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By *oxic_Temptress OP   Woman
2 weeks ago

Dundee

Hey! I wanted to ask about the swinging lifestyle. How did you get into it and how did it happen with your first swinging partner?

I met someone who we got on the best I’ve ever got on with someone, and it wasn’t discussed, but they slept with someone else and it hurt that they didn’t speak to me first about having that kind of relationship. We both met here.

By all means, they can do as they please because they are their own person, but I really did see a future swinging relationship with them. I would have been open to talking about these things and going baby steps but it didn’t happen that way.

So, how do you discuss being in a ENM relationship and how do you navigate the process??

What hurdles did you overcome and how?

Genuine answers only please

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By *ensualtongue2023Man
2 weeks ago

furnace

A neighbours wife introduced me many many years ago

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By *ellinever70Woman
2 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I think you either like the idea of your partner being intimate with someone else, or you don't.

If you don't, I don’t see the point in 'trying ' to get to that point

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By *ic0007Woman
2 weeks ago

Alloa

Were you in a relationship? If not and you didn't discuss boundaries then they didn't really owe you anything unfortunately

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By *azzle99Woman
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

You’ve met someone on a swinging site who has chosen to swing. Unless it was discussed that you were exclusive then the person is enjoying this site/lifestyle as intended.

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Although me and my partner didn't meet via swinging we went into having an open relationship.

I thought we were ENM until a guy told me there is romance involved with other people I just thought it was sex

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By *askedcouple37Couple
2 weeks ago

Inverclyde


"Hey! I wanted to ask about the swinging lifestyle. How did you get into it and how did it happen with your first swinging partner?

I met someone who we got on the best I’ve ever got on with someone, and it wasn’t discussed, but they slept with someone else and it hurt that they didn’t speak to me first about having that kind of relationship. We both met here.

By all means, they can do as they please because they are their own person, but I really did see a future swinging relationship with them. I would have been open to talking about these things and going baby steps but it didn’t happen that way.

So, how do you discuss being in a ENM relationship and how do you navigate the process??

What hurdles did you overcome and how?

Genuine answers only please "

Unfortunately going baby steps with someone would be in my opinion for an established couple starting out swinging together.

Meeting a man already on here and starting a fwb swinging partnership you have to understand they're already fully swinging and like said yous hadn't discussed it so how's he to know he's to stop and start a fresh?

Go do you, get out to clubs, go to as many group socials as you can as a single girl and you'll soon find yourself established in the scene with everyone knowing you.thats how we as a couple started out then progress from there.

If starting a fresh with a new partner every ground rule/ each other's preferences and what everyone wants out of this has to be fully communicated from the get go or it will fail.

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By *enelope2UWoman
2 weeks ago

Fife

I've only had friends with benefits relationships.. I've ONLY been with a guy who's open and honest and who knows I am open and honest. I don't believe men are capable of monogamy while maintaining the same level of sex AND companionship in a Vanilla relationship. One will eventually fade compared to the effort they have with friendships and benefits.

I only and will only remain in a sex with friendship and benefits terms.

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By *enelope2UWoman
2 weeks ago

Fife


"I think you either like the idea of your partner being intimate with someone else, or you don't.

If you don't, I don’t see the point in 'trying ' to get to that point "

Exactly this

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By *rankie4Man
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

Also, if you're at all jealous give the swinging a wide berth.

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By *lanenakedMan
2 weeks ago

near you

Can make anything work with duct tape, wd40, a hammer and a shifter..

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