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By *erfHerder74 OP   Man
14 weeks ago

Inverclyde

What are your expectations of meeting someone?

Just a kiss and cuddle.

Just to suck/be sucked.

Just to masturbate.

Full on anal protected/unprotected sex.

Just a coffee chat to see if there’s a spark.

Something kinky.

Just to dress and be admired.

Just a quickie to get another verification so you can look for the next one.

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Good thing to speak about as the gap between the possible to the fantasy is vast as are the grounds for the meet too.

Couple inviting a guy to theirs for a spontaneous threesome I think you can expect to play.

Female offering to meet for coffee and cake for a social highly reduces the chances of getting your kegs off.

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By *iss stiletto loverWoman
14 weeks ago

Motherwell

For me I tend to have a social first, coffee and a blether in a public place to see what connection we have. I have had meets where ive skipped the social and had guys at mine or went to theirs but thats down to verifications they have and me knowing some of the people who have verified them

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By *ardnreddyMan
14 weeks ago

LIVINGSTON

Social normally first then check the chemistry is there and see, where it leads

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By *exsaCouple
14 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I always do a social first wether it be coffee/walk/drinks.

The awkwardness of turning up to meet someone for sex and the possibility of not finding each other attractive in person gives me the fear.

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By *aylorMan
14 weeks ago

Fife

I don't expect anything really, but I'm just happy not to be ghosted

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By *hyme2020Woman
14 weeks ago

Glasgow


"I always do a social first wether it be coffee/walk/drinks.

The awkwardness of turning up to meet someone for sex and the possibility of not finding each other attractive in person gives me the fear. "

Yes I have had this and it was awful and he just wasn’t happy when I said I wasn’t feeling it and it made me extremely uncomfortable. Now I will always insist on a quick coffee or walk etc to make sure, and if he doesn’t want to, then I won’t meet.

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By *merald1971Woman
14 weeks ago

dundee

I always prefer a social first, need to see if theres attraction/connection if theres not any then point taking it further

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By *aurus1987Man
14 weeks ago

York


"I always do a social first wether it be coffee/walk/drinks.

The awkwardness of turning up to meet someone for sex and the possibility of not finding each other attractive in person gives me the fear.

Yes I have had this and it was awful and he just wasn’t happy when I said I wasn’t feeling it and it made me extremely uncomfortable. Now I will always insist on a quick coffee or walk etc to make sure, and if he doesn’t want to, then I won’t meet. "

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

Prior to Fab starting in 2006 I met a lady from another site.

We chatted on the messages section and then a quick phone call for directions to where I was going.

I walked in on a full blown domestic and was then attacked and stabbed.

Fortunately the knife was a small lock knife that only just broke the skin and, it was winter and I had about 3 layers of clothing on.

Anyway since then I don’t meet for sex on the first attempt. I will always insist on a coffee meet first.

I have chatted to some really nice people on Fab over the years too however, I’ve also met some mental people who I’ve had to put in their place and left.

I am now very defensive when contacting people especially since my PTSD diagnosis which is crazy when the people who have known me for years get to know why I’m the way I am

So to go back to the original question

NO I need a face to face over coffee and in a public place

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By *nemoretime2000Man
14 weeks ago

Glasgow

I’ve been on and off fab for many years and my opinion has changed over the years. Unfashionably for a male I actually prefer a social meet first. Coffee and a wee blether and if we click that’s great. If we don’t I’m not one to pursue. Older and wiser . Needs to be a connection for me

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By *hyme2020Woman
14 weeks ago

Glasgow


"Prior to Fab starting in 2006 I met a lady from another site.

We chatted on the messages section and then a quick phone call for directions to where I was going.

I walked in on a full blown domestic and was then attacked and stabbed.

Fortunately the knife was a small lock knife that only just broke the skin and, it was winter and I had about 3 layers of clothing on.

Anyway since then I don’t meet for sex on the first attempt. I will always insist on a coffee meet first.

I have chatted to some really nice people on Fab over the years too however, I’ve also met some mental people who I’ve had to put in their place and left.

I am now very defensive when contacting people especially since my PTSD diagnosis which is crazy when the people who have known me for years get to know why I’m the way I am

So to go back to the original question

NO I need a face to face over coffee and in a public place

"

Wow I’m so sorry you experienced that. Just shows it’s not just the ladies that have to be mindful that there’s a world of crazy folk out there!!

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By *otTonite1Man
14 weeks ago

Falkirk

I personally have no expectations, well other than to be treated with some level of mutual respect.

Each situation can be different so will never pass chat here, some a social, some play fun. All parties are and should feel able to say "no thanks, nothing further".

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By *aucySue52Woman
14 weeks ago

glasgow

Always a social first very clear on my profile

Although most don’t read so expect sex after the social

My block list is growing with folk who clearly can’t or won’t read it’s very clear

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
14 weeks ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

Always a social for me coffee cake and quick escape route ! Even if there’s a bit of chemistry during the social how the messages go after can quickly turn me off someone so it’s always good to go home and mull it over, my days of spontaneously getting my kit off are few and far between

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
14 weeks ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales


"Prior to Fab starting in 2006 I met a lady from another site.

We chatted on the messages section and then a quick phone call for directions to where I was going.

I walked in on a full blown domestic and was then attacked and stabbed.

