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By (user no longer on site) OP   
33 weeks ago

I would like to know everyone’s thoughts on this please.

Me and Mrs went out dogging, she posted on her profile she will be out at a certain location. While we were parked, there was a good amount of cars there. She had been messaged many times by one particular guy and she was clear she wasn’t interested in playing with him. Low and behold he was there, while Mrs had some fun with someone at the car he sent his friend up to talk to us. We told him we are not interested and he said “we are leading people” saying we’re at a location which insinuated she will be playing with everyone who turns up!

Not sure if it’s just us but we didn’t give personal invites, surely it’s still very much up to Mrs who she plays with and if anyone at all if no1 takes her fancy?

Thoughts please?

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Consent is everything. It doesn't matter if she has said she'll be there, if he has been told no then that's the end of it from his point of view.

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By *alkonthegrassWoman
33 weeks ago

Inverness

She has every right to say no to whoever she wants. People need to accept no is no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
33 weeks ago


"She has every right to say no to whoever she wants. People need to accept no is no. "
seriously gobsmacked when the guy said we were leading people on. Wasn’t sure if it was just me

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

A No is no in any swinging life style I get this as well but just tell the males that are near you things will change what is going on

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By *umbernauld guy500Man
33 weeks ago

Cumbernauld

Maybe worth saying your planning to go out and ask for PMs to find out where... then it gives you the opportunity to see what the are like.

Also you get to lay out your rules.

Ps love to attend next time lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
33 weeks ago

We didn’t invite anyone in particular, it was a random post so we could pick and choose whoever turned up, they turned up off there own back.

For him to say we are leading people on and stating a location insinuates everyone is welcome baffles me. Slightly worrying some guys think this.

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By *ab12345100Man
33 weeks ago

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By *ab12345100Man
33 weeks ago

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It’s absolutely shocking no means no and for someone to moan because they were told no makes it even worse

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

That’s not on, it’s totally upto her who she plays with. I’d have just left the location if I was her.

Perhaps next time for her security she should just say she’s heading out and pm for location so she’s telling who she wants

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By *ordelpusMan
33 weeks ago

perth

No is no in every form. If that is not respected then that person is not worth knowing. Block, block block.

On a separate note love to come and watch and joining in is not a requirement. Just happy to be there. Have fun and stay safe

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By *ipstick Cherry RhythmCouple
33 weeks ago

Glasgow

I, the male of this profile, was there today, and it was genuinely the most unsafe, inconsiderate and ridiculous situation I've ever encountered in years on Fab, Dogging and Swinging.

You and your partner were driving around, posting on Fab, giggling to yourselves in the car while posting status updates about the meet and sending one or two word messages to literally hundreds of people. Both of you were clearly enjoying the sensation of being centre of attention from a wagon train of guys during your ill thought out and disastrously executed Dogging meet.

I came up to your car to ask 'Wtf?' and was told by yourself that the loads of cars spinning around in the park in broad daylight like the dodgers were "probably gay" and met with an obviously rehearsed bunch of bullshit about consent and a women's right to choose. As if anyone in their right mind would ever question that.

Noone was questioning consent, but I was definitely questioning your motivation in creating such a f*cked up, disorganised display this afternoon.

You two need to have a word with yourselves

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By *wellguyMan
33 weeks ago

Motherwell

Ive not been fortunate to have a proper meet on here yet but consent is an absolute with anything to do with sex.

I would definitely not be giving out the meeting point to people I didnt consent to being with in future though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
33 weeks ago


"I, the male of this profile, was there today, and it was genuinely the most unsafe, inconsiderate and ridiculous situation I've ever encountered in years on Fab, Dogging and Swinging.

You and your partner were driving around, posting on Fab, giggling to yourselves in the car while posting status updates about the meet and sending one or two word messages to literally hundreds of people. Both of you were clearly enjoying the sensation of being centre of attention from a wagon train of guys during your ill thought out and disastrously executed Dogging meet.

I came up to your car to ask 'Wtf?' and was told by yourself that the loads of cars spinning around in the park in broad daylight like the dodgers were "probably gay" and met with an obviously rehearsed bunch of bullshit about consent and a women's right to choose. As if anyone in their right mind would ever question that.

Noone was questioning consent, but I was definitely questioning your motivation in creating such a f*cked up, disorganised display this afternoon.

You two need to have a word with yourselves "
are you serious? You approached us just after she had been fucked and you were told we are not interested and at that point rather than say no problem you proceeded to say we were leading you on, you were told no lots of times through fab yet you continued to badger us. Are we not allowed to park up and chat and laugh together? You seriously need to look at yourself mate, for all the verifications she has I hardly think we’re at it

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By *OSCCOSMITH69Man
33 weeks ago

south lanarkshire


"I would like to know everyone’s thoughts on this please.

Me and Mrs went out dogging, she posted on her profile she will be out at a certain location. While we were parked, there was a good amount of cars there. She had been messaged many times by one particular guy and she was clear she wasn’t interested in playing with him. Low and behold he was there, while Mrs had some fun with someone at the car he sent his friend up to talk to us. We told him we are not interested and he said “we are leading people” saying we’re at a location which insinuated she will be playing with everyone who turns up!

