FabSwingers.com forum: Attraction vs Need

By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..

For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..

So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X

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By *ick1979xxMan
33 weeks ago

hornyville

Attraction

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By *ittleMissMoreishWoman
33 weeks ago

Clydebank

"So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..

For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..

So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X"

Definitely needs to be some sort of attraction…. Not necessarily physical though.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..

For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..

So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X"

Definitely not a need as I can take it or leave it. More attraction but personality comes into it. I do love good banter and laugh, always makes it for a superb fun time

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By *ittleMissMoreishWoman
33 weeks ago

Clydebank

"So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..

For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..

So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X

Definitely not a need as I can take it or leave it. More attraction but personality comes into it. I do love good banter and laugh, always makes it for a superb fun time

Totally this!

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By *ellinever70Woman
33 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I'm an opportunist

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
33 weeks ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Definitely attraction & personality is important too for me

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Attraction and personality is the drive for me. Things have a tendency to be more fluid and easy then.

Anything less can be hard work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

Defo for me attraction is the most important factor , it does come in many forms, physical attraction , sexual attraction , being able to have a good conversation and lots of laughs .. without any of these the games a bogey x

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By *ife NinjaMan
33 weeks ago

Dunfermline

It has to be attraction. I know us blokes are supposed to think any hole is a goal, but you've got to like them.

I can have a wank if I'm desperate

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By *ittleMissMoreishWoman
33 weeks ago

Clydebank

"Defo for me attraction is the most important factor , it does come in many forms, physical attraction , sexual attraction , being able to have a good conversation and lots of laughs .. without any of these the games a bogey x"

If the conversation can’t flow then there’s a good chance nothing else will!

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By *ife NinjaMan
33 weeks ago

Dunfermline

If the conversation can’t flow then there’s a good chance nothing else will!"

It doesn't stop my fabbing your cleavage though

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By *tsMyPleasure.Man
33 weeks ago

near Stirling

Personality first - attraction can come in many different ways, not just physical

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By *SCouple81Couple
33 weeks ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

Definitely attraction

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By *inkyropecoupleCouple
33 weeks ago

carluke

Attraction is a must - attraction can be looks, personality, humour etc. in some ways you could say there needs to be a connection

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By *reedyKWoman
33 weeks ago

Fife

100% agree!

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By *assy LassieWoman
33 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..

For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..

So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X

Definitely not a need as I can take it or leave it. More attraction but personality comes into it. I do love good banter and laugh, always makes it for a superb fun time

Totally this!"

Another for this. No point fucking an adonis with zero personality

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By *ad HardcoreMan
33 weeks ago

A Chippy Near You...

Absolutely personality xx

But must also have a pretty face.

I know.

I am a shallow pr*ck

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By *hyme2020Woman
33 weeks ago

Glasgow Scotland

I need to beable to get on with someone. If their personality doesn’t float my boat, it means no matter how good the physical attraction is, I wouldn’t meet them. I need both but when I am more into someone, it becomes much more fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Personality, similar interest’s, having certain quirks that are worth making an effort to get to know. Nice manicured hands, make up especially mascara. Someone that’s available during school hours, not much to ask for

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Attraction definitely as said it's not always physical x

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Defo attraction for me, great sex is well better when i fancy the person, would never meet anyone im not attracted to

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Maybe why we are finding it hard to get a meeting arranged

Don’t need a meeting but would love one, but the attraction is what it’s all about for us

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By *ingseatnewbieMan
33 weeks ago

kingseat

Always about the connection for me however if someone is offering to help an itch I wouldn't say no

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Attraction & connection are a must,

go without rather than just 'scratch an itch'

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By *ilveryFoxMan
33 weeks ago

Midlothian

"So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..

For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..

So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X"

Always has to be attraction for me

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"So thinking of conversations I've had as too what's the deciding factor in a meet, is it an itch that needs to be scratched or is it attraction driven ..

For me it's attraction driven , I need to have that attraction to want to meet ,where as a few of my friends it's a needs basis..

So I guess I'm asking what drives you ? X"

Exactly the same as you, the attraction drives it!

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By *ogue OneMan
33 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Attraction definitely. Personality definitely.

