FabSwingers.com forum: Out of your league

Glasgow/Falkirk/Stirling

Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat?

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By *ohnBh0yMan
40 weeks ago

LANARKSHIRE

"Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat? "

You are not alone, we all have our insecurities, even the most glamourous. But yes I completely agree.

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By *bzHotCpl2Couple
40 weeks ago

Aberdeen

As a couple we do this with couples we think are too hot

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By *hyme2020Woman
40 weeks ago

Glasgow Scotland

I always do this too and I always feel like I talk myself down as if I am trying to prevent disappointment prior to sending a face pic because of my insecurities. Doesn’t matter what anyone says about you, if it’s not what you feel inside, you don’t believe them.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat? "

Nope, I know I'm a match for anyone in being enjoyable company, social or sexual but they don't know me or you and you have to connect quick or make an interest because if not there is a huge amount who think the next profile is better than the last

Preference is preference, we all have our interests people wise

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By *ee69Man
40 weeks ago

glasgow

Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat?

Duno m8 tbh a used to say that but a just give it a go now , a find most of time your get dinged anway so might as well go fir it lol

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By *ighland couple 99Couple
40 weeks ago

Inverness

Think we all do this. We also do it if the other person/people seem like swinging pros, we would probably be to shy for them.

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By *arroness NikkiWoman
40 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Think we all do this. We also do it if the other person/people seem like swinging pros, we would probably be to shy for them.

Exactly my thoughts too

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I will just pass couples or woman who are to attractive and those people who have been active for years. Not putting these people down in any way I just think they have heard all the chat before. Definitely can interact with people face to face better.

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By *ingerTwistWoman
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Reverse uno... You look at them and decide they're too hot to message, meanwhile they're looking at you thinking "way out my league".

As another poster noted - what have you got to lose? So long as you can handle rejection, I say go for it! Plus no one is ever going to say "nah sorry mate, you're a five but I think I'm an 8 so bad luck!"

And if they do, well you dodged a bullet because that's just unkind and uneccesary.

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By *ighland couple 99Couple
40 weeks ago

Inverness

"Reverse uno... You look at them and decide they're too hot to message, meanwhile they're looking at you thinking "way out my league".

And if they do, well you dodged a bullet because that's just unkind and uneccesary. "

Very true

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I basically view most people as out my league, but that's a me problem, not someone else's.

It's likely related to a lack of confidence after all that's happened in my live in the last few years.

I TRY to not let it hold me back, but it's not easy.

Mandy

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By *enni WhiteTV/TS
40 weeks ago

Glasgow

You might feel someone is out of YOUR league, but what if your IN their league?

You will never know if you don't at least say hi..

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I always do this

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I do this on almost every profile sadly

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By *oreverplayfulCouple
40 weeks ago

motherwell

I go through phases of this, other times I just think fuck it and wink if I like what I see, if they wink back or message then take it from there. Not sure if the mr does any of this though or if its just me lol

C x

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By *heemuffinmanMan
40 weeks ago

Larkhall

Yeah i do this, but being truthful im pretty hot so dont skip much, lol

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By *eiaorganaWoman
40 weeks ago

Dundee

I suppose I do this as I don't message anyone

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
40 weeks ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

No one is out of anyone’s league only those who think they are !

What do you have to lose by dropping someone a message !?

If it’s a no it’s a no just move on to the next profile .

Be confident and you never know the fun you could have

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By *heemuffinmanMan
40 weeks ago

Larkhall

"No one is out of anyone’s league only those who think they are !

What do you have to lose by dropping someone a message !?

If it’s a no it’s a no just move on to the next profile .

Be confident and you never know the fun you could have

This is exactly how it should be..

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By *rdadjokesMan
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Great replies

Nobody should feel as is they are above or below us when it comes to looks.

I try and talk person to person first without any expectations like if I see something that interests me in a status or profile. If it goes any further bonus.

It is easy for us all to assume at times but if we think it's a lost cause might as well go for it.

