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By *ussieman74 OP   Man
over a year ago

Musselburgh

Hi all,

I suffer from anxiety which has affected my social life a great deal. I have started to try and be more social, and I am getting there. This is 1 reason I joined this site.

I was wondering if anyone has the same problem as me and how you have/are dealing with it. Has this site helped? And do you have any tips

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By *ide em cowgirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I suffer from severe anxiety although it probs doesn’t come across that way. I just have to really force myself to go to things or meet people. I find one on one meeting harder as there is a lot of pressure and expectations so I prefer the club and social events. The club is so laidback and like a pub with absolutely zero pressure you can just spend a short time sitting and taking it all and leave if that’s what you need to do . Everyone is really lovely.

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By *ussieman74 OP   Man
over a year ago

Musselburgh

Very true and I have updated my status to happily meet for coffe socials as they are more for through the day which is more comfy fo me

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By *rdadjokesMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Anxiety is a nightmare op can fully emphasise congratulations for taking steps and attempting stuff.

As the lovely lady above said the clubs are great you could even start of with a bunch of guided tours as a first step and theres always friendly people out there who will want to help welcome and ease you in.

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By *ussieman74 OP   Man
over a year ago

Musselburgh

With me it is more getting to places. As I use public transport it is crowed bus that causes my anxiety to kick in big time, so I end up jumping on and off busses. It can take me double the time or more to get where I'm going. If I have someone with me that I can chat to it is alot easier and my anxiety is a lot less likely to play up

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By *rdadjokesMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"With me it is more getting to places. As I use public transport it is crowed bus that causes my anxiety to kick in big time, so I end up jumping on and off busses. It can take me double the time or more to get where I'm going. If I have someone with me that I can chat to it is alot easier and my anxiety is a lot less likely to play up"

Ah I see well hopefully in time you can meet people and can maybe share a ride in with them.

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By *ussieman74 OP   Man
over a year ago

Musselburgh

I have put it in my status and have asked in a forum post.

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By *lasgowfunnMan
over a year ago

paisley

Same here my sexuality gives me anxiety we’re pure me off meeting or people Judging me club meets usually better as all there for similar things but still have this fear x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same here my sexuality gives me anxiety we’re pure me off meeting or people Judging me club meets usually better as all there for similar things but still have this fear x"

You’re sexuality is fine buddy, those that judge are those not worth a thought

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"With me it is more getting to places. As I use public transport it is crowed bus that causes my anxiety to kick in big time, so I end up jumping on and off busses. It can take me double the time or more to get where I'm going. If I have someone with me that I can chat to it is alot easier and my anxiety is a lot less likely to play up"

Would listening to music, a podcast or audiobook on your travels help? Sit with a book, headphones on and zone out? Set a timer for how long the journey should take minus a few minutes, so you don’t miss your stop and can relax.

I used to have difficulty entering venues on my own, still do to a degree, but I now create a different ‘character’ who is fearless, to get my backside in the door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally get this - I’ve had it for years and would say the number one thing that’s helped it has been stopping drinking alcohol.

I used to think no way I could socialise without a drink but it’s so much better now because I know the confidence I have now is really me (albeit not perfect - still have wobbles) and not fake

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I get it a little with people but more with falling over massive fear of falling it's horrible I don't let it stop me from doing things though I just do breathing exercises

I have heard that grounding yourself while having an anxiety attack helps massively like counting objects

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By *lasgowfunnMan
over a year ago

paisley

It’s crazy we all have different issues with anxiety but on here you all look Amaz and confident but in back ground we all suffer from somthing x

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By *imtim1482Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Site doesn't help I think don't help with depression either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from severe anxiety but that’s why I love this site. You can play and be safe. Thank m actually really shy (vixen here) but you wouldn’t think it when I’m on cam. I don’t get what people like about me but slowly I’m beginning to like parts of how I look and I am starting to believe people that say they find me attractive. I’ve still not met anyone for sexy fun yet but I’m building up to it. Thanks for sharing everyone x

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By *lasgowfunnMan
over a year ago

paisley


"I suffer from severe anxiety but that’s why I love this site. You can play and be safe. Thank m actually really shy (vixen here) but you wouldn’t think it when I’m on cam. I don’t get what people like about me but slowly I’m beginning to like parts of how I look and I am starting to believe people that say they find me attractive. I’ve still not met anyone for sexy fun yet but I’m building up to it. Thanks for sharing everyone x"
you look amazing and great profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP. I suffer. It and get by with listening to MY muisc. Thats how i do my day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suffer from severe anxiety but that’s why I love this site. You can play and be safe. Thank m actually really shy (vixen here) but you wouldn’t think it when I’m on cam. I don’t get what people like about me but slowly I’m beginning to like parts of how I look and I am starting to believe people that say they find me attractive. I’ve still not met anyone for sexy fun yet but I’m building up to it. Thanks for sharing everyone x"

I am in the same boat as you and understand OP’s anxiety. Fab helps me a little. It’s mad what our brains do to us. I can look at your profile and think she’s gorgeous but it doesn’t matter if your brain is telling you something different.

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