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By *sda Clark Kent OP   Man
2 weeks ago

fife

It's probably different for women on here as they get 2000 messages per day. However ghosting really bothers me, probably more than it should.

Not replying is fine, how can a woman reply to that level of messages, especially when 60% are from miles away clogging up inboxes (will save that for a later rant). More the exchange of numbers. Arranging to meet, messaging lots, then just boom...casper.

It messes with for sure, makes me think I've done something.

It won't bother some i guess but i can't be the only one

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

How many times have you been ghosted, OP?

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By *ynamite500Man
2 weeks ago

Angus

It happens, I can understand how it has an effect, especially when one hasn't done nor said anything to justify such an action... Some are just cranks and have their own mental justification. remember this...when you get ghosted or blocked for no apparent or common sense reason, they have actually done YOU the favour, and you sir have dodged a bullet!šŸ˜

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By *sda Clark Kent OP   Man
2 weeks ago

fife

Probably did dodge a bullet i suppose. It's more the waste of time or wondering if i said something. Fine line and all that.

I do fine here, just the last ticked a lot of boxes

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By *assy LassieWoman
2 weeks ago

Lanarkshire


"It happens, I can understand how it has an effect, especially when one hasn't done nor said anything to justify such an action... Some are just cranks and have their own mental justification. remember this...when you get ghosted or blocked for no apparent or common sense reason, they have actually done YOU the favour, and you sir have dodged a bullet!šŸ˜"

They will have a reason. They just don't tell you what it is.

On an added note. Ghosting is actually when someone has a relationship with a person and disappears. Not an exchange of messages that stop.... that's called changing your mind. Ues it would be nice if the person told you why but too many times it opens said person up to abuse and therefore isn't worth the hassle.

To the OP thick skin. move on. Bullet dodged

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By *sda Clark Kent OP   Man
2 weeks ago

fife

Well yes it's the fab version of ghosting. It's more telling me one thing then doing another.

Yeah i guess i just think i would say if i changed my mind. Especially if we've chatted lots built a connection etc.

It's a tough and great place fab haha

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By *he Boy of WonderMan
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

We cannot control how other people behave, we can only control how we react. Try and not focus on thinking itā€™s a case of dodging bullets, that then creates a negative reaction to each time it happens. You honestly just need to accept its part and parcel of online behaviour nowadays.

It is what it is buddy

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By *assy LassieWoman
2 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

Sometimes too much chat before arranging a quick social meet can be counterproductive. It's a fine line.

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By *sda Clark Kent OP   Man
2 weeks ago

fife


"Sometimes too much chat before arranging a quick social meet can be counterproductive. It's a fine line. "

Yeah tell me about it. It's better when you connect with someone it's better and most women I've found want that so just concentrate on that. As the lad above said, it's part and parcel.

Think I'm just a bit annoyed i was open with someone, arranged a time and they bailed and then didn't even say they were bailing

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By *he Boy of WonderMan
2 weeks ago

Glasgow


"Sometimes too much chat before arranging a quick social meet can be counterproductive. It's a fine line. "

Ooooft all you do is talk woman, no-one gets a word inā€¦.

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By *erfHerder74Man
2 weeks ago

Inverclyde

Itā€™s only ghosting if you have met in person.

We have all chatted to people who suddenly stop talking, thatā€™s just ignorance if they donā€™t block

Iā€™ve met a few men who enjoy my bed company the suddenly stop coming round, thatā€™s ghosting, canā€™t be bothered with married men sneaking about with no time

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By *urvysingleWoman
2 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Sometimes as soon as you exchange numbers the guy changes personality and I just rather not deal with that

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By *ohndonald1062Man
2 weeks ago

inverness

I try not to over think it and remind myself what NSA means.

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By *enelope2UWoman
2 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Happens quite a lot..I think it's a UK thing sex is still a fantasy most don't put into reality.

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By *sda Clark Kent OP   Man
2 weeks ago

fife

Ah i mean that's fair enough and disappointing it happens.

Feel like i was the same. We even made out and planned for me to come back.

Onwards and upwards though

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By *sda Clark Kent OP   Man
2 weeks ago

fife

Yeah maybe follow through was too much i guess. If she had said i would have accepted that and understood. Maybe easier to ignore rather than be open i guess

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By *assy LassieWoman
2 weeks ago

Lanarkshire


"Sometimes too much chat before arranging a quick social meet can be counterproductive. It's a fine line.

Ooooft all you do is talk woman, no-one gets a word inā€¦. "

Guilteeee!šŸ¤£

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By *ympho6969Woman
2 weeks ago

glasgow


"It's probably different for women on here as they get 2000 messages per day. However ghosting really bothers me, probably more than it should.

Not replying is fine, how can a woman reply to that level of messages, especially when 60% are from miles away clogging up inboxes (will save that for a later rant). More the exchange of numbers. Arranging to meet, messaging lots, then just boom...casper.

It messes with for sure, makes me think I've done something.

It won't bother some i guess but i can't be the only one "

It's not really all that different for women. In fact, from my experience it's probably a lot worse. I've been ghosted, blocked for no reason, and even had a few completely delete profiles mid convo.

If I was to count, if say I'm close to hitting about 30 individual instances since new year.

Haven't been on much lately because of it.

I agree with you OP. We are all adults here, and simply saying I'm not feeling this and moving on seems too much for some people. Oh well, part of the fun of this site I guess.

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By *ergus1622Man
2 weeks ago

Dundee


"How many times have you been ghosted, OP?"

And Who are you gonna call??????

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By *ornyone30Man
2 weeks ago

ABERDEEN

It's such a fine line. At the end of the day, until you meet someone in person they are still a stranger. Say too much/not say enough/say the wrong word absolutely anything can put someone off. Should we have to message and justify why? Probably not. I stopped chatting with a woman the other day because I was asking questions trying to get to know her and all I got back was one word replies. She clearly wasn't that interested. I didn't feel the need to tell her that. So just never messaged back. It happens all the time. Just move on

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