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By *scobar67Man
40 weeks ago

glasgow

"Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat? "

I'd you don't ask you don't get mate

Prob won't get anyway lol..but I still ask

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By *ollyRoxxxWoman
40 weeks ago

Wishaw

100% I always wonder 'why did they wink/msg me?' - are they playing the odds, contact everyone and someone is bound to reply.... so either they are too hot for me or they'll dip their stick in anything

I don't tend to send the first message, but then, neurodivergant with rejection sensitive dysphoria so I try not to be rejected and hate rejecting others....

Oooof this fab malarkey is hard work for an overthinker! Hahahaha

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By *panksspankedMan
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Oh yes I definitely have a bit of that feeling plus being out of lots of people's age preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Came back on here a wee while back and yep nothing has changed , the amount of nice messages I leave and nothing nasty I don't even get a no thanks most of the time they go unanswered or I even get blocked ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"100% I always wonder 'why did they wink/msg me?' - are they playing the odds, contact everyone and someone is bound to reply.... so either they are too hot for me or they'll dip their stick in anything

I don't tend to send the first message, but then, neurodivergant with rejection sensitive dysphoria so I try not to be rejected and hate rejecting others....

Oooof this fab malarkey is hard work for an overthinker! Hahahaha"

Don’t understand why people wink you wink back and then nothing

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By *rdadjokesMan
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I don't tend to send the first message, but then, neurodivergant with rejection sensitive dysphoria so I try not to be rejected and hate rejecting others....

Oooof this fab malarkey is hard work for an overthinker! Hahahaha"

And thats a point people should think off not everyone is comfortable saying no thanks it's not ignorance.

I don't like rejecting people either. Suppose could alway just tell them they remind you of a family member to much haha

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By *aurus1987Man
40 weeks ago

York

I feel this. I come with a visual difference, and not many people can get past that. But I still think I'm out of anyone's league

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By *hekaiserMan
40 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Think we all do this. We also do it if the other person/people seem like swinging pros, we would probably be to shy for them.

Snap.....

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By *nver40Man
40 weeks ago

Inverness

I’m a scruffy guy and feel like virtually everyone is in a league above…. On the rare occasions I get out to play then I’m usually amazed by how welcoming and appreciative folk can be. Average or smoking hot…. We all have needs.

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By *ennyjMan
40 weeks ago

falkirk

Don't think I'm out anyone's league but out a few age restrictions unfortunately

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By *ee69Man
40 weeks ago

glasgow

Reading these posts is fucking nuts , half you folk are moaning your no messaging folk but your all seem really nice , it a shame , maybes you would all get on . A message anyone a like look off , tbh most never get back all you can do is try , don’t deny yourselves a chance , one point a got though a understand people not replying if no interest, especially women because they get so many messages, but it’s the people that send you a few messages then ghost you , if my chats shite or am boring just say a think the ignore you after a few conversations is pish but maybe it just me lol, ad never lash out , lol even just a fuck of no more messages would be better than the ghosting lol

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By *erotic_adventureMan
40 weeks ago

London, Scotland & The North,

I think if you click and enjoy their dialogue that's a big part....as attraction takes many forms.

Ultimately you have nothing to lose, but lots to potentially gain

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By *izzymayWoman
40 weeks ago

Glasgow

Yip

Do it on the regular especially with couples that are a buff male and small slim female. Have no idea what they would see in me

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By *isge BeathaWoman
40 weeks ago

Here, There and Everywhere

It's not something I really think about as I never message first!

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
40 weeks ago

Midlothian

Constantly.

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By *ife NinjaMan
40 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Possibly why I don't message often....I think most people are out of my league

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By *sWyldWoman
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

All the time and then even if they approach me I'll be put off if someone they've met previously is super hot. My brain instantly tells me I can't compete or would be a disappointment.

I also know that what I portray in my pictures is different from the "normal" day to day me who will show up for coffee.

