FabSwingers.com forum: Out Of Your League

By (user no longer on site) OP
5 weeks ago

Anyone else not message someone as they look at the pics and profile and say nah they are well out of my league? Some absolutely gorgeous people on this app!

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By *isbehavingWoman
5 weeks ago

Huntly

I do that at times. Age plays a part too.

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By *CGlasgow24Man
5 weeks ago

Glasgow

I can barely get a message back, unsure what the problem is don’t know if it’s the profile or age?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
5 weeks ago

I think that’s down to ratio of men and woman tbh plus the amount of messages woman receive compared to me is unreal, needle in a haystack

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By (user no longer on site) OP
5 weeks ago

That’s very true

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By *CGlasgow24Man
5 weeks ago

Glasgow

Aye true I get that women will receive a lot more but like your reading the profiles finding ones you like messaging and it’s just the same results

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By *effdelightMan
5 weeks ago

Grimsby

"Anyone else not message someone as they look at the pics and profile and say nah they are well out of my league? Some absolutely gorgeous people on this app! "
if they've messaged you, maybe leave it up to them to decide if they fancy you rather than assuming they don't despite making the first move 🤣 come on man give yourself a chance 🤣💪

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By *cots boostCouple
5 weeks ago

Glasgow

Feel free to get in touch with us!

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By *ORDERMANMan
5 weeks ago

wrexham(south)

This can be an example of the fab equivalent of Murphys law..

What I refer to as fab law..so you spor a profile you th8nk way out of my league but everyone else thinks same...so no-one else ever messages so said hot profile actually doesn't recieve messages..

You drop message they're so over come someone has messaged them they actually reply...

Ah if fab was so easy..or run by carlsberg

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By (user no longer on site) OP
5 weeks ago

Hahah you’ve given away the secret

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By *ilveryFoxMan
5 weeks ago

Midlothian

"Anyone else not message someone as they look at the pics and profile and say nah they are well out of my league? Some absolutely gorgeous people on this app! "

All the time

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
5 weeks ago

Midlothian

Often.

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By *ranco01Man
5 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Way too many times...

I think for me it's becoming an excuse to avoid the possibility of being rejected, heritage of my last relationship...

But what I keep repeating myself is: you don't get if you don't ask.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
5 weeks ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

No one is out of anyones league only those who think they are .

I've been very surprised over the years with some of the people contacting me and wanting repeat meets so just go for it what is the worst that can happen !?

Rejection isn't nice but we all have to realise we all have likes & dislikes.

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By *imntonicCouple
5 weeks ago

thirsk

Oh yes. Some people are far in front of us x

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
5 weeks ago

Usually Dundee and around

I have hesitated to contact ladies and couples on here because I thought they wouldn't be interested in me.

I have also had ladies respond to me messaging them saying they have had me on their hot list but though I was out of their league!

My reaction is always, what a shame to have self selected themselves out of my interest...

So turning the tables, I try not to self deselect, and contact folk with a polite exploratory message to let them decide if they are interested or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
5 weeks ago

This is very true what is the worst that can happen x

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By *avie65Man
5 weeks ago

In the west.

I don’t often message for this very reason. But on the other hand I very seldom get messages, so I can only assume that I’m in That category. 🤭

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By *ndymac888Man
5 weeks ago

Dumbarton

Not so much how they look on there profile.

Mostly if they have been active a lot of years I might think shit I need to level up.

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By *partanx1983Man
5 weeks ago

Scotland

"Anyone else not message someone as they look at the pics and profile and say nah they are well out of my league? Some absolutely gorgeous people on this app! "

I'm my own worst enemy on here for this reason.

I either think the person is out of my league or I see who has verified them and put myself down thinking I wouldn't measure up to what they've already had.

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By *ealisticMan
5 weeks ago

West Lothian

I do that all the time.

Also I sometimes never bother due to my age and height.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
5 weeks ago

Kirky

Guilty as charged to this.

