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"Joined this site and finding it very hard to connect with any girls. I don't consider myself ugly or a horrible guy. The few messages I've sent I am polite and haven't sent dick pics. So...I ask, what exactly is the right approach? " You have to understand the female son here receive even hundreds of mails every day. Majority have cock pics or the guys being nasty, disrespectful etc... and then even the ones they have met and had bad experienced or not enjoyable means many can be thick skinned and because of the majority might not show interest. Best bet make sure your profile is interesting, (haven't checked yours), go to some of the socials that are on and or go to the clubs and just go to get to know people, have a laugh and if people get on with you then they might want to interact at any level with you in the future. Thats really for starters, am sure more on here will give more advice  | |||
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"Joined this site and finding it very hard to connect with any girls. I don't consider myself ugly or a horrible guy. The few messages I've sent I am polite and haven't sent dick pics. So...I ask, what exactly is the right approach? You have to understand the female son here receive even hundreds of mails every day. Majority have cock pics or the guys being nasty, disrespectful etc... and then even the ones they have met and had bad experienced or not enjoyable means many can be thick skinned and because of the majority might not show interest. Best bet make sure your profile is interesting, (haven't checked yours), go to some of the socials that are on and or go to the clubs and just go to get to know people, have a laugh and if people get on with you then they might want to interact at any level with you in the future. Thats really for starters, am sure more on here will give more advice "Thanks for that. I appreciate the reply. I work a lot and not always able to get to socials. I assume the site can be toxic with unsolicited cock pics and guys being aggressive? | |||
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"The problem we have is that we receive so many messages and guys get nasty and aggressive when you say no, so often it's much easier to just delete the ones you're not interested in - this could be down to your location, age, lack of photos - it doesn't necessarily mean it's a reflection on you, how you look or your personality. But we've endured so much abuse on here that it's often better to just skip the abuse and delete the ones we think we're unlikely to meet. All you can do is be respectful, polite and maybe something a bit different for your opening message. A daft joke always gets a response from me lol. I agree with above about getting to socials, clubs etc. Letting people see you're real, genuine and respectful and then politely asking them to verify you as having chatted xx" Thank you for that reply. I fully appreciate the predicament that you girls are in on here. I'm full of nonsense jokes and I will remain polite and respectful. | |||
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 Might not be everyone's cup of tea, but I'll at least grab the attention of those who appreciate a good poem.
As others have pointed out, you're competing with *thousands* of other guys, and a lot of them are quite frankly complete bellends. As the FAQ says, take a lack of response as a polite no thank you and move on. If someone's right for you, you'll find them eventually, or they'll find you.  | |||
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"From a personal point of view its a bit of a simple equation. You get out what you put in. Put effort into the bio and pictures and it will get views. You may not notice it as the women tend to view in nija mode. You will not please everyone. A dick pic to someone is a bit of a borefest, to someone else, appreciated. Your bio is ok but you have cut out a large % of women. It's more like a Tinder profile looking to date. A woman who enjoys Fab for what it is and likes variety may give you a wide berth because you state as such (I think from memory). Open your mind and filters, get your inbox filled which then gives you the chance to filter properly. I rarely message first but when I do I look and read their bio, their updates and will fire in a cheeky one line opener that warrants a cheeky one back, but my message will also be complimentary (not false) and show that I have intelligence and willing to put a bit of effort in. The ratios do not help single men ((or attached) but you can help yourself. There are so many dicks out there that ruin it, don't believe they ruin it for everyone else. They don't. They ruin it for themselves. Exploit this. Be nice, respectful and engaging. Try getting to a social too. It really is a great way to get amongst it, get verified and price you are the person you say you are. Good luck OP. " Cheers for the reply. I'll have a rewrite later. | |||
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"I've started sending my initial messages as double rhyming couplets for something a bit unique. Might not be everyone's cup of tea, but I'll at least grab the attention of those who appreciate a good poem.
