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"Does anyone else feel like it is not for you Or giving up It gets mind numbing " In regards to what?  | |||
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"Does anyone else feel like it is not for you Or giving up It gets mind numbing " Remember that, crucially for couples, this lifestyle is meant to be fun based. If it ever turns into anything other than that, you really do need to have a conversation  | |||
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"Does anyone else feel like it is not for you Or giving up It gets mind numbing In regards to what? "The site Can spend so long on and find nothing | |||
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"Does anyone else feel like it is not for you Or giving up It gets mind numbing Remember that, crucially for couples, this lifestyle is meant to be fun based. If it ever turns into anything other than that, you really do need to have a conversation "Yes definitely And we have had some great experience from it Sometimes it feels like you spent a day on it and nothing Or numerous let downs | |||
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"Does anyone else feel like it is not for you Or giving up It gets mind numbing In regards to what?
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"Does anyone else feel like it is not for you Or giving up It gets mind numbing In regards to what?
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Use the site to get out to clubs and socials. The online thing is tedious and boring and tends to get you nowhere x"That's how we sometimes feel You think it's going somewhere then nothing. Yes that's also a positive clubs and social side | |||
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"Does anyone else feel like it is not for you Or giving up It gets mind numbing " The site is what you make it. There's no reason for not meeting, there's clubs to go too, socials, events, house parties to meet and connect with people with similar views and outlooks, it all depends what we are here for. Trying to find the right people that is perfect for you can be hard and daunting but there are people out there for you. Couples right enough means you have at least 3 people that need to get on and like each other. Is the site fun?, hell yeah!, is the site worth it|?, hell yeah!. You make it your own, you own it and the fun will come  | |||
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"Between the site and struggling in clubs in recent months I have zero confidence anymore, so my profile is hidden and I'm just here for a nosy. I'm hoping things change but I'm not optimistic. I'm only 45, don't think I'm over the hill yet!" Can I ask, why you struggling with clubs? I've only been once at a club and they are not for me but everyoen is friendly so its easy to just chill and have a chat and if enjoy company, things can be taken further in the future, i.e. freinds, fun pals etc... | |||
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"Between the site and struggling in clubs in recent months I have zero confidence anymore, so my profile is hidden and I'm just here for a nosy. I'm hoping things change but I'm not optimistic. I'm only 45, don't think I'm over the hill yet! Can I ask, why you struggling with clubs? I've only been once at a club and they are not for me but everyoen is friendly so its easy to just chill and have a chat and if enjoy company, things can be taken further in the future, i.e. freinds, fun pals etc... "We've been to clubs many times over the years so we're not newbies. I'd say over the past year we've been finding it difficult to speak with people we don't already know, when it's really busy it's also very hard to spot anyone that we might be interested in. Plus our last club visit was to Afterdark's UV night a few months ago where I caught two women who were part of the large group giving me a dirty look, for no reason that I am aware of, so that made me feel rather unwelcome. That's not the club's fault, just one of those things. | |||
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"Between the site and struggling in clubs in recent months I have zero confidence anymore, so my profile is hidden and I'm just here for a nosy. I'm hoping things change but I'm not optimistic. I'm only 45, don't think I'm over the hill yet! Can I ask, why you struggling with clubs? I've only been once at a club and they are not for me but everyoen is friendly so its easy to just chill and have a chat and if enjoy company, things can be taken further in the future, i.e. freinds, fun pals etc...
We've been to clubs many times over the years so we're not newbies. I'd say over the past year we've been finding it difficult to speak with people we don't already know, when it's really busy it's also very hard to spot anyone that we might be interested in.
