i always have been, that outlooks never changed yet attitudes have?"
But that your world of swinging It about freedom to pick what you want Not just join in with the gang Just be your self here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been in relationships then after the usual drama, pain and heartache that comes with them i did as lots do, thought i'd give this swinging thing a try. It made perfect sense to me, it might be fun, may be exciting, with no strings etc, surely it could only be fun!

Was a slow start, months before i actually found myself in a situation i certainly imagined could only be erotic and exciting, joined a couple for fun.

Over the years enjoyed various swinging meets.

I'm keeping faith that one day all that will return. Currently somethings not quite right and a contributing factor im quite sure is as the OP has pointed out. I get various lovely assumptions fired at me,"insta-shag",,"every holes a goal" type, just a swinger on a swingers site,as i always have been, that outlooks never changed yet attitudes have? But that your world of swinging It about freedom to pick what you want Not just join in with the gang Just be your self here "
Gang? Im pretty much independant with all things swinging, from meets, to opinions on forums,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been in relationships then after the usual drama, pain and heartache that comes with them i did as lots do, thought i'd give this swinging thing a try. It made perfect sense to me, it might be fun, may be exciting, with no strings etc, surely it could only be fun!

Was a slow start, months before i actually found myself in a situation i certainly imagined could only be erotic and exciting, joined a couple for fun.

Over the years enjoyed various swinging meets.

I'm keeping faith that one day all that will return. Currently somethings not quite right and a contributing factor im quite sure is as the OP has pointed out. I get various lovely assumptions fired at me,"insta-shag",,"every holes a goal" type, just a swinger on a swingers site,as i always have been, that outlooks never changed yet attitudes have? But that your world of swinging It about freedom to pick what you want Not just join in with the gang Just be your self here Gang? Im pretty much independant with all things swinging, fyrom meets, to opinions on forums,"
Why have you always got to play with words It not smart ,you know nothing about me I put my hand out to you more then once Yet you always want to cut it off Why ?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"If i was concentrating on a relationship fab would be the last place i visited.

Lost count how many fuck buddies have teamed up and proclaimed their commitment on profiles only for the user no longer on site to appear be it a week, month or few months later when they get bored and start fucking around on here.

User no longer on site always makes me shake head and think it was doomed from the start.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been in relationships then after the usual drama, pain and heartache that comes with them i did as lots do, thought i'd give this swinging thing a try. It made perfect sense to me, it might be fun, may be exciting, with no strings etc, surely it could only be fun!

Was a slow start, months before i actually found myself in a situation i certainly imagined could only be erotic and exciting, joined a couple for fun.

Over the years enjoyed various swinging meets.

I'm keeping faith that one day all that will return. Currently somethings not quite right and a contributing factor im quite sure is as the OP has pointed out. I get various lovely assumptions fired at me,"insta-shag",,"every holes a goal" type, just a swinger on a swingers site,as i always have been, that outlooks never changed yet attitudes have? But that your world of swinging It about freedom to pick what you want Not just join in with the gang Just be your self here Gang? Im pretty much independant with all things swinging, fyrom meets, to opinions on forums, Why have you always got to play with words It not smart ,you know nothing about me I put my hand out to you more then once Yet you always want to cut it off Why ?

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I can agree that sometimes on the fotums there can be a gang mentality and not in a positive way. Just reading through them is like watching play school bullies. no matter what people say about using this site the way individuals want it has got the word swingers in there. not fab fuck buddies, not fab casual sex, not fab dating, not fab cheaters and certainly not fab sexual hierarchy judgementalists. phew rant over

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

.....and relax lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"If i was concentrating on a relationship fab would be the last place i visited.

Lost count how many fuck buddies have teamed up and proclaimed their commitment on profiles only for the user no longer on site to appear be it a week, month or few months later when they get bored and start fucking around on here.

User no longer on site always makes me shake head and think it was doomed from the start.

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I do agree and for some its someone new every other month youd think thy would learn to be a little more discrete until they know for sure things are going to work out but if it makes them happy for a short time then no harm done

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian


"I do agree and for some its someone new every other month youd think thy would learn to be a little more discrete until they know for sure things are going to work out but if it makes them happy for a short time then no harm done "

I just fail to see why any announcement of any kind is required at all.

It just sets you up for a very big fall when things get messy, folks take sides and each party moves on to another fuck and does the same all over again.