Fortunately the knife was a small lock knife that only just broke the skin and, it was winter and I had about 3 layers of clothing on.

Anyway since then I don’t meet for sex on the first attempt. I will always insist on a coffee meet first.

I have chatted to some really nice people on Fab over the years too however, I’ve also met some mental people who I’ve had to put in their place and left.

I am now very defensive when contacting people especially since my PTSD diagnosis which is crazy when the people who have known me for years get to know why I’m the way I am

So to go back to the original question

NO I need a face to face over coffee and in a public place

"

That’s shocking but tbh I’ve met a few me on the site over the years with some really horrific horror stories, one was well documented in the newspapers at the time whereby a guy was basically held against his will and tortured

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By *oewiththeflowMan
14 weeks ago

West Coast

For me a nice social. Over a cuppa your choice, usually a hot one (the cup) in this climate.

As fabbers you might skip the cake and head straight for home.

However, heels to the ears may require more than a kiss on the cheek

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By *sWyldWoman
14 weeks ago

Edinburgh

First time meeting someone is purely social.

No expectations just some hope that we get along and find each other appealing .

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By *osie888TV/TS
14 weeks ago

Bathgate

I actually enjoy the getting to know in here . So many in a hurry i find whilst the art of discussion sharing thoughts and desires seems a miss. For me meeting first time so much easier when your understand some ones preferences

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
14 weeks ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Meeting socially can be fun if you click because then you also get the opertunity to flirt a little then continue that with some flirty messages until a meet can be arranged

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago


"

That’s shocking but tbh I’ve met a few me on the site over the years with some really horrific horror stories, one was well documented in the newspapers at the time whereby a guy was basically held against his will and tortured "

Is this the one that was sprayed in the face with the bear spray? Madness

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By *y_1Man
14 weeks ago

Ayrshire/glasgow

Usually a social first to get to know the person with no expectations that anything more than a social will happen in the future.

Ive met loads of folk over the years socially and still meet socially with them but have maybe only played once if ever with some of them.

Then there is the spontaneous meets that every now and agin just happen.

I never have any expectations though.

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By *enni WhiteTV/TS
14 weeks ago

Glasgow

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By *enni WhiteTV/TS
14 weeks ago

Glasgow


"For me I tend to have a social first, coffee and a blether in a public place to see what connection we have. I have had meets where ive skipped the social and had guys at mine or went to theirs but thats down to verifications they have and me knowing some of the people who have verified them "

100% same for me

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago


"Meeting socially can be fun if you click because then you also get the opertunity to flirt a little then continue that with some flirty messages until a meet can be arranged "

Have fond memories of flirting with ice

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
14 weeks ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Meeting socially can be fun if you click because then you also get the opertunity to flirt a little then continue that with some flirty messages until a meet can be arranged

Have fond memories of flirting with ice "

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By *arry2Man
13 weeks ago

dundee


"I always prefer a social first, need to see if theres attraction/connection if theres not any then point taking it further"
like when we had our first social in the car 😜 x

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By *enelope2UWoman
13 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

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By *enelope2UWoman
13 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Zero.

My only expectations is they actually show up and match their keyboard words and WhatsApp or picture images..

The rest is based on chemistry

THAT'S IT..what happens next is based on everything!! Matching and flowing

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By *enelope2UWoman
13 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances


"Always a social first very clear on my profile

Although most don’t read so expect sex after the social

My block list is growing with folk who clearly can’t or won’t read it’s very clear "

SAME!! Probably blocked all of Fife and Edinburgh which is shit because I'm actually looking for LEGITIMATE and local

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
13 weeks ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales


"

That’s shocking but tbh I’ve met a few me on the site over the years with some really horrific horror stories, one was well documented in the newspapers at the time whereby a guy was basically held against his will and tortured

Is this the one that was sprayed in the face with the bear spray? Madness "

Yeah it was awful

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By *merald1971Woman
13 weeks ago

dundee


"Always a social first very clear on my profile

Although most don’t read so expect sex after the social

My block list is growing with folk who clearly can’t or won’t read it’s very clear

SAME!! Probably blocked all of Fife and Edinburgh which is shit because I'm actually looking for LEGITIMATE and local "

Same, refreshing to read, thought it was just me!!! Haha

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By *exsaCouple
13 weeks ago

Dunfermline


"I always do a social first wether it be coffee/walk/drinks.

The awkwardness of turning up to meet someone for sex and the possibility of not finding each other attractive in person gives me the fear.

Yes I have had this and it was awful and he just wasn’t happy when I said I wasn’t feeling it and it made me extremely uncomfortable. Now I will always insist on a quick coffee or walk etc to make sure, and if he doesn’t want to, then I won’t meet. "

Oh jeezo, thats not good at all! Hope you were ok after? x

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By *igYin n CowGirlCouple
13 weeks ago

New Cumnock

We are pretty laid back and just go with the flow. We usually discuss with the people we are meeting beforehand what the expectations are. All meets are different and that's that makes it fun CG xx

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By *opeyXWoman
13 weeks ago

Always zero expectations and always a social on first meeting.

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

My expectations are to meet, when everything aligns perfectly between myself and the other person. Meeting can entail a cøffëë, luncheon or a stroll around an årt gallery. If there is a mutual desire then we would both realise our expectations to take things further for naked entwinement.

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