Plus our last club visit was to Afterdark's UV night a few months ago where I caught two women who were part of the large group giving me a dirty look, for no reason that I am aware of, so that made me feel rather unwelcome. That's not the club's fault, just one of those things."You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. If you think someone isn’t wanting to talk to you or drawing you dirty looks just go up and talk to them and this soon pisses them off. I go to events to have a good time and I couldn’t give a feck what anybody is doing. At 45 you are just a pup, after you go through the change you will either get put of sex or can’t get enough. | |||
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" You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet." Pretty sure that wasn't it. | |||
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" You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. Pretty sure that wasn't it." You will never know! These said woman could also be jealous especially if your a fit woman. Definitely wouldn’t let other people make me feel uneasy, just go to your next meet and have fun. | |||
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" You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. Pretty sure that wasn't it. You will never know! These said woman could also be jealous especially if your a fit woman. Definitely wouldn’t let other people make me feel uneasy, just go to your next meet and have fun. " You're overlooking the confidence part of the problem | |||
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"We’ve both got fed up before and left, had a break and returned, it’s not a bad thing. Been back a month and all ready we’re getting scunnered with (mostly guys) ghosting us etc however this time round we have attended socials and going to attend clubs so have met some good folks but if we get fed up we will take a break again. Like others have said this need to be fun for both of you. Mr "Same here, we took a three year break and often become frustrated with it. We have also tried to get to the clubs more often and attend more socials. I think everyone feels the frustration at some point. | |||
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" You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. Pretty sure that wasn't it. You will never know! These said woman could also be jealous especially if your a fit woman. Definitely wouldn’t let other people make me feel uneasy, just go to your next meet and have fun. You're overlooking the confidence part of the problem" You’re the only one that can work on this no one else. | |||
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" You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. Pretty sure that wasn't it. You will never know! These said woman could also be jealous especially if your a fit woman. Definitely wouldn’t let other people make me feel uneasy, just go to your next meet and have fun. You're overlooking the confidence part of the problem You’re the only one that can work on this no one else. " Um, I'm not asking anyone to?!  | |||
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"Yes I’m slowly getting that way. Maybe time to think about putting away the kinky boots and hanging up the Mac "And start wearing cowboy style hats | |||
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"We’ve both got fed up before and left, had a break and returned, it’s not a bad thing. Been back a month and all ready we’re getting scunnered with (mostly guys) ghosting us etc however this time round we have attended socials and going to attend clubs so have met some good folks but if we get fed up we will take a break again. Like others have said this need to be fun for both of you. Mr
Same here, we took a three year break and often become frustrated with it. We have also tried to get to the clubs more often and attend more socials. I think everyone feels the frustration at some point. "We were nearer 10 years but back kinkier than ever lol | |||
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"Between the site and struggling in clubs in recent months I have zero confidence anymore, so my profile is hidden and I'm just here for a nosy. I'm hoping things change but I'm not optimistic. I'm only 45, don't think I'm over the hill yet! Can I ask, why you struggling with clubs? I've only been once at a club and they are not for me but everyoen is friendly so its easy to just chill and have a chat and if enjoy company, things can be taken further in the future, i.e. freinds, fun pals etc...
We've been to clubs many times over the years so we're not newbies. I'd say over the past year we've been finding it difficult to speak with people we don't already know, when it's really busy it's also very hard to spot anyone that we might be interested in.
Plus our last club visit was to Afterdark's UV night a few months ago where I caught two women who were part of the large group giving me a dirty look, for no reason that I am aware of, so that made me feel rather unwelcome. That's not the club's fault, just one of those things.
You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. If you think someone isn’t wanting to talk to you or drawing you dirty looks just go up and talk to them and this soon pisses them off. I go to events to have a good time and I couldn’t give a feck what anybody is doing. At 45 you are just a pup, after you go through the change you will either get put of sex or can’t get enough. "The change? You talking menopauze here? | |||
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"Between the site and struggling in clubs in recent months I have zero confidence anymore, so my profile is hidden and I'm just here for a nosy. I'm hoping things change but I'm not optimistic. I'm only 45, don't think I'm over the hill yet! Can I ask, why you struggling with clubs? I've only been once at a club and they are not for me but everyoen is friendly so its easy to just chill and have a chat and if enjoy company, things can be taken further in the future, i.e. freinds, fun pals etc...
We've been to clubs many times over the years so we're not newbies. I'd say over the past year we've been finding it difficult to speak with people we don't already know, when it's really busy it's also very hard to spot anyone that we might be interested in.
Plus our last club visit was to Afterdark's UV night a few months ago where I caught two women who were part of the large group giving me a dirty look, for no reason that I am aware of, so that made me feel rather unwelcome. That's not the club's fault, just one of those things.
You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. If you think someone isn’t wanting to talk to you or drawing you dirty looks just go up and talk to them and this soon pisses them off. I go to events to have a good time and I couldn’t give a feck what anybody is doing. At 45 you are just a pup, after you go through the change you will either get put of sex or can’t get enough.
