FabSwingers.com forum: More hard work than fun

By *wingers4u OP Couple
40 weeks ago

Scotland

Having been on and off the scene over a good few years it is really clear that it is now more hard work than fun to sort actual swinging meets. Thoughts?

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By *omble 69Man
40 weeks ago

Symington

Yes I have found it very hard to get meets, I understand people have preferences but would have hoped I would have attributes that would tick someone's preference!

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By *ugh_jardonMan
40 weeks ago

Larkhall

Yeah it is, a series of blow offs doesnt do your confidence any good, not the kinda blows im looking for, lol

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By *agnar73Man
40 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Wish it was easier. I try now and again but not much joy

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By *omble 69Man
40 weeks ago

Symington

Ditto the above

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By *ab_Fucker_xxxMan
40 weeks ago

Bellshill

It’s always a struggle unless you can get yourself along to the socials or a club and get verified and make new swinging friends - I know not everyone wants to / can attend socials but it will help.

Good luck

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By *assy LassieWoman
40 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"Having been on and off the scene over a good few years it is really clear that it is now more hard work than fun to sort actual swinging meets. Thoughts?"

When the fun stops. Stop!

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Yep, as above. If it becomes a chore it isn’t fun anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Most meets I have now are at clubs.

Best way to meet actual Swingers now.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Fab is hard work ,has been for years, saturated with fakes and dreamers. Clubs seem to be the way ahead as guaranteed a good night even if no play involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"Fab is hard work ,has been for years, saturated with fakes and dreamers. Clubs seem to be the way ahead as guaranteed a good night even if no play involved."

Agreed. We only ever go to clubs now. Can't be bothered with all the hassle.

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By *ueen CatWoman
40 weeks ago

fife

Yep very difficult these days, I mostly meet in clubs now because of it

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Very new to all of this and find clubs less pressure more options all in one place, if you don’t click move on

all be it a bit nerve wracking

Cj’s anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"Very new to all of this and find clubs less pressure more options all in one place, if you don’t click move on

all be it a bit nerve wracking

Cj’s anyone

It's always nerve wracking!

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By *otuseater11Man
40 weeks ago

IRVINE

The time wasters on here don't help us genuine men at all. but that's just life onwards and upwards I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"Having been on and off the scene over a good few years it is really clear that it is now more hard work than fun to sort actual swinging meets. Thoughts?"

Fab has always been hard, not everything is laid on a plate for us all. Agreed, its worse than it was before but is still great. Timewasters, fakes etc... are frequent on here but the only ones to blame are ourselves. If there's a doubt then bin and move on as your usually right.

Many say go to clubs and I have been and was 100% correct why I already had doubts. Clubs are good for many and some wonderful people to meet on fab at clubs but for me, they are a deffo No No. Best is the big social events, small socials, house parties or arranging a meet is always best.

Just get yourself out there, be known and it wont be that hard on fab. If these are for you then its just a little harder

BUT

It's all about your enjoyment and if your not enjoying it then as said before either take another break or its time to stop as someday everyone of us will stop, its just a matter of when!

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By *assy LassieWoman
40 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"The time wasters on here don't help us genuine men at all. but that's just life onwards and upwards I guess "

Wish guys would stop blaming others for their lack of success. If anything the fuds help the half decent ones seem better than average.

We only have control over our own game. Let others do as they will. It only affects them in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Look men, if you want to know about success on here, just ask me and I'll phone my grandpappy

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