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"If you were in a vanilla relationship and you found out your partner was sending someone of the oposit sex flirty sex texts would you see that as cheating ?" Yes Why they not sending to there partner | |||
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"I was, I did and she said it was." A friend of mine has just caught her pertner doing this and shes on the verge of kicking him out cause she says its cheating despite him saying hes never even met the woman. I said she needs to sit him down and ask him outright if hes met this woman or not then decide what to do. | |||
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 so I would say cheating for me | |||
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"I don't normally sex text or flirt unless its my intention of meeting the person so I would say cheating for me "yeah but ur a swinger tho | |||
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"We will always go to next level" Really !! | |||
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"Ive no idea if he had any intention of actually meeting this woman or if it was purly just sex text ." whether they have met or not, the potential for it to go further is already set in motion. | |||
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"Ive no idea if he had any intention of actually meeting this woman or if it was purly just sex text . whether they have met or not, the potential for it to go further is already set in motion." yeah possibly | |||
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"Ive no idea if he had any intention of actually meeting this woman or if it was purly just sex text ." hope ur friend manages to sort it x | |||
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"If you were in a vanilla relationship and you found out your partner was sending someone of the oposit sex flirty sex texts would you see that as cheating ?" Yes and I would seriously question his future fidelity. | |||
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"Yes He clearly is bored or not gettin at home " This is the old excuse most use even when they are getting it at home tho  | |||
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"A txts is just that, there allways a line you dont need to cross" so do you see it in a similar sence to say watching porn and having a wank? | |||
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"A txts is just that, there allways a line you dont need to crossso do you see it in a similar sence to say watching porn and having a wank?" Cant answer that dont watch porn But do wank A txts is just fun ,till you cross line that is all it is fun Not cheating  | |||
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"A txts is just that, there allways a line you dont need to crossso do you see it in a similar sence to say watching porn and having a wank? Cant answer that dont watch porn But do wank A txts is just fun ,till you cross line that is all it is fun Not cheating "But surely that's not the case if you are bringing a 3rd party into it unbeknownst to your partner? | |||
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"A txts is just that, there allways a line you dont need to crossso do you see it in a similar sence to say watching porn and having a wank? Cant answer that dont watch porn But do wank A txts is just fun ,till you cross line that is all it is fun Not cheating "But is it still fun if your partner is hurt by it ? also how does he/she prove its only texting and that nothing has actually happend ? | |||
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"I think it's a tricky 1 I believe once you start going down that route you are on a tightrope and its only a matter of time before you find the opportunity to take it further and meet!! I think if you can't tell your partner about something maybe you shouldn't be doing it!! Mr lovers enjoys a wee bit of text flirting but I know all about it but then again we are swingers and our boundaries are not the same in a conventional marriage!! Only your friend can decide where her lines are its the lying that would hurt me the most though!! That's my 2 pence worth lol!! "my thinking is if hes kept it secret he knows that t was because she wouldnt like it that in itsself screams guilty ..she doesnt yet know who this woman is or how he has her number so i dunno the full story yet . | |||
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"I think it's a tricky 1 I believe once you start going down that route you are on a tightrope and its only a matter of time before you find the opportunity to take it further and meet!! I think if you can't tell your partner about something maybe you shouldn't be doing it!! Mr lovers enjoys a wee bit of text flirting but I know all about it but then again we are swingers and our boundaries are not the same in a conventional marriage!! Only your friend can decide where her lines are its the lying that would hurt me the most though!! That's my 2 pence worth lol!! my thinking is if hes kept it secret he knows that t was because she wouldnt like it that in itsself screams guilty ..she doesnt yet know who this woman is or how he has her number so i dunno the full story yet ."Yip it screams guilty but the secrecy is part of the thrill I suppose. As I said its a hard 1 to call I sorta agree with the porn analogy if there is no intention of meeting what's the difference?? The problem is I don't believe most men would leave it at that, but hey ho thank god we are all swingers who are honest lol!! Xx  | |||
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"Yes He clearly is bored or not gettin at home This is the old excuse most use even when they are getting it at home tho "I started same way and ended up we affair iv never stopped loving my ex an still do | |||
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"Ive no idea if he had any intention of actually meeting this woman or if it was purly just sex text . whether they have met or not, the potential for it to go further is already set in motion." totally agree with this, it may start innocent but things have away of getting out of hand quick. I andy have also been through this, and it can take a lot of time to regain the trust. ( my so called mate actually made a move on my other half and it all started with a few messages.) | |||
