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"Why are folk surprised (this probably doesn’t overly apply to girls or maybe even couples) when their messages go unanswered. The answer is simple in my head. The amount of effort and presentation put in generally reflects the volume of engagement received back It’s all down to marketing (ourselves in this case) I accept friend requests a fair amount of the time but also rapidly unfriend ones that are simply a catalogue of cock pics and nothing else really. If this is your USP great - and for a sex site which this is - double great But don’t be surprised if you don’t get the attention you feel you deserve 🤷🏻♀️" 100% agree 👍 | |||
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"I get what you are saying Little Miss Fab and you are right when it comes to people not getting the attention they feel they deserve. From what I gather. "The men" I'm assuming that's who you mean? Who feel are entitled to a reply are the ones who end up getting arsey. So not worth the time anyway. I however like to think I put the effort in when messaging people. I only mail people who's profile I feel i would be suited to. Yet level of engagement is still very very low. However this doesn't surprise me and in no way do I expect a reply. No reply is effectively a reply especially if mail has been read. Everyone has their own preferences and are entitled to it. Unfortunately the majority of the others have ruined it for the rest of us meaning that our messages tend to go unread or get lost in the barrage of mail you guys receive on a daily basis. So unfortunately effort doesn't usually guarantee a reply sadly. Even a polite no thanks. Which again even though it would be nice i wouldn't expect. " Agree with this | |||
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"Why are folk surprised (this probably doesn’t overly apply to girls or maybe even couples) when their messages go unanswered. The answer is simple in my head. The amount of effort and presentation put in generally reflects the volume of engagement received back It’s all down to marketing (ourselves in this case) I accept friend requests a fair amount of the time but also rapidly unfriend ones that are simply a catalogue of cock pics and nothing else really. If this is your USP great - and for a sex site which this is - double great But don’t be surprised if you don’t get the attention you feel you deserve 🤷🏻♀️" Try to sell to everyone and you will sell to no one | |||
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"I get what you are saying Little Miss Fab and you are right when it comes to people not getting the attention they feel they deserve. From what I gather. "The men" I'm assuming that's who you mean? Who feel are entitled to a reply are the ones who end up getting arsey. So not worth the time anyway. I however like to think I put the effort in when messaging people. I only mail people who's profile I feel i would be suited to. Yet level of engagement is still very very low. However this doesn't surprise me and in no way do I expect a reply. No reply is effectively a reply especially if mail has been read. Everyone has their own preferences and are entitled to it. Unfortunately the majority of the others have ruined it for the rest of us meaning that our messages tend to go unread or get lost in the barrage of mail you guys receive on a daily basis. So unfortunately effort doesn't usually guarantee a reply sadly. Even a polite no thanks. Which again even though it would be nice i wouldn't expect. " Personally I don’t always reply to a message as sending a simple “no thanks” to some profiles means they take that as an opportunity to start chatting and some guys will just send abuse anyway! When I first joined fab I tried to reply to as many people as I physically could but over the years I’ve realised that some guys just don’t take no for an answer and it’s easier to just delete  | |||
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"I get what you are saying Little Miss Fab and you are right when it comes to people not getting the attention they feel they deserve. From what I gather. "The men" I'm assuming that's who you mean? Who feel are entitled to a reply are the ones who end up getting arsey. So not worth the time anyway. I however like to think I put the effort in when messaging people. I only mail people who's profile I feel i would be suited to. Yet level of engagement is still very very low. However this doesn't surprise me and in no way do I expect a reply. No reply is effectively a reply especially if mail has been read. Everyone has their own preferences and are entitled to it. Unfortunately the majority of the others have ruined it for the rest of us meaning that our messages tend to go unread or get lost in the barrage of mail you guys receive on a daily basis. So unfortunately effort doesn't usually guarantee a reply sadly. Even a polite no thanks. Which again even though it would be nice i wouldn't expect. Personally I don’t always reply to a message as sending a simple “no thanks” to some profiles means they take that as an opportunity to start chatting and some guys will just send abuse anyway! When I first joined fab I tried to reply to as many people as I physically could but over the years I’ve realised that some guys just don’t take no for an answer and it’s easier to just delete "Everything above is completely valid. The crutch of the problem is the entitled egotistical wank fodder. They are the primary root cause of all the negativity in the world. Unfortunately they are also greatest percentage both in the ohyical world and online. So much as woman have to have keys in hands, not walk in unlit areas at night in fear of assult, deal with lecherous pigs, and comments daily. Those who choose to be free spirited sexually need to manage online chatter and interaction to remove online abuse from said entitled egotistical wank fodder. Primal cave tactics of old,"me sex now", club to head, drag women to cave. Hasn't changed in millions of years. Only saving grace is women evolved. | |||