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By *allucinatingGMan
5 weeks ago

Wild West Lothian

I think part of the problem is that many guys who don't have a 7+ inch cock and who aren't ripped, feel that they simply don't measure up to what females/couples are looking for on here, because after all many are looking for fantasies to be fulfilled and the above ticks a lot of boxes and there's a lot to choose from.

Dad bods and 5 inch cocks therefore probably feel a little out of their depth and dare I say it, inadequate? So everyone looks out of their league.

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By *aspberryWoman
5 weeks ago

glasgow/belfast

I don't think anyone is out of anyone's league. It comes down to personal preferences, likes and dislikes. Personally I think incomplete profiles are a real turn off, as is messages with 'Hi im horny' and such like another turn off. Or the messages where cock pics are sent asking what I would do to their cock.... Just my thoughts

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By *amierebelMan
5 weeks ago

My own little world

Nah

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Motherwell

No one should judge anyone,if the person behaved towards you as if they felt they were out of your league, then call it a lucky escape and it helps you understand what it is that you are looking for in a sexual partner and what sex with them will be like in my experience. Mx

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By *cottishornMan
5 weeks ago

wee village

Yeah I often 2nd guess myself. Sometimes I will send and hope for the best. Depends on how I am feeling if I send a message or not. And always try to be respectful. Oddly I don't find that in a "kinkier" place. That seems easier fir some reason.

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By *eird_With_a_BeardMan
5 weeks ago

Falkirk

I didn't meet her through Fab, but I met my current partner on a dating App. She matched with me first. I'd never have thought she'd have been interested in me

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By *each_BananaCouple
5 weeks ago

China

We aren't searching for anyone however we get many messages daily...

Unfortunately we cannot read them all, but one or two catch our eye

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By *igh_landerMan
5 weeks ago

inverness-shire

I don’t get many reply’s either don’t know if it’s my profile or just my location

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By *r.BreederMan
5 weeks ago

South Lanarkshire

Unfortunately, I sometimes think:

The ones we like , don't like us back ...

And those who like us, who would like them ?

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By *yantico86Man
5 weeks ago

drumchapel

Everyday for me I feel most people are out of my league

Built up some courage last year or so had something amazing meets

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By *hastity_roseTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Nowhere

Age and cross dressing usually filters them out anyway

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By *hogun300Man
5 weeks ago

Dundee

"Anyone else not message someone as they look at the pics and profile and say nah they are well out of my league? Some absolutely gorgeous people on this app! "

Not so much not messaging them. But not taking things further for reasons of a similar vain.

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By *exsaCouple
5 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Yes!!!! All the time. We are probably all selling ourselves short. L

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By *eroLondonMan
5 weeks ago

Mayfair

I wouldn't necessarily say "...out of my league" but my frequent reticence is usually down to height constraints.

There are many statuesque sirens sauntering the Fåb corridors. 💐

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By *TRAY-CATMan
5 weeks ago

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By *TRAY-CATMan
5 weeks ago

Unfortunately most folk on here are Premiership or championship while I'm still stuck in the non - league status

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By *sWyldWoman
5 weeks ago

Edinburgh

All the time

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By *amierebelMan
5 weeks ago

My own little world

"Unfortunately most folk on here are Premiership or championship while I'm still stuck in the non - league status "

Don’t sell yourself short man filters and good angles Do wonders 👊

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By *adlad9714Man
4 weeks ago

falkirk

All the time

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By *ecretxLoverWoman
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

I can sometimes not reply to a message or say “no thanks” due to this x

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By *bztradieMan
4 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Yeh all the time

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By *laySexualWoman
4 weeks ago

fife

All the time! Sometimes I get messages from people and think, they'll be well dissapointed when they meet me , so I disregard them too 😂 it's funny how our insecurities play massively when a socials a social . Your not promising anything 😂 we should just go for it !

