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BDSM with little or no sexual contact?

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By *use and wolf OP   Couple
33 weeks ago

angus

Out of curiosity, are there many out there who would be interested in BDSM hook ups that were purely about D/s & Kink?

Inspired by a discussion we're having

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By *hefifevoyeurMan
33 weeks ago

Leslie

Definitely!

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By *ennifertvayrshireTV/TS
33 weeks ago

Kilmarnock

I used to see a bdsm master who I never saw undressed, never saw his cock in fact he never fucked me. This was about control and most of the meet I was blindfolded with me restrained to the door bed or over a horse.

It was such a turn on that when he eventually masterbated me I came in about 10 seconds. This is true bdsm.

I’ve now started being a dom myself on occasion and it’s a thrill for all involved.

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By *hastity_roseTV/TS
33 weeks ago

Nowhere

Love to

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By *ittyScritchesWoman
33 weeks ago

Edinburgh


"It was such a turn on that when he eventually masterbated me I came in about 10 seconds. This is true bdsm.

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Ummm, doesn't that count as sexual contact?

Yes, I think an experience can be deeply intimate and erotic without sexual activity (sometimes more so, and not exclusive to kink). When it comes to power exchange I find the mental and emotional component(s) far more compelling and involved than whether or not someone has an orgasm; if it's basically just bossy sex then for me it's missing All The Good Stuff

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By *atexbound_scotMan
33 weeks ago

Livingston

Absolutely. Obviously some sexual release is fun too but my focus is on the BDSM play, the bondage, the sensation, the control, the dynamic

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By *lbie6Man
32 weeks ago

glasgow

Def interested

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By *exanthemMan
32 weeks ago

North

Kink and BDSM has many meaning to many people - I personally like Swing+BDSM+Kink kind of event, the closest ones are Shamed in Xtasia and Pure obscenity in Townhouse wirral. Kink and D/S play without touching pussy, Bums and Boobs doesn’t do much for me..West midlands have some nice clubs and events but not listed here on fab, you know where to find them though. Rope, Wax, Paint and fire play can be non sexual but others need sexual release as it builds up pretty quick during scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago


"Out of curiosity, are there many out there who would be interested in BDSM hook ups that were purely about D/s & Kink?

Inspired by a discussion we're having

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I would depending on what you had in mind

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

This is what I aim for 🙈

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By *ukold4uTV/TS
32 weeks ago

falkirk

Yes,definitely

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By *inkyBootLoversWoman
31 weeks ago

Aberdeen

As a dominatrix I love it! Especially with ladies and couples at public or private events that take my fancy!

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

Most definitely

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
31 weeks ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

Any kink scenarios I participate as D is non sexual for me, I’ve only ever been S once for a very well respected friend

Haven’t been able to get a fwb or bf into trying out the kinky stuff on any serious level

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By *ubrob586Man
31 weeks ago

Swadlincote

For me it’s about power exchange and freely putting myself in the control of others.

This control can be bossy or it can be just polite. I get a thrill and turned on not knowing what is going to happen. Eg. Turning up and being given lots of dishes to do or vacuum. Equally being tied up and left. No sexual contact just me being under someone’s control. Equally if they then decide to be more extreme and start breath play for their pleasure then that takes us into a different realm. Same goes for impact play or them being sadistic and using my masochistic tendencies for their delight.

The turn on as I say is being out of control or having to control myself enough to do as desired by the dominant whether I want to or not.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
31 weeks ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

It's a topic that came up in conversation between my wife and I today, surrounding getting a house maid.

I explained that some bottoms would happily come to the house, clean and expect nothing in return. Just to provide service to two Queens and to be allowed back to clean again would be the achievement.

Most bdsm events frown on sexual play unless the venue is geared up for it, like a swingers/bdsm crossover venue.

I think there are merits to both. But I would say once the line has stepped over into bdsm sexual play it's hard to uncross that line.

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By *ensualMan
30 weeks ago

Sutton

I regularly do non sexual connected rope at Peer Rope events, and tie women and men.

This year has been quiet but last year I regularly topped (separately) three women who wanted a BDSM experience but without sex. As for crossing the line and not going back, one was an ex girlfriend. With my girlfriend I do more erotically charged rope and or bdsm but it does not need to be sexual.