Want a relationship in the true manner then build that first off site once you have a foundation and some direction come back into it by all means.

by foundation i'm not talking weeks more a year or so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been on Fab for several years now, it's obvious that swinging is different things to different people.

A wide range of types and preferences can be found and experienced here, so surely it's up to individuals to decide what they want and to go and find it?

Relationships is a subject which is regularly aired in the forums, but I do smile, even laugh, when people scorn those who 'couple up' and then some time later 'uncouple'.

Why scorn? If 2 people find a mutual attraction, it runs for so long, then they decide to go their separate ways, surely it's their business and nobody elses?

So lets carry on doing whatever suits each of us as individuals.

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian


"If 2 people find a mutual attraction, it runs for so long, then they decide to go their separate ways, surely it's their business and nobody elses?"

That being the case why proclaim it on profiles to the whole world ?

Simple reason is they want folk to know about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As one of the people you are speaking of i can say been on site ages played with many and enjoyed me and the person i am with have decided to enjoy each others company and let our relationship strengthen as time goes on we will make a decision as to whether we want to continue in this for the most part we were both disenamoured with fab as to many silly adolescent types have joined recently (6 to 8 month period) perhaps if the site was more like it was 2 yrs ago things would be diffrent "

as a romantic at heart I think it's lovely when people do meet from here (I've done it myself in the past) however I'm not on fab to have meaningful sex with men on a one to one basis with dinner and flowers but it seems there are plenty who are and I just find this s strange and new phenomenon for a "swingers" site. Is it only me? happy to stand corrected if it is x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

....and it used to be the case that there were too many single guys just wanting a quick shag - imo that's not swinging either.

There's just no pleasing some people eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been on Fab for several years now, it's obvious that swinging is different things to different people.

A wide range of types and preferences can be found and experienced here, so surely it's up to individuals to decide what they want and to go and find it?

Relationships is a subject which is regularly aired in the forums, but I do smile, even laugh, when people scorn those who 'couple up' and then some time later 'uncouple'.

Why scorn? If 2 people find a mutual attraction, it runs for so long, then they decide to go their separate ways, surely it's their business and nobody elses?

So lets carry on doing whatever suits each of us as individuals. "
Great post

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Perhaps to try and stop the shitty msgs from folk that are of no intrest anymore if you dont like dont look profiles are for information not all of which is how and who you would like to fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been on Fab for several years now, it's obvious that swinging is different things to different people.

A wide range of types and preferences can be found and experienced here, so surely it's up to individuals to decide what they want and to go and find it?

Relationships is a subject which is regularly aired in the forums, but I do smile, even laugh, when people scorn those who 'couple up' and then some time later 'uncouple'.

Why scorn? If 2 people find a mutual attraction, it runs for so long, then they decide to go their separate ways, surely it's their business and nobody elses?

So lets carry on doing whatever suits each of us as individuals. Great post "

Ive heard it said many times before that FAB is different for every individual and that they take from the experience what they wish ...and rightly so. But if two people form a special bond that is meaningful to them through the site then to me thats an amazing bonus. As i have already said this week...each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been on here for a few months only met folk v social

but not as 1v1 as yet

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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

The saying[to each their own] comes to mind here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know this is a swingers site but I don't see myself as one. I use the site to meet new people as I struggle in the 'real' world. I only meet single males or females who usually become regulars and have no intention of being a third party in a couples fantasy, it's not for me. I'm one of those people who sees the site as a 'fuck' site and it's so much easier to meet people with the same dirty mind as me then waste time going out on the pull

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know this is a swingers site but I don't see myself as one. I use the site to meet new people as I struggle in the 'real' world. I only meet single males or females who usually become regulars and have no intention of being a third party in a couples fantasy, it's not for me. I'm one of those people who sees the site as a 'fuck' site and it's so much easier to meet people with the same dirty mind as me then waste time going out on the pull "

so I'm going to get some haters here but its not a fuck site uts a swingers site lol my piont exactly. The site has been hijacked and people who come for swinging seem to be in the minority. I'm all for each to their own but I would go into B&Q looking for a 3 course meal!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this is a swingers site but I don't see myself as one. I use the site to meet new people as I struggle in the 'real' world. I only meet single males or females who usually become regulars and have no intention of being a third party in a couples fantasy, it's not for me. I'm one of those people who sees the site as a 'fuck' site and it's so much easier to meet people with the same dirty mind as me then waste time going out on the pull

so I'm going to get some haters here but its not a fuck site uts a swingers site lol my piont exactly. The site has been hijacked and people who come for swinging seem to be in the minority. I'm all for each to their own but I would go into B&Q looking for a 3 course meal!!"

