FabSwingers.com forum: man or woman is this normal

By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

Has anyone ever lost all self esteem, confidence and self respect for yourself after being constantly lied to about loads of other men that are a lot older than myself and letting other men take her away on holidays and using them to make you jealous, because you call them out for taking accountability your suddenly in the wrong

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By *punk AnansieWoman
2 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

Is this someone your in a relationship with , or a playmate .. regardless if this is making you feel this way then I think the time has come to cut the ties .. life's to short for it to be spent miserable and in self doubt .

In life people can only get away with what you choose to let them away with .

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By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

Was a relationship until she got back from holidays saying I’m over reacting

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
2 weeks ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Was a relationship until she got back from holidays saying I’m over reacting "
Did you agree to let her meet others & go on holiday ?

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By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

No I told her that’s it’s so disrespectful and she didn’t even care then deflected from the conversation until 12 hours before she left on the flight, she constantly wanted drama and reactions, but I’m fighting with myself in continuing thinking this was okay because she made me feel uncomfortable and so low

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By *punk AnansieWoman
2 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

Im guessing this is pretty fresh ?

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By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

She’s back 10 days now and where in no contact. But why do I feel this way about myself, I didn’t do anything wrong I was the best person in my opinion and now I can’t even trust myself

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
2 weeks ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"No I told her that’s it’s so disrespectful and she didn’t even care then deflected from the conversation until 12 hours before she left on the flight, she constantly wanted drama and reactions, but I’m fighting with myself in continuing thinking this was okay because she made me feel uncomfortable and so low "
Well you clearly need timeout to work on yourself .

Also if she has that little respect for you then its time to walk away and let her get on with it .

No one deserves to be treated like that but sadly there are people who think their actions only affect them .

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By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

Thank you I’m overthinking 24/7 the past 14 days of all the awful things she’s done and called me thinking was it me and if use think I’m overreacting I’m happy to take that option. I just think good people are getting pissed on to make other people feel happy about themselves

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By *eiaorganaWoman
2 weeks ago

Dundee

"Is this someone your in a relationship with , or a playmate .. regardless if this is making you feel this way then I think the time has come to cut the ties .. life's to short for it to be spent miserable and in self doubt .

In life people can only get away with what you choose to let them away with . "

Absolutely this. Their issues are not yours, bin them off

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By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

Still makes you overthink why she would not think I’m enough and to call me names constantly making out I’m doing something wrong by asking your partner to be respectful and responsible. I feel my self esteem is at all time low. She was also 7 years older

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By *eiaorganaWoman
2 weeks ago

Dundee

"Still makes you overthink why she would not think I’m enough and to call me names constantly making out I’m doing something wrong by asking your partner to be respectful and responsible. I feel my self esteem is at all time low. She was also 7 years older "

These people are narcissists. They will never change, all you can do is change how you deal with it and protect your peace

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By *ergie59Man
2 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

Age shouldn’t come into it.

TBF anyone that causes you to have low self esteem is not good for you.

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By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

Can you please explain if you know how

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By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

I’m doing my best to distract myself and do everything possible gym, run, going out but nothing is stopping my overthinking

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By *ewFIFEGuyMan
2 weeks ago

marakesh

Go get another no person is worth this shit !

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By *eiaorganaWoman
2 weeks ago

Dundee

"I’m doing my best to distract myself and do everything possible gym, run, going out but nothing is stopping my overthinking "

Block them from messaging you, block every way they can get access to you. Take some time to yourself focusing on other things and enjoy the peace you have without their prescence. Eventually you will feel better. If not it may be worth talking to a professional

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By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

Bro I hear you and have respect in your advice. For some reason I can’t stop overthinking 24/7 about what’s been going on and the impact. I normally would agree then I’m saying to myself was I wrong in what I said

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By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

I’ve started getting help to process it but currently nothing is taking my mind off it, I hate myself for feeling this way

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By *punk AnansieWoman
2 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"She’s back 10 days now and where in no contact. But why do I feel this way about myself, I didn’t do anything wrong I was the best person in my opinion and now I can’t even trust myself "

Does she know your on the site , if not seems hypocritical if you joined the site as a single male with no mention that you were involved in your profile .. seems like maybe both of you want your cake and too eat it too , which is your perogative but from an unbiased view reading your profile its been active for 5 months and no mention of a partner , then you really dont have a leg to stand on . I get no one can tell you how to feel but how would she feel if she knew you were on here looking for attention /meets from others..

