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"I don't judge but won't meet married or taken people unless the partner knows. Don't fancy any repercussions " How do you know? Do you ask to speak to them first? (Not being sarcastic, just curious how far you go to be certain) | |||
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"I don't judge but won't meet married or taken people unless the partner knows. Don't fancy any repercussions How do you know? Do you ask to speak to them first? (Not being sarcastic, just curious how far you go to be certain) " There are certain tell tales…. No profile pic, can’t accommodate, week day only…. The list goes on | |||
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"I don't judge but won't meet married or taken people unless the partner knows. Don't fancy any repercussions How do you know? Do you ask to speak to them first? (Not being sarcastic, just curious how far you go to be certain) There are certain tell tales…. No profile pic, can’t accommodate, week day only…. The list goes on" Single parent?? I don’t accommodate for that very reason…not every story/circumstance is the same and easily boxed/tagged as such. | |||
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"I don't judge but won't meet married or taken people unless the partner knows. Don't fancy any repercussions How do you know? Do you ask to speak to them first? (Not being sarcastic, just curious how far you go to be certain) " In the 15 years I've been on here everyone all but one have been honest with me that's how I know | |||
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"I don't judge but won't meet married or taken people unless the partner knows. Don't fancy any repercussions " Same, but it comes down to a trust thing with us. If a wife/husband is willing to cheat on their other half then it shows a complete lack of honesty. | |||
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"Agree with the post above Everyone has different circumstances for doing it and some agree others don’t everyone is allowed a view Big one for me is people are honest when meeting others as to whether they are married or not. And the other party can decide if they want to continue or not Worst thing is when people unknown get dragged into the dramas if it all spills out " Ok so my personal take on it is it’s none of my business what you do I don’t knowingly meet anyone attached with or without permission it’s not my thing It’s a swinging site not a sex site Emphasis on swinging being all parties are aware and in full agreement of all activities !! I’ve never claimed to be a swinger and never will again I wouldn’t want to ever share my man or be shared by someone who’s supposed to love me that’s my personal views Single female who likes single males, enjoy exploring new things, love dressing up, enjoy the scene and the people who genuinely love the ethos of transparency | |||
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"What fucks with my mind is... If it's a female that has an unknowing partner....guys go high blood pressure want to fuck anything that moves. If it's a guy....you're a dirty cheatin bastard of a person....lol Yet another of the head fucks of a so called sexual liberal site 🤷🏻♂️ But I'm sure I'll get shot down by someone that gets 500+messages a day 🤣🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂" Nope I agree, it’s a double standard. Also don’t understand why it’s hot to fuck someone who’s married. Male or female. | |||
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" Also don’t understand why it’s hot to fuck someone who’s married. Male or female. " It's a power thing for many. Makes them feel superior that they can 'take' something from the other person and that they must be better than the other one because they can do so. | |||
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"I don't judge but won't meet married or taken people unless the partner knows. Don't fancy any repercussions " I second this. Not worth the drama at all and not what I'm looking for | |||
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"I think it's really hot, regardless if it's me or my partner that's cheating. Trying to keep everything a secret while you fuck each others brains out just adds to the whole experience. It would be pretty hot to find out my partner was getting used as some other guys fuck toy, especially if there were pics and videos of it all." I like sharing my woman and happy to arrange to leave her with another guy or couple, then pick her up later. This also turns her on. I think this mitigates the desire to cheat when you both can get a kick from arranging it and letting the woman have some fun alone, knowing she's coming back all used and telling me everything. | |||
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"I’m with you hun, I won’t meet anyone who’s in a relationship, married etc, from past experience it’s always been my fault not the cheater, I’ve had threats of it being taken to my work, private life etc! I state it on my profile and generally I won’t meet anyone who’s says “I can’t accommodate” unless I know them and know why otherwise it screams cheating, just my opinion "Can’t accommodate doesn’t mean there cheating we can’t accommodate for a couple of reasons kids and security being the main reason | |||
