FabSwingers.com forum: Social Meets

By *tsMyPleasure. OP Man
25 weeks ago

near Stirling

Do females/couples actually still do this?

I used to be on the site a while ago as a couple (things were markedly different then - much less fakes and drug adverts!) and people used to take the time to chat and be friendly. Nowadays it seems to be very much the other way on and nobody seems to want to engage.

I know I’m over 50 and a single male, but there’s life in the old dog yet!

Am I in a minority here, or would anyone actually be interested in a coffee and a chat? ??

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By *eiaorganaWoman
25 weeks ago

Dundee

Yes we do, my profile is very clear that I do social meets first before arranging a play meet if there is mutual interest. I have no interest in fucking people I have no attraction to.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Yes happy to do that

Mrs

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
25 weeks ago

SW Scotland

Yep we enjoy a social meet, usually try to make pre drinks before a club night if there’s one on

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"Do females/couples actually still do this?

I know I’m over 50 and a single male, but there’s life in the old dog yet!

Am I in a minority here, or would anyone actually be interested in a coffee and a chat? ??"

I actually enjoy coffee and a chat with a fellow Fabber - so long as there are no expectations. However, if I put that up on the meets board, I'd probably be inundated and it would be difficult to filter out the genuine peeps!

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By *ookie69Man
25 weeks ago

Whistle Dixie

I’m just watching this.

I like coffee cake and chat with no expectations.

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By *tsMyPleasure. OP Man
25 weeks ago

near Stirling

"Yes happy to do that

Mrs "

Feel free to give me a shout if you fancy a coffee and a chat then! ??

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By *tsMyPleasure. OP Man
25 weeks ago

near Stirling

Thanks for the replies so far - it’s heartening to know that I’m not in a minority of one!

If any of you genuinely fancy a coffee and chat with no expectations then feel free to drop me a message!

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By *otstuff69xCouple
25 weeks ago

dundee

ye social meets on a first meet for us too

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By *issBlackedCouple
25 weeks ago

Glasgow

Social meets first, always.

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By *amoruUsagiCouple
25 weeks ago

Glasgow

Social meet always. I want my partner to know if we get along with someone and if there is chemistry

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By *ffyEffWoman
25 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Yes, social meet first is a must, even when going to clubs I like to make sure there's a good few hours or possibly the whole night is just chatting and getting to know them before any play.

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By *essarosa7leeCouple
25 weeks ago

East Fife

Yes, we are always up for a social with people we are looking to play with.

We also help out with a social to verify couples as just friends.

Xxx

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By *he couple nextdoorCouple
25 weeks ago

grangemouth

Never done that

If we meet chat then if it goes further great

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By *cotsman269Man
25 weeks ago

Falkirk

Happy to have a social meet although that seems hard to find also.

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By *herry straight cdTV/TS
25 weeks ago

EH - EDINBURGH

Hello , this is my 1st reply to the forum here (as far as I can recall) ,

It’s an interesting remark you made.

I’m in the same circumstances as you .a straight xdresser looking for a woman/couple ,

I Seem to get interest that raises ones hopes as they seem keen ,

And when it comes to the actual stage of meeting the person -,they strangely go quiet ,happens time after time ,

This is a common pattern on here ,Some might say all talk and no action ,hehe , cherry .

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By *assy LassieWoman
25 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"Hello , this is my 1st reply to the forum here (as far as I can recall) ,

It’s an interesting remark you made.

I’m in the same circumstances as you .a straight xdresser looking for a woman/couple ,

I Seem to get interest that raises ones hopes as they seem keen ,

And when it comes to the actual stage of meeting the person -,they strangely go quiet ,happens time after time ,

This is a common pattern on here ,Some might say all talk and no action ,hehe , cherry ."

If its a common pattern perhaps you need to change the way you engage.

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By *assy LassieWoman
25 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

Always a social meet in a public place for first meet.

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By *uctifanoWoman
25 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Always a social meet in a public place for first meet. "

Agreed, yes always meet socially first. Also I’ve met several people on a just social basis.

