FabSwingers.com forum: Any tips for new people?

By (user no longer on site) OP
4 weeks ago

Hello everyone

I joined a few weeks ago but I’ve found it quite difficult to strike up a conversation with anyone in messages yet let alone meet anyone.

I don’t think it’s my approach to DMs, I’m not creepy or weird (as far as I know) so all I can think is that it’s my profile or maybe I’m just not most people’s cup of tea.

I also notice a lot of profiles saying they won’t meet unverified. But I can’t get any verifications without meeting people so it feels like a vicious circle for a newbie lol. Are there people who will meet unverified people? I’d prefer to chat to someone first and built trust before a meet and probably have a social meet beforehand.

Any tips on how I can get started on here or if there’s something I should change on my profile, it would be appreciated.

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
4 weeks ago

Also, if I have messaged you directly and you have some feedback on my approach, please send me a message. I won’t be offended!

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By *assy LassieWoman
4 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

Your profile looks OK and yes some people will meet unverified people.... we all started somewhere.

Get rid of the bit on your profile about not being able to get responses.

You can't accom will reduce your opportunities.

Don't know what your approach is but sometimes it's just about timing and catching someone who is in the mood for a chat.

Have you considered social events or clubs to meet in person.

Lastly, is the photo filtered? Retake it without filters. Maybe add some more pics giving an idea of body shape/size. Doesn't have to be naked

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By *ifemarkMan
4 weeks ago

dalgety bay

Unfortunately, as has been noted previously, you are playing against a numbers game and the odds are stacked against you, especially as a swhite middle aged male, I think the general consensus is socials to get verifications, I would love to attend but unfortunately timings are off due to family etc.

I’ve been on and off here for years, yet to get a meet, some for the reasons as noted, often when I do get a chat going, I am ghosted also, a lot of online fantasists on here.

I’ve stopped letting it bother me now, it is what it is, I just browse for my own pleasure, send the odd message with zero expectation

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By (user no longer on site) OP
4 weeks ago

Thank you for the advice

Yeah I would considered social media’s too. Just gotta make some friends here to go with 😂

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By (user no longer on site) OP
4 weeks ago

Haha I’ll Middle Aged man you

lol I get your point tho!

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By *adbury girlWoman
4 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

I would reiterate going to socials, they are relaxed and friendly and the hosts usually make sure everyone is involved.

For the socials there is usually someone who organises pre drinks so you can meet a few people before the actual social 😁

Maybe even try a club, there is a social event soon at CJs if you check the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
4 weeks ago

Sure thing I’ll check it out thank you. Are there daytime socials too?

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
4 weeks ago

Bathgate

Get to socials and clubs. Pinkandlittlemiss organise socials at after dark and usually have a telegram chat group beforehand for people that are going.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
4 weeks ago

Thank you I’ll check them out

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
4 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Socials for verifications if you're struggling for meets. Cams too, but I don't know enough about them.

Ask a 100 people about your bio and pics and you will get 100 different answers.

To me it shows what you are into and prefer but my experience for example is that women don't like their feet played with. So have the few that were possibly considering responding to you looking at that and thinking 'get tae fuck'

Why don't you remove your preferences and details about anal and stuff and your net will cast wider. Get the verification and then move on or discuss your kinks. You maybe just being too specific too.

Thousands of guys here and verifications aren't a silver bullet too.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
4 weeks ago

Thanks pal I’ll try doing that

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By *ainyDaySunshineMan
4 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Be yourself. Change for nobody

Enjoy the elusive gems you will find on your journey.

Stick at it.

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By *yrshirecurvesWoman
4 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"Hello everyone

I joined a few weeks ago but I’ve found it quite difficult to strike up a conversation with anyone in messages yet let alone meet anyone.

I don’t think it’s my approach to DMs, I’m not creepy or weird (as far as I know) so all I can think is that it’s my profile or maybe I’m just not most people’s cup of tea.

Any tips on how I can get started on here or if there’s something I should change on my profile, it would be appreciated.

Thank you! "

Again like everyone else has said clubs and socials are your friend. 😊 Be yourself too. I’m not sure what your approach is to messaging but I would avoid writing huge introductory messages but also simultaneously don’t say “here’s ma cock want a ride”. Find a happy middle ground. 😁

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