I think that's why I've always favoured meeting people via the forums more than just randomly.

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By *ife NinjaMan
40 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"All the time and then even if they approach me I'll be put off if someone they've met previously is super hot. My brain instantly tells me I can't compete or would be a disappointment.

I also know that what I portray in my pictures is different from the "normal" day to day me who will show up for coffee.

I think that's why I've always favoured meeting people via the forums more than just randomly. "

Jeans and tee shirt, a smile and some good chat. I'd be impressed

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I do this all the time mainly because I'm a larger lady. But then I see women who are bigger than me and not giving a damn. It's all down to individual confidence. Having said that I'm very confident once I feel comfortable with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat? "

Everyone of us does or does not do it due to confidence or lack off, shy, forward, respect etc...

|Even reading profiles, I read every profile I look at and if they are not looking for what I I'm looking for then I wouldn't message.

For anyone lacking confidence or don't think they are good enough, we are all good enough so contact them, the worst they can say is no or ignore your message. You just might be that perfect connection and you don't realize.

I do not think I'm out of anyone's league, I am out of many age range's so those I do not contact. In saying that, sometimes I message due to a profile comment or statues, either funny or I have a question about it and conversations sometimes do start up and continue

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By *hogun300Man
40 weeks ago

Dundee

"All the time and then even if they approach me I'll be put off if someone they've met previously is super hot. My brain instantly tells me I can't compete or would be a disappointment.

I also know that what I portray in my pictures is different from the "normal" day to day me who will show up for coffee.

I think that's why I've always favoured meeting people via the forums more than just randomly. "

This is very similar to what I do. Sometimes it wins and Sometimes I win. Constant battle

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat? "

No, we're not overly confident approaching people, even in clubs. There's probably many who feel that way. X

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By *amierebelMan
40 weeks ago

My own little world

Don't really message much on here these days but I genuinely don't feel there's many out there that's out of my league maybe the odd one or so but I don't see it.... and as most pics here are body parts it'd be very hard to determine what league they're in

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By *otuseater11Man
40 weeks ago

IRVINE

You don't know unless you ask

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Yup this is me too. Total overthinker.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Yeah we do this on fab a lot but also in clubs we don't approach others if we think they are out of our league unless they have came on to us first

really need to work on confidence

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By *ugehandsMan
40 weeks ago

Fife/ Newcastle

I don't think anyone is out of anyone else's league, although we all normally have specific attractions as well as hang ups about ourselves.

What I've noticed reading through the forums over the years is I think people don't like rejection for whatever reason particularly when there have been so many fake profiles and catfishing.

Send the message Nyway because you never know what may happen, but keep smiling whatever the outcome.

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By *erotic_adventureMan
40 weeks ago

London, Scotland & The North,

If you get promoted from your league it is sink or swim, but ultimately its your performance that counts

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By *issBehave69Man
40 weeks ago

Bulgaria

I no longer give a shit, but I can handle rejection.

Whoever you think is out of your league may well be, but these are the folk who rarely get approached and sometimes they like the fact that you’re confident enough to try.

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
40 weeks ago

Bathgate

Tbh I (mrs) feel like my own Mr is out my league.

I wouldn't even approach in real life/chat online to people who are out of my league, which at times can be a whole club.

If the female and or male have a gym body then I wouldn't even bother as I think they would find me as a bigger girl repulsive

Luckily Mr is the more confident one out of the two of us so we still have some awesome meets thanks to his hard work

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By *issBlackedCouple
40 weeks ago

Glasgow

Recently I've been looking for a lovely lady for girl dates. I'll send winks but the problem then is whether they check their winks or maybe I'm just not their cup of tea.

I not subconsciously worrying that the other person is too good for me.

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By *ookie69Man
40 weeks ago

Whistle Dixie

I’m the same Captain.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
40 weeks ago

Dundee

"Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat?