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"I’m going to kinda dilute the topic slightly but it’s past 3am and no-one’s here to stop me: I find the contrast in gender roles with judgement between being on fab compared to mainstream society quite peculiar. A married man on fab, even the upfront ones, are thrown to the dogs often on forums and outed on updates. Profiles often state clearly no married men alongside some borderline insults about morals. Yet, you never see couples stating no married women do we…. Fabswinger morals = married men thrown under the bus, but the judgement and character assassination is put to the side for married females playing away with or without permission.. But mainstream society attitudes are the opposite. Guys can go around pumping as many as they want, guys can be on swinging sites and having casual sex to get backslaps off their mates and called jack the lad….a woman having casual sex and being on a swinging site? Oooft, slut skank slag tart and her parents would be so proud… Funny old world eh " So what you are saying (if I’m not mistaken) is that morally, women in the LS judge men more harshly than men judge women? That’s an inversion of societal norms. | |||
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" So what you are saying (if I’m not mistaken) is that morally, women in the LS judge men more harshly than men judge women? That’s an inversion of societal norms. " I don’t really know what you’re trying to ask tbh as the inversion of societal norms is exactly what I have stated. But to clarify, I did just say on fab and not the full Lifestyle opinions. Probably more than half the accounts on fab are false accounts, people not active on the lifestyle and people who haven’t yet experienced the LS. People I’ve met, excluding the extreme fuds, within the active LS aren’t as judgemental as the generals attitudes online here on Fab. The online community is very different to the physical  | |||
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"I love when my wife cheats " It’s only cheating if you don’t know and don’t get pics sent. Otherwise that’d be classed as a hotwife | |||
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"So I'm in two minds about this, and have thoroughly loved reading your comments about it. I've always met married men in the past, for a few reasons, one being that I know they're discreet and the second being that I know they're not going to be all clingy, possessive etc. For me, it was a no brainer, and I've enjoyed it. However, just a few weeks ago, I came across a post on a social media site that absolutely broke my heart. The woman's partner had cheated on her for years, he was on here and went to CJs and house parties, I scrolled down and I recognised him! And, in that moment, I felt ill. Had I contributed to this woman's heartache? Was I partly to blame for what she had been through? I turned around and said to my husband, "I can't be responsible for doing that to anyone else." I would love to know what you all think? Would you have reacted the same as I did when faced with it as a reality? I had put up on my profile about not meeting married men, but I've taken it down again, because I really am in two minds xXx" It was him doing the cheating so I (mr) don’t believe the blame’s on you he’d still cheat regardless . Do whatever’s best for you | |||
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"Very interesting to see all the comments here about this subject as I am in that category, but at the same time you have to understand that there are also two sides of a story! Why a man that has certain sexual desires and wants to have threesomes for example can’t have that? Especially when that was discusses with the wife previously and the wife was not open to it?…does that man need to be “constrained” all his life by that because he is married? In my view no!…there are always two sides of a story people! Don’t forget that!!😀" Maybe you should have talked more before the wedding and if you were not sexually compatible you should have found somebody who was to marry. It always seems to me that the men blame the wives for the reason why they cheat which is totally unfair. | |||
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"Very interesting to see all the comments here about this subject as I am in that category, but at the same time you have to understand that there are also two sides of a story! Why a man that has certain sexual desires and wants to have threesomes for example can’t have that? Especially when that was discusses with the wife previously and the wife was not open to it?…does that man need to be “constrained” all his life by that because he is married? In my view no!…there are always two sides of a story people! Don’t forget that!!😀 Maybe you should have talked more before the wedding and if you were not sexually compatible you should have found somebody who was to marry. It always seems to me that the men blame the wives for the reason why they cheat which is totally unfair." See this is what I tell ALL my single friends. If you have kinks, desires, needs, do not hide them, be upfront with whoever you're dating! Because you don't want to get down the line and try to introduce something and then they're upset, so you either hide that part of yourself or, like this, you have to explore it elsewhere. I can see how it gets to this point, so it's definitely something I tell my single friends to be open about because you HAVE to be sexually compatible! | |||
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"Very interesting to see all the comments here about this subject as I am in that category, but at the same time you have to understand that there are also two sides of a story! Why a man that has certain sexual desires and wants to have threesomes for example can’t have that? Especially when that was discusses with the wife previously and the wife was not open to it?…does that man need to be “constrained” all his life by that because he is married? In my view no!…there are always two sides of a story people! Don’t forget that!!😀" So because you want it and the wife doesn't you feel entitled to get it elsewhere without her knowledge. Maybe you shouldn't have married her if you are incompatible. Now there's a novel thought. Follow your dreams and fantasies but don't potentially devastate others for your selfish choices. I would say this to any gender! | |||
