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"I think it’s because no one knows you that’s one reason. " That seems like what came first the chicken or the egg. Surely some one has to be bold and say yes. A video call and or a social seem more sensible. | |||
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"I think it’s because no one knows you that’s one reason. That seems like what came first the chicken or the egg. Surely some one has to be bold and say yes. A video call and or a social seem more sensible. " I’m just saying because no one knows you that’s all. Going to a social gathering is a good place to start, I haven’t been to any so can’t comment what they are like. It’s not easy. | |||
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"Why is being verified so important. Does it not make this site look like a meat market. I wonder what the woman members thoughts are." i suppose for some veries are very important but others not so much . Far too many judgemental folk around who judge others for who they have met so best just to keep veries to yourself because at the end of the day it really should only be between you and the people you meet . | |||
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"Some people (rightly or wrongly) also use it as a way to vet people by seeing who they've already pumped. I know people who would actively avoid certain individuals if they're showing veris from certain other folk." 
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"As a woman I think it’s really important. While it’s not completely fail-safe is does give me a certain amount of reassurance that someone is genuine. Though I still insist on a video call before meeting "Bit of this and a bit of what others have said on who’s met whom. Vetting IS important, safety being the most important factor and we should all take that seriously. We all do that in whatever way and befitting our own personal circumstances. | |||
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"I think the verification process is flawed giving you pick and choose which ones to display and given that I don't think anyone would write let alone display a negative one .. ive never saw a "could steer their hoose with a stick" or " intense bordering on creepy" .. given the stories you hear on here not every meets amazing , would be good if their could be some representation of bad meets aswell . " I think if people could give out bad feedback it could be a bad thing. I mean it could piss the said person off who got the bad feedback. They could start stalking people. Start new account try to see this person again. I know it’s a good idea to get a true representation of a meet. A rating system could be an idea, like you get after video calls etc. | |||
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" I think if people could give out bad feedback it could be a bad thing. I mean it could piss the said person off who got the bad feedback. They could start stalking people. Start new account try to see this person again. I know it’s a good idea to get a true representation of a meet. A rating system could be an idea, like you get after video calls etc. " Aww it definitely would totally get that , but having it where it could be anonymous might help with that , or aye a rating system , but would only work if they had multiple meets. Therefore it will always be flawed .. unfortunately | |||
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" I think if people could give out bad feedback it could be a bad thing. I mean it could piss the said person off who got the bad feedback. They could start stalking people. Start new account try to see this person again. I know it’s a good idea to get a true representation of a meet. A rating system could be an idea, like you get after video calls etc. " I prefer to use the No feedback approach. If I have issues I won’t feedback or give a generic ‘met this guy, we played.’ I know some folk object to sexual feedback but I use that to help me decide as I look at both sides of a verification and click through to the other party in a meet. If a guy is using sexually aggressive/dominant language in their feedback then they’re not for me. Then again that’s also why a lot of messages get deleted as soon as I read them. Guys should learn that their first messages should be closer to how they’d talk to someone at a first meet in a pub, be pleasant and interesting and chatty. Starting off with ‘I want to pin you down to a bed and fuck your asshole like the dirty slut you are’ is an entirely non consensual message and directly onto my block list. | |||
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" I think if people could give out bad feedback it could be a bad thing. I mean it could piss the said person off who got the bad feedback. They could start stalking people. Start new account try to see this person again. I know it’s a good idea to get a true representation of a meet. A rating system could be an idea, like you get after video calls etc. Aww it definitely would totally get that , but having it where it could be anonymous might help with that , or aye a rating system , but would only work if they had multiple meets. Therefore it will always be flawed .. unfortunately " I’m sure someone will come up with a good system or just give no feedback. | |||
