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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

One of my female friends on here (who happens to be beautiful) said to me that she could be having sex every day if she wanted but she enjoys spending time with people on fab who don't just want her for sex.

Anyone else think this way?

Do you just use fab for meets, or to cheat, based on looks and availability or do you want to be valued as a person too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not bothered about being valued but I dont come on here for mindless sex .pretty much more for the banter til some desperate woman offers to drop her knickers lol

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Have I read that wrong?

The guys here dont want her for sex?

Or do you mean she enjoys spending more time just with friends she has made?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not bothered about being valued but I dont come on here for mindless sex .pretty much more for the banter til some desperate woman offers to drop her knickers lol "
That was funny I cant stop laffing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not funny for me cos knickers still firmly on lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have I read that wrong?

The guys here dont want her for sex?

Or do you mean she enjoys spending more time just with friends she has made?

"

Bit of both. Her time is so limited that when she is free she doesn't always to spend it having fun. All understandable.

I can't imagine getting messages from the Neanderthals would help to get her in the mood either. Lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I guess we all want to be valued as Human beings and not just sex objects,

I spend time seeing friends from here socially as well as sexual so it's all good for me

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"

Bit of both. Her time is so limited that when she is free she doesn't always to spend it having fun. All understandable.

I can't imagine getting messages from the Neanderthals would help to get her in the mood either. Lol

"

Yeah thats fair enough and understandable.....

A lot of time is wasted meeting new people only to find out nothing there, so sending it with ones she has already met, makes sense...Even more so if her fun time is limited..

I limit my fun times for when I go to CJ's.....

Was meeting too many that I just wasnt attracted to...it got boring...

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By *he Enigmatic MagnetMan
over a year ago

Glasgow West


"I guess we all want to be valued as Human beings and not just sex objects,

I spend time seeing friends from here socially as well as sexual so it's all good for me "

I'm perfectly happy to be valued as a sex object, and as often as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have I read that wrong?

The guys here dont want her for sex?

Or do you mean she enjoys spending more time just with friends she has made?

Bit of both. Her time is so limited that when she is free she doesn't always to spend it having fun. All understandable.

I can't imagine getting messages from the Neanderthals would help to get her in the mood either. Lol

"
We ugly Neanderthals need to feel wanted to mate

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'm not in the beautiful category, but could be banged like an auctioneers hammer on spring show day if I chose to be.

I prefer to maintain my standards and dignity... I'm not on here because I's a cheap slut desperate for a shag - If I was, I'd be down the local boozer pulling any random.

to me swinging is not just about sex, its about good sex, that you can work towards getting what you want out of it, rather than a d*unken grope, and 3 pumps and a squirt! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guess we all want to be valued as Human beings and not just sex objects,

I spend time seeing friends from here socially as well as sexual so it's all good for me "

Cool, I know that from some more hardcore swingers they don't want to be cared about but just fucked. Cum and go.

I was just curious to ascertain how common some views are. X

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By *he Enigmatic MagnetMan
over a year ago

Glasgow West


" We ugly Neanderthals need to feel wanted to mate "

+1

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

People need to remember that swinging is a scene...

Not just a website for an easy fuk....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People need to remember that swinging is a scene...

Not just a website for an easy fuk...."
Now you tell me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Bit of both. Her time is so limited that when she is free she doesn't always to spend it having fun. All understandable.

I can't imagine getting messages from the Neanderthals would help to get her in the mood either. Lol

Yeah thats fair enough and understandable.....

A lot of time is wasted meeting new people only to find out nothing there, so sending it with ones she has already met, makes sense...Even more so if her fun time is limited..

I limit my fun times for when I go to CJ's.....

Was meeting too many that I just wasnt attracted to...it got boring...

"

Cool, good luck at cjs. I can imagine it's a way to have fun without hassles. What you see is what you might get. (I de-friended someone earlier tonight. Just got the impression I'd never meet the person and checking dates on their face pics it was 5 yrs out of date. I suppose these things dont happen at clubs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said it before but while there certainly are people who use the site to "scratch the itch" when the feeling takes them, there's also a community here who socialise and find more than just sex. I've been to one social and was struck by the generosity of spirit between those there, their friendliness and their inclusiveness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People need to remember that swinging is a scene...

Not just a website for an easy fuk...."
agree, for a lot of women swinging simply suits their situation. They tried dating etc but decided swinging, meeting other swingers best suited their circs.

Same for guys,, deciding who to meet and when is the convienience of choosing to be a swinger.