In the BDSM world particularly in the rope world, there is the concept of Product v Process.

Product is all about the end result. Dominate or submit to someone to have sex with them. Do rope to immobilise a person to do something with them.

Process is the pleasure in the doing. Applying rope for the pleasure that both feel in tying and been tied. Applying or receiving sensation or domination or submission for the pleasure in the moment those acts bring.

Process is not better than Product, just different concept alrhough the external circumstances may look similar.

Although, I would suggest Process, requires, skill and reading people. Product generally requires less skill because usually it is in effect foreplay for vanilla sex

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By *ah wah wizardMan
30 weeks ago

Kilmarnock

Yes.

As I'm getting older I'm finding that I would rather explore my s and kink sides as opposed to just pure animalistic wham bam thank you ma'am.

Really interested in latex, leather, and nylon

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By *our Average shy GuyMan
26 weeks ago

east lothian


"Out of curiosity, are there many out there who would be interested in BDSM hook ups that were purely about D/s & Kink?

Inspired by a discussion we're having

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Yes very much especially not being in any control of your orgasim but with right mix of teasing and senses deprived and imagination all mixed together and having someone control that and getting that in your thoughts is awesome but you do need trust and be open and relaxed with people you let do all that with you that's my thoughts on that

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By *panksspankedMan
26 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I enjoy it as a thing in itself and as part of sexual play. It really depends on the person and the dynamics attached. I've played with quite a few ladies who simply enjoy exercising their skills and I am quite happy to provide a canvas for them

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By *ellsuitedMan
14 weeks ago

Elstree

It all depends on the dynamic…

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By *ay2571Man
14 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I had a thing with a girl I met online a few years ago where this was pretty much the dynamic. I would go round to hers. She was normaly just in her underwear and I was fully clothed. She liked pain so I would inflict said pain. And leave.

We got reacquainted last year and ended having sex. And to be honest I wish we hadn’t. The original dynamic was so much better.

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By *ed FlameWoman
13 weeks ago

South Gloucestershire

I like both together.

I have tried BDSM on it's own and it turns me onto much not to want a sexual release.

However I appreciate there a lot of people who enjoy BDSM without the sexual element.

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By *akedAdventureSlaveMan
7 weeks ago

Colchester

I adore being restrained and made to suffer as being kept naked, humiliated and put to work. None of this involved sex or my own personal pleasure of satisfaction.

Before Covid I used to regularly visit a Mastet in Norwich. I’d have to strip naked in the garden, put on a blindfold and then wait on my knees for him to take control and amuse himself with me.

I’d be restrained, caned. Tied up in various positions, have my cock and balks tied up and tortured. My nipples would be clamped at all time and I’d be kept gagged and drooling for hours at a time.

I was never allowed to cum during the sessions. I have no idea if He pleasured himself whilst I was in bondage and hooded.

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By *i versMan
7 weeks ago

Kirkcaldy

Sure

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By *akedAdventureSlaveMan
6 weeks ago

Colchester

Most of my submitting to others doesn’t involve sexual contact.

A lot of the people I’ve offered myself to use me to punish or to carry out chores around the house and garden. It’s more of a controlling and humiliation process that I enjoy and they benefit from.

Especially if that process involves me being tied up naked outside somewhere for their amusement.

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By *ore_Please81Woman
6 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Would depend on the dynamic, what was involved and what satisfaction both parties were getting 💜

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By *assionellaTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Glasgow


"Out of curiosity, are there many out there who would be interested in BDSM hook ups that were purely about D/s & Kink?

Inspired by a discussion we're having

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Absolutely, yes.

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By *iberatemeMan
5 weeks ago

Cumbernauld

That's exactly my thing, love the pain and discomfort left to think and relive myself after with the memory and shame lol x

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By *ay197469Man
5 weeks ago

Nottingham

I'm interested in this would like to explore more with someone

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By *exanthemMan
5 weeks ago

North

Best event I have been to was Shamed at Xtasia - not advertised here though

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By *usicmaidWoman
3 weeks ago

fabbington

Did this for years as well as giving the sub sexual release depending on where and who i played with but didn't have sex or take my clothes etc off as it changed the dynamic. Bdsm and sex for my pleasure are 2 separate experiences for me that rarely cross over

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