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"Yes He clearly is bored or not gettin at home This is the old excuse most use even when they are getting it at home tho
I started same way and ended up we affair iv never stopped loving my ex an still do
"sadly a lot of people think the grass is always greener on the other side huh ...if you have steak at home why settle for mince elsewhere ? | |||
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"Ive no idea if he had any intention of actually meeting this woman or if it was purly just sex text . whether they have met or not, the potential for it to go further is already set in motion. totally agree with this, it may start innocent but things have away of getting out of hand quick. I andy have also been through this, and it can take a lot of time to regain the trust. ( my so called mate actually made a move on my other half and it all started with a few messages.) " Well Andy can say no at any time It always the other woman not the guys fault Guy can say no you know  | |||
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"Ive no idea if he had any intention of actually meeting this woman or if it was purly just sex text . whether they have met or not, the potential for it to go further is already set in motion. totally agree with this, it may start innocent but things have away of getting out of hand quick. I andy have also been through this, and it can take a lot of time to regain the trust. ( my so called mate actually made a move on my other half and it all started with a few messages.) Well Andy can say no at any time It always the other woman not the guys fault Guy can say no you know "Not sure what u mean by this ? | |||
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"Ive no idea if he had any intention of actually meeting this woman or if it was purly just sex text . whether they have met or not, the potential for it to go further is already set in motion. totally agree with this, it may start innocent but things have away of getting out of hand quick. I andy have also been through this, and it can take a lot of time to regain the trust. ( my so called mate actually made a move on my other half and it all started with a few messages.) Well Andy can say no at any time It always the other woman not the guys fault Guy can say no you know "Only a guy would blame the woman   | |||
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"To cross the line between txting and sex The guy has got to say yes "but u said its always the other womans fault not the guys ? | |||
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"To cross the line between txting and sex The guy has got to say yes but u said its always the other womans fault not the guys ? "That the way your reading it And what in your head Most of the time it the guys fault most cant say no  | |||
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"Ive no idea if he had any intention of actually meeting this woman or if it was purly just sex text . whether they have met or not, the potential for it to go further is already set in motion. totally agree with this, it may start innocent but things have away of getting out of hand quick. I andy have also been through this, and it can take a lot of time to regain the trust. ( my so called mate actually made a move on my other half and it all started with a few messages.) Well Andy can say no at any time It always the other woman not the guys fault Guy can say no you know
Only a guy would blame the woman "both were at fault, zoe thought it was just innocent flirting but he thought it was serious and made it clear he wanted her. thing is he also had a gf at the time but hes one of those guys that gives us all a bad name. | |||
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"Ive no idea if he had any intention of actually meeting this woman or if it was purly just sex text . whether they have met or not, the potential for it to go further is already set in motion. totally agree with this, it may start innocent but things have away of getting out of hand quick. I andy have also been through this, and it can take a lot of time to regain the trust. ( my so called mate actually made a move on my other half and it all started with a few messages.) Well Andy can say no at any time It always the other woman not the guys fault Guy can say no you know
Only a guy would blame the woman " | |||
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"To cross the line between txting and sex The guy has got to say yes but u said its always the other womans fault not the guys ? That the way your reading it And what in your head Most of the time it the guys fault most cant say no "Not at all id have the same opinion if it was a wife doing it to her husband ot girlfriend doing it to her boyfriend | |||
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"To cross the line between txting and sex The guy has got to say yes but u said its always the other womans fault not the guys ? That the way your reading it And what in your head Most of the time it the guys fault most cant say no Not at all id have the same opinion if it was a wife doing it to her husband ot girlfriend doing it to her boyfriend "Most of the time the man do the chasing Men and pussy it a drug to some | |||
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"It's always the other woman's fault and not the guy?? That is the biggest load of fuckin bullshit I have heard in a long time. How/where did they "meet"? Does the other woman know he is married? Why does he keep it a secret from his wife? If it is all "innocent" fun then sure he would not have to so underhand and deceitful... If a married guy paid a prostitute for sex, would it be the prostitute's fault too because she took his money? Not forgetting that in that case the guy sought out the prostitute and not the other way about..."  You just up or what have you read the thread or just listen to missd Try reading the hole thread | |||