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By *hekaiserMan
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

Many a time

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By *atte Lover 82Man
4 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

Do it all the time on this app and in real life. If I do message it's been a moment of bravery 🤣

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By *lue-raspWoman
4 weeks ago

never ending banter in fife

I do it all the time! Look at their pics and maybe see slim perky women in their pics and think they would be disappointed if they met me. Or if i get a message from someone really hot and think the same

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By *laySexualWoman
4 weeks ago

fife

Yes or you look at the type of woman that's verified them and think . Nope that's not me 😂

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By *hamelessfunMan
4 weeks ago

paisley

I usually find a lot of pics of women on here quite hot and they look great..then I read their profile and it's barrier after barrier and they all want you to be hung like a horse or built like a Greek god 😅which I am not, unfortunately😅. I don't really shoot my shot but I ain't desperate either and I'm not gonna try and get with someone for the sake of it. So I recently took my pics off from public and decided I'll just write in the forums and engage with people here.

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By *zrulMan
4 weeks ago

Fundee

"Anyone else not message someone as they look at the pics and profile and say nah they are well out of my league? Some absolutely gorgeous people on this app! "

Yes, that is me

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Allll the time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

"Yes or you look at the type of woman that's verified them and think . Nope that's not me 😂"

This!!

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By *azzle99Woman
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Biggest bug bear is people messaging saying I’m stunning (how do they know - they can’t see my face?) and then the usual… “but, im way out your league anyway”.

Lack of confidence is so off putting, be more self assured guys, pleassseee!

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By *ugehandsMan
4 weeks ago

Fife/ Newcastle

There is no such a thing as out of someone's league, there either a mutual attraction of not, it's probably a lack of confidence to approach an attractive person that's the deciding factor.

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By *iimonMan
4 weeks ago

Central belt Scotland

"Biggest bug bear is people messaging saying I’m stunning (how do they know - they can’t see my face?) and then the usual… “but, im way out your league anyway”.

Lack of confidence is so off putting, be more self assured guys, pleassseee! "

Might not be able to see your face but your body is incredible! Latest addition to the hot list

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By *ockboy77Man
4 weeks ago

Angus, Ayr

All the time unfortunately

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
4 weeks ago

Usually Dundee and around

"Yes or you look at the type of woman that's verified them and think . Nope that's not me 😂

This!!"

I'd love to have a verification from you!

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By *rdadjokesMan
4 weeks ago

Stirling

It’s a 50/50 either way yes or no, so if you think it’s a no why not just take chance if nothing to lose? Plus what we all look for can vary from person to person yeah some physical but others the mind x

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By *dalisqueWoman
4 weeks ago

land of make believe

I often wonder why certain people message however they usually only pretty on the outside which isn't something I am interested in xx

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By *ippo33Man
4 weeks ago

Dundee

I say hello and how are you doing ,next thing your blocked lol

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By *corpioboyMan
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Anyone else not message someone as they look at the pics and profile and say nah they are well out of my league? Some absolutely gorgeous people on this app! "

All the time. There are some really stunning people on here so I rarely message these days plus age isn’t on my side either lol.

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By *dinswinger600Man
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Always

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By *laySexualWoman
4 weeks ago

fife

Lack of confidence is so off putting, be more self assured guys, pleassseee! "

I hate when I ask for a pic and people say something like , this is where we stop talking, or , yes but I'll not be your type .

I'm very much a personality kind of gal. Time just isn't on my side to meet as regularly as we hope 😂

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By *ainyDaySunshineMan
4 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"Anyone else not message someone as they look at the pics and profile and say nah they are well out of my league? Some absolutely gorgeous people on this app! "

Don't hate the player, hate the game

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By *iniskirtCouple
4 weeks ago

Paisley

Yes a lot, we look at profiles and think wow they are stunning, then don’t send a message because we know that they are so out of our league it’s unthinkable that they would reply back x

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By *allucinatingGMan
4 weeks ago

Wild West Lothian

"Yes a lot, we look at profiles and think wow they are stunning, then don’t send a message because we know that they are so out of our league it’s unthinkable that they would reply back x"

Exactly this!