Yup I agree it's not, as I said I don't call myself a swinger but I don't find any other site as good as this and I'll use it as I please, if someone comes to me and says its against the rules then I'll leave, for now I'll continue to be a wee dirty

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian


"Perhaps to try and stop the shitty msgs from folk that are of no intrest anymore if you dont like dont look profiles are for information not all of which is how and who you would like to fuck "

Surely just hide profile apply filters and pals can still message then live happily ever after.

Can't blame folk for daring to look at a profile on a swinging site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this is a swingers site but I don't see myself as one. I use the site to meet new people as I struggle in the 'real' world. I only meet single males or females who usually become regulars and have no intention of being a third party in a couples fantasy, it's not for me. I'm one of those people who sees the site as a 'fuck' site and it's so much easier to meet people with the same dirty mind as me then waste time going out on the pull "

Its refreshing that you're so honest, one of the best qualities in a person, we may make a swinger of you yet! Lol!

The site is over run with casual sex seekers, this shouldn't be an issue for swingers, but it does take time to le out the liars, but I do appreciate those that are straight about what they want!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably in the minority here. I see myself as a swinger as I enjoy the social side of things too. Being friends and getting to know the people means that the sex gets better but there are some people who only want one offs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know this is a swingers site but I don't see myself as one. I use the site to meet new people as I struggle in the 'real' world. I only meet single males or females who usually become regulars and have no intention of being a third party in a couples fantasy, it's not for me. I'm one of those people who sees the site as a 'fuck' site and it's so much easier to meet people with the same dirty mind as me then waste time going out on the pull

Its refreshing that you're so honest, one of the best qualities in a person, we may make a swinger of you yet! Lol!

The site is over run with casual sex seekers, this shouldn't be an issue for swingers, but it does take time to le out the liars, but I do appreciate those that are straight about what they want! "

Thank you. I never lie, I'm very open about what I want and who I want. I find it pointless to lie as it wastes my time and others. I must admit since joining the site I have come to realise the social side of swinging and I enjoy that, so I'll just call myself a swinger in training?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Perhaps to try and stop the shitty msgs from folk that are of no intrest anymore if you dont like dont look profiles are for information not all of which is how and who you would like to fuck

Surely just hide profile apply filters and pals can still message then live happily ever after.

Can't blame folk for daring to look at a profile on a swinging site "
why hide ?? And whos blaming anyone for looking, some people like to be viewed but when the Profiles states. not intrested in any new meets and you still get them banging away with the msgs. this smacks of the problem on site for the past while. to many assholes have joined and as its the norm now they aint leaving anymore

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Does anyone really give a shit how OTHERS use the site??

Never let it get in the way of my/our fun.....

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian


"Does anyone really give a shit how OTHERS use the site??

Never let it get in the way of my/our fun..... "

That views been expressed on numerous occasions folk all agree then as night follows day it all kicks off again lol, better than fuck the one above though

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Does anyone really give a shit how OTHERS use the site??

Never let it get in the way of my/our fun.....

That views been expressed on numerous occasions folk all agree then as night follows day it all kicks off again lol, better than fuck the one above though "

Fuck

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Oh and I'm with foe on this

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


" better than fuck the one above though "

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

I'll fuck the 2 of yea's if foe promises to play nice for once

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Fuck off.....

I always play nice

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian


"Fuck off.....

I always play nice "

That's a good girl now suck my cock and shurup for once, wake me up when yir finished

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

How can you sleep with all your moaning and complaining that im just not doing it right!!!

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian


"How can you sleep with all your moaning and complaining that im just not doing it right!!! "

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do agree and for some its someone new every other month youd think thy would learn to be a little more discrete until they know for sure things are going to work out but if it makes them happy for a short time then no harm done

I just fail to see why any announcement of any kind is required at all.

It just sets you up for a very big fall when things get messy, folks take sides and each party moves on to another fuck and does the same all over again.

Want a relationship in the true manner then build that first off site once you have a foundation and some direction come back into it by all means.

by foundation i'm not talking weeks more a year or so. "

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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

Use the site what ever way u want to.Be respectful of others feelings allways show respect and just go with the flow what ever way u want toThats my Mantra

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think everyone goes throught wee phases on fab where they are attending every party invite they get and having fun with multiple partners,then some just decide been there done that and are quite happy just to meet 121 with a select few or even just one partner .