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" I think if people could give out bad feedback it could be a bad thing. I mean it could piss the said person off who got the bad feedback. They could start stalking people. Start new account try to see this person again. I know it’s a good idea to get a true representation of a meet. A rating system could be an idea, like you get after video calls etc. I prefer to use the No feedback approach. If I have issues I won’t feedback or give a generic ‘met this guy, we played.’ I know some folk object to sexual feedback but I use that to help me decide as I look at both sides of a verification and click through to the other party in a meet. If a guy is using sexually aggressive/dominant language in their feedback then they’re not for me. Then again that’s also why a lot of messages get deleted as soon as I read them. Guys should learn that their first messages should be closer to how they’d talk to someone at a first meet in a pub, be pleasant and interesting and chatty. Starting off with ‘I want to pin you down to a bed and fuck your asshole like the dirty slut you are’ is an entirely non consensual message and directly onto my block list. " Yes I get where you’re coming from, I do try to message how I would meet in person. It’s easy for people to get carried away because they are behind a keyboard and not face to face. Some woman can be idiots I use the term some most woman if you start to chat are generally just normal down to earth and have same interests as in want fun. | |||
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"I think the verification process is flawed giving you pick and choose which ones to display and given that I don't think anyone would write let alone display a negative one .. ive never saw a "could steer their hoose with a stick" or " intense bordering on creepy" .. given the stories you hear on here not every meets amazing , would be good if their could be some representation of bad meets aswell . " Sometimes it's telling if the folk show the veri but the other person doesn't show the returned one. Remember I said sometimes! | |||
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" Sometimes it's telling if the folk show the veri but the other person doesn't show the returned one. Remember I said sometimes!" It's very telling .. I always think there something to hide or the fact they don't want others knowing they've met said person and what's the reason they don't. | |||
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"Why is being verified so important. Does it not make this site look like a meat market. I wonder what the woman members thoughts are." I'm a male and then some but for all sexes, verifications are important, some positive and also some negative.
I have verifications but most are of socials or meet me years ago and put a verification on this profile and a few fun and in general the fun doesn't go into details but really tells a little of what I'm like as a trusted person. Some verifications are also fun but don't really go into details and I prefer that, my profile gives enough of what I can be like.
So verifications do give a very basic insight for anyone about someone who interests them.
I will say there are also, verifications that are not official; like women talk to other women and tell them what you are like as a person in and as well as out of bed  | |||
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"The one I don't get they have over 30 verifications! Maybe 5 different meets in a fortnight & then say sorry not my type lol" Cmon man use your brain, people can have 100 meets in a fortnight if they wanted to. That doesn’t mean you get immediate access to their giblets | |||
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"The one I don't get they have over 30 verifications! Maybe 5 different meets in a fortnight & then say sorry not my type lol" Oh wow  | |||
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"The one I don't get they have over 30 verifications! Maybe 5 different meets in a fortnight & then say sorry not my type lol" What don't you get. You're not their type. Doesn't matter how many meets they've had | |||
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"The one I don't get they have over 30 verifications! Maybe 5 different meets in a fortnight & then say sorry not my type lol" So I have nearly 100 verifications. Mainly clubs and parties so can have 5+ verifications from one night alone or can have attended 5 parties or clubs in a fortnight. What’s not to understand? Just because I have many verifications doesn’t mean I’ll play with just anyone and if you think that I should because of my verifications you’re certainly in the wrong place and showing a sense of entitlement. | |||
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"The one I don't get they have over 30 verifications! Maybe 5 different meets in a fortnight & then say sorry not my type lol Cmon man use your brain, people can have 100 meets in a fortnight if they wanted to. That doesn’t mean you get immediate access to their giblets " giblets sorry | |||
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"I think the verification process is flawed giving you pick and choose which ones to display and given that I don't think anyone would write let alone display a negative one . " Only negative one I ever had when I not long joined the site a few years ago. Met a woman and she tasted of stale smoke and booze and her pussy smelt like a freshly filled baby’s n@ppy(that word isn’t allowed). Killed my hard on pretty quick and I made my excuses and left. She just left the verification “LIMP DICK”. It was only my second verification on that profile so apart from making me laugh, I remember being happy to bump up the verification numbers a bit. Wasn’t going to display it mind. | |||