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"Very interesting to see all the comments here about this subject as I am in that category, but at the same time you have to understand that there are also two sides of a story! Why a man that has certain sexual desires and wants to have threesomes for example can’t have that? Especially when that was discusses with the wife previously and the wife was not open to it?…does that man need to be “constrained” all his life by that because he is married? In my view no!…there are always two sides of a story people! Don’t forget that!!😀 Maybe you should have talked more before the wedding and if you were not sexually compatible you should have found somebody who was to marry. It always seems to me that the men blame the wives for the reason why they cheat which is totally unfair." Sad thing is if they actually talked to their partners they might be more sexually compatible than they assume they are. Men are always quick to blame their wives, but at times if they bothered to make an effort or pay attention to their wives needs and not just their own they could actually be pleasantly surprised but cheating the easy way out | |||
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"Not my circus not my monkey. I'm here for me and if the chemistry, attraction, matched effort is there and diaries align then that's all I want . I'm not looking to change my single status nor do I want to change their attached one. I don't get off on it though! " Exactly this.... Except I require honesty TO ME..it's MY choice if I want to put myself at risk of a misdirected wife or girlfriends anger... | |||
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"Very interesting to see all the comments here about this subject as I am in that category, but at the same time you have to understand that there are also two sides of a story! Why a man that has certain sexual desires and wants to have threesomes for example can’t have that? Especially when that was discusses with the wife previously and the wife was not open to it?…does that man need to be “constrained” all his life by that because he is married? In my view no!…there are always two sides of a story people! Don’t forget that!!😀 So because you want it and the wife doesn't you feel entitled to get it elsewhere without her knowledge. Maybe you shouldn't have married her if you are incompatible. Now there's a novel thought. Follow your dreams and fantasies but don't potentially devastate others for your selfish choices. I would say this to any gender! " Exactly! | |||
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"Very interesting to see all the comments here about this subject as I am in that category, but at the same time you have to understand that there are also two sides of a story! Why a man that has certain sexual desires and wants to have threesomes for example can’t have that? Especially when that was discusses with the wife previously and the wife was not open to it?…does that man need to be “constrained” all his life by that because he is married? In my view no!…there are always two sides of a story people! Don’t forget that!!😀 Maybe you should have talked more before the wedding and if you were not sexually compatible you should have found somebody who was to marry. It always seems to me that the men blame the wives for the reason why they cheat which is totally unfair." I wish I knew about this before getting married! It would have been a different story! 😀 | |||
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"All, Blimey my post was quoted quite a few times lately eh? I wish i knew about the lifestyle and all these before getting married, but I didn’t! Maybe fault of society to what’s normal and what’s not, maybe fault of other things; I don’t know and not going to analyse it in the forum! But we are here to fulfil fantasies and have good time at the end of the day! If it’s done in a way that does not even raising suspicions (and it doesn’t for me) and there is 0 drama, then happy days! I am very open why I do this on private chats(when asked) and that’s it! If someone doesn’t approve it, I accept that and move on! We are not here either for the feelings or for “love”! Is it correct morally? No! Do I have to constrain myself because of my lack of knowledge? No! Things are not black and white guys! Happy to discuss privately as it’s gets too personal getting into the details here!😀" You don't owe an explanation to anyone. Obviously, as long as you're upfront with whoever you're having fun with, then that's between two consenting adults. As I've said in another comment, I'm really in two minds about it, because I had always enjoyed fun with married men previously but seeing a post from the other side made me physically sick and I hated myself. Just to add, this guy didn't tell me he was married, so there's also that guilt too, where I felt like I should have known! Anyway, you're an adult, you're fucking adults, don't bother explaining yourself in mails because those who don't get it won't ever get it, and that's their beliefs and that's absolutely fine xx | |||
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"I don't judge but won't meet married or taken people unless the partner knows. Don't fancy any repercussions How do you know? Do you ask to speak to them first? (Not being sarcastic, just curious how far you go to be certain) There are certain tell tales…. No profile pic, can’t accommodate, week day only…. The list goes on" Not accommodating doesn't mean someone is cheating.. there's a whole range of completely normal reasons why a single person can't accommodate.. | |||
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"Don't see the reason of cheating just talk with your partner! " Already tried that buddy! See my previous post! Unfiltered my msgs to allow them for males, so get in touch to discuss it privately! | |||
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