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By *iura1234 OP   Man
over a year ago

aberdeen

I’m wondering if any women message first on here? .

I know women don’t need to go looking on here but curious if any look for what ticks their boxes and make the first approach.

Or is it a dent in confidence if they get rejected

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Some do some don't, most don't need to

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By *iura1234 OP   Man
over a year ago

aberdeen

Yeah I know most don’t need too just curious if they go looking or wait and see what comes into the inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do sometimes

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By *heHornyWandererMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Have been messaged first by women a couple of times over the years, but very rare occurrence to say the least.

As mentioned by someone earlier, most don’t need to.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I'm not shy in messaging anyone who catches my eye .

However not looking to meet anyone new so I don't these days lol

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

I do if he's got a genuine profile and has substance in both his visible library his profile and verifications match the profile..

that's rare to have full truths and those consistency ticks, so my messaging first is just as rare.

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By *ildatheart30Couple
over a year ago

Gorebridge

I have done but not often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done ocasionally when looking.

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago

Usually Dundee and around

I've received messages from ladies making the first contact.

It's very flattering, and guys the go about it in a completely different way!

No "FAF" or genitals pic in first message...

There might be something in this ya know!

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I do if I'm feeling daring enough haha mostly mail in response to a status asking for advice cause I'm nice like that

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

90% of my meets, dates, dalliances and encounters over the last four years have been on the back of women sending the first message. So yes, women do message first.

Perhaps more women should do it, for the sake of variety.

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By *acelvisMan
over a year ago

thurso

I’ve had a couple of messages from single ladies and a couple. Must admit it gives you a wee boost no doubt about that

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

I've never sent the first message. Absolutely no need when hundreds of messages can come through, just from me being online.

I limit my activity on Friday and Saturday nights cos of all the meet now messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't know what to do if I got a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message first very ocassionally but only if I have time to search because the inbox is usually so full it takes forever to go through those guys. Not scared of rejection because I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

I have had a couple of messages and a few winks over the years from ladies and couples. I find it flattering.... And a little surprising

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By *rgoodnbadMan
over a year ago

greenock


"I've received messages from ladies making the first contact.

It's very flattering, and guys the go about it in a completely different way!

No "FAF" or genitals pic in first message...

There might be something in this ya know! "

Yeah, cos that would put guys off. 🤣

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By *inglelady2022Woman
over a year ago

inverness

Of course they do if there's something interesting. I find that very rare on here. Easily 70% of male profiles the sane

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By *upeemanxxxMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Been on 3 years not meet a woman yet

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By *otuseater11Man
over a year ago

kilwinning

Very rare but I was mailed from the woman from a couple first .but very rare these days

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over a year ago

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