No, we're not overly confident approaching people, even in clubs. There's probably many who feel that way. X"

I don't feel confident at clubs now and no one approaches me so I've begun viewing them as purely watching opportunities

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By *exxerMan
40 weeks ago

Livingston

I absolutely do this all time. I also send winks when I should perhaps be a bit braver and try a message because it’s hard enough trying to get noticed on here. I don’t take being ignored or rejected personally though. We all have our likes and different tastes.

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By *omble 69Man
40 weeks ago

Symington

Full agree with above I'm definitely half glass empty person and feel I'm not good enough to contact profiles I like as know rejection round the corner

I do think I'm a respectful guy and non pushy.

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By *ide em cowgirlWoman
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Ah you just never know till you try right. I feel my fab tastes and my outside tastes are very different and there have been people I have met in clubs that I maybe wouldn’t be too sure about if they had messaged me but once I have met them it turns out to be a lot of fun.

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By *panksspankedMan
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat?

No, we're not overly confident approaching people, even in clubs. There's probably many who feel that way. X

I don't feel confident at clubs now and no one approaches me so I've begun viewing them as purely watching opportunities"

And there's the problem. If I saw you at a club I wouldn't approach you as I'd think you were out of my league

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"I always do this too and I always feel like I talk myself down as if I am trying to prevent disappointment prior to sending a face pic because of my insecurities. Doesn’t matter what anyone says about you, if it’s not what you feel inside, you don’t believe them. "

I'm way out of your league and you messaged me.

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By *rs grumpyWoman
40 weeks ago

motherwell

You're a long time dead. And then you'll have absolutely zero chance of pumping that fit burd you fancy.

Message them.

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By *hyme2020Woman
40 weeks ago

Glasgow Scotland

I'm way out of your league and you messaged me."

Haha see you!!

My knee is warming up!!

I think you messaged me first and me and you are besties forever remember that

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I don’t need to think it, evidence is so….very rarely do I get even a wink, let along a full blown reply and have never had a single initiated message, so I clearly have a face for radio…

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By *r-King SizeMan
40 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Yeah most definitely do this but I will usually send a wink regardless as most people don't check them and then in my mind at least I tried

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By *Night-Errant-Man
40 weeks ago

Glasgow

Thankfully, I just don’t care about the concept of being ‘out of someone’s league’. Not because I’m delusional enough to think that I’m some kind of Adonis (more like Bhudda!), but because no-one is harmed if I respectfully approach someone; if the answer is no, then nothing has been lost, and there’s always the small chance it could lead somewhere.

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By *lder budweiserMan
40 weeks ago

Stirlingshire

I'm no male model but I'm not Luiz Guzman either and there's lots of profiles I see and think 'Out of my league, don't bother' - but dozens of messages sent without reply, zero winks, zero fabs and minimal views makes me think I'm out of lots of leagues, probably different sports but hey how, that's just how it is

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

We definitely did do this when we started but, as said previously, what have you got to lose?

If they don’t like you, it’s all good- move on and find another profile you like.

“Dating” as a couple means you will get rejected, you will have to reject people and of course, you will have awesome sex. Got to take the good with the bad.

It’s character building if nothing else..

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By *eiaorganaWoman
40 weeks ago

Dundee

"Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat?

No, we're not overly confident approaching people, even in clubs. There's probably many who feel that way. X

I don't feel confident at clubs now and no one approaches me so I've begun viewing them as purely watching opportunities

And there's the problem. If I saw you at a club I wouldn't approach you as I'd think you were out of my league "

The photos are just good angles, I'm fat

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By *all me missWoman
40 weeks ago

South Wales

I’ve done this also

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I do think some are out my league but I still try to see if there is any interest

sometimes after all there are only 2 answers

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By *panksspankedMan
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat?