Women quickly recognise a message that has no appeal and act accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the men on this site would shag a barbers floor. Even if a woman is looking for NSA sex I think she will still appreciate a bit of respect .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not alot of free time either, but I keep my social life with my friends and meets seperate. You can still be valued as a person and be on here.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"

Cool, good luck at cjs. I can imagine it's a way to have fun without hassles. What you see is what you might get. (I de-friended someone earlier tonight. Just got the impression I'd never meet the person and checking dates on their face pics it was 5 yrs out of date. I suppose these things dont happen at clubs) "

When communicating for first time face to face.....No it doesnt happen lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Most of the men on this site would shag a barbers floor. "
so would a lot of women too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the men on this site would shag a barbers floor. so would a lot of women too "

Where are they?????? lol and dont say the barbers!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess we all want to be valued as Human beings and not just sex objects,

I spend time seeing friends from here socially as well as sexual so it's all good for me

Cool, I know that from some more hardcore swingers they don't want to be cared about but just fucked. Cum and go.

I was just curious to ascertain how common some views are. X"

I wouldn't call myself a hardened swinger but I have John to care about me and vice versa.

We have made some friends here and have a couple of guys we would count as 'regulars' but sometimes a 'cum and go' is exactly what we are looking for. The excitement of being fucked by a complete stranger or 2 or 5 is a huge turn on for me

Sometimes when you get too friendly with people the sexual urge goes and they are simply friends or other times the guys start getting possessive and jealous. We had a guy who literally went in a huff if we met anyone else! he told me I was demeaning myself Ffs

L xx

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Most of the men on this site would shag a barbers floor. so would a lot of women too

Where are they?????? lol and dont say the barbers!!!"
ohhhh they are here trust me lol

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"Most of the men on this site would shag a barbers floor.

so would a lot of women too "

So true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the men on this site would shag a barbers floor. Even if a woman is looking for NSA sex I think she will still appreciate a bit of respect ."

Everyone here deserves respect!! Men and women and everyone in between!

Just because we know what we want from life doesn't make us less deserving xx

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"

Everyone here deserves respect!!xx"

Not everyone.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the men on this site would shag a barbers floor. Even if a woman is looking for NSA sex I think she will still appreciate a bit of respect ."
thats why i said what i did....its a level playing field. Both men and women put themselves on here...and we all look about deciding who to meet

..if you sense theres next to no mutual respect...then either has the choice not to meet surely.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"

Everyone here deserves respect!!xx

Not everyone....."
I have to agree in my opinion respect is given only to those who respect back

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By *ndykayMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

I'm happy to be a sex object lol - but that's never going to happen

But I'd rather meet my friends socially and sexually if the mood takes us. I enjoy spending time with them, having lunch, laughing smiling.

But I also like the sexual side too.

It's a balancing act but when you get it right - it's fantastic to know you have people you can talk to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Everyone here deserves respect!!xx

Not everyone.....I have to agree in my opinion respect is given only to those who respect back "

OK what I meant was initially everyone should be treated with respect!

If they then disrespect me they are ignored and blocked but if initially I don't show respect then why should they?

I do not EVER reply to the disrespectful messages

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"

Everyone here deserves respect!!xx

Not everyone.....I have to agree in my opinion respect is given only to those who respect back

OK what I meant was initially everyone should be treated with respect!

If they then disrespect me they are ignored and blocked but if initially I don't show respect then why should they?

I do not EVER reply to the disrespectful messages "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the exact same I prefer to spend time with the women on fab never thinking about wanting just NSA sex with them

Its a BITCH

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By *eatherWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

The word respect is in my profile and i expect give and receive it .I have meets when and where i like not all end up in sex i have made loads of friends on here some who i value greatly.And does not the saying EACH TO THEIR OWN apply here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I try and show respect to everyone. It's easier to be nice to people I like. If it's someone I don't like, a dignified silence and to ignore them is better.

Probably everyone doesn't deserve respect but I do try and show some restraint. I don't want brought down to their level.

I even take it as a compliment if certain types are disrespectful.

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Has to be a combination of both sex and "friendship".

OK, friendship perhaps not in the true sense of the word, but people you can meet up with and it doesn't automatically lead to sex.

Usually does though !!

If it was just cock that Sue was after she could get a different one virtually every night even though we got it in big letters on our profile that we don't want to hear from single guys.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


" 3 pumps and a squirt! lol"

whats wrong with 3 pumps and a squirt .....fussy bugger

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


" 3 pumps and a squirt! lol

whats wrong with 3 pumps and a squirt .....fussy bugger

"

Lol, I don't get it very often, so yes I am fussy! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mindless sex doesn't do a lot for me, much prefer there to be a bit more to it than just the basics!

But maybe I'm not a real swinger!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont mean this in a boasting way,,,,but i am clicking on this thread in the hope of reading something i never knew already !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People need to remember that swinging is a scene...

Not just a website for an easy fuk...."

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

If you judge your self worth on what happens on a web site (swinging or otherwise) then you are doing something wrong.

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By *eeflower69Woman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Said it before but while there certainly are people who use the site to "scratch the itch" when the feeling takes them, there's also a community here who socialise and find more than just sex. I've been to one social and was struck by the generosity of spirit between those there, their friendliness and their inclusiveness."

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