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By *offandTimCouple
25 weeks ago

Glasgow

Always a social for us too, chemistry is very important, not just sexual, but everyone also has to click, you can never gauge that just over messages.

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By *tsMyPleasure. OP Man
25 weeks ago

near Stirling

"Always a social meet in a public place for first meet.

Agreed, yes always meet socially first. Also I’ve met several people on a just social basis. "

Exactly this - the site used to be about friendship as well as the sexual side of things, and social meets with no expectations were quite common. They seem to be few and far between now - but again that may be because I’m a single male over 50 rather than a couple in their 40s?

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By *SCouple81Couple
25 weeks ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

Social for us as we like to have a chat and be sure that everyone is on the same page, there is a chemistry and attraction.

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By *cotsguy888Man
25 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I love social meets, often leads to very good long term friendships.

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
25 weeks ago

Dundee

I think social meets are a must but now days you don’t seem to get much chat no mind offers of a coffee social. It’s all just hump and dump and nexttttt!

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By *nverMan
25 weeks ago

....down the Rabbit Hole with a shotgun

"I think social meets are a must but now days you don’t seem to get much chat no mind offers of a coffee social. It’s all just hump and dump and nexttttt!

Absolutely agree they are a must. Not all the belters out there are males, you know!!!! Have met some total roasters who were in possession of a uterus!!!!

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By *nigma245Man
25 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Happy to socialise first

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
25 weeks ago

Dundee

"I think social meets are a must but now days you don’t seem to get much chat no mind offers of a coffee social. It’s all just hump and dump and nexttttt!

Absolutely agree they are a must. Not all the belters out there are males, you know!!!! Have met some total roasters who were in possession of a uterus!!!!"

Never said they were!!

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By *itkat_and_cutCouple
25 weeks ago

Edinburgh

We always like a social first - and are happy to progress onto a meet if everyone is happy to. It's important for us to make sure the physical chemistry is there before taking the plunge. We also like the social side of fab too so aren't just here to get notches on bedposts.

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By *r Nicely...Man
25 weeks ago

Around the Lochs

I always like a social too, prefer to meet in a busy bar and chat about Fab things.

If there are non players catching a few juicy phrases and raising eyebrows, adds to the excitement..

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
25 weeks ago

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Like the majority on the thread I also prefer a social meet first - I usually prefer meeting now at group socials either local or afar more just to see what folk are like with other people and then meet 1-1 if I get a connection from that

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By *isstucWoman
25 weeks ago

Glasgow

One of the terms I love from the kink community is safe , sane and consensual - checking the vibe is important ! Doing a social first means there's no expectation of play unless discussed further and like others have said ! Who doesn't like cake lol

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By *odgers and PartingCouple
25 weeks ago

edinburgh

"Do females/couples actually still do this?

I know I’m over 50 and a single male, but there’s life in the old dog yet!

Am I in a minority here, or would anyone actually be interested in a coffee and a chat? ??"

Yup. Very rarely would we skip the starter and main course! The social gives you the option to get out. For both parties… K

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By *ookie69Man
25 weeks ago

Whistle Dixie

"I think social meets are a must but now days you don’t seem to get much chat no mind offers of a coffee social. It’s all just hump and dump and nexttttt!

Absolutely agree they are a must. Not all the belters out there are males, you know!!!! Have met some total roasters who were in possession of a uterus!!!!"

Who told you what a uterus is? Fugy? Droopy?

Hope you’re well pal.. Bub

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By *urvyorkneylassWoman
25 weeks ago

kirkwall

i always do a social but i find a lot of men are just wanting hump and run.. to many married men in my neck of the woods just wanting a quickie not attually swingers or kinksters ..

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By *nverMan
25 weeks ago

....down the Rabbit Hole with a shotgun

"I think social meets are a must but now days you don’t seem to get much chat no mind offers of a coffee social. It’s all just hump and dump and nexttttt!

Absolutely agree they are a must. Not all the belters out there are males, you know!!!! Have met some total roasters who were in possession of a uterus!!!!

Never said they were!!"

Apologies, I certainly didn't mean to imply that you did.

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By *otstuff69xCouple
25 weeks ago

dundee

ye deffo a drinks social on a first meet with anyone

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By *tsMyPleasure. OP Man
25 weeks ago

near Stirling

"One of the terms I love from the kink community is safe , sane and consensual - checking the vibe is important ! Doing a social first means there's no expectation of play unless discussed further and like others have said ! Who doesn't like cake lol "

Totally agree! I don’t think I have met you via Fet or CS, but it sounds like our ideas are aligned in this respect!

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By *hyCouple85Couple
25 weeks ago

Far far away...

We are quite new to the lifestyle and kink community as a couple and our only meet so far has been a social. It was great, and we wouldn't go forward without a social first.

We are looking forward to trying clubs soon to get to know more people and social events, but family life is slowing us down.

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By *cotlosthiskiltMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow

Joining the list of many so far here and echoing sentiment of always prefer to have a social first.

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By *iking68Man
25 weeks ago

glasgow

Well I'd love a coffee and a bun as my first ever meeting from here.. and I think the first meeting has to be a public meeting always have to be safe ..

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By *enni WhiteTV/TS
25 weeks ago

Glasgow

Always a social meet first. Cuppa and a natter is always the best way to see if there is a spark.

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By *ohncraMan
25 weeks ago

pitenweem

"Do females/couples actually still do this?

I know I’m over 50 and a single male, but there’s life in the old dog yet!

Am I in a minority here, or would anyone actually be interested in a coffee and a chat? ??

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genuine peep here lol

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By *agnar73Man
25 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Prefer a social meet first, but haven’t really got anywhere messaging locally, so it’s more theoretical.

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By *urvyorkneylassWoman
25 weeks ago

kirkwall

"Prefer a social meet first, but haven’t really got anywhere messaging locally, so it’s more theoretical."

how is it hard in such a populated area .. if i was local ild have a cuppa with you !!

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By *agnar73Man
25 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"Prefer a social meet first, but haven’t really got anywhere messaging locally, so it’s more theoretical.

how is it hard in such a populated area .. if i was local ild have a cuppa with you !! "

Thank you that’s kind, I have no idea what I’m doing wrong, so I’ve sort of chucked messaging for the moment

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By *notty_coupleCouple
25 weeks ago

North Lanarkshire

Yeah, we usually like a social first.

We have done gangbang type meets before where no social meet prior to that, but even then a few messages between all parties would be a minimum.

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By *otwifeHusband888Couple
25 weeks ago

Within touching distance

Starting to think social meets are a good idea. We would rather be let down for a social than an actual meet haha

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By *r3mrsCouple
25 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"Starting to think social meets are a good idea. We would rather be let down for a social than an actual meet haha "

Totally agree!

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By *loriouscurvesWoman
25 weeks ago

wild west lothian

I do enjoy a social meet an opportunity to see if they are who they say they are in a public safe space but also to tease, hold eye contact and generally make them squirm

Ladies or gents of course

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By *rjaffa33Man
25 weeks ago

Edinburgh

From my perspective I enjoy a social meet. Opportunity to see person is who they say they are... have a good chat...maybe even a flirt and then have a lot more confidence if/when a hotter private meet happens.

Definitely a lot more nervous (bricking it) if meeting without having had a social first.

Club nights obviously different as it tends to allow opportunity for both in same night...but I still think of that as having a social in the main room before deciding is there is an attraction that might lead on....

So... socials? Yes for me.

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By *orl1971Couple
25 weeks ago

Glasgow

We always do socials first. We do very little chat online. Just enough to get to a social then it’s just sitting down and chatting to people face to face. We don’t play on the day of the social so there is no pressure. People can go away, think and then decide if they want to arrange a play meet.

It’s more comfortable for us than a meet to just have sex. Each to their own though.

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By *ighthererightnow81Man
25 weeks ago

kinross

Definitely social first is best

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