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"It's always the other woman's fault and not the guy?? That is the biggest load of fuckin bullshit I have heard in a long time. How/where did they "meet"? Does the other woman know he is married? Why does he keep it a secret from his wife? If it is all "innocent" fun then sure he would not have to so underhand and deceitful... If a married guy paid a prostitute for sex, would it be the prostitute's fault too because she took his money? Not forgetting that in that case the guy sought out the prostitute and not the other way about... You just up or what have you read the thread or just listen to missd Try reading the hole thread "I have read the WHOLE thread actually. I am questioning your comment on how it is ALWAYS the woman at fault. If you read my post properly you will see that I was questioning you and your chauvenistic view with the prostitute analogy!!!! | |||
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"Well if you read it right not once did i say it was the almanak fault You just jump in with MissD as she read it wrong to So i am saying it mosty the mans fault WHICH I SAY ON THREE POSTS IF YOU READ THE FULL THREAD "I read exactly whats been said and i read it the same as leggz and _muma ...anway back to the post lol | |||
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"Well if you read it right not once did i say it was the almanak fault You just jump in with MissD as she read it wrong to So i am saying it mosty the mans fault WHICH I SAY ON THREE POSTS IF YOU READ THE FULL THREAD I read exactly whats been said and i read it the same as leggz and _muma ...anway back to the post lol "WELL YOUR WRONG READ IT AGAIN THAT NO TIME DID I SAY IT WAS THE WOMAN FAULT YOU,S READ WHAT YOU,S WANT | |||
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"Well if you read it right not once did i say it was the almanak fault You just jump in with MissD as she read it wrong to So i am saying it mosty the mans fault WHICH I SAY ON THREE POSTS IF YOU READ THE FULL THREAD I read exactly whats been said and i read it the same as leggz and _muma ...anway back to the post lol WELL YOUR WRONG READ IT AGAIN THAT NO TIME DID I SAY IT WAS THE WOMAN FAULT YOU,S READ WHAT YOU,S WANT "U need to think about and maybe read and re-read what u write before u post it then. and there really is no need to shout | |||
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"Ive no idea if he had any intention of actually meeting this woman or if it was purly just sex text . whether they have met or not, the potential for it to go further is already set in motion. totally agree with this, it may start innocent but things have away of getting out of hand quick. I andy have also been through this, and it can take a lot of time to regain the trust. ( my so called mate actually made a move on my other half and it all started with a few messages.) Well Andy can say no at any time It always the other woman not the guys fault Guy can say no you know "This is exactly what you said | |||
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"Well if you read it right not once did i say it was the almanak fault You just jump in with MissD as she read it wrong to So i am saying it mosty the mans fault WHICH I SAY ON THREE POSTS IF YOU READ THE FULL THREAD "Your actual quote was "Well Andy can say no at any time It always the other woman not the guys fault Guy can say no you know " Maybe you should re-read before you post as it certainly does NOT read that way and more than just 2 of us picked up on that. Maybe a wee bit more care with your diction, grammar and punctuation would stop your posts from being misunderstood. Just a thought!! | |||
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"Ive no idea if he had any intention of actually meeting this woman or if it was purly just sex text . whether they have met or not, the potential for it to go further is already set in motion. totally agree with this, it may start innocent but things have away of getting out of hand quick. I andy have also been through this, and it can take a lot of time to regain the trust. ( my so called mate actually made a move on my other half and it all started with a few messages.)p Well Andy can say no at any time It always the other woman not the guys fault Guy can say no you know This is exactly what you said "That was a answer to the post above And i take you want to dance with me on the forum for some reason Will be my guess MissD  | |||
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"Ive no idea if he had any intention of actually meeting this woman or if it was purly just sex text . whether they have met or not, the potential for it to go further is already set in motion. totally agree with this, it may start innocent but things have away of getting out of hand quick. I andy have also been through this, and it can take a lot of time to regain the trust. ( my so called mate actually made a move on my other half and it all started with a few messages.)p Well Andy can say no at any time It always the other woman not the guys fault Guy can say no you know This is exactly what you said That was a answer to the post above And i take you want to dance with me on the forum for some reason Will be my guess MissD "  I give up | |||
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"Dont give up Just say you pick me up wrong that would be fine Then all the others would not jump in behind you then "Wot! some of us have minds of our own u know! | |||
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"Dont give up Just say you pick me up wrong that would be fine Then all the others would not jump in behind you then "Lmao im not apologising for something that is there in black and white for all to see lol | |||
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"Dont give up Just say you pick me up wrong that would be fine Then all the others would not jump in behind you then Lmao im not apologising for something that is there in black and white for all to see lol "Fine that up to you Again at no point was i saying it was the womans fault you take it ,what ever way you want And your sheep with follow And mind and tell them the world is flat lol | |||