The change? You talking menopauze here? "*menopause | |||
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"Does anyone else feel like it is not for you Or giving up It gets mind numbing " I definitely go through phases of thinking this isn’t right for me and I’ve deleted a few profiles over the years but always come back… I still don’t know if this is quite where I should be or I’m right for the lifestyle or not tbh | |||
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"Between the site and struggling in clubs in recent months I have zero confidence anymore, so my profile is hidden and I'm just here for a nosy. I'm hoping things change but I'm not optimistic. I'm only 45, don't think I'm over the hill yet! Can I ask, why you struggling with clubs? I've only been once at a club and they are not for me but everyoen is friendly so its easy to just chill and have a chat and if enjoy company, things can be taken further in the future, i.e. freinds, fun pals etc...
We've been to clubs many times over the years so we're not newbies. I'd say over the past year we've been finding it difficult to speak with people we don't already know, when it's really busy it's also very hard to spot anyone that we might be interested in.
Plus our last club visit was to Afterdark's UV night a few months ago where I caught two women who were part of the large group giving me a dirty look, for no reason that I am aware of, so that made me feel rather unwelcome. That's not the club's fault, just one of those things.
You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. If you think someone isn’t wanting to talk to you or drawing you dirty looks just go up and talk to them and this soon pisses them off. I go to events to have a good time and I couldn’t give a feck what anybody is doing. At 45 you are just a pup, after you go through the change you will either get put of sex or can’t get enough.
The change? You talking menopauze here?
*menopause"Yes | |||
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"Between the site and struggling in clubs in recent months I have zero confidence anymore, so my profile is hidden and I'm just here for a nosy. I'm hoping things change but I'm not optimistic. I'm only 45, don't think I'm over the hill yet! Can I ask, why you struggling with clubs? I've only been once at a club and they are not for me but everyoen is friendly so its easy to just chill and have a chat and if enjoy company, things can be taken further in the future, i.e. freinds, fun pals etc...
We've been to clubs many times over the years so we're not newbies. I'd say over the past year we've been finding it difficult to speak with people we don't already know, when it's really busy it's also very hard to spot anyone that we might be interested in.
Plus our last club visit was to Afterdark's UV night a few months ago where I caught two women who were part of the large group giving me a dirty look, for no reason that I am aware of, so that made me feel rather unwelcome. That's not the club's fault, just one of those things.
You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. If you think someone isn’t wanting to talk to you or drawing you dirty looks just go up and talk to them and this soon pisses them off. I go to events to have a good time and I couldn’t give a feck what anybody is doing. At 45 you are just a pup, after you go through the change you will either get put of sex or can’t get enough.
The change? You talking menopauze here?
*menopause
Yes "Awwww pup, that's so liberal minded of you. Good to know we have an expert in our midst as well. | |||
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"Between the site and struggling in clubs in recent months I have zero confidence anymore, so my profile is hidden and I'm just here for a nosy. I'm hoping things change but I'm not optimistic. I'm only 45, don't think I'm over the hill yet! Can I ask, why you struggling with clubs? I've only been once at a club and they are not for me but everyoen is friendly so its easy to just chill and have a chat and if enjoy company, things can be taken further in the future, i.e. freinds, fun pals etc...
We've been to clubs many times over the years so we're not newbies. I'd say over the past year we've been finding it difficult to speak with people we don't already know, when it's really busy it's also very hard to spot anyone that we might be interested in.
Plus our last club visit was to Afterdark's UV night a few months ago where I caught two women who were part of the large group giving me a dirty look, for no reason that I am aware of, so that made me feel rather unwelcome. That's not the club's fault, just one of those things.
You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. If you think someone isn’t wanting to talk to you or drawing you dirty looks just go up and talk to them and this soon pisses them off. I go to events to have a good time and I couldn’t give a feck what anybody is doing. At 45 you are just a pup, after you go through the change you will either get put of sex or can’t get enough.
The change? You talking menopauze here?
*menopause
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Awwww pup, that's so liberal minded of you. Good to know we have an expert in our midst as well."Thanks buttercup im no expert just from experience | |||
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"Between the site and struggling in clubs in recent months I have zero confidence anymore, so my profile is hidden and I'm just here for a nosy. I'm hoping things change but I'm not optimistic. I'm only 45, don't think I'm over the hill yet! Can I ask, why you struggling with clubs? I've only been once at a club and they are not for me but everyoen is friendly so its easy to just chill and have a chat and if enjoy company, things can be taken further in the future, i.e. freinds, fun pals etc...