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"I get what you are saying Little Miss Fab and you are right when it comes to people not getting the attention they feel they deserve. From what I gather. "The men" I'm assuming that's who you mean? Who feel are entitled to a reply are the ones who end up getting arsey. So not worth the time anyway. I however like to think I put the effort in when messaging people. I only mail people who's profile I feel i would be suited to. Yet level of engagement is still very very low. However this doesn't surprise me and in no way do I expect a reply. No reply is effectively a reply especially if mail has been read. Everyone has their own preferences and are entitled to it. Unfortunately the majority of the others have ruined it for the rest of us meaning that our messages tend to go unread or get lost in the barrage of mail you guys receive on a daily basis. So unfortunately effort doesn't usually guarantee a reply sadly. Even a polite no thanks. Which again even though it would be nice i wouldn't expect. Personally I don’t always reply to a message as sending a simple “no thanks” to some profiles means they take that as an opportunity to start chatting and some guys will just send abuse anyway! When I first joined fab I tried to reply to as many people as I physically could but over the years I’ve realised that some guys just don’t take no for an answer and it’s easier to just delete "it's actually a shame for decent guys who would appreciate a simple no thanks, I dont often message single woman, mostly couples for me, that's because I feel like I'm 1 of 100 messaging and more likely not going to get a response. | |||
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"I get what you are saying Little Miss Fab and you are right when it comes to people not getting the attention they feel they deserve. From what I gather. "The men" I'm assuming that's who you mean? Who feel are entitled to a reply are the ones who end up getting arsey. So not worth the time anyway. I however like to think I put the effort in when messaging people. I only mail people who's profile I feel i would be suited to. Yet level of engagement is still very very low. However this doesn't surprise me and in no way do I expect a reply. No reply is effectively a reply especially if mail has been read. Everyone has their own preferences and are entitled to it. Unfortunately the majority of the others have ruined it for the rest of us meaning that our messages tend to go unread or get lost in the barrage of mail you guys receive on a daily basis. So unfortunately effort doesn't usually guarantee a reply sadly. Even a polite no thanks. Which again even though it would be nice i wouldn't expect. " Ok. I have to come in to respond to this. The insinuation that is out there that someone is up their own arse because they don't even reply is wild! I deal with this here and both my social media accounts. I get mailed by guys on here and guys on there all the time. Now let's break this down. I am but 1 woman. I only have so much time in the day. Just like we all have. Just like you have. You gave chosen to spend some of your time writing a well thought out message. You send it to me. That comes with the expectation that I will respond. That is YOUR expectation. Just because someone messages me it does not mean I HAVE to respond. I did not ask for that person to message me. I did ask for them to spend that time on me. I DID NOT ASK FOR IT. Yet I am meant to be grateful for it? And if I don't respond I'm a cunt? Nah. This is not it. I do not have the time to respond to everyone. As many others don't either. Both male and female. People are damned busy with vanilla lives. Honestly grinds my gears that so many get rat arsed about this and then automatically places a character trait on someone being a cunt when it is their own expectations of the interaction that is letting them down. Now obviously there are arseholes on here. Both male and female. I may well be one 😁 Who are so far up there own arses it is laughable. This does not apply them 😂 | |||
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"I get what you are saying Little Miss Fab and you are right when it comes to people not getting the attention they feel they deserve. From what I gather. "The men" I'm assuming that's who you mean? Who feel are entitled to a reply are the ones who end up getting arsey. So not worth the time anyway. I however like to think I put the effort in when messaging people. I only mail people who's profile I feel i would be suited to. Yet level of engagement is still very very low. However this doesn't surprise me and in no way do I expect a reply. No reply is effectively a reply especially if mail has been read. Everyone has their own preferences and are entitled to it. Unfortunately the majority of the others have ruined it for the rest of us meaning that our messages tend to go unread or get lost in the barrage of mail you guys receive on a daily basis. So unfortunately effort doesn't usually guarantee a reply sadly. Even a polite no thanks. Which again even though it would be nice i wouldn't expect. Personally I don’t always reply to a message as sending a simple “no thanks” to some profiles means they take that as an opportunity to start chatting and some guys will just send abuse anyway! When I first joined fab I tried to reply to as many people as I physically could but over the years I’ve realised that some guys just don’t take no for an answer and it’s easier to just delete
Everything above is completely valid.