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By *lder budweiserMan
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire

"Yes a lot, we look at profiles and think wow they are stunning, then don’t send a message because we know that they are so out of our league it’s unthinkable that they would reply back x"

Your profile is right up there with the best of them, can't imagine there would be many looking down their noses at you

(Did that make me look like a fawning arselicker?)

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By *hogun300Man
4 weeks ago

Dundee

"Yes a lot, we look at profiles and think wow they are stunning, then don’t send a message because we know that they are so out of our league it’s unthinkable that they would reply back x

Your profile is right up there with the best of them, can't imagine there would be many looking down their noses at you

(Did that make me look like a fawning arselicker?) "

Yes

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By *i versMan
4 weeks ago

Kirkcaldy

Aye or they live miles away....

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By *lder budweiserMan
4 weeks ago

Stirlingshire

"Yes a lot, we look at profiles and think wow they are stunning, then don’t send a message because we know that they are so out of our league it’s unthinkable that they would reply back x

Your profile is right up there with the best of them, can't imagine there would be many looking down their noses at you

(Did that make me look like a fawning arselicker?)

Yes"

Well, they're out of my league anyway

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By *j2015Couple
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

We have felt it yeah, omg they are hot, but never let it stop us.

Unless the profile states “we are gym fit and prefer the same” or something similar there is no reason for us not to say Hi 🤷‍♂️

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By *r-Mrs BackagainCouple
4 weeks ago

Perthshire

Yep , sounds familiar. We sometimes hold back xx

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By *B78Man
4 weeks ago

Clydebank

Yep defo felt that way before and quite alot. I even had someone ask for face pic and reply Oh Yuck and then blocked me. A simple not my type would have been nice 🙂

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By *iniskirtCouple
4 weeks ago

Paisley

"Yes a lot, we look at profiles and think wow they are stunning, then don’t send a message because we know that they are so out of our league it’s unthinkable that they would reply back x

Your profile is right up there with the best of them, can't imagine there would be many looking down their noses at you

(Did that make me look like a fawning arselicker?)

Yes

Well, they're out of my league anyway "

We aren’t out of anyone’s league, not even sure we are in a league x

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By *opeydeviantMan
4 weeks ago

Livingston

I've gave up pretty much , I haven't had an admirer for a long time on here now, it's a jungle and yeah I see amazing cpls but most appear out my league or I guess untrusty to a guy,it's cool im thick skinned seen it all over the years I expect nothing now, but heh I love a blether and im always nice

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By *av007Man
4 weeks ago

Glasgow area

I just hope to make a connection and get a reply, there's so mant gorgeous women and sexy guys, I will live in hope

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By *eaAndBiscuits8788Couple
4 weeks ago

moray

There's no harm in trying is what I say

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By *igYin n CowGirlCouple
4 weeks ago

New Cumnock

Your profile reads nice enough, you sound lovely. No face pics tho so dont know what you look like? Do you get on cam in the chat rooms? Thats the way to meet ppl on here

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By *igYin n CowGirlCouple
4 weeks ago

New Cumnock

Best way to get to meet and chat to people is in the chat rooms.

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By *eriScotMan
4 weeks ago

Scottish Borders

Never back away from messaging someone even if I think I don’t have much of a chance. Nothing wrong with being rejected, will have happened to me more than being successful. Just have to accept you’re not everyone’s type and move on

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By *berdeen74Man
4 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Yeah I do this based on oth how attractive the lady is and also age.

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By *erfHerder74Man
4 weeks ago

Inverclyde

No, I never think that.

If you find a profile interesting, like the photos, if they respond it opens a conversation, if it drops off after a few messages it’s not really worth wasting your time

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By *igh_landerMan
4 weeks ago

inverness-shire

I always make an effort to reach out 1st but most don’t reply, guess I’m not there type not the end of the world

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