We've been to clubs many times over the years so we're not newbies. I'd say over the past year we've been finding it difficult to speak with people we don't already know, when it's really busy it's also very hard to spot anyone that we might be interested in.
Plus our last club visit was to Afterdark's UV night a few months ago where I caught two women who were part of the large group giving me a dirty look, for no reason that I am aware of, so that made me feel rather unwelcome. That's not the club's fault, just one of those things.
You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. If you think someone isn’t wanting to talk to you or drawing you dirty looks just go up and talk to them and this soon pisses them off. I go to events to have a good time and I couldn’t give a feck what anybody is doing. At 45 you are just a pup, after you go through the change you will either get put of sex or can’t get enough.
The change? You talking menopauze here?
*menopause
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Awwww pup, that's so liberal minded of you. Good to know we have an expert in our midst as well.
Thanks buttercup im no expert just from experience "
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"Between the site and struggling in clubs in recent months I have zero confidence anymore, so my profile is hidden and I'm just here for a nosy. I'm hoping things change but I'm not optimistic. I'm only 45, don't think I'm over the hill yet! Can I ask, why you struggling with clubs? I've only been once at a club and they are not for me but everyoen is friendly so its easy to just chill and have a chat and if enjoy company, things can be taken further in the future, i.e. freinds, fun pals etc...
We've been to clubs many times over the years so we're not newbies. I'd say over the past year we've been finding it difficult to speak with people we don't already know, when it's really busy it's also very hard to spot anyone that we might be interested in.
Plus our last club visit was to Afterdark's UV night a few months ago where I caught two women who were part of the large group giving me a dirty look, for no reason that I am aware of, so that made me feel rather unwelcome. That's not the club's fault, just one of those things.
You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. If you think someone isn’t wanting to talk to you or drawing you dirty looks just go up and talk to them and this soon pisses them off. I go to events to have a good time and I couldn’t give a feck what anybody is doing. At 45 you are just a pup, after you go through the change you will either get put of sex or can’t get enough.
The change? You talking menopauze here?
*menopause
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Awwww pup, that's so liberal minded of you. Good to know we have an expert in our midst as well.
Thanks buttercup im no expert just from experience
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" You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. Pretty sure that wasn't it. You will never know! These said woman could also be jealous especially if your a fit woman. Definitely wouldn’t let other people make me feel uneasy, just go to your next meet and have fun. You're overlooking the confidence part of the problem" I completely understand this. I’ve had profiles on and off for years and if I’m not feeling great about myself then fab is the last place I want to be, so I usually end up deleting my account. I think feeling low or having confidence issues and being on fab just causes your problems to be worse. I start to overthink no replies or sending face pics and getting a rejection. Thankfully I’m quite a confident person 95 percent of the time | |||
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"Does anyone else feel like it is not for you Or giving up It gets mind numbing I definitely go through phases of thinking this isn’t right for me and I’ve deleted a few profiles over the years but always come back… I still don’t know if this is quite where I should be or I’m right for the lifestyle or not tbh " Do not get me wrong We have learned so much Became so much more open minded Met some cracking people But there is a lot of stuff for us Everyone is different The lets go on for a couple of hours 5 hrs later Had numerous conversations with people For one reason or another not meeting, maybe in a month,only club meets Oh sorry we only do .... After it's been spoken about Or people get address and not show up. Couple came one time we had spoken about everything Then they arrived She is now straight into a swap He suddenly does not have an interest in men We decided to leave it He then messaged asking to come himself as he would now like to. It's supposed to be fun ?? | |||
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" You probably just went to a night out that was just a bad meet. Pretty sure that wasn't it. You will never know! These said woman could also be jealous especially if your a fit woman. Definitely wouldn’t let other people make me feel uneasy, just go to your next meet and have fun. You're overlooking the confidence part of the problem I completely understand this. I’ve had profiles on and off for years and if I’m not feeling great about myself then fab is the last place I want to be, so I usually end up deleting my account. I think feeling low or having confidence issues and being on fab just causes your problems to be worse. I start to overthink no replies or sending face pics and getting a rejection. Thankfully I’m quite a confident person 95 percent of the time " Hey do not be silly There is someone for everyone huni We can not be everyone cup of tea Some people reject over facial hair Or tattoos Or incorrect grammar If you are not for them then don't take it personally I hate how I look However inundated with compliments. But I don't feel happy Hubby adores me any way I am so that's who counts x | |||
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