The crutch of the problem is the entitled egotistical wank fodder.
They are the primary root cause of all the negativity in the world.
Unfortunately they are also greatest percentage both in the ohyical world and online.
So much as woman have to have keys in hands, not walk in unlit areas at night in fear of assult, deal with lecherous pigs, and comments daily. Those who choose to be free spirited sexually need to manage online chatter and interaction to remove online abuse from said entitled egotistical wank fodder.
Primal cave tactics of old,"me sex now", club to head, drag women to cave.
Hasn't changed in millions of years.
Only saving grace is women evolved.
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"I get what you are saying Little Miss Fab and you are right when it comes to people not getting the attention they feel they deserve. From what I gather. "The men" I'm assuming that's who you mean? Who feel are entitled to a reply are the ones who end up getting arsey. So not worth the time anyway. I however like to think I put the effort in when messaging people. I only mail people who's profile I feel i would be suited to. Yet level of engagement is still very very low. However this doesn't surprise me and in no way do I expect a reply. No reply is effectively a reply especially if mail has been read. Everyone has their own preferences and are entitled to it. Unfortunately the majority of the others have ruined it for the rest of us meaning that our messages tend to go unread or get lost in the barrage of mail you guys receive on a daily basis. So unfortunately effort doesn't usually guarantee a reply sadly. Even a polite no thanks. Which again even though it would be nice i wouldn't expect. Personally I don’t always reply to a message as sending a simple “no thanks” to some profiles means they take that as an opportunity to start chatting and some guys will just send abuse anyway! When I first joined fab I tried to reply to as many people as I physically could but over the years I’ve realised that some guys just don’t take no for an answer and it’s easier to just delete it's actually a shame for decent guys who would appreciate a simple no thanks, I dont often message single woman, mostly couples for me, that's because I feel like I'm 1 of 100 messaging and more likely not going to get a response. "We often turn on messages from single guys and the majority are very respectful we’ve had more problems with couples than single men. A lot of women feel entitled on here when in reality they wouldn’t get a second look in a pub | |||
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"I get what you are saying Little Miss Fab and you are right when it comes to people not getting the attention they feel they deserve. From what I gather. "The men" I'm assuming that's who you mean? Who feel are entitled to a reply are the ones who end up getting arsey. So not worth the time anyway. I however like to think I put the effort in when messaging people. I only mail people who's profile I feel i would be suited to. Yet level of engagement is still very very low. However this doesn't surprise me and in no way do I expect a reply. No reply is effectively a reply especially if mail has been read. Everyone has their own preferences and are entitled to it. Unfortunately the majority of the others have ruined it for the rest of us meaning that our messages tend to go unread or get lost in the barrage of mail you guys receive on a daily basis. So unfortunately effort doesn't usually guarantee a reply sadly. Even a polite no thanks. Which again even though it would be nice i wouldn't expect. Ok. I have to come in to respond to this. The insinuation that is out there that someone is up their own arse because they don't even reply is wild! I deal with this here and both my social media accounts. I get mailed by guys on here and guys on there all the time. Now let's break this down. I am but 1 woman. I only have so much time in the day. Just like we all have. Just like you have. You gave chosen to spend some of your time writing a well thought out message. You send it to me. That comes with the expectation that I will respond. That is YOUR expectation. Just because someone messages me it does not mean I HAVE to respond. I did not ask for that person to message me. I did ask for them to spend that time on me. I DID NOT ASK FOR IT. Yet I am meant to be grateful for it? And if I don't respond I'm a cunt? Nah. This is not it. I do not have the time to respond to everyone. As many others don't either. Both male and female. People are damned busy with vanilla lives. Honestly grinds my gears that so many get rat arsed about this and then automatically places a character trait on someone being a cunt when it is their own expectations of the interaction that is letting them down. Now obviously there are arseholes on here. Both male and female. I may well be one 😁 Who are so far up there own arses it is laughable. This does not apply them 😂 " Evening Pinky. I may be wrong here but as you quoted me in reply I'm assuming this was aimed at me? If this is the case. I think we may have our wires crossed here. I in no way said I expected a reply even if I had put effort in. I feel my comment of. "Although it would be nice" was misconstrued. I completely agree that it is not possible to read, never mind reply to every message you receive. I also agree that you are under no obligation to read or reply to anyone at all. I sincerely hope my post didn't come across in any other way. | |||