There is no right or wrong about it its all about choices and who knows those only doing 121 meets might one day decide I was having more fun doing multiple meets and get back to doing that .

As long as everyones happy doing what they want it shouldn't really matter as there are loads out there still swinging as most see swinging should be just relax and enjoy what your doing and don't worry what everyone else is doing "
I understand all you say, but, as an example, someones opting to do this, just meeting the one person currently thing etc. But you click on their profile, like all they say, luv the pics, chances are you may message them because,unknown to you, the profile reads like they are still looking to meet, their interests match yours etc.

When the reality is, nope, their not doing any of what you've just read.

Bit like going to a car showroom, seeing the car you like, price is right, styles what you like, performance, then you walk into showroom and you ask salesman, "so does it do 55miles to the gallon like it says in window", ehh no it does'nt sir! Is that the correct price then? "No, just messin with you",sorry, well is it for sale then? "No, sorry, not really". Being misslead is my point, lol.

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By *eenonfun2Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We joined to fulfil our fantasies sexually. We have an excellent personal sexlife and as we are both sexual people we enjoy spending time with likeminded people. I do not see this as a fuck site, but rather a fun site ; friends with benefits.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I think everyone goes throught wee phases on fab where they are attending every party invite they get and having fun with multiple partners,then some just decide been there done that and are quite happy just to meet 121 with a select few or even just one partner .

There is no right or wrong about it its all about choices and who knows those only doing 121 meets might one day decide I was having more fun doing multiple meets and get back to doing that .

As long as everyones happy doing what they want it shouldn't really matter as there are loads out there still swinging as most see swinging should be just relax and enjoy what your doing and don't worry what everyone else is doing I understand all you say, but, as an example, someones opting to do this, just meeting the one person currently thing etc. But you click on their profile, like all they say, luv the pics, chances are you may message them because,unknown to you, the profile reads like they are still looking to meet, their interests match yours etc.

When the reality is, nope, their not doing any of what you've just read.

Bit like going to a car showroom, seeing the car you like, price is right, styles what you like, performance, then you walk into showroom and you ask salesman, "so does it do 55miles to the gallon like it says in window", ehh no it does'nt sir! Is that the correct price then? "No, just messin with you",sorry, well is it for sale then? "No, sorry, not really". Being misslead is my point, lol."
Ok so what your saying if someone is happy just meeting one person at the moment they have to make a big announcement for everyone to know or close their account down ?

Im one of those people just now whos more than happy to meet a select few people but that might change at any moment should someone take my fancy enough ...or would you rather people close their accounts because they are only happy for that specific time just meeting one person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your taking it to extremes, as you well know. Think i gave a pretty good example, of people simply being misslead, all i was trying to convey.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Your taking it to extremes, as you well know. Think i gave a pretty good example, of people simply being misslead, all i was trying to convey."
Lmao at taking it to extremes im sorry but I was asking what you think this type of profiles should do if they choose only to meet one or two select people ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your taking it to extremes, as you well know. Think i gave a pretty good example, of people simply being misslead, all i was trying to convey.Lmao at taking it to extremes im sorry but I was asking what you think this type of profiles should do if they choose only to meet one or two select people ?"

A wee heads up on an update, all it takes really, to save 2 sets of people wasting each others time.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Your taking it to extremes, as you well know. Think i gave a pretty good example, of people simply being misslead, all i was trying to convey.Lmao at taking it to extremes im sorry but I was asking what you think this type of profiles should do if they choose only to meet one or two select people ?

A wee heads up on an update, all it takes really, to save 2 sets of people wasting each others time."
what two sets of people would be wasting their time like ?

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"I think everyone goes throught wee phases on fab where they are attending every party invite they get and having fun with multiple partners,then some just decide been there done that and are quite happy just to meet 121 with a select few or even just one partner .

There is no right or wrong about it its all about choices and who knows those only doing 121 meets might one day decide I was having more fun doing multiple meets and get back to doing that .

As long as everyones happy doing what they want it shouldn't really matter as there are loads out there still swinging as most see swinging should be just relax and enjoy what your doing and don't worry what everyone else is doing I understand all you say, but, as an example, someones opting to do this, just meeting the one person currently thing etc. But you click on their profile, like all they say, luv the pics, chances are you may message them because,unknown to you, the profile reads like they are still looking to meet, their interests match yours etc.