Not sure if it’s just us but we didn’t give personal invites, surely it’s still very much up to Mrs who she plays with and if anyone at all if no1 takes her fancy?

Thoughts please? "

I had this behaviour and its a massive issue in the swinging community not just dogging, i ve seen it at clubs and gangbangs… especially greedy girl events where guys have this assumption its a pay and play type thing…. Where in reality its not a porno and everyone has consent…

I throw a guy out with the bouncer a few months ago in england cause he was told “no” by the girl i was playing with but then while she was busy with me tried to finger and ear her pussy…

I like how scottish clubs ask for id etc to stop this sort of behaviour….

Next time your out dogging say to them your taking a copy of there id before play lol that will stop the fuck wits turning up

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By *ipstick Cherry RhythmCouple
33 weeks ago

Glasgow


"She had been messaged many times by one particular guy and she was clear she wasn’t interested in playing with him. Low and behold he was there, while Mrs had some fun with someone at the car he sent his friend up to talk to us. We told him we are not interested and he said “we are leading people” saying we’re at a location which insinuated she will be playing with everyone who turns up!

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I need to clarify a few points on this, as well. Your "Mrs" had previously met with my friend a few times at that same location, and has been verified by him for it. There had been no messages, at all, asking not to come along this time or attempting to put him off coming. To suggest otherwise is a clear attempt by you to manipulate popular opinion because the facts tell a different story. Your true position and motivation for making this claim is extremely dubious and you know it.

The last time your "Mrs" was due to play there fell apart because of some issue between you two. We know this because of private messages from the pair of you my friend got that day. Again, not only was there no attempt to show disinterest, or a request to back off of any kind, there was also a total lack of respect for each other as well as a direct, childish insult towards my friend that you claimed came from the "Mrs". It seemed preposterous and marked you out as a fool, so it wasn't taken seriously until today with your general behaviour and a repeat of the insult as a parting goodbye via private message. You know, when you were cowering in fear over being harassed while dogging with your "Mrs" in the park

The reason I keep putting inverted commas on "Mrs" is she has previously been telling my friend she is not your "Mrs" and she doesn't know why you keep calling her that. I believe her, because given all the evidence, it just seems a bit odd. FWB or F*ck buddy definitely seems more appropriate.

Also, noone sent me to speak to you two. I just got bored of watching the cars pile up and circle, then follow you around the park while you cannoodled and giggled at your phones. I wasn't about to go for a second lap of that and decided, off my own back, to get out my friends car to actually communicate something important to you both. The whole incident, from entering the park to the wacky races lap round the park to speaking to you, calmly, openly and without prejudice, was over in twenty minutes. Believe me, though, it felt like a much longer time than that. Specifically because of how utterly dodgy, infantile and bizarre the whole thing was. Honestly surprised noone got the jail this afternoon, mate.

When I spoke to you both, it was literally to find out why all the unnecessary palaver and maybe discern what the f*ck was going through your minds to be the architects of it.

If I said here I'd entirely ruled out Play when we spoke, I'd be lying. That doesn't mean I approached your "Mrs" with any sense of entitlement, expectation and a view to dismissing consent or a woman's right to choose. Shame on you for suggesting it. Tbh, I found your "Mrs" to be far more communicative and understanding than you were, albeit a bit distracted by the sheer volume of Fab activity on her phone along with the amount of passing cars with Doggers at the wheel circling us.

When I did walk over to your car, the last guy who'd been playing was already in his car. I know this because he was struggling to drive through a big, muddy puddle while being watched by the owner of the dog compound at the end of the extremely busy lane you chose to have as your stage for this production. That, among many other things, is a point you have definitely missed in your wee crusade to paint yourself as a righteous victim and staunch defender of your womens rights, mate. You know fine well noone had said No loads of times, and noone kept asking or pestering anyone for sex. You set up a strange and stupid situation with someone who, as you pointed out has something like twenty five times the verifications and experience you do. The common denominator in the necessary hassle and stress has been you and whatever the f*ck game you're playing with people who take the life seriously.

If there is anything you're good at , I suggest you stick to it in future. Today has shown you literally couldn't organise a Gangbang and were not made to face the consequences of your actions in trying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
33 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

I think that is what da kidz nowadays describe as a 'mike drop' post.

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By *eautynGeekCouple
33 weeks ago

Dalry

Oh Drama who's got the popcorn?

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago


"I think that is what da kidz nowadays describe as a 'mike drop' post. how’s that for a Mike drop, tool. Your probably one that is all talk and then doesn’t turn up or stands there saying “I just want to watch” "

Ha. A nerve clearly been struck.

First of all, I've no idea who any of the parties are in this particular spat. I've never been dogging and have no intention of ever doing so.

What I do see is a strange OP - clearly with an ulterior motive for posting. No one in their right mind would argue against the fact that no means no.

A few posts later, we see the OP story getting forensicaly torn to shreds.

Like I said, I have no skin in this game but as an outsider, I know who looks to be more believable.

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By *ipstick Cherry RhythmCouple
33 weeks ago

Glasgow

That's more deranged speculation from you and the type of abusive and frankly unhinged nonsense that brought us here in the first place.

You can't tell the truth or use a spark of wit to win your point so you get nasty.

Keep talking, and issuing threats. You're saving me the bother of having to back into too much detail about why you're so completely in the wrong here.

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