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"Well we are not all the same. As a man I would love at least a feedback about what actually is wrong. As a profile not good enough or just simply I don't like you. At least I know what's is wrong and I can work on it to succeed in meeting woman on here. Very frustrating if you have already lack of self confidence. And also the majority of women on here are looking only for slim/Fit guys. So far I had only one experience with a woman on here in 5 months. We are planning to see each other again soon. The other thing is also how some women wants only already verified guys but the point is if no one gives us a chance there is no way of meeting anyone. Understand the fact that girls here got Hundreds of messages and is hard to respond to everyone. But put yourself on our side. I know I'm not fit so chances even with a Chubby woman like I am are very little. She would choose a fit guy over a Chubby one all day along. Any reply will be really appreciated. Thanks " Dear oh dear mate. Not helping yourself at all here. "Even with a Chubby women" WTF!!. What exactly does that mean? "Chubby women" are more desperate? they should be grateful for your message? They should reply because??? Can you please please explain what you mean here!!. No-one owes anyone anything. Not just here but in life in general. Good luck with that mate. Time to sit back with the popcorn 🍿 and let the onslaught begin. | |||
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"I get what you are saying Little Miss Fab and you are right when it comes to people not getting the attention they feel they deserve. From what I gather. "The men" I'm assuming that's who you mean? Who feel are entitled to a reply are the ones who end up getting arsey. So not worth the time anyway. I however like to think I put the effort in when messaging people. I only mail people who's profile I feel i would be suited to. Yet level of engagement is still very very low. However this doesn't surprise me and in no way do I expect a reply. No reply is effectively a reply especially if mail has been read. Everyone has their own preferences and are entitled to it. Unfortunately the majority of the others have ruined it for the rest of us meaning that our messages tend to go unread or get lost in the barrage of mail you guys receive on a daily basis. So unfortunately effort doesn't usually guarantee a reply sadly. Even a polite no thanks. Which again even though it would be nice i wouldn't expect. Personally I don’t always reply to a message as sending a simple “no thanks” to some profiles means they take that as an opportunity to start chatting and some guys will just send abuse anyway! When I first joined fab I tried to reply to as many people as I physically could but over the years I’ve realised that some guys just don’t take no for an answer and it’s easier to just delete it's actually a shame for decent guys who would appreciate a simple no thanks, I dont often message single woman, mostly couples for me, that's because I feel like I'm 1 of 100 messaging and more likely not going to get a response. "Same. I just don't really have the time to message single women with such little prospect of any reply. You have to use your time wisely. | |||
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"Sorry I may worded wrong. I meant similar body type not meaning of saying that Chubby woman are desperate. Never said that. I'm fat and I'm aware of. On a diet. Lost a Stone in a month. I'm not happy with myself. I was just pointing the fact that you fit guys have more chances than a Chubby build guy on here. On this note I don't pretend anything. Just saying that would be nice that some could say to me, you are to fat for me or saying you bio is bad etc. A Feedback as I said in the previous post ( If someone is Kind) I'm always polite in the messages as well. So yes unfortunately it is what it is for my experience. " 🍿 lol | |||
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"Sorry I may worded wrong. I meant similar body type not meaning of saying that Chubby woman are desperate. Never said that. I'm fat and I'm aware of. On a diet. Lost a Stone in a month. I'm not happy with myself. I was just pointing the fact that you fit guys have more chances than a Chubby build guy on here. On this note I don't pretend anything. Just saying that would be nice that some could say to me, you are to fat for me or saying you bio is bad etc. A Feedback as I said in the previous post ( If someone is Kind) I'm always polite in the messages as well. So yes unfortunately it is what it is for my experience. " Sorry but I don't come on here to spend my time giving feedback to guys who message. I'm here for me and what I'm looking for. Harsh? Probably. But that's life. There are people who will thrive on the scene regardless of body type. Sorry to burst your bubble but slim fit guys get rejected too. Most women know what they are looking for and are happy to wait for someone who fits that. | |||
