FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications yey or ney!

By *onderlust69 OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Central belt

We as a couple are considering hiding our verifications for many reasons not least that we think they hold little value other than confirming a person is active on the scene. We are all runway models and porn stars it would appear... a bit of a one-sided sexual trip advisor if you please! Also we recently found that a trusted fab guy had used our verifications in a less than gentleman way! So we are now at a verification crossroad.

My question is what do you all think of accounts with hidden verifications? Would it matter to you when deciding if you'll meet a person?

Also what is other people's reasons for hiding verifications as it appears more are doing it?

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Who ive met is my business and noone elses, i show some of mine sometimes and then hide them other times, i dont show any graphic ones. A veri to me just shows the person is who they say they are and turns up. Hate seeing multiple veris from the same person that to me is like a trip advisor, theres no need to send a veri each time uv met someone in my opinion.

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By *onderlust69 OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Central belt

"Who ive met is my business and noone elses, i show some of mine sometimes and then hide them other times, i dont show any graphic ones. A veri to me just shows the person is who they say they are and turns up. Hate seeing multiple veris from the same person that to me is like a trip advisor, theres no need to send a veri each time uv met someone in my opinion."

Yeah we assumed for most it's a privacy thing, just wondered if some had done it because of a negative experience.

Agree 100% on the repeat verifications but shamefully have to admit we have been guilty of this, mostly a social veri followed by a play veri.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Yeah we assumed for most it's a privacy thing, just wondered if some had done it because of a negative experience.

Agree 100% on the repeat verifications but shamefully have to admit we have been guilty of this, mostly a social veri followed by a play veri. "

I have given repeat veris myself in the past but now i just dont see the point. Ive had a women block me because she seen my veri on a guy shes obsessed with profile, quite petty if you ask me, also av had guys message me after ive recieved a new veri asking about it like wtf its none of their business.. i usually do keep mine hidden for this reason

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By *aylorMan
40 weeks ago

Fife

I prefer to keep mine private, I like to keep my veris giving to others aswell as received clean.

I don't mind sharing them if a potential meet is on the horizon but only once I've chatted to said person and I'm comfortable doing so.

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By *uctifanoWoman
40 weeks ago

Glasgow

I don’t mind verifications one way or the other. I see the arguments for both hiding and showing as has been said above. Depends on my mood if I do display mine or not. Agree on the privacy point, yes it’s my business who I’ve met etc but then it’s also nice to see verifications too. However as also said no one shows a bad veri.

In regard to multiple verifications I do quite like to see them as one that always makes me wonder is; if the verification is glowing, ends with can’t wait til next time then there’s no next time… especially if it’s quite an old veri.

Horses for courses I guess

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By *p4Fun7070Man
40 weeks ago

Leven

Not that I have many but i keep mine hidden as its nobody's business but mine who I meet.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
40 weeks ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Like many others have said we don't need to show veries if we don't want to.

For me no one needs to know who I've met or what I get upto on meets other than me and the people I'm meeting.

There are some on here who think because you don't display veries then you are fake .

Then there are a couple of other reasons but won't go into it on the forum .

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By *oreverplayfulCouple
40 weeks ago

motherwell

We have the written veris hidden on our profile. No one needs to know who were meeting or what happened lol. We have found previously guys get jealous if they haven't been asked or the message and ask why we met such and such and not them

I've found veris are always positive, no one ever posts to say it was a shit meet etc. We all have different standards so we don't read into it to much. We just assume a verified profile means that they are who they say they are and then take it from there. Do what you feel is right for yous, there isn't a right and wrong answear when it comes to veris

C x

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
40 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

From a personal point of view I have done all 3; hidden, shown all and have settled on what I am doing now, shown predominantly the more social side. Leaving out the X-Rated stuff.

I know when I displayed my verifications off a certain person, someone got in touch with me to tell me that they would have met me but had seen I had slept with this particular person and were no longer interested.

I am happy with the ones I display, they are largely there to say that I'm alright and turn up.

I find verifications are like X rated pics/vids involving another people. They can be really attractive but can also put people off.

