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"So, a controversial one but I thought I’d gather other people’s thoughts and opinions. I’ve come across so many people recently who just assume that not using a condom is cool with me. Um…like nope. It’s a hard boundary for me. Safe sex only, always. But my question is, why do people assume that’s okay?! Are most guys assuming of this, or do the majority practice safe sex? I’m genuinely confused. Guys seem unarsed and give it “I get tested regularly anyway” which baffles me, as I will use protection AND get tested, especially being part of a swinging community. Am I too harsh to expect a guy to always use protection?! I just assumed everyone would take the same precautions as me, but the amount that just seem totally unarsed is making me think I’m being overly restrictive?! Thoughts? 😅🙈" It's not just males tho,females and couples also choose to play this way. If it's not for you just tell them and move onto the next profile | |||
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"So, a controversial one but I thought I’d gather other people’s thoughts and opinions. I’ve come across so many people recently who just assume that not using a condom is cool with me. Um…like nope. It’s a hard boundary for me. Safe sex only, always. But my question is, why do people assume that’s okay?! Are most guys assuming of this, or do the majority practice safe sex? I’m genuinely confused. Guys seem unarsed and give it “I get tested regularly anyway” which baffles me, as I will use protection AND get tested, especially being part of a swinging community. Am I too harsh to expect a guy to always use protection?! I just assumed everyone would take the same precautions as me, but the amount that just seem totally unarsed is making me think I’m being overly restrictive?! Thoughts? 😅🙈It's not just males tho,females and couples also choose to play this way. If it's not for you just tell them and move onto the next profile " Definitely this, it's your ball and you get to set the rules. If they don't like it then move on. I think guys also think it's like being in a p@rn movie and that's how everyone does it. They probably also have an un_ealistic view on how long it takes a plumber to arrive after you call them | |||
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" They probably also have an un_ealistic view on how long it takes a plumber to arrive after you call them " I have un_ealistic expectations of that!!! 🤣🤣 | |||
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"So, a controversial one but I thought I’d gather other people’s thoughts and opinions. I’ve come across so many people recently who just assume that not using a condom is cool with me. Um…like nope. It’s a hard boundary for me. Safe sex only, always. But my question is, why do people assume that’s okay?! Are most guys assuming of this, or do the majority practice safe sex? I’m genuinely confused. Guys seem unarsed and give it “I get tested regularly anyway” which baffles me, as I will use protection AND get tested, especially being part of a swinging community. Am I too harsh to expect a guy to always use protection?! I just assumed everyone would take the same precautions as me, but the amount that just seem totally unarsed is making me think I’m being overly restrictive?! Thoughts? 😅🙈" Thank you for sharing, I think this is a great subject to bring up! People should never assume one way or another, open discussion and dialogue all the way never hurts. We would never yuck someone else’s yum, it’s personal choice if someone chooses to play bareback. However, as a club we feel it is important to preach and highlight the importance of safe sex. At our greedy girls events we have safety talks to promote safe sex, and at all events we actively check and encourage the use of condoms and reiterate things like condoms only being 99% effective for the first 10 minutes. If persons choose not to play safe, provided it’s mutually consensual, that is their own choice. We know some clubs charge for condoms, and I think in some places it does encourage people to play bare. However, The Ecclesia and I believe every club in Scotland, provide free condoms, lube etc throughout the club. | |||
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"Condoms are advisable if playing with multiple partners but people forget about the risk with oral sex, as this is just as risky! 🤷♀️" Yes! This! I think about this so often! | |||
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"So, a controversial one but I thought I’d gather other people’s thoughts and opinions. I’ve come across so many people recently who just assume that not using a condom is cool with me. Um…like nope. It’s a hard boundary for me. Safe sex only, always. I feel with the community, unless you play with a person regularly and can trust them protection should always be used. Testing should happen regularly too. But my question is, why do people assume that’s okay?! Are most guys assuming of this, or do the majority practice safe sex? I’m genuinely confused. Guys seem unarsed and give it “I get tested regularly anyway” which baffles me, as I will use protection AND get tested, especially being part of a swinging community. Am I too harsh to expect a guy to always use protection?! I just assumed everyone would take the same precautions as me, but the amount that just seem totally unarsed is making me think I’m being overly restrictive?! Thoughts? 😅🙈" | |||
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"What are people’s thoughts on protection for oral sex? Again, I think the assumption is that no protection will be used when sucking a cock but still an easy way for infections to be passed. Is that just being over cautious though?" Definitely not over cautious at all. I think people sometimes sweep this one under the rug, myself included. But I do often think about the risks I’m posing to myself by not using protection for oral. Also, for girl or girl stuff! Never used a female condom or dental dam in my entire life. But I probably should be! | |||
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"Condoms are advisable if playing with multiple partners but people forget about the risk with oral sex, as this is just as risky! 🤷♀️ Yes! This! I think about this so often!" *** When I’ve been tested past few times asked to have oral swab done - it makes sense to get it done even nurse said I don’t know why not for all just now for sex workers x | |||
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"Condoms are advisable if playing with multiple partners but people forget about the risk with oral sex, as this is just as risky! 🤷♀️ Yes! This! I think about this so often! *** When I’ve been tested past few times asked to have oral swab done - it makes sense to get it done even nurse said I don’t know why not for all just now for sex workers x " true best to test regularly | |||
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"I am on birth control implant and I test after each partner and test regularly. I've never had ANY STD or STI. I have used condoms and I have not used condoms. I prefer someone regularly tested who has recent tangible results Vs trusting a condom only. My only objection is when someone requires protection for sex but will eat any pussy or dick and then want a condom as a requirement and have never been tested and they think they are practicing safe sex." We agree to an extent there is hypocrisy to oral vs penetration however unless you have and open cut or sore the odds of contacting HIV or Hep via oral is almost undocumented. These are both blood transfered diseases and the 2 that will change your life. This is where we draw our line. We all have our own but its important to know that testing monthly is not a defence against HIV. NHS will tell you HIV can take 6months for the infection to generate a positive result and you will be a carrier the whole time, this is why PrEP is a must. | |||
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"I am on birth control implant and I test after each partner and test regularly. I've never had ANY STD or STI. I have used condoms and I have not used condoms. I prefer someone regularly tested who has recent tangible results Vs trusting a condom only. My only objection is when someone requires protection for sex but will eat any pussy or dick and then want a condom as a requirement and have never been tested and they think they are practicing safe sex." | |||
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