FabSwingers.com forum: Know what I like

By *pank-me-harder OP Woman
5 weeks ago

close to leven

Why is it we, us females get met with abuse when we say thanks but not thanks on this site take it on the chin we don't all like the same things. Thanks for reading

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By *ergie59Man
5 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

100%

Rejection means taking it on the chin, being thick skinned and moving on.

Sorry to hear you have received abuse.

It’s not only sad, but tars all men with the same shit brush

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Plenty folk who are snowflakes here also many with shit attitude. Some folk expect because it a swing site that they are guaranteed action because they are here. No manners, no idea just muppets ignore and crack on. There are real people here who get it, just hard to find.

Nice profike btw x

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By *laySexualWoman
5 weeks ago

fife

100 percent correct. I used to message every single person back even if it was a no thanks, the amount of abuse I got for saying no thanks ! Honestly some people certainly ruin it for others xx

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By *aybe one dayMan
5 weeks ago

annan

Would love a no thanks it's only manners and feels better than being ignored. But as you say some cant take it

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By *nlyLiveOnce85Man
5 weeks ago

Glasgow

If you can't take a polite No then you shouldn't be on this site. Unfortunately, like someone else said, it tars all guys with the same brush!

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By *agnar2323Man
5 weeks ago

Valhalla

"Why is it we, us females get met with abuse when we say thanks but not thanks on this site take it on the chin we don't all like the same things. Thanks for reading "

Because 90% of guys are dicks

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By *eroLondonMan
5 weeks ago

Mayfair

Because some people are inherently vindictive, nasty and unable to cope with being dismissed with a polite "no thank you".

I refer to "people" in the general sense. The OP didn't specifically mention "men" but I'm sure she'll clarify when she logs back in.

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By *ara25xWoman
5 weeks ago

Angus

Soon as its a no thanks you're then a cow or slag or fat but b4 the no they wanted to fuck you

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By *assy LassieWoman
4 weeks ago

Near Glasgow

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By *din-subMan
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I hear lots of women saying the same thing.

Clearly there are a lot of horrible guys here.

Although, as a guy, I must say that there are a lot of rude women here as well.

I understand how many messages women receive here, so I think it makes you appreciate a rejection message even more, as the majority of women just don’t bother replying.

Personally, I always respond with a polite message thanking them for taking the time to reply, and wishing them luck in their search.

There’s no need to be nasty.

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By *ergus1622Man
4 weeks ago

Dundee

Its definitely not acceptable to give anyone abusive messages of any kind! We're all here for fun so let's keep it that way!

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By *hehighlander88Man
4 weeks ago

inverness

I would love a no thanks message I feel it’s polite and you both move on

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By *ergie59Man
4 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

"Soon as its a no thanks you're then a cow or slag or fat but b4 the no they wanted to fuck you "

I find that shocking

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By *aithlessangelCouple
4 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

This is why I tend not to reply if I'm not interested. I don't want to go round and round in circles.

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By *reenEyesScotlandWoman
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

"This is why I tend not to reply if I'm not interested. I don't want to go round and round in circles. "

This... If I replied to all the people who messaged to say no thanks I'd never get around to those I'm interested in as it's very rarely a okay thanks for letting me know type response. Had people say if I'm not your type drink more before we meet after a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

It's a red flag for for sure and the best way to describe it is incel behaviour.

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By *aspberryWoman
4 weeks ago

glasgow/belfast

"Soon as its a no thanks you're then a cow or slag or fat but b4 the no they wanted to fuck you "

Right on the button here, makes you very selective what messages you open up.

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By *sWyldWoman
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

And here is one of the main reasons I just don't reply. Its not rude, its just easier. I don't want the abuse or someone trying to change my mind. Nor do I want to waste their time or mine by engaging in chat that won't ever go anywhere

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By *ergie59Man
4 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

"Soon as its a no thanks you're then a cow or slag or fat but b4 the no they wanted to fuck you

Right on the button here, makes you very selective what messages you open up."

I’ve had replies like not my type, or not interested, or be at my house at midnight.

My reply is a standard thank you for taking the time to reply.

Point is, not all men are abusive, I have no idea what percentage are but guess it’s sadly quite high.

I’ve never expected replies. Pushy behaviour is as much a turn off for me, as it would be for a woman.

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By *pank-me-harder OP Woman
4 weeks ago

close to leven

Apologies yeah I was talking about men wouldn't allow me to update thanks for all the responds glad its not just me , x

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By *r.s.Man
4 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

Can only imagine what it's like to be a woman on here.

Makes it even more difficult for us decent guys on here as well.

Stay strong ladies!

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By *exy gentMan
4 weeks ago

Midlothian

"100%

Rejection means taking it on the chin, being thick skinned and moving on.

Sorry to hear you have received abuse.

It’s not only sad, but tars all men with the same shit brush"

Totally agree 100%

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By *igYin n CowGirlCouple
4 weeks ago

New Cumnock

Fragile egos, just block em.

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By *oo_BeesCouple
4 weeks ago

Saltcoats

"100 percent correct. I used to message every single person back even if it was a no thanks, the amount of abuse I got for saying no thanks ! Honestly some people certainly ruin it for others xx "

We were same as you, replied to everyone then get abused when profile clearly says what we looking for, we now taking extended break from site cause of the abuse

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By *erfHerder74Man
4 weeks ago

Inverclyde

"Why is it we, us females get met with abuse when we say thanks but not thanks on this site take it on the chin we don't all like the same things. Thanks for reading "
sorry you get abuse, had plenty of toxic men here do the same when I reject them cause I don’t fancy them.

If they don’t send face pictures for ages then suddenly do it can either be a wow or oh crap lol

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By *rgoodnbadMan
4 weeks ago

greenock

Best to reply no thanks, then block. It's not as if you're gonna have any more dealings with the sender. So block, and move on, then they'll be no abusive message afterwards.

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By *arrguy49Man
4 weeks ago

stevenson

No need for that at all, I've had many rejections and i simply say thanks for your kind response, good luck and happy fabbing. I've also sent rejections. Not everyone's for me and I'm not for everyone.

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