No, we're not overly confident approaching people, even in clubs. There's probably many who feel that way. X

I don't feel confident at clubs now and no one approaches me so I've begun viewing them as purely watching opportunities

And there's the problem. If I saw you at a club I wouldn't approach you as I'd think you were out of my league

The photos are just good angles, I'm fat "

And I'm no spring chicken but there's more to attraction than that

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By *alcon43Woman
40 weeks ago

Paisley

No one is out of anyone’s league. Attraction isn’t just about looks, it’s about personality, chemistry, charisma.

Take that leap of faith and send that message or respond to that message! 10 months ago a guy started chatting to me after meeting briefly at coffee. He asked me out for lunch and we’ve been seeing each other since then.

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By *tranger31Man
39 weeks ago

Dumbarton

Must be why I don't get messages

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By *rettCoolMan
39 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Am a guy think all woman on hear think they are out of my league .. lol u want to see some of them as well .. some men will go with anyone on hear .. sorry of this sounds cruel

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By *evilishfun85Couple
39 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Nobody is out of anybodies league.

Yes sometimes you will get ignored, sometimes you will be rejected but F it. Some people think Brad Pitt is hot and some think he is ugly.

Send that message and who knows what might happen x

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By *ewels74Woman
39 weeks ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

"No one is out of anyone’s league only those who think they are !

What do you have to lose by dropping someone a message !?

If it’s a no it’s a no just move on to the next profile .

Be confident and you never know the fun you could have

I agree with this, and in a way no one is better than anyone else either - but in a way we all seem to put people on a pedestal and think they are out of reach. Prob one of the reasons i stay in my hidey hole at times haha i take in all that i see what folk say in forums - and then i only notice this post like a week later

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By *assy LassieWoman
39 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"Am a guy think all woman on hear think they are out of my league .. lol u want to see some of them as well .. some men will go with anyone on hear .. sorry of this sounds cruel "

Says the guy with the knob shot. Wouldn't say you're showing off your best feature either

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By *ags73Man
39 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"Am a guy think all woman on hear think they are out of my league .. lol u want to see some of them as well .. some men will go with anyone on hear .. sorry of this sounds cruel

Says the guy with the knob shot. Wouldn't say you're showing off your best feature either

Ouch.

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By *eisenberg30Man
39 weeks ago

dundee

I think that girls are mainly the ones with self esteem issues, but beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I do it too... go on check the profile.. think about reaching out the nope lol

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By *hogun300Man
39 weeks ago

Dundee

"I think that girls are mainly the ones with self esteem issues, but beauty is in the eyes of the beholder."

Disagree, think it same for both. Women are maybe just more open with it if they feeling that way.

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By *ookie69Man
39 weeks ago

Whistle Dixie

"I think that girls are mainly the ones with self esteem issues, but beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Disagree, think it same for both. Women are maybe just more open with it if they feeling that way. "

This

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By *edGlasgowMan
39 weeks ago

Glasgow

Usually yes, but the profile should give an idea if interests and personality traits etc, so if I feel we'd match in that sense I'll go for it. Surprising how many folk don't simply go on looks alone (or at least what society tells us is attractive)

I've punched above my weight a few times, so to speak, so it can't all be about looks.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
39 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Nope never. No such thing as leagues. I would rather have a less attractive lady with wrinkles, crinkles, flaws and faults full of banter and sarcasm than a stunner without. Actually, I would probably prefer the former even if the stunner had bants.

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By *otwifeHusband888Couple
39 weeks ago

Within touching distance

I think that's natural with everyone especially with couples.

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By *ou aint that specialMan
39 weeks ago

falkirk

"Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat?

Preference is preference, we all have our interests people wise"

lol...never a truer word said...

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By *weetncurvyWoman
39 weeks ago

Perth

I'm the same. I avoid people I think are out my league. I've lost a bit of confidence in the last few years so now I never really message anyone on here anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I lost my confidence when my ex cheated on me and felt like I wasn't good enough for any one else it's such a shit feeling but I'm finally getting back to my old self I always feel out of some ones league when I message but you have to take the leap if they have no interest no harm done

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By *ucka39Man
39 weeks ago

Newcastle

I'm never not worthy, but things did surprise me what I assumed, she was well out of my league clearly wasn't

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By *ama bamaMan
39 weeks ago

dalkeith

I find in life that we all are looking for someone to be with. Even if they arexout your league have a go as you never know what has happened in their life's and that they might just be looking for someone to show them they are attractive and desired.