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"I get what you are saying Little Miss Fab and you are right when it comes to people not getting the attention they feel they deserve. From what I gather. "The men" I'm assuming that's who you mean? Who feel are entitled to a reply are the ones who end up getting arsey. So not worth the time anyway. I however like to think I put the effort in when messaging people. I only mail people who's profile I feel i would be suited to. Yet level of engagement is still very very low. However this doesn't surprise me and in no way do I expect a reply. No reply is effectively a reply especially if mail has been read. Everyone has their own preferences and are entitled to it. Unfortunately the majority of the others have ruined it for the rest of us meaning that our messages tend to go unread or get lost in the barrage of mail you guys receive on a daily basis. So unfortunately effort doesn't usually guarantee a reply sadly. Even a polite no thanks. Which again even though it would be nice i wouldn't expect. Ok. I have to come in to respond to this. The insinuation that is out there that someone is up their own arse because they don't even reply is wild! I deal with this here and both my social media accounts. I get mailed by guys on here and guys on there all the time. Now let's break this down. I am but 1 woman. I only have so much time in the day. Just like we all have. Just like you have. You gave chosen to spend some of your time writing a well thought out message. You send it to me. That comes with the expectation that I will respond. That is YOUR expectation. Just because someone messages me it does not mean I HAVE to respond. I did not ask for that person to message me. I did ask for them to spend that time on me. I DID NOT ASK FOR IT. Yet I am meant to be grateful for it? And if I don't respond I'm a cunt? Nah. This is not it. I do not have the time to respond to everyone. As many others don't either. Both male and female. People are damned busy with vanilla lives. Honestly grinds my gears that so many get rat arsed about this and then automatically places a character trait on someone being a cunt when it is their own expectations of the interaction that is letting them down. Now obviously there are arseholes on here. Both male and female. I may well be one 😁 Who are so far up there own arses it is laughable. This does not apply them 😂 Evening Pinky. I may be wrong here but as you quoted me in reply I'm assuming this was aimed at me? If this is the case. I think we may have our wires crossed here. I in no way said I expected a reply even if I had put effort in. I feel my comment of. "Although it would be nice" was misconstrued. I completely agree that it is not possible to read, never mind reply to every message you receive. I also agree that you are under no obligation to read or reply to anyone at all. I sincerely hope my post didn't come across in any other way." | |||
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"As a guy older than most and also on the scene longer than most been on the planet If I send a message and it’s deleted I just write on them private note not interested Same if I get a reply saying not interested No pint keep messaging they are not into you And as for the abusive messages sent by some guys to ladies ffs grow up guys " Only been here for a couple of weeks and that’s sort of my attitude as well! If my initial message was deleted i consider that a firm no, and putting a note on the profile that my msg got deleted. If it’s read and not responded again that’s a no (or a maybe and will respond when time allows it to) and will stay there for a while until i eventually delete it! The worst bit is the unread ones that can be there for weeks and you see that the other person was actively online recently! | |||
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"To go back to the original point of this thread we do find a vast amount - not all by any means - but certainly a majority of single male profiles who message us have very little info in their bio, no personality in their profile and one or two poorly taken photos of their meat and two veg. It's not a shop window we'd necessarily stop to browse in on the high street. I know our profile is long but that's deliberate to allow people to get to see a bit of us and our likes and dislikes - something a lot of guys who message clearly fail to read." · Whilst my usual modus operandi is to support the men and offer them solidarity I would agree with this statement. Men really need to bolster their profiles with something meaningful and enticing, to (potentially) attract their target audience and not repel them. | |||
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"As a guy, you get out of Fab exactly what you put in. Zero effort into bio and pics and it's a Fab life of hand to gland combat. Lots of effort, a bit of luck and a fair wind and you might get a wink 😂" Agreed. I always say, your profile is like a shop window. If it's bare, it's not going to invite anyone in. | |||
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