Maybe just some food for thought .

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By *oupleInSyncCouple
2 weeks ago

Falkirk

With the greatest of respect, there's not enough context here to give sage advice. We don't know what the dynamic of your relationship with this person was or what was/wasn't acceptable for you both. As has been said, there is not mention on your profile of having a partner of any sort either which would raise that question for most.

Ultimately though, no one should be in a relationship where they feel this way. The best thing to do is to cut all ties, block any access they have to you for your own sake and try to focus on other small daily tasks for distraction. The pain and upset hurt, but they will pass.

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By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

Thank you i understand and appreciate what use are saying and I respect each comment, the reason for my own profile was to see if she was on here and tbh that’s the reason, if you wanna be with multiple men then obviously this would be the site, as this is the world of swinging and everyone on here has mutual respect for there partner or as a single but on this occasion and situation, I didn’t agree with anything she was doing as she was hiding so much talking to so many men and she was telling me what she can do to so many and she dosent care that’s the hardest part.

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By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

Also she mentioned her friend was on this site and that’s how I knew about

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By *jlookingforfunMan
2 weeks ago

falkirk

You’ve been on the fab site for 5+ months so you must be having fun with woman as well ?

Confused.com

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By *eetoycub30 OP Man
2 weeks ago

local

Tbh mate she’s all I’m thinking about, not interested in a new woman or anything like that or even fun as my self esteem and self worth is gone.

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By *punk AnansieWoman
2 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

Also this is atleast the 2nd profile on here youve had as you couldn't remember your previous profiles log in details . Sometimes the game catches up with the player .

I get it its not nice when youve been played, but honestly seems like alot of fingers are pointed in her direction when this is at least your second profile and youve been cam verified on this one , granted you might not have played with others in person , but youve sneakily set up profiles and seems the easy cop out to blame her to dig your way out of it ..

Comes across your hands aren't so clean .

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By *lyoc84Man
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Love reading this stuff love when a strong women just two foot smashes you over the ball cause that's the go too embarrass someone for asking a question then another strong female comes in sympathies cause she has an open outlook gives some advice then someone else needs to come in to back track but then in the same instance be like ok I'm right you are wrong with the old just food for thought comment I'm buckled it's like the un negotiations

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By *punk AnansieWoman
2 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"Love reading this stuff love when a strong women just two foot smashes you over the ball cause that's the go too embarrass someone for asking a question then another strong female comes in sympathies cause she has an open outlook gives some advice then someone else needs to come in to back track but then in the same instance be like ok I'm right you are wrong with the old just food for thought comment I'm buckled it's like the un negotiations "

Im guessing this is aimed at me , if you look at my first post in the thread there was sympathy . I also asked how long ago it was because I didn't want to jump to conclusions , but this is the 2nd profile the op has and its webcam verified which suggests it wasn't created too catch his ex on . Its not my buisness I get that but he asked the question and my original answer was sympathetic as I've said . All to often and I include myself in this people are quick to defend on face value but then becomes apparent the original sympathies were kind of misplaced in a sense .

I get that he was hurt and most likely has low self esteem .. but ye can't play the game and then hate the player and whys it alright for him to be on site 5+ months when this all transpired 11 days ago . It's basic maths and it clearly doesn't add up . Why is she to be the one painted in a bad light when its obvious his hands aren't so clean in this . Just speaking from the perspective of the woman .

It is a good thing he's out of it because toxic relationships always leave you bearing the scars of them .

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