When the reality is, nope, their not doing any of what you've just read.

Bit like going to a car showroom, seeing the car you like, price is right, styles what you like, performance, then you walk into showroom and you ask salesman, "so does it do 55miles to the gallon like it says in window", ehh no it does'nt sir! Is that the correct price then? "No, just messin with you",sorry, well is it for sale then? "No, sorry, not really". Being misslead is my point, lol."

I'm one of those people who say what she is looking for on her profile, but at the top for the present, say I am not meeting. There are a variety of reasons for this, which I don't want to go into, but that doesn't stop me chatting to people. I'm not, by definition, a swinger, because I realise it's not for me, but I have made some lovely friends over the three years I've been here, so feel I have as much right to be here as a "proper swinger".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think everyone goes throught wee phases on fab where they are attending every party invite they get and having fun with multiple partners,then some just decide been there done that and are quite happy just to meet 121 with a select few or even just one partner .

There is no right or wrong about it its all about choices and who knows those only doing 121 meets might one day decide I was having more fun doing multiple meets and get back to doing that .

As long as everyones happy doing what they want it shouldn't really matter as there are loads out there still swinging as most see swinging should be just relax and enjoy what your doing and don't worry what everyone else is doing I understand all you say, but, as an example, someones opting to do this, just meeting the one person currently thing etc. But you click on their profile, like all they say, luv the pics, chances are you may message them because,unknown to you, the profile reads like they are still looking to meet, their interests match yours etc.

When the reality is, nope, their not doing any of what you've just read.

Bit like going to a car showroom, seeing the car you like, price is right, styles what you like, performance, then you walk into showroom and you ask salesman, "so does it do 55miles to the gallon like it says in window", ehh no it does'nt sir! Is that the correct price then? "No, just messin with you",sorry, well is it for sale then? "No, sorry, not really". Being misslead is my point, lol.

I'm one of those people who say what she is looking for on her profile, but at the top for the present, say I am not meeting. There are a variety of reasons for this, which I don't want to go into, but that doesn't stop me chatting to people. I'm not, by definition, a swinger, because I realise it's not for me, but I have made some lovely friends over the three years I've been here, so feel I have as much right to be here as a "proper swinger". "
Thats likewise all im saying too, if yer circs have changed, a wee update helps everyone.

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By *1cebren4uWoman
over a year ago

clydebank

why does most of the forums threads turn into if my budgie can sing then mine can sing louder its like being back at school again with five year olds lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"why does most of the forums threads turn into if my budgie can sing then mine can sing louder its like being back at school again with five year olds lol "
some are even like squawking parrots Bren

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"why does most of the forums threads turn into if my budgie can sing then mine can sing louder its like being back at school again with five year olds lol "

PMSL! Or my car's bigger than your car!

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By *1cebren4uWoman
over a year ago

clydebank


"why does most of the forums threads turn into if my budgie can sing then mine can sing louder its like being back at school again with five year olds lol

PMSL! Or my car's bigger than your car! "

in fact it bloody is lololololol xxxxxxxxxx

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"why does most of the forums threads turn into if my budgie can sing then mine can sing louder its like being back at school again with five year olds lol

PMSL! Or my car's bigger than your car!

in fact it bloody is lololololol xxxxxxxxxx"

lol so it is, I'd forgotten! I need it for this big daft dog I have! lol

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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

Peace Joy and love to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a reasonably newish single guy here I am finding that anyone I talk to either doesn't reply or ones I get to chat to never wants to go that extra stage and meet for fun. I am a genuine guy but maybe I'm just not anyone's type or I'm an ugly bastard after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As part of a couple on here I have no desire to meet .. me nor my partner is meeting right now doesn't mean we wont in the future ..I have done my fair share of meets although I have never met with a couple as it was never my thing to begin with .The biggest drawback of meeting just now for me is the influx of arseholes the site is producing both men and women , I love to come in and chat as I have many friends on here and I have paid my dues and my SITE SUPPORTER.. whos to say whats wrong and whats right on here ... I for one think swinging means having liberal views and not judging anyone on the sexual stance .I think its time to take the keys out the fruitbowl and move with the times !!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


" I for one think swinging means having liberal views and not judging anyone on the sexual stance .I think its time to take the keys out the fruitbowl and move with the times !!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people use it as an alternative to POF yes. But ive met some great people on here for 3-4sums and have made some great friends. So I wouldn't say it's going downhill at all.