0 attraction, 0 personality,ain't going to happen no matter what.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

A good connection makes all the difference or it just does not work for me

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By *panksspankedMan
33 weeks ago

Edinburgh

It's a question of chemistry for me but if I can't enjoy a chat before or after then there's something amiss

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Attraction

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By *eniandMikeCouple
33 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Both…….greedy we know! We find lots of people attractive but don’t need to fuck them!

Then there are others, we are both horny (so a need is created), then an attraction is there with a person/couple also! Perfect combo! But other times both horny, but no attraction, so it home and porn time for us!!!

Good question/thread this !!!!!

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By *methyst4UWoman
33 weeks ago

Falkirk

Gotta be attraction with a good personality x

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By *arroness NikkiWoman
33 weeks ago

Glasgow

I just go with my gut instinct

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By *ack For Fun69Man
33 weeks ago

Hamilton

Attraction for me too which is usually based on someone confident with a good sense of humour.

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By *omble 69Man
33 weeks ago

Symington

Attraction to a point but someone who you can have a conversation and a connection is more important in my opinion

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By *hogun300Man
33 weeks ago

Dundee

There has to be some sort of attraction and connection, whatever that is as could be different from one person to the next.

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
33 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Attraction can generate need more than need can generate attraction!

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By *hyme2020Woman
33 weeks ago

Glasgow Scotland

"Attraction can generate need more than need can generate attraction!"

Oh yes to this. If I’m attracted to someone and have been with them and it’s been good, I definitely need it. That’s when the disappointment comes in because it’s ages until I see them again or whatever. Still haven’t been able to find someone as regular as I want them

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By *anGuy4FunMan
33 weeks ago

Hamilton

Sometimes the need wins but then, there still has to be something to be attracted to I suppose. Ideally there's a physical attraction but it can be as simple as scent, personality and mood or even the setting/scenario.

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By *M60Couple
33 weeks ago

Central Scotland

Definitely attraction there has to be something other than the physical aspect i like to converse and personality and conversation are big factors for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"Always about the connection for me however if someone is offering to help an itch I wouldn't say no

I get messages from guys asking to meet and i ask for a facepic if they arent for me il politely say so more times than not they will say but its only sex, maybe they could fuck just anyone but i cant

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By *bz-MaleMan
33 weeks ago

Aberdeen

For me it’s all about attraction and chemistry… had a few social coffee meets and the spark simply wasn’t there to consider taking things further.

The initial flirting, the anticipation of what “might” be, the realisation that you are on the same page and have a mutual interest all adds to the end game…. The feeling of satisfaction on both sides.

It could result in a memorable one off meet (for the right reasons), but ideally lead to a trusted regular arrangement.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"Gotta be attraction with a good personality x"

Aww ffs, now you tell me

reverses out of driveway

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

For us it's attraction, that natural attraction either at first sight, or when you just connect and bounce off the opposite persons personality.

I think that's why we hardly look to meet from the site unless we've met first. There's plenty on here that looking at pics we would say are very attractive but in person it can feel different.

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By *ugehandsMan
33 weeks ago

Fife/ Newcastle

Attraction and personality, but I think you can only appreciate them when you meet and then decide if it's enough to take it further.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"Attraction and personality, but I think you can only appreciate them when you meet and then decide if it's enough to take it further. "

Exactly, we've had a meets where we can acknowledge the other half is attractive but not for us and can still have a good night without play.

We've also had nights are we've met and initially not physically attracted to them as we thought we would be but then became attracted because of who they are as a person and it's then moved on from there.

I get some can still go all the way without a physical or mental attraction but that's something I can't do.

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By *issBehave69Man
33 weeks ago

Kilmarnock

Depends how I long it’s been for me. I’d love to lie and say it’s based on attraction but then other times I think fuck it, it’s a hook up site and I’m horny.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"Depends how I long it’s been for me. I’d love to lie and say it’s based on attraction but then other times I think fuck it, it’s a hook up site and I’m horny. "

Id rather go without than have someone im not attracted to

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By *eiaorganaWoman
33 weeks ago

Dundee

I enjoy sex but I've never felt the need to have it. I can easily go without

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By *ookie69Man
33 weeks ago

Whistle Dixie

Communication

Banter

Discretion

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By *ide em cowgirlWoman
33 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I feel it’s definitely a bit of both for me. The need is pretty much always there so I would be a pretty tired girl if I went in that all the time. There would still need to be something about someone for me to meet them though even when the need is high but they might not be my more usual type shall we say.

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