As others have pointed out, you're competing with *thousands* of other guys, and a lot of them are quite frankly complete bellends. As the FAQ says, take a lack of response as a polite no thank you and move on. If someone's right for you, you'll find them eventually, or they'll find you. "Thank you for the reply. I've never been pushy and I've taken no reply with no issues. Just wanted to gain some feedback and advice. | |||
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"The statement that your not looking for a woman who has conquered the site if off putting. To what definition? And who has standards, everyone has different standards so that's odd putting too. And you say about unsolicited cock pics but you have a cock pic for all to see anyway. Your profile is fine to me but those are my observations and everyone looks for different things. I know many men that have been here months and even past the year mark that still haven't been verified. Fab is terrible for meets at the moment let alone being in a massive ratio" This was my point about filtering out women who take Fab for what it is and enjoy the variety. I for one would still be looking for my first meet if this was the case. | |||
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"Agree with the others about your profile wording. Definitely something to consider. Lying about your age on your profile and saying you'd meet 18 year olds when in your 40s, are also pretty big red flags for a potentially unsafe meet. Women have to be extremely careful on here for their own safety and profiles / messages are all we have to go on when making decisions. Definitely put some time into amending your profile and get along to socials / clubs so that people can get to know you face to face. All the best with it Jigs x " Thank you Didn't realise about the 18 year olds thing. Not intentional. Will change that instantly. I dont lie about anything on my page and will always be honest and transparent. Thank you for the advice | |||
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"Just also seen what you meant re: 18 year olds. Not meant for me specifically. Apologies for that. Getting to grips with the site. My age range is set at 29 to 60. Thank you though x " It still says 18 to 65 when I look at it, just FYI. | |||
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. People are still selective, be nice, relax and enjoy the site. Sometimes good things happen when you least expect it x | |||
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"Agree with all of the advice above, I think a lot of folk join thinking sex is easy but fab is just real life with some social restrictions removed . People are still selective, be nice, relax and enjoy the site. Sometimes good things happen when you least expect it x"It's cool I have fixed it. Hadn't saved it. This is going well  | |||
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"This was how I originally was until me and my female met best advice is to actually get out there to the socials and clubs and socialise this who like you will gravitate towards you just that simple takes time Rome wasnt built in a day" Thank you so much. I genuinely appreciate that. I'm planning to go to a few x | |||
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"Joined this site and finding it very hard to connect with any girls. I don't consider myself ugly or a horrible guy. The few messages I've sent I am polite and haven't sent dick pics. So...I ask, what exactly is the right approach? " Why not post a pic of you outdoors, naked, with nothing but a bobble hat on and a walking pole? Just a suggestion! | |||
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"Joined this site and finding it very hard to connect with any girls. I don't consider myself ugly or a horrible guy. The few messages I've sent I am polite and haven't sent dick pics. So...I ask, what exactly is the right approach? Why not post a pic of you outdoors, naked, with nothing but a bobble hat on and a walking pole? Just a suggestion!" Thanks for the advice from someone with no photos. Happy to receive constructive replies. Your attempt at humour is as great as your profile - just saying | |||
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"Joined this site and finding it very hard to connect with any girls. I don't consider myself ugly or a horrible guy. The few messages I've sent I am polite and haven't sent dick pics. So...I ask, what exactly is the right approach? Why not post a pic of you outdoors, naked, with nothing but a bobble hat on and a walking pole? Just a suggestion! Thanks for the advice from someone with no photos. Happy to receive constructive replies. Your attempt at humour is as great as your profile - just saying " 🤣🤣🤣 🔥 | |||
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"Using my average cock in an unaverage way i.e. ball deep, right to the hinge end! Making the lady laugh at my y-fronts when undressing and orgasm when I whisper in hear ear (NOT the one with the hearing aid) 👍🏻 It's selective, make yourself top of the chosen few. The best part is trying so have fun " | |||
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