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By *heresMoreToLifeMan
39 weeks ago

edinburgh

"I do it too... go on check the profile.. think about reaching out the nope lol"

Like pretty much everyone. You just sometimes find that people you’d normally take a miss on are actually happy to talk

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By *ral_Giver_DundeeTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Dundee

"Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat? "

I'm exactly the same, done it all my life.

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By *orl1971Couple
38 weeks ago

Glasgow

We tend to think people might be out of our league or we’re too old for them. We find ourselves looking at some hot profiles but not contacting them.

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By *p4fun74Man
38 weeks ago

Motherwell

"Curious as to how many others do the same as me and simply "skip" people they believe to be "out of your league"

There are an abundance of gorgeous females and couples on the site (guys too) of which I have clicked on and then just exited because I didnt think there would be a chance.

Am I alone on this boat? "

I am totally the same. When I see profiles of women and couples I think are well out my league, I like their photos and move on

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By *ama bamaMan
38 weeks ago

dalkeith

"We tend to think people might be out of our league or we’re too old for them. We find ourselves looking at some hot profiles but not contacting them. "

You are both fit and sexy just message away. You both look amazing

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By *agerforbothMan
38 weeks ago

perth

"I suppose I do this as I don't message anyone "

Think you should as pics are amazing

I feel the same, work up the courage then go back for another look and think there’s no point as they will have better offers

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By *he couple nextdoorCouple
38 weeks ago

grangemouth

That's sad really

We usually look at people of similar size as us

Probably for that reason

But we all have a type

I thought men would be attracted to slim , pretty , perfect body

And females the same

But it's not the case

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By *orthGlasgowGuy1 OP Man
38 weeks ago

Glasgow/Falkirk/Stirling

Well I am glad I'm not the only one, appreciate all the thoughts on the matter too!

I'll be branching out more often then

Oh and those interested, send me a wink

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By *hastity_roseTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Nowhere

All the time

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By *elsbells2011Couple
38 weeks ago

fife

I ( Helen ) am always paranoid of messaging profiles I like because they are out of my league. Even when meeting I’m always thinking what if they don’t like me. That’s probably why I always prefer repeat meets as on the 2nd meet I know they’ve obviously enjoyed enough to return so I can let myself go a bit more to relax and it’s probably more enjoyable for all involved. We have been interested in finding couple fab friends but I’m always to nervous

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By *edGlasgowMan
38 weeks ago

Glasgow

"I ( Helen ) am always paranoid of messaging profiles I like because they are out of my league. Even when meeting I’m always thinking what if they don’t like me. That’s probably why I always prefer repeat meets as on the 2nd meet I know they’ve obviously enjoyed enough to return so I can let myself go a bit more to relax and it’s probably more enjoyable for all involved. We have been interested in finding couple fab friends but I’m always to nervous "

You look incredible in your pics, Hels. I think you could definitely have more confidence in yourself.

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By *opgoes400Man
38 weeks ago

Livingston

I feel like everyone's out my league,I'm nervous to approach as I don't want to be labelled a lech,I also don't really see myself as attractive to anyone,I can talk n laugh til the cows come home,I'm not sexually nervous but I definitely think I'm not good enough most times ,,,,the fear I think they call it

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I think attraction is attraction, everyone is different .how. boring would it be if we all thought the same ,I don't believe in leagues when it comes to attraction . Insecurity at its best or vainty at its worst .

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By *heFooFuckersCouple
38 weeks ago

Glasgow

Totally understand the insecurities. We all have them.

But as they say in baseball...

If you wanna hit the ball, you gotta swing the bat

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