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By *lue4youCouple
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I am a swinger. My partner is a swinger. Right time, right place, we enjoy swinging. Recently, I put my tuppence worth on a thread, about partys and group sex. Sorry, but the comments that came back, from a single guy of all things, actually made me feel a little bit dirty - not horny dirty. I believe he even insinuated folk would need to be getting paid for that sort of behaviour. Now, as a decent human being, I keep my swinging lifestyle private, so as not to cause offence in everyday life: family, friends, passers by etc. Surely this however, is the one place that I shouldn't need to worry about being judged for being a swinger!?? Boozie, I'm with you on this one

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"I think some people use it as an alternative to POF yes. But ive met some great people on here for 3-4sums and have made some great friends. So I wouldn't say it's going downhill at all. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As one of the people you are speaking of i can say been on site ages played with many and enjoyed me and the person i am with have decided to enjoy each others company and let our relationship strengthen as time goes on we will make a decision as to whether we want to continue in this for the most part we were both disenamoured with fab as to many silly adolescent types have joined recently (6 to 8 month period) perhaps if the site was more like it was 2 yrs ago things would be diffrent "

TWO YEARS AGO .. ?????

Your needing to go back another FOUR .

Buboo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I think its time to take the keys out the fruitbowl and move with the times !!"

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By *he Enigmatic MagnetMan
over a year ago

Glasgow West

Does it matter how few people some folks want to sleep with?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"Does it matter how few people some folks want to sleep with? "

Want to or only get to?

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By *he Enigmatic MagnetMan
over a year ago

Glasgow West


"Does it matter how few people some folks want to sleep with?

Want to or only get to? "

Well, "get to" means I can go less than one to one.....

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"Does it matter how few people some folks want to sleep with?

Want to or only get to?

Well, "get to" means I can go less than one to one..... "

In that case it probably matters lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it matter how few people some folks want to sleep with? "
If nowt mattered, there would be no need for forums !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does it matter how few people some folks want to sleep with? "

no it doesn't matter at all. my original point was that people who are looking for meaningful sex with one other person at a time seem to be judging people who are here for other types of sexual experiences on the forums and as the blues have said this really shouldnt be the place you would expect to find judgemental traditionalists.

can see I opened a can of worms here lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

And then again you have the ones who are meeting all the time doing 3sms 4sms moresms gangbangs or what ever also judging those who are choosing 121 meets I think people should just concentrate on doing what suits them at any given time and just the whole experience

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Enjoy the whole experience *

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By *he Enigmatic MagnetMan
over a year ago

Glasgow West


"And then again you have the ones who are meeting all the time doing 3sms 4sms moresms gangbangs or what ever also judging those who are choosing 121 meets I think people should just concentrate on doing what suits them at any given time and just the whole experience "

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"And then again you have the ones who are meeting all the time doing 3sms 4sms moresms gangbangs or what ever also judging those who are choosing 121 meets I think people should just concentrate on doing what suits them at any given time and just the whole experience "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And then again you have the ones who are meeting all the time doing 3sms 4sms moresms gangbangs or what ever also judging those who are choosing 121 meets I think people should just concentrate on doing what suits them at any given time and just the whole experience "
Currently doing neither, but due to past experience of all, yer gettin my opinion on it, by way of help to any interested, its what forums are for after all,,

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I agree with OP about there being too many looking for 121 meets...and for something more than just a shag...

But im not going to sit here judging them on what they prefer....

This may well be a "swingers" site but it is open to everyone and anyone.....

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

as said before perhaps folks are only meeting with known quantities as there are to many wanna shags which to their eyes just aint swinging

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Surely it all depends on each individuals definition of a "Swinger"?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Surely it all depends on each individuals definition of a "Swinger"? "
precisly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely it all depends on each individuals definition of a "Swinger"? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it matter how few people some folks want to sleep with?

no it doesn't matter at all. my original point was that people who are looking for meaningful sex with one other person at a time seem to be judging people who are here for other types of sexual experiences on the forums and as the blues have said this really shouldnt be the place you would expect to find judgemental traditionalists.

can see I opened a can of worms here lol"

Floozie .....on a more lighter note ....When we shagging ...Muauhuhuhuhaaaaaa

Buboo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive no opinion on it really, I learned to swingevolve when the site supposedly changed

now I can barely give a toss what peoples judgements are, I have enough past/future fun to keep me happy

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