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"Yes I do know there's one's with loads of veris from club meets Doh, It's the one's saying don't miss out on this one ladies had me squirting in mins ,My legs where like jelly, Nice thick cock etc lol" Even if a woman has fucked the whole of the west of Scotland. Doesn’t mean you’re entitled to a shag….. | |||
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"Yes I do know there's one's with loads of veris from club meets Doh, It's the one's saying don't miss out on this one ladies had me squirting in mins ,My legs where like jelly, Nice thick cock etc lol Even if a woman has fucked the whole of the west of Scotland. Doesn’t mean you’re entitled to a shag….. " Mic drop!!! End of thread! | |||
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"The one I don't get they have over 30 verifications! Maybe 5 different meets in a fortnight & then say sorry not my type lol" Maybe you’re not their type then? Why does a number of meets in any time frame change that? | |||
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"Would you shag someone who's been rattled 5 times within 8 days?" They’re in practice at least. | |||
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"The one I don't get they have over 30 verifications! Maybe 5 different meets in a fortnight & then say sorry not my type lol Maybe you’re not their type then? Why does a number of meets in any time frame change that?" There's always one jumping to defend the ladies. In the hope he'll get a meet ..Fecking howling | |||
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"Dating is a scary thing for a woman. Finding somewhere public. Not doing anything daring. Looking out for any signs you could be in danger. Now remove the social cues that come with dating and jump right into sex. That magnifies by like 10,000. I tried once meeting someone unverified for a social, not even a meet, and I have never been more terrified in my whole life. Never again will I meet an unverified person." ffs don't need details but that does sound a bad experience. So sorry  | |||
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"The one I don't get they have over 30 verifications! Maybe 5 different meets in a fortnight & then say sorry not my type lol Maybe you’re not their type then? Why does a number of meets in any time frame change that? There's always one jumping to defend the ladies. In the hope he'll get a meet ..Fecking howling " Or maybe he understands things outside an incel perspective! | |||
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"Would you shag someone who's been rattled 5 times within 8 days?" Because for me personally I'm on a swingers site! Love sex with different people/different kinds of sex. | |||
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"The one I don't get they have over 30 verifications! Maybe 5 different meets in a fortnight & then say sorry not my type lol Maybe you’re not their type then? Why does a number of meets in any time frame change that? There's always one jumping to defend the ladies. In the hope he'll get a meet ..Fecking howling Or maybe he understands things outside an incel perspective!" It screams incel! The whole entitled attitude makes me a bit sick | |||
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"People just want to know that they are going to have fun and not be killed or seriously hurt by some nutter, If that’s done by veris, phone calls, video calls, social meets then that’s each person’s own choice. Online can be a dangerous place especially when it comes to sex, Do what makes you feel safe and don’t judge the next person for how they go about their business. "Would appear he actually is a decent gent afterall  | |||
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"The one I don't get they have over 30 verifications! Maybe 5 different meets in a fortnight & then say sorry not my type lol Maybe you’re not their type then? Why does a number of meets in any time frame change that? There's Youalways one jumping to defend the ladies. In the hope he'll get a meet ..Fecking howling Or maybe he understands things outside an incel perspective! It screams incel! The whole entitled attitude makes me a bit sick " Your entitled to an opinion! That's what the forum is for... | |||
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"Would you shag someone who's been rattled 5 times within 8 days?" Did she knock you back as a potential number 6 and that's where all this rage is coming from Rab? | |||
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"The one I don't get they have over 30 verifications! Maybe 5 different meets in a fortnight & then say sorry not my type lol Maybe you’re not their type then? Why does a number of meets in any time frame change that? There's always one jumping to defend the ladies. In the hope he'll get a meet ..Fecking howling " I almost feel sorry for you. Almost. I don’t need to ‘hope’ anything. You can sit there and howl all you like, cry-wanking over fab photos while I’m out meeting people. | |||
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"The one I don't get they have over 30 verifications! Maybe 5 different meets in a fortnight & then say sorry not my type lol Maybe you’re not their type then? Why does a number of meets in any time frame change that? There's always one jumping to defend the ladies. In the hope he'll get a meet ..Fecking howling I almost feel sorry for you. Almost. I don’t need to ‘hope’ anything. You can sit there and howl all you like, cry-wanking over fab photos while I’m out meeting people. " You lucky guy ! Stop getting your knickers in a twist | |||
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