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"Dont give up Just say you pick me up wrong that would be fine Then all the others would not jump in behind you then Lmao im not apologising for something that is there in black and white for all to see lol Fine that up to you Again at no point was i saying it was the womans fault you take it ,what ever way you want And your sheep with follow And mind and tell them the world is flat lol "what the hell are you on about ? | |||
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"Dont give up Just say you pick me up wrong that would be fine Then all the others would not jump in behind you then Lmao im not apologising for something that is there in black and white for all to see lol Fine that up to you Again at no point was i saying it was the womans fault you take it ,what ever way you want And your sheep with follow And mind and tell them the world is flat lol what the hell are you on about ?"Which part are picking up wrong now | |||
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"I was, I did and she said it was." Snap! | |||
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"HYPOTHETICAL question for Dirty Dancer: Your wife/gf/partner is on a girly night out. She gets chatted up by a single guy and gives a him her number (without mentioning she has a partner). Over the coming weeks/months, she is sending and receiving flirtatious texts, ipossibly some saucy pics. You know nothing about it. One day, you come across these messages and read them. You feel hurt, confused and betrayed. In that situation, who do you apportion the blame to? The 3rd party who may not know the whole truth about your partner's home situation or your partner who has a loving person waiting at home for them? *Sexes may be swapped over to read He.m Oh, and as an aside... I am nae feckin sheep!!!!!" So we are moving on from txts to pictures now Sex is cheating txts is not In my book That what i say Ok the sheep bit i will take back Hows your leg hope it better | |||
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"Gloriously wrong again T!!! lol. We are talking about in a vanilla relationship scenario xx" Ohh jeez, might as well talk to me in Russian or something _muma,,va,,,nilla? Watsthatthen? x | |||
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"Gloriously wrong again T!!! lol. We are talking about in a vanilla relationship scenario xxOhh jeez, might as well talk to me in Russian or something _muma,,va,,,nilla? Watsthatthen? x "apparently an ice cream flavour or summat.. idunno!!!!! | |||
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"It is Hypothetical, and I did say "possibly" about pics.... My question was would you feel hurt and betrayed? and who do you apportion blame to?" not with txting And yes the woman if she has not told him | |||
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"HYPOTHETICAL question for Dirty Dancer: Your wife/gf/partner is on a girly night out. She gets chatted up by a single guy and gives a him her number (without mentioning she has a partner). Over the coming weeks/months, she is sending and receiving flirtatious texts, possibly some saucy pics. You know nothing about it. One day, you come across these messages and read them. You feel hurt, confused and betrayed. In that situation, who do you apportion the blame to? The 3rd party who may not know the whole truth about your partner's home situation or your partner who has a loving person waiting at home for them? " IME, blame was on both sides, both were attached and knew the other was too. Very hurtful to discover emails accidentally, and it caused enough suspicion to keep an eye open (some would call it spying, not proud..) and sure enough, no smoke without fire
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"Jeez T, you are hard work!! Listen carefully.... All parties are non swingers. Get it now? " i slipped you twenty quid to big me up, not tell them all im hard work ffs,,lol, yer sacked!!! Gonna text you,,oops, | |||
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"sorry but if hes deliberately keeping things from his partner then its not innocent . anyone doing something behind partners back ,that they know full well would upset relationship if found out then alarm bells ring !! its not the content of the txts so much its the deceit in which its all been done . he may never of met the woman but hes kept this from his partner knowing full well there would be fall out from it .so he knows already hes doing something out of order ! plus how would he feel if situation was reversed and he was the one who found the txts ? would he be taking it as all innocent ? if i were your friend id be having a serious talk with said guy and decide then if he was gonna keep his balls or not ." this xx | |||
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"Non s w i n g e r s ? But asking fur opinions on it on a swingers site? Wat the flufff? Lost "Why not didn't realise you could only ask if it was in relation to swingers | |||
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"Non s w i n g e r s ? But asking fur opinions on it on a swingers site? Wat the flufff? Lost Why not didn't realise you could only ask if it was in relation to swingers "My brilliant answer was universal jacs,,swinging, non swinging, same rules apply, just trying to lighten it all. | |||
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"If you were in a vanilla relationship and you found out your partner was sending someone of the oposit sex flirty sex texts would you see that as cheating ?" Yes! | |||
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"If you were in a vanilla relationship and you found out your partner was sending someone of the oposit sex flirty sex texts would you see that as cheating ?" yes, it might be a bit of fun but you have to be honest too so there is nothing to hide. | |||
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