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By *nferno sausageMan
40 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

If no-one ever displayed verifications how would we possibly know which folk are "Not to be missed"?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
40 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"If no-one ever displayed verifications how would we possibly know which folk are "Not to be missed"? "

And which ones we are needed to 'treat with respect' because clearly we only ever disrespect FFS.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"If no-one ever displayed verifications how would we possibly know which folk are "Not to be missed"?

And which ones we are needed to 'treat with respect' because clearly we only ever disrespect FFS."

At the start of my fab journey I relied on them to check a person was real etc. Also I enjoyed receiving them. An ego boast I suppose. However tbh they don’t bother me much now and I have been thinking of hiding mine too. If someone asks to see them you can always show them. I also check when I start talking to someone who they have met before. If I recognise a name I may ask that person if they think we suited etc

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By *nferno sausageMan
40 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

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By *nferno sausageMan
40 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

"If no-one ever displayed verifications how would we possibly know which folk are "Not to be missed"?

And which ones we are needed to 'treat with respect' because clearly we only ever disrespect FFS."

Well there you have it - without verifications displayed we'd miss out on the folk who we likely would have disrespected, anyway. That's surely a positive.

On the flip side, there's no way we could ever learn to sock it to Aretha Franklin.

I'm torn.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
40 weeks ago

Dundee

I show some of mine, a mix of social and play meets. I don't care what anyone thinks about who I've met, that's a them problem not a me problem.

I don't mind if profiles have them hidden as long as I can see the summary showing they've had a recent meet, then I know that they're still active on the scene.

However I am wary of verifications and their truthfulness at the moment - a few weeks ago someone who'd had a social with my partner last year gave him a false verification ahead of another social with him a few days later. Her verification and status implied that she'd just had a play meet with him. Obviously I was far from impressed and used my veto so she will no longer be seeing him. No idea why she did it, a little too Fatal Attraction for my liking.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
40 weeks ago

Glasgow

I show mine, a mix of social and fun ones. Don’t mind who sees them but I’ve not had a negative experience on that and I’ve been on fab a long time.

In terms of seeing others, I re-learned the hard way recently to check people are at least meet verified so my time and efforts aren’t wasted.

I also am not a fan of multiple veris from the same person especially if they’re the ONLY veris someone has. That indicates I might be getting in the middle of something messy and I’ve no interest in that. Here for fun, not anything complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

If I do show any it's only social ones.

I did have someone verify me recently that I met about 15 years ago, so yeah hidden. Also someone I met socially alot of years back. Again no idea why but hidden.

Also had a couple verify that have since left.

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By *hyme2020Woman
40 weeks ago

Glasgow Scotland

I don’t publish my veris. A few reasons why really. I don’t think it’s anyone’s business who I have met, and when I thought I might just show one I got after a lovely social with a guy i had met, I started getting jealousy messages from guys I hadn’t met and my profile started being looked at by a lot more women all of a sudden after he had posted the veri I left him too, and his was getting looked at by a lot more men. He ended up getting uncomfortable about it and we both hid them. I think it’s a shame when people decide to leave fab even for a short while and they disappear.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

We don’t mind either way . Hidden can show you’ve met lots of people but they may have been socials , not all meets for sex and also they can be a bonus for breaking the ice if you have a Veri in common. I can see how people hide them to for privacy reasons .

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By *izzymayWoman
40 weeks ago

Glasgow

I tend to hide older ones from years ago.

I like a good read at people's verifications.

But againe it's personal choice and life would be boring if we where all the same

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By *essarosa7leeCouple
40 weeks ago

East Fife

We hide ours for the privacy of people we play with.

We also think they are a bit one sided. We have never seen a bad/ negative verification. (Dirty house, bad hygiene, pet hair, wife seemed involuntary/ not interested, person(s) don't look like thier photos etc, ect, )

If someone is meeting we will make our own minds up.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

They are pointless as everyone is always going to say tip top or nothing at all.

It’s only important that you’ve met in person and after that the rest takes care of itself

Everyone had to start somewhere by the way

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By *otwifeHusband888Couple
40 weeks ago

Within touching distance

We don't really read them. However, we do recognise the real genuine profiles on fab, and if someone were chatting to has a verification from them, we know they are legit. We have noticed that some people have verifications and that they are just not genuine at all. Having